WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JANUARY 2020

KetoneKaren · January 2020

My 13-year-old grandson is a Supertaster. To his credit, he is an adventurous eater. He'll try anything once! Cruciferous vegetables are bitter to him. His younger sister is a VERY adventurous eater and enjoys all kinds of unique flavors & foods.

My partner has some food eccentricities which used to make going to a restaurant with her embarrassing and unpleasant. We have both adjusted - I have become more tolerant, and she has toned it down, and we enjoy an occasional restaurant meal very much now. In fact, we went to Bonefish Grill with my ex-husband yesterday and had a wonderful time.

My partner is still on her knee scooter and was thrilled to get out of the house yesterday. She gets her cast off in 4 days (Achilles tendon rupture surgery) and will be in a walking boot, but still not weight-bearing until she has completed 2 weeks of PT. She is looking forward to the walking boot, but I think it's going to hurt. I told her I don't think she realizes how often she bears weight on her cast when she transfers from chair/bed to scooter to toilet/shower seat/etc. I think the first time she tries that (prematurely) in her walking boot, it's going to be a rude surprise. It's great that one of us is optimistic, LOL!!!

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Irish Terri Inspiring 20 goals for 2020! You are an active woman of many diverse interests. A true role model. What I appreciate about your thoughtful goals: they are achievable but still a daily challenge.

Katla That book series sounds interesting! I looked Lisa Kleypas up and the series you are reading, I believe, is the Friday Harbor series, a 4-book fiction series about the Nolan family and set in the San Juan Islands. I think I would really enjoy those books. Kleypas has written novellas, anthologies, historical romances, and contemporary books like the Friday Harbor series. I have never read anything written by her, but I believe now I will! Thanks for that!

Rori I put this in a spoiler because it's TMI on personal female stuff:

Last Pap - that is something to celebrate! I do wish there was a good screening test for ovarian cancer, though. Does your GYN group recommend continuing bimanual pelvic exams without the Pap test or transvaginal ultrasounds to check your ovaries? ACOG (American College of Gynecology) is often at odds with the recommendations from the US Protective Health Services Task Force (USPHSTF), the penultimate authority on screening tests, who says "Do Not Screen for Ovarian Cancer" because there is no reliable way to screen - too many false positives & false negatives. Sometimes I wish 15 years ago when I was practically bleeding to death I would have gone ahead and had a total hysterectomy. They could have repaired my pelvic floor & bladder too. Why oh why didn't I do that? Then my ovaries would be gone & I wouldn't have this nagging worry. Plus I wouldn't leak. I do not want to turn into an ancient woman who reeks of urine. I guess it's better than not turning into an ancient woman, but still...

Barbara AHMOD I lost a post with all sorts of replies & I've been meaning to tell you your comment "practically a Lutheran requirement" made me laugh out loud. You're so funny!

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I am an excellent cook. Fact. My mother was a superb cook.

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Today is a Lilliana day! Tuesday she was not a very happy girl. She seemed to be having a tummy ache and her sleep was light and fitful. I hope today is better for the little girl.

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Karen in Virginia

grandmallie · January 2020

what am I longing for~ A calm life...less stress in life, more balance...

KJLaMore · January 2020

LisaInAR-What are you longing for?

I have been longing for the same thing for many, many years. Not to sound like William Wallace or MLK, Jr; but I am longing for freedom. This doesn't mean freedom from my work, or my husband (god love him). I just long for the freedom to plan, do, go as I please. Most decisions I make I do have to run by my hubby and we are a very yin and yang type couple. He is my own personal devil's advocate and sometimes dark cloud. The things that make me feel exhilarated and excited (like the thought of going skydiving) send him into a pit of despair. The other glitch in my bid for freedom is the financial part of it. I am still working on being financially free to plan, do, and go. So hard to have wings on your soul and an anchor on your self. I will get there. It is just going to take a couple more years.

Machka9 · January 2020

Review ... (Distances include cycling + walking + a bit of rowing)
Mar-15 … 489.8 km (304.3 miles) = 38 hours 4 min
Apr-15 … 491.94 km (305.6 miles) = 43 hours 6 min
May-15 … 361.81 km (224.8 miles) = 35 hours 50 min
Jun-15 … 569.53 km (353.9 miles) = 41 hours 53 min
Jul-15 … 230.7 km (143.35 miles) = 32 hours 45 min
Aug-15 … 211.3 km (131.3 miles) = 28 hours 8 min
Sep-15 … 306.7 km (190.6 miles) = 35 hour 2 min
Oct-15 … 441.82 km (274.5 miles) = 47 hours 43 min
Nov-15 … 660.21 km (410.23 miles) = 60 hours 41 min
Dec-15 … 499.91 km (282.8 miles) = 54 hours 56 min
Jan-16 … 864.79 km (537.35 miles) = 65 hours 36 min
Feb-16 … 470.53 km (292.4 miles) = 40 hours 39 min
Mar-16 … 917.73 km (570.2 miles) = 66 hours 13 min
Apr-16 … 417.83 km (259.6 miles) = 40 hours 23 min
May-16 … 267.09 km (165.9 miles) = 36 hours 10 min
Jun-16 … 552.1 km (343 miles) = 54 hours 48 min
Jul-16 … 709 km (440.5 miles) = 60 hours 41 minutes
Aug-16 … 775.9 km (482.1 miles) = 54 hours 52 minutes
Sep-16 … 371.3 km (230.7 miles) = 32 hours 20 min
Oct-16 … 649 km (403.3 miles) = 49 hours 46 min
Nov-16 … 403 km (250.4 miles) = 52 hours 16 min
Dec-16 … 511.05 km (317.55 miles) = 52 hours 2 min
Jan-17 … 741.9 km (461.0 miles) = 70 hours 3 min
Feb-17 … 600.5 km (373.1 miles) = 57 hours 30 min
Mar-17 … 1113.2 km (691.7 miles) = 78 hours 25 min
Apr-17 … 1181.9 km (734.4 miles) = 76 hours 45 min
May-17 … 426.6 km (265.1 miles) = 39 hours 21 min
Jun-17 … 575.7 km (357.7 miles) = 41 hours 53 min
Jul-17 … 714 km (443.7 miles) = 52 hours 23 min
Aug-17 … 475.8 km (295.6 miles) = 38 hours 41 min
Sep-17 … 455.5 km (283 miles) = 41 hours 25 min
Oct-17 … 647.1 km (402.1 miles) = 57 hours 19 min
Nov-17 … 427.0 km (265.3 miles) = 50 hours 4 min
Dec-17 … 553.5 km (343.9 miles) = 52 hours 12 min
Jan-18 … 590.2 km (366.7 miles) = 57 hours 49 min
Feb-18 … 826.9 km (513.8 miles) = 57 hours 35 min
Mar-18 … 582.01 km (361.6 miles) = 50 hours 11 min
Apr-18 … 176.23 km (109.5 miles) = 29 hours 47 min
May -18 … 167.6 km (104.1 miles) = 29 hours 08 min
June-18 … 349.9 km (217.4 miles) = 36 hours 58 minutes
July-18 ... 324.2 km (201.5 miles) = 24 hours 26 minutes
Aug-18 ... 210.1 km (130.6 miles) = 25 hours 59 minutes
Sep-18 ... 261.7 km (162.6 miles) = 25 hours 11 minutes
Oct-18 ... 230.8 km (143.4 miles) = 30 hours 15 minutes
Nov-18 ... 216.8 km (134.7 miles) = 30 hours 3 minutes
Dec-18 ... 285.2 km (177.2 miles) = 37 hours 49 minutes
Jan-19 ... 241.6 km (150.1 miles) = 27 hours 2 minutes
Feb-19 ... 175.5 km (109 miles) = 19 hours 8 minutes
Mar-19 ... 170.3 km (105.8 miles) = 28 hours 21 minutes
Apr-19 ... 160.3 km (99.6 miles) = 25 hours 4 minutes
May-19 ... 164.0 km (101.9 miles) = 29 hours 10 minutes
Jun-19 ... 246.2 km (153 miles) = 25 hours 40 minutes
Jul-19 ... 217.3 km (135.0 miles) = 33 hours 45 minutes
Aug-19 ... 162.5 km (100.9 miles) = 28 hours 4 minutes
Sep-19 ... 136.0 km (84.5 miles) = 23 hours 10 minutes
Oct-19 ... 196.5 km (122.1 miles) = 31 hours 27 minutes
Nov-19 ... 155.5 km (96.6 miles) = 25 hours 01 minutes

Dec-19 ... 203.7 km (126.6 miles) = 26 hours 54 minutes

2019
Cycling Total: 1021.9 km
Walking Total: 1086.6 km
Rowing Total: 109.2 km
Flights of Stairs: 1342

Goal: Really, really hoping for a better year than 2019!!

Wednesday, 1 January 2020 … 0.0 km walking + 14.5 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 0 flights of stairs
Thursday, 2 January 2020 … 0.0 km walking + 50.9 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 0 flights of stairs
Friday, 3 January 2020 … 0.0 km walking + 22.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 0 flights of stairs
Saturday, 4 January 2020 … 0.0 km walking + 13.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 0 flights of stairs
Sunday, 5 January 2020 … 3.9 km walking + 10.2 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 0 flights of stairs
Monday, 6 January 2020 … 3.8 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 8 flights of stairs
Tuesday, 7 January 2020 … 1.8 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 10 flights of stairs

Wednesday, 8 January 2020 … 4.3 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 10 flights of stairs
Thursday, 9 January 2020 … 9.2 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 10 flights of stairs
Thursday, 9 January 2020 … 9.2 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 10 flights of stairs
Friday, 10 January 2020 … 2.0 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 0 flights of stairs
Saturday, 11 January 2020 … 0.0 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 0 flights of stairs
Sunday, 12 January 2020 … 3.7 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 0 flights of stairs
Monday, 13 January 2020 … 3.2 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 4 flights of stairs
Tuesday, 14 January 2020 … 3.3 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 2 flights of stairs

Wednesday, 15 January 2020 … 3.8 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 4 flights of stairs
Thursday, 16 January 2020 … 3.5 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 4 flights of stairs
Friday, 17 January 2020 … 6.7 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 17 flights of stairs
Saturday, 18 January 2020 … 0.6 km walking + 15.6 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 0 flights of stairs
Sunday, 19 January 2020 … 0.0 km walking + 16.6 km cycling + 3.2 km rowing + 0 flights of stairs
Monday, 20 January 2020 … 2.0 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 15 flights of stairs
Tuesday, 21 January 2020 … 6.8 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 19 flights of stairs

Wednesday, 22 January 2020 … 4.0 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 3.2 km rowing + 17 flights of stairs
Thursday, 23 January 2020 … 3.7 km walking + 24.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 0 flights of stairs
Friday, 24 January 2020 … 1.4 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 0 flights of stairs
Saturday, 25 January 2020 … 4.1 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 0 flights of stairs
Sunday, 26 January 2020 … 4.9 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 0 flights of stairs
Monday, 27 January 2020 … 0.0 km walking + 21.3 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 0 flights of stairs
Tuesday, 28 January 2020 … 1.8 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 4 flights of stairs
Wednesday, 29 January 2020 … 1.8 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 4 flights of stairs
Thursday, 30 January 2020 … 5.6 km walking + 18.6 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 6 flights of stairs

2020 Monthly January
Walking Distance (km): 85.8
Walking Time (min): 1053.3
Cycling Distance (km): 206.7
Cycling Time (min): 695.3
Flights Stairs Climbed Number: 134.0
Flights Stairs Climbed Time (min): 107.2
Rowing Distance (km): 6.4
Rowing Time (min): 41.0
Other Distance: 0.0
Other Time: 0.0

Totals
Total Distance (km): 298.8
Total Distance (miles): 185.7
Total Time (min): 1896.7
Total Time (hr): 31:36:45

Machka9 · January 2020

KetoneKaren wrote: »

Rori I put this in a spoiler because it's TMI on personal female stuff:
Last Pap - that is something to celebrate! I do wish there was a good screening test for ovarian cancer, though. Does your GYN group recommend continuing bimanual pelvic exams without the Pap test or transvaginal ultrasounds to check your ovaries? ACOG (American College of Gynecology) is often at odds with the recommendations from the US Protective Health Services Task Force (USPHSTF), the penultimate authority on screening tests, who says "Do Not Screen for Ovarian Cancer" because there is no reliable way to screen - too many false positives & false negatives. Sometimes I wish 15 years ago when I was practically bleeding to death I would have gone ahead and had a total hysterectomy. They could have repaired my pelvic floor & bladder too. Why oh why didn't I do that? Then my ovaries would be gone & I wouldn't have this nagging worry. Plus I wouldn't leak. I do not want to turn into an ancient woman who reeks of urine. I guess it's better than not turning into an ancient woman, but still...
Karen in Virginia

I don't know that pelvic exams are particularly useful for detecting ovarian cancer. I go for TVUSs and the CA-125 blood test about every 6-8 months. I will probably go less often once I am fully menopausal.

https://www.cancer.org.au/about-cancer/early-detection/early-detection-factsheets/ovarian-cancer.html

Machka in Oz

Machka9 · January 2020

KetoneKaren wrote: »

My partner has some food eccentricities which used to make going to a restaurant with her embarrassing and unpleasant. We have both adjusted - I have become more tolerant, and she has toned it down, and we enjoy an occasional restaurant meal very much now. In fact, we went to Bonefish Grill with my ex-husband yesterday and had a wonderful time.

Karen in Virginia

Thank goodness for online menus!!

When my work colleagues suggest going out to lunch, and suggest a place, first thing I do is look up the online menu. I can make my 1st, 2nd, and 3rd choices while in the comfort of my office chair ... and when we get there, I can place my order like a normal human being.

I have also discovered that some places will make some substitutes.

For example, if for any reason a great dollop of sour cream is going to be included with whatever I've order, I will often smile and quietly say, "I'd like the whatever, but could you hold the sour cream please". Or if I've ordered a salad ... "No thank you, I'd rather not have any dressing."

I'll actually often suggest getting together at a restaurant or cafe rather than at someone's home. At least in a restaurant or cafe, there's usually something on the menu that will suit me. At someone's home, you just never know.

Machka in Oz

auntiebk · January 2020

"Todo"s and "done"

Done: : BB&B, massage, invest 10 mins cleaning Guest Bth, carry over 10 mins cleaning LR, spoke with John about grant check and ordering racks, pack walk.
Bonus: 15 mins cleaning Guest Bth, panniers and chalk to Barb instead of Thrift Store.
ToDo: invest 10 mins cleaning Dining Room, Chiropractor, order turnout racks, carry over 10 mins cleaning GuestBd, schedule Dexa Scan and Mammo for June, time walking up the hill, write thank you note to Carolyn L, bake bran muffins, call Carolyn D. Next week get complete series TDAP, following week Shingrix vaccine.

Not a Supertaster, but share some characteristics. Always been a salt fan, as a child would shake some into a spoon and eat it straight. Can not tolerate any fatty meat, it makes me gag when Joe relishes my leavings :sick:. Butter and mayonnaise are another story

I could eat them on spoons like salt. Cilantro tastes like Irish Spring. Lips and mouth buzz when I eat bell peppers or citrus. Love sauerkraut, sour cream, Greek yoghurt, cucumbers in sweet vinegar, stinky cheese. Beets can taste like dirt, so I peel them fairly aggressively after roasting.

Viv :brokenheart:

for your SIL’s family, prayers continue for her healing.
Machka finger’s crossed for the transition online courses. “Positive outcome from bad situation” indeed. Persist!
KJ con VERY grats on discarding those pounds, would you update us on the status of your zoning application? How do you use whey in baking?
Allie UTI? Oh NO! That would be enough to make anyone’s day dark! Buy your 35 yo son a car? “uhh no” Attagal!
Lanette thanks for sharing your DH’s ABI story, very reassuring. Had no idea the body could grow other blood vessels to bypass blockages. Even more motivation to start my “walk up the hill every day” plan. Thank YOU!
Margaret “put it in my backpack” great image, especially for those of us who live in quake country. Will expand my “go bag” to include some of those healthy behaviors.
Heather can you gracefully back out of the spendy i360 portion of DDIL’s bday celebration? If asked why, honestly explain it’s beyond your budget, otherwise DDIL will assume your resources aren’t as limited as they are? What a fun looking dance class group!
Katla

