WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JANUARY 2020

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  • JRsLateInLifeMom
    JRsLateInLifeMom Posts: 2,275 Member
    Margaret- Yeah seems scary how they even have people not sick running out of food but won’t allow food in out of fear.

    Amber Tx
  • KetoneKaren
    KetoneKaren Posts: 6,412 Member
    Margaret Me too. Not sure what my days would be like without you all.
  • JRsLateInLifeMom
    JRsLateInLifeMom Posts: 2,275 Member
    Karen- Agree 100%! You guys get me through the lowest days .

    https://youtu.be/luztqxUBvZo A day in Wuhan quarantine zone Guy not Chinese citizen so guess he’s allowed to film.

    Amber Tx
  • kymarai
    kymarai Posts: 3,802 Member
    <3 lots to think about and respond to. Will try to do that tonight. At work now.
    <3
    Kylua in ohio where the sun is on strike
  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,452 Member
    Pg 84 done. I’ll catch up while doing laundromat in a bit.

    RV Rita
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,884 Member
    Welcome back Lin. :D I'm an old timer. :p

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
  • fanncy0626
    fanncy0626 Posts: 7,152 Member
    edited January 2020
    Allie - I think the walk to work will do him good. He might realize that he needs a full time job or another part time! This might be the push he needs.
  • KetoneKaren
    KetoneKaren Posts: 6,412 Member
    Carol

    Sorry your husband is such a pill. c0703.gif

    (((Hugs)))

  • margaretturk
    margaretturk Posts: 5,337 Member
    Our skies are gray here. Despite my stress I do not consider myself in a gray place. I am enjoying a great cup of coffee and enjoying looking at some yellow mums I bought last week.
  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,452 Member
    KJLaMore wrote: »
    LisaInAR-What are you longing for?

    I have been longing for the same thing for many, many years. Not to sound like William Wallace or MLK, Jr; but I am longing for freedom. This doesn't mean freedom from my work, or my husband (god love him). I just long for the freedom to plan, do, go as I please. Most decisions I make I do have to run by my hubby and we are a very yin and yang type couple. He is my own personal devil's advocate and sometimes dark cloud. The things that make me feel exhilarated and excited (like the thought of going skydiving) send him into a pit of despair. The other glitch in my bid for freedom is the financial part of it. I am still working on being financially free to plan, do, and go. So hard to have wings on your soul and an anchor on your self. I will get there. It is just going to take a couple more years.

    You sound B like a mirror of my life! I gave up longing for this type of freedom and just work a little at a time towards my wish. Made it a long term goal.

    I long for my children to come visit me instead of the other way around. And for my step-daughters (2) to talk to their father again.

    RV Rita

    Ps. Was sick most of January. Better now. Went for yearly checkup. Great report! Low carb, no grains or sugar paying off! We use stevia for sweetener in everything. My DH is the chef and uses it in tomato sauce too. Works for us!
  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,594 Member
    Did Kathy Smith’s Build Muscle Shrink Fat DVD. The plan for tomorrow is to do a DVD for the bosu

    Volunteered at the Green Room then went to Food Lