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Unwanted advice at gym
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Sadly, or maybe thankfully depending on what theyre going to say absolutely no one speaks to each other at my gym. No nods, hellos, hi or bye. Its the most unfriendly place Ive ever been. So I just hunker down and do my thing. Shame really. Tell him politely thanks but you're fine as you are. He probably thought he was being helpful, so just tell him thanks but no thanks.
She did that, but he wouldn't let it go.I just said ok, I have a personal trainer already and she told me my form is fine, thanks. Then i continued my work out and he was like "sorry if I offended you" I said no, its fine then he continued to annoy me....."you look p****d off".1 -
Sadly, or maybe thankfully depending on what theyre going to say absolutely no one speaks to each other at my gym. No nods, hellos, hi or bye. Its the most unfriendly place Ive ever been. So I just hunker down and do my thing. Shame really. Tell him politely thanks but you're fine as you are. He probably thought he was being helpful, so just tell him thanks but no thanks.
Same here, except I view it as a positive. I have only been approached, or even greeted, by two people in a year of going to that gym. The other is a group class instructor whose class I frequent and who always comes to say hi if she sees me in the gym, the other is an old acquaintance who saw me and came to greet and have a chat. All other interaction has been about ”do you still have another set on that machine” or ”Excuse me, I just need some weights from that rack right behind you”. I’m changing gyms next week and I’m a little nervous. What if people want to talk to other people in the new gym?
I live in Finland, a notoriously un-chatty country, and this is one of the many positives.
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If I was doing something dangerous, I would want to know. I can’t risk an injury and time off from the gym to gain more weight! 😬 But subtly so I don’t feel like an idiot. But if the trainer says it’s ok, my reply would have included that knowledge. “My trainer said my form is great, but thanks for your concern”. I don’t know why men feel the need to check our form when I don’t think I have ever seen a man correct another man’s form.1
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I have had this happen...but I have also done this....
My experience I had a guy tell me how to do dumbbell pull overs and then proceeded to show me how to do them. I already knew how to do them and I just let him tell me..then when he walked away I did them the way I was trained to (by a professional trainer)...the one time I gave advice was when I saw a girl actually injure herself and I was worried she was going to keep lifting after doing so, and I then stopped her and gave her advice on how to avoid it happening again. She ignored me, but I just didn't want to see her getting hurt anymore.
I think if the advice is given in good nature with good intentions, than it's fine. I've had people ask me about lifts I was doing and what muscle groups they work..and I've had people ask me how to do simple push-ups and pull-ups..and I'll respond and try to be helpful. I think it's about the approach as well.3 -
Argh. It happened to me yesterday. And all his advice was good, and it doesn't hurt to be reminded of things you already know by someone who can see that the knowledge in your head isn't showing up in your form, but it is still rude. He didn't say "do you mind if I offer some advice?" He just started in and talked at me through two full sets. He also grabbed the bar and started loading the plates. If I can't get the plates on the bar myself, how does he think I'm going to lift it? I just kept saying thank you without looking at him whenever he paused, but he didn't get the hint.6
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Very annoying.-1
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I've had a few guys try to give me advice in Muay Thai classes. I've been hitting pads for over three years, and I go to different sparring and drilling classes 4 times a week, and have had private lessons.
I don't mind it if he's better than me (the regular fighters are recognizable), or has advice that's accurate; however, I hate it when I get the new or amateur kickboxers give me advice that I know is wrong. I've had some new people tell me advice that our head coach has specifically told us not to do! I'm not in the mood to argue with a stranger that their advice is incorrect, so I just nod and then give advice right back at them at a later point in the class. I'm not there to boost another person's ego at my own expense.2 -
I always feel like it depends on the situation and what their intentions are. I've seen people doing stuff they shouldn't be doing when it comes to conventional lifts, but I don't want to be that guy that goes up to someone and gives them advice and them taking offense to it.
I know if I was going to potentially hurt myself, then I would like someone to come up to me and explain to me why I was doing something the wrong way and guide me through it. If they have more experience than me I would love to hear it.