your Yays for Yoga class. Such enthusiasm

I love re-reading certain books/series, most especially Susan Conant’s dog mysteries and Charlotte MacLeod’s cozies.
LuciB

so sorry for your loss. “okay to die with dignity” vs assisted suicide. Such a personal decision, with so many variables. The way I feel today (after filling out the POLST form) is that as long as I’m “here” mentally and not in chronic pain, I want to live. BUT imagine I’d feel differently if I had a terminal illness or suffered greatly, then, I’d want to be let go, and would be sure caregivers had my DNR instructions. As for assisted suicide, I couldn’t blame anyone who was really suffering to want to go that way, but always worry that it could be abused by potential heirs.
Rita glad to see you checking in.
Julie relieved to see you posting, was starting to worry.
Rebecca you might try grating a carrot into your spaghetti sauce instead of the brown sugar. Tones down the “tin can” flavor

Welcome AASlender.
Tracey sorry your mouth hurts but glad you’re finally getting dental attention. Mouth care is crucial to health.
Barbie love the no fair commenting on what anyone else is eating rule. Brilliant!
Rori would you share your whey smoothie recipe(s)?
Lisa my Joe sees any blue with a tinge of aqua as green. When we first got together I struggled to find his “green truck” :noway:
Longing for? Friends and beloved pets that have gone ahead. Swell, now I’m crying.

Didn’t realize how persistent grief is, always there, just below the surface, easily triggered.

Machka that’s a stupendous heart rate. Stunningly well done!
Karen in VA Not only the transition to the boot, but PT is going to HURT. Not sure that’s something for which one can be prepared.

Lilliana day, hooray!

Beth, Vicky, Meg and others, missing you.

Lighter, lovelies!

Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD

January: get up and go outside 10 mins EVERY day, even in the rain!
daily: steps= 5425  vits 26 log=29 CI<CO=24 CI<250<CO=11 Tumble 5/10=13 mfp=29 outside=13
wkly: BBBorTC x3=9, rx=3 dance=5.2 pack walk=3.5
mnthly: board mtg=1 grant=
Bonus AF=17 dog group email list= sew= play=

margaretturk · January 2020

Allie and Kelly I have accepted stress is just a part of my life. Like yesterday I went through what I would rate as a 10 stress for me in a scale from 1-10. When I hit the melt down point I went up into my bedroom and then played meditation music for 45 minutes. (a tool from my backpack)

Since I recovered well enough I went to choir. ( Another addition to my backpack)

I went to bed at 9. (another addition to my backpack)

Yes the stress is still there. I can only do my part to try and find a ways to not add to the stress and to find solutions that will help with the problem. What I can do for myself is keep adding to my own backpack or taking out tools that work for me, so that I have the energy and patience to handle the stress the best that I can.

Today I was thinking about the soldiers in the middle of a war and how hard it must be for them to sleep. I thought they must learn how to sleep among that chaos. If they don't they are more likely to be killed or to go insane. My stakes are similar in a way I must learn to find respite when times are tough or I may risk of getting hurt or my risk of going insane increases. Without my health any problem I might be facing becomes ten times worse.

That is why when I meet someone who is going through a crisis I ask them what they are doing for themselves. An example was a friend in choir whose husband at the age of 58 just lost his job. Both of them are losing health care. Her husband has asthma. She just lost a niece to anorexia. She is at a 10 on the stress meter. We talked about taking time for her... a walk in a green space...quiet music. Myself and another friend listened as she problem solve her insurance issues. Is her stress gone? No! Hopefully these things will help her better cope and help her find solutions that will work for her.

I told her I too am in a crisis but did not go into my details just that I am trying to walk the talk of doing something for me. I told her about listening to meditation music for 45 minutes and what a difference that made for me.

Being part of this group definitely adds to my backpack.

Margaret

LisaInAR · January 2020

Karen in VA, This is a whole lot of TMI, so feel free to skip.

I did have a total hysterectomy when I was 40, but still struggle with the urine issues, too. It is tiny amounts, but becoming a worry. You've tagged my previously greatest fear, as well, being an ancient woman who reeks of urine. So, what I did was I went down to Walmart, bought a pack of women's designed adult diapers and wore them once, so I could get over the fear. They're not that bad, and not that uncomfortable. But I still won't wear them, I simply change my underwear three times a day.

However, my added complication is that I'm dealing with the rectal fissure once more. Began again after a bout of diarrhea in November, and it was what kept me hovering on the edge of anemia once more in early January, even though I'm taking iron. The doctor felt (don't they always) that it's my weight that's complicating it, thus the Wellbutrin to help me control my impulse eating.

Honestly, December was just hell on ice skates, as there was more than once I simply couldn't make it to the bathroom in time. Please note, it is much, much better now, and finally beginning to heal again.

My greatest fear now is that I will be dealing with fecal incontinence as well as urinary incontinence in the not too distant future, and I find that fear really hard to look in the eye. It was hard to even type.

And... the elliptical work is done, ootching my time up on it slowly so I don't panic my wonky little brain into overeating to compensate. Just adding one minute a day. And plan, at the fives, to hold it their for a week. So today was 14 minutes. Tomorrow is 15 minutes, and I'll stay there for a week, then ootch up to 16.

Sneaking up on yourself is much like tickling yourself. Or trying to fit your elbow in your earhole.

Happy Thursday,
Love y'all,
Still looking for many of your answers to: What are you longing for?
Lisa in AR

LuciBThinner · January 2020

Karen Thank you for your input on assisted suicide. I grew up with my Dad being bipolar (and my first abuser). He threatened suicide from the time I was 10. I have also struggled with depression and anxiety over the years, but suicidal thoughts stopped when I had my children. I could never do that to them! My friend apparently stepped in front of a train...such a tragic ending. That is why I wish she could have had medication to end things peacefully! 😭 Still interested in everyone else's feelings on this subject!

On a happier note, I am taking care of my DG today...5 1/2 weeks old now. My how she changes from week to week!! She is such a happy baby!

Luci (still struggling a bit) in WNC

JRsLateInLifeMom · January 2020

This is the side of the family that accepts me more. Like usual last to know or never know then feels like if I show up I’m the 3rd wheel.
Kind of them to sort of invite me I guess. Hubby reassured me that We only got each other y the kids really that’s better than nothing. It’s everything he said. Hubby being told last second probably can’t take us Saturday makes him look bad could puts us financially in trouble to pull out of a job so last second or out it off.

Depressed morning but powering through. At least I got you guys y my Best friend from school who lived with me awhile (both my kids Godmom) to talk to. Always feel like an intruder in life. Probably why I over share that need for connection that wasn’t there growing up. Glad I found a Hubby in the same boat God blesses me with kids or I’d have no one. God is good to give us what we truely need.

Amber Tx

1 pound shy of a 50lb weight loss still. Here praying I reach that by my kids birthdays.

pipcd34 · January 2020

Tttttt

JRsLateInLifeMom · January 2020

Machka-https://apple.news/ALt8NRHZDQU65EztwpVksqg

Coronovirus-6,000 passengers on a cruise ship stuck cause a Woman has it now

Amber Tx

lcharpentier2 · January 2020

Hi I haven't been here in forever. Hardly know any one anymore going to try and get back with it. January almost over hopefully it will bring these winter blues with it. As far as feeling better that I am. Had a loss at tops last night so that makes me feel better. Had been two weeks of gains don't like that.

KetoneKaren · January 2020

auntiebk wrote: »

Longing for? Friends and beloved pets that have gone ahead. Swell, now I’m crying. Didn’t realize how persistent grief is, always there, just below the surface, easily triggered.

Lighter, lovelies!
Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD

Yes. Barbara. This. And family members. Plus I would add that another equally poignant thin I long for is the renewal of the 35 year friendship that ended when my BFF found out from an indiscrete mutual friend that I was in a same-sex relationship. She sent me a card that said she hoped I'd be happy, signed it, and wrote me off. I was devastated and still have to put my big girl panties on every day to deal with the cavalier way she ended our friendship. I knew she would have a difficult time with it, and was planning how to tell her when our mutual friend took care of it for me. Big mouth. She has gotten in trouble with her husband for airing private family business before. It wasn't personal. She just loves to gossip & has a hard time stopping herself.