Some people who work at gyms don't have a clue how to do anything. I wouldn't take advice off any of the staff that work at the gym I go to, they're always bringing in new people and they look like they've never lifted in their life.1 -
Today I was doing barbell squats in my gym when I saw some guy staring at me for awhile but thought I was just being paranoid. He then came over to me to tell me the weight I was squatting with was very heavy. Taking me off guard I just said "um thanks I guess?" He then told me that it wasnt a compliment and that my form is bad, my weights are too heavy and I look like im killing myself.
I thought he was rude. He dosn't work there. I've had a personal trainer for months now who told me my form is perfect and squating is my strong point. She has seen me squating with that much weight and I'm sure she wouldve told me if it was too heavy for my safety. Being a woman its already intimidating enough going to the weights section. I just said ok, I have a personal trainer already and she told me my form is fine, thanks. Then i continued my work out and he was like "sorry if I offended you" I said no, its fine then he continued to annoy me....."you look p****d off".
Has anyone else had an experience like this? How did you handle it? Do you think its okay to go around giving advice to strangers?
There's always that one guy! LOL! There's one at my gym. Good thing I am working out with a trainer cause if he came over he'd get a lip lashing from him. My trainer even told me, that's ridiculous! When I train alone I'd put my earbuds in and ignore them. If they insist I would, yell... WHAT? LOL!2 -
Today I was doing barbell squats in my gym when I saw some guy staring at me for awhile but thought I was just being paranoid. He then came over to me to tell me the weight I was squatting with was very heavy. Taking me off guard I just said "um thanks I guess?" He then told me that it wasnt a compliment and that my form is bad, my weights are too heavy and I look like im killing myself.
I thought he was rude. He dosn't work there. I've had a personal trainer for months now who told me my form is perfect and squating is my strong point. She has seen me squating with that much weight and I'm sure she wouldve told me if it was too heavy for my safety. Being a woman its already intimidating enough going to the weights section. I just said ok, I have a personal trainer already and she told me my form is fine, thanks. Then i continued my work out and he was like "sorry if I offended you" I said no, its fine then he continued to annoy me....."you look p****d off".
Has anyone else had an experience like this? How did you handle it? Do you think its okay to go around giving advice to strangers?
There's always that one guy! LOL! There's one at my gym. Good thing I am working out with a trainer cause if he came over he'd get a lip lashing from him. My trainer even told me, that's ridiculous! When I train alone I'd put my earbuds in and ignore them. If they insist I would, yell... WHAT? LOL!
Or gal....... being an @-hole is not gender specific.......12 -
I think the next time it happens, I'm going to take out my phone and turn on the voice recorder, hold it out and ask him to state his name, repeat his advice, and acknowledge that he is liable if I injure myself following his advice.3
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lynn_glenmont wrote: »Argh. It happened to me yesterday. And all his advice was good, and it doesn't hurt to be reminded of things you already know by someone who can see that the knowledge in your head isn't showing up in your form, but it is still rude. He didn't say "do you mind if I offer some advice?" He just started in and talked at me through two full sets. He also grabbed the bar and started loading the plates. If I can't get the plates on the bar myself, how does he think I'm going to lift it? I just kept saying thank you without looking at him whenever he paused, but he didn't get the hint.
I would have said "Thank you for your unsolicited and very unwelcome advice and could you please leave me alone?" I would have also reported it to the gym management that this person is harassing people2 -
psychod787 wrote: »Today I was doing barbell squats in my gym when I saw some guy staring at me for awhile but thought I was just being paranoid. He then came over to me to tell me the weight I was squatting with was very heavy. Taking me off guard I just said "um thanks I guess?" He then told me that it wasnt a compliment and that my form is bad, my weights are too heavy and I look like im killing myself.
I thought he was rude. He dosn't work there. I've had a personal trainer for months now who told me my form is perfect and squating is my strong point. She has seen me squating with that much weight and I'm sure she wouldve told me if it was too heavy for my safety. Being a woman its already intimidating enough going to the weights section. I just said ok, I have a personal trainer already and she told me my form is fine, thanks. Then i continued my work out and he was like "sorry if I offended you" I said no, its fine then he continued to annoy me....."you look p****d off".