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Luci You're welcome.

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Lisa Oh god. I'm so sorry about your bowel/bladder issues. I might go buy some adult diapers and get over it too. Now that I think of it, it would give me some peace of mind. A friend got good results from physical therapy after giving birth to her 3 girls. I haven't even consulted a specialist, so that's probably first.

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Machka Interesting Cancer Council Australia guidelines on screening for ovarian cancer. It's my understanding that retrospective studies have shown that ovarian screening by annual TVU and CA125 is "inefficient" at detecting early-stage ovarian cancers and results in morbidity and increased medical cost due to pursuing false positives…but you know, science aside, I think as a woman, I would rather do SOMETHING than nothing. I imagine I would have to pay out-of-pocket because insurance companies make most of their decisions on what to pay for is evidence-based.

>>>Karen in Virginia

klanders30 · January 2020

Margaret you are such an insightful person. I love what you keep in your backpack, taking care of yourself is the key, you are an inspiration and thank you for sharing your wisdom and your strength.

NYKAREN

pipcd34 · January 2020

margaretturk · January 2020

Thank you NY Karen.

I draw strength and wisdom from all of you sharing on this site. It does take a village to help us weather the blows in life.

margaretturk · January 2020

Again Amber thank you for the update. Just seeing China's reaction to this virus we know this needs to be taken seriously. I already said to husband one likes to run his tank to 0 to rethink this and fill sooner.

I know I need to do things to boost my immune system and revisit emergency kit. I had the Swine Flu and I know how bad that was. I still think part of that illness was caused by a major stomach illness the month before (Mexico).

Margaret

cityjaneLondon · January 2020

I used to leak when I coughed or sneezed, but Pilates, Yoga and core strength exercises have more or less cured it. Now it's unusual to leak. Pilates made a huge difference.

Luci - I fully intend to kill myself if I develop Alzheimer's or a terminal illness. I hope I can do it before I become incapable of making that choice. DH will not help me as he is against it and it's illegal in the UK to assist anyone. Other than that I know that hospices often assist in dying by giving morphine at a higher dose. They did that for my friend Ros. My mother was assisted in a normal hospital that way. She passed very peacefully and I and my brother were there with her. Unfortunately that official pathway has been discontinued in hospital.
Your friend was very selfish in choosing to go under a train. Many times I have had a train journey ruined or cancelled because of that. I once had to pay out £100 to get to an airport in time when the train was cancelled. It takes a whole day to get the trains running again, not to mention the trauma to the driver etc.
Depression is also not a reason to kill yourself. Only terminal illness is. In Europe we can visit Dignitas in Switzerland, but you have to be well enough to get there.
A friend of a friend killed herself along with her terminally ill husband because she couldn't live without him. This was terrible for everyone, including my friend. The emergency services had to come out along with toxicology people in haz suits, which made the local doctor furious at the large expense and trouble.
These are all things to think carefully about. I have read books on the subject and believe I can do it with the least trouble and grief to my loved ones.
I have no religious beliefs, so that is not something that troubles me, but I know that is a concern for some.

On the food subject, I just know that I could not be married, or a partner, to someone with severe food issues. It just wouldn't work. It would be like being with someone of totally different political, or religious persuasion. A non starter. It may sound shallow to some of you, but food is such a huge part of my life. My ex MIL was married to a man who wouldn't eat onions, or garlic. That would mean divorce for me.

I've just rejoined the Royal Academy, up in London, so I can go to any of their art exhibitions and take a guest with me. The current one is Picasso. I might go with my Portsmouth friend. :-) I have been a member in the past, intermittently.

DH went for a walk this afternoon, in the rain, while I was doing my bonus rowing and biking. He called in at the wine shop and bought a case of mixed red wines, with a discount. They have just been delivered, half an hour later. Service!!

I'm cooking squid tonight, in a white wine stew. Yummo! I was so delighted to see them on the fish counter at the supermarket yesterday. We haven't had them since we moved here as the fish market guys refuse to clean them. Grrrrrr!

Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx

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