Has anyone else had an experience like this? How did you handle it? Do you think its okay to go around giving advice to strangers?
There's always that one guy! LOL! There's one at my gym. Good thing I am working out with a trainer cause if he came over he'd get a lip lashing from him. My trainer even told me, that's ridiculous! When I train alone I'd put my earbuds in and ignore them. If they insist I would, yell... WHAT? LOL!
Or gal....... being an @-hole is not gender specific.......
Sorry, I didn't mean to insinuate that.4 -
Never happened to me.1
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psychod787 wrote: »Today I was doing barbell squats in my gym when I saw some guy staring at me for awhile but thought I was just being paranoid. He then came over to me to tell me the weight I was squatting with was very heavy. Taking me off guard I just said "um thanks I guess?" He then told me that it wasnt a compliment and that my form is bad, my weights are too heavy and I look like im killing myself.
I thought he was rude. He dosn't work there. I've had a personal trainer for months now who told me my form is perfect and squating is my strong point. She has seen me squating with that much weight and I'm sure she wouldve told me if it was too heavy for my safety. Being a woman its already intimidating enough going to the weights section. I just said ok, I have a personal trainer already and she told me my form is fine, thanks. Then i continued my work out and he was like "sorry if I offended you" I said no, its fine then he continued to annoy me....."you look p****d off".
Has anyone else had an experience like this? How did you handle it? Do you think its okay to go around giving advice to strangers?
There's always that one guy! LOL! There's one at my gym. Good thing I am working out with a trainer cause if he came over he'd get a lip lashing from him. My trainer even told me, that's ridiculous! When I train alone I'd put my earbuds in and ignore them. If they insist I would, yell... WHAT? LOL!
Or gal....... being an @-hole is not gender specific.......
Sorry, I didn't mean to insinuate that.
No worries.... 2 people obviously think women can't be butt heads as well. I guess I will have to post supporting YouTube videos as evidence... lol4 -
I had it happen to me three weeks ago. I had noticed the guy watching me while I was working out, which put me on alert b/c the city I live in is a sex trafficking hub, so I'm a little paranoid.
He approached me towards the end of my workout and said I was "working hard and doing my thing," but he had a piece of advice. He wanted to tell me an alternative exercise to cable glute kickbacks b/c he commented that they are hard on the back, which I appreciated it b/c the set I had just done was killing my back even though I was following the tutorial properly. I listened to his advice and took it for the last set that I had.
When I got home, I looked up a tutorial on how to stop them from hurting the back. Now I do them with no issue, but it is nice to have an alternative in my pocket in case the equipment is in use.
But what I appreciated the most was that once he gave me the advice, he left me alone.14 -
I had it happen to me three weeks ago. I had noticed the guy watching me while I was working out, which put me on alert b/c the city I live in is a sex trafficking hub, so I'm a little paranoid.
He approached me towards the end of my workout and said I was "working hard and doing my thing," but he had a piece of advice. He wanted to tell me an alternative exercise to cable glute kickbacks b/c he commented that they are hard on the back, which I appreciated it b/c the set I had just done was killing my back even though I was following the tutorial properly. I listened to his advice and took it for the last set that I had.
When I got home, I looked up a tutorial on how to stop them from hurting the back. Now I do them with no issue, but it is nice to have an alternative in my pocket in case the equipment is in use.
But what I appreciated the most was that once he gave me the advice, he left me alone.
I’m fairly large and muscular (and male and tattooed and shaved head and RBF’d) so don’t get a lot of people offering me advice when I’m lifting - but occasionally I’m told of an alternate to something I’m doing. Sometimes the alternative is so good it has become my main. I’ve always appreciated this type of advice.
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I haven't had this happen at the gym, but have had unsolicited advice given to me at a 10-mile road race once. I am a Galloway runner (interval running). Some old guy I came upon tried to tell me that I will do better if I slow down and just run the whole thing. I told him to run his own race, and his "advice" just motivated me to put on a nearly 10-minute gap on him. Hmmm...seems like I did better than you did old man.7
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SchweddyGirl wrote: »I haven't had this happen at the gym, but have had unsolicited advice given to me at a 10-mile road race once. I am a Galloway runner (interval running). Some old guy I came upon tried to tell me that I will do better if I slow down and just run the whole thing. I told him to run his own race, and his "advice" just motivated me to put on a nearly 10-minute gap on him. Hmmm...seems like I did better than you did old man.
Hmmm... guess there is no need to post my YouTube evidence... Thanks BTW! 😊
Oh, gave you an "inspiring" for telling off a gentleman of advanced years and then being proud of out running him...7 -
psychod787 wrote: »SchweddyGirl wrote: »I haven't had this happen at the gym, but have had unsolicited advice given to me at a 10-mile road race once. I am a Galloway runner (interval running). Some old guy I came upon tried to tell me that I will do better if I slow down and just run the whole thing. I told him to run his own race, and his "advice" just motivated me to put on a nearly 10-minute gap on him. Hmmm...seems like I did better than you did old man.
Hmmm... guess there is no need to post my YouTube evidence... Thanks BTW! 😊
Oh, gave you an "inspiring" for telling off a gentleman of advanced years and then being proud of out running him...
And I gave her a "disagree" for the same reason. No need to put down somebody older just because she didin't like the advise.10 -
psychod787 wrote: »SchweddyGirl wrote: »I haven't had this happen at the gym, but have had unsolicited advice given to me at a 10-mile road race once. I am a Galloway runner (interval running). Some old guy I came upon tried to tell me that I will do better if I slow down and just run the whole thing. I told him to run his own race, and his "advice" just motivated me to put on a nearly 10-minute gap on him. Hmmm...seems like I did better than you did old man.
Hmmm... guess there is no need to post my YouTube evidence... Thanks BTW! 😊
Oh, gave you an "inspiring" for telling off a gentleman of advanced years and then being proud of out running him...
And I gave her a "disagree" for the same reason. No need to put down somebody older just because she didin't like the advise.
Regardless of the man's age, she was well within her right to tell a stranger to leave her alone. This is the risk people take when offering unsolicited advice.15 -
psychod787 wrote: »SchweddyGirl wrote: »I haven't had this happen at the gym, but have had unsolicited advice given to me at a 10-mile road race once. I am a Galloway runner (interval running). Some old guy I came upon tried to tell me that I will do better if I slow down and just run the whole thing. I told him to run his own race, and his "advice" just motivated me to put on a nearly 10-minute gap on him. Hmmm...seems like I did better than you did old man.
Hmmm... guess there is no need to post my YouTube evidence... Thanks BTW! 😊
Oh, gave you an "inspiring" for telling off a gentleman of advanced years and then being proud of out running him...
And I gave her a "disagree" for the same reason. No need to put down somebody older just because she didin't like the advise.
Regardless of the man's age, she was well within her right to tell a stranger to leave her alone. This is the risk people take when offering unsolicited advice.
Ohh yes she was.... My issue was a simple "thanks" would have probably been enough. Then if he persisted, tell him off. Then referring to him as "old man". She just proved my point.... Being a butt head is not gender specific.....14 -
psychod787 wrote: »SchweddyGirl wrote: »I haven't had this happen at the gym, but have had unsolicited advice given to me at a 10-mile road race once. I am a Galloway runner (interval running). Some old guy I came upon tried to tell me that I will do better if I slow down and just run the whole thing. I told him to run his own race, and his "advice" just motivated me to put on a nearly 10-minute gap on him. Hmmm...seems like I did better than you did old man.
Hmmm... guess there is no need to post my YouTube evidence... Thanks BTW! 😊
Oh, gave you an "inspiring" for telling off a gentleman of advanced years and then being proud of out running him...
And I gave her a "disagree" for the same reason. No need to put down somebody older just because shedidn'tt like the advise.
Regardless of the man's age, she was well within her right to tell a stranger to leave her alone. This is the risk people take when offering unsolicited advice.
My issue was not with her rights to let a stranger know that she didn't want or need his advice. But when @SchweddyGirl made the comment "seems like I did better than you did oldman" she showed an ageisms bias against the older population.
I wonder if you had reacted the same if she had said "I did better than you fat/skinny man or woman..."11 -
psychod787 wrote: »SchweddyGirl wrote: »I haven't had this happen at the gym, but have had unsolicited advice given to me at a 10-mile road race once. I am a Galloway runner (interval running). Some old guy I came upon tried to tell me that I will do better if I slow down and just run the whole thing. I told him to run his own race, and his "advice" just motivated me to put on a nearly 10-minute gap on him. Hmmm...seems like I did better than you did old man.
Hmmm... guess there is no need to post my YouTube evidence... Thanks BTW! 😊
Oh, gave you an "inspiring" for telling off a gentleman of advanced years and then being proud of out running him...
And I gave her a "disagree" for the same reason. No need to put down somebody older just because shedidn'tt like the advise.
Regardless of the man's age, she was well within her right to tell a stranger to leave her alone. This is the risk people take when offering unsolicited advice.
My issue was not with her rights to let a stranger know that she didn't want or need his advice. But when @SchweddyGirl made the comment "seems like I did better than you did oldman" she showed an ageisms bias against the older population.
I wonder if you had reacted the same if she had said "I did better than you fat/skinny man or woman..."
He interrupted her to tell her that she was doing her race wrong. Not knowing anything about her or what her goals are. He wouldn't have gotten called anything if he had stayed in his lane. It costs nothing to mind your business.
Also, it's a descriptor. He was a man and old. I don't get offended if someone describes me as a black woman, because I am indeed black and a woman. Fat, skinny, old, young, woman, man, black, white are not bad words.14 -
psychod787 wrote: »SchweddyGirl wrote: »I haven't had this happen at the gym, but have had unsolicited advice given to me at a 10-mile road race once. I am a Galloway runner (interval running). Some old guy I came upon tried to tell me that I will do better if I slow down and just run the whole thing. I told him to run his own race, and his "advice" just motivated me to put on a nearly 10-minute gap on him. Hmmm...seems like I did better than you did old man.
Hmmm... guess there is no need to post my YouTube evidence... Thanks BTW! 😊
Oh, gave you an "inspiring" for telling off a gentleman of advanced years and then being proud of out running him...
And I gave her a "disagree" for the same reason. No need to put down somebody older just because shedidn'tt like the advise.
Regardless of the man's age, she was well within her right to tell a stranger to leave her alone. This is the risk people take when offering unsolicited advice.
My issue was not with her rights to let a stranger know that she didn't want or need his advice. But when @SchweddyGirl made the comment "seems like I did better than you did oldman" she showed an ageisms bias against the older population.
I wonder if you had reacted the same if she had said "I did better than you fat/skinny man or woman..."
He interrupted her to tell her that she was doing her race wrong. Not knowing anything about her or what her goals are. He wouldn't have gotten called anything if he had stayed in his lane. It costs nothing to mind your business.
Also, it's a descriptor. He was a man and old. I don't get offended if someone describes me as a black woman, because I am indeed black and a woman. Fat, skinny, old, young, woman, man, black, white are not bad words.
He wouldn't have gotten called anything if he had stayed in his lane.<--- Statement opens up a can of worms I am not getting into here.
It costs nothing to mind your business.<
Also cost nothing to be nice to people who "might" just be trying to help... A lesson I am learning more and more myself.
Also, it's a descriptor.<---- Agreed, but many people probably won't see it that way. I know I never liked being referred to as that "fat guy."
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psychod787 wrote: »psychod787 wrote: »SchweddyGirl wrote: »I haven't had this happen at the gym, but have had unsolicited advice given to me at a 10-mile road race once. I am a Galloway runner (interval running). Some old guy I came upon tried to tell me that I will do better if I slow down and just run the whole thing. I told him to run his own race, and his "advice" just motivated me to put on a nearly 10-minute gap on him. Hmmm...seems like I did better than you did old man.
Hmmm... guess there is no need to post my YouTube evidence... Thanks BTW! 😊
Oh, gave you an "inspiring" for telling off a gentleman of advanced years and then being proud of out running him...
And I gave her a "disagree" for the same reason. No need to put down somebody older just because shedidn'tt like the advise.
Regardless of the man's age, she was well within her right to tell a stranger to leave her alone. This is the risk people take when offering unsolicited advice.
My issue was not with her rights to let a stranger know that she didn't want or need his advice. But when @SchweddyGirl made the comment "seems like I did better than you did oldman" she showed an ageisms bias against the older population.
I wonder if you had reacted the same if she had said "I did better than you fat/skinny man or woman..."
He interrupted her to tell her that she was doing her race wrong. Not knowing anything about her or what her goals are. He wouldn't have gotten called anything if he had stayed in his lane. It costs nothing to mind your business.
Also, it's a descriptor. He was a man and old. I don't get offended if someone describes me as a black woman, because I am indeed black and a woman. Fat, skinny, old, young, woman, man, black, white are not bad words.
He wouldn't have gotten called anything if he had stayed in his lane.<--- Statement opens up a can of worms I am not getting into here.
It costs nothing to mind your business.<
Also cost nothing to be nice to people who "might" just be trying to help... A lesson I am learning more and more myself.
Also, it's a descriptor.<---- Agreed, but many people probably won't see it that way. I know I never liked being referred to as that "fat guy."
She called him old man here on the internet, not to his face. The two of you are making it seem as if she asked him where his pacemaker was and why he wasn’t lying in someone’s mausoleum. Now if she had said that, I would agree that that was too much. But telling someone to focus on what they are doing is not rude.
I have no more to add to this conversation. You won’t change my mind and I won’t change yours 🤷🏽♀️.8 -
psychod787 wrote: »SchweddyGirl wrote: »I haven't had this happen at the gym, but have had unsolicited advice given to me at a 10-mile road race once. I am a Galloway runner (interval running). Some old guy I came upon tried to tell me that I will do better if I slow down and just run the whole thing. I told him to run his own race, and his "advice" just motivated me to put on a nearly 10-minute gap on him. Hmmm...seems like I did better than you did old man.
Hmmm... guess there is no need to post my YouTube evidence... Thanks BTW! 😊
Oh, gave you an "inspiring" for telling off a gentleman of advanced years and then being proud of out running him...
And I gave her a "disagree" for the same reason. No need to put down somebody older just because she didin't like the advise.
I never "put him down", I told him to run his own race. The comment of "seems like I did better than you did oldman" was my personal affirmation that my training...that I was doing...WORKED.10 -
psychod787 wrote: »psychod787 wrote: »SchweddyGirl wrote: »I haven't had this happen at the gym, but have had unsolicited advice given to me at a 10-mile road race once. I am a Galloway runner (interval running). Some old guy I came upon tried to tell me that I will do better if I slow down and just run the whole thing. I told him to run his own race, and his "advice" just motivated me to put on a nearly 10-minute gap on him. Hmmm...seems like I did better than you did old man.
Hmmm... guess there is no need to post my YouTube evidence... Thanks BTW! 😊
Oh, gave you an "inspiring" for telling off a gentleman of advanced years and then being proud of out running him...
And I gave her a "disagree" for the same reason. No need to put down somebody older just because shedidn'tt like the advise.
Regardless of the man's age, she was well within her right to tell a stranger to leave her alone. This is the risk people take when offering unsolicited advice.
My issue was not with her rights to let a stranger know that she didn't want or need his advice. But when @SchweddyGirl made the comment "seems like I did better than you did oldman" she showed an ageisms bias against the older population.
I wonder if you had reacted the same if she had said "I did better than you fat/skinny man or woman..."
He interrupted her to tell her that she was doing her race wrong. Not knowing anything about her or what her goals are. He wouldn't have gotten called anything if he had stayed in his lane. It costs nothing to mind your business.
Also, it's a descriptor. He was a man and old. I don't get offended if someone describes me as a black woman, because I am indeed black and a woman. Fat, skinny, old, young, woman, man, black, white are not bad words.
He wouldn't have gotten called anything if he had stayed in his lane.<--- Statement opens up a can of worms I am not getting into here.
It costs nothing to mind your business.<
Also cost nothing to be nice to people who "might" just be trying to help... A lesson I am learning more and more myself.
Also, it's a descriptor.<---- Agreed, but many people probably won't see it that way. I know I never liked being referred to as that "fat guy."
See above. Never did I say anything to him that was degrading... I said....again....word for word..."Run your own race."9 -
SchweddyGirl wrote: »psychod787 wrote: »SchweddyGirl wrote: »I haven't had this happen at the gym, but have had unsolicited advice given to me at a 10-mile road race once. I am a Galloway runner (interval running). Some old guy I came upon tried to tell me that I will do better if I slow down and just run the whole thing. I told him to run his own race, and his "advice" just motivated me to put on a nearly 10-minute gap on him. Hmmm...seems like I did better than you did old man.
Hmmm... guess there is no need to post my YouTube evidence... Thanks BTW! 😊
Oh, gave you an "inspiring" for telling off a gentleman of advanced years and then being proud of out running him...
And I gave her a "disagree" for the same reason. No need to put down somebody older just because she didin't like the advise.
I never "put him down", I told him to run his own race. The comment of "seems like I did better than you did oldman" was my personal affirmation that my training...that I was doing...WORKED.
I'm guessing you are getting "disagrees" due to the ageism in you post. You including he was "some old guy" makes no difference to the story that he was commenting on your racing methods. He didn't need to comment on your training methods. You didn't like his comment, end of story.
Also congrats on your race, but just because you beat him (or anyone) by 10 minutes doesn't really mean anything good or bad regarding his training advice. You may have had the race of your life and he may have been purposely using the event as a recovery/training run for another event, coming back from injury illness, etc. So no real proof that your training methods are better than his advice.
Glad your methods work for YOU.
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SchweddyGirl wrote: »psychod787 wrote: »psychod787 wrote: »SchweddyGirl wrote: »I haven't had this happen at the gym, but have had unsolicited advice given to me at a 10-mile road race once. I am a Galloway runner (interval running). Some old guy I came upon tried to tell me that I will do better if I slow down and just run the whole thing. I told him to run his own race, and his "advice" just motivated me to put on a nearly 10-minute gap on him. Hmmm...seems like I did better than you did old man.
Hmmm... guess there is no need to post my YouTube evidence... Thanks BTW! 😊
Oh, gave you an "inspiring" for telling off a gentleman of advanced years and then being proud of out running him...
And I gave her a "disagree" for the same reason. No need to put down somebody older just because shedidn'tt like the advise.
Regardless of the man's age, she was well within her right to tell a stranger to leave her alone. This is the risk people take when offering unsolicited advice.
My issue was not with her rights to let a stranger know that she didn't want or need his advice. But when @SchweddyGirl made the comment "seems like I did better than you did oldman" she showed an ageisms bias against the older population.
I wonder if you had reacted the same if she had said "I did better than you fat/skinny man or woman..."
He interrupted her to tell her that she was doing her race wrong. Not knowing anything about her or what her goals are. He wouldn't have gotten called anything if he had stayed in his lane. It costs nothing to mind your business.
Also, it's a descriptor. He was a man and old. I don't get offended if someone describes me as a black woman, because I am indeed black and a woman. Fat, skinny, old, young, woman, man, black, white are not bad words.
He wouldn't have gotten called anything if he had stayed in his lane.<--- Statement opens up a can of worms I am not getting into here.
It costs nothing to mind your business.<
Also cost nothing to be nice to people who "might" just be trying to help... A lesson I am learning more and more myself.
Also, it's a descriptor.<---- Agreed, but many people probably won't see it that way. I know I never liked being referred to as that "fat guy."
See above. Never did I say anything to him that was degrading... I said....again....word for word..."Run your own race."
If you left it at that the post would have been received better.
What was the purpose of speaking about a stranger in an anonymous manner on a public forum? The behavior is dishonest and passive aggressive. Nothing good can come from this.7
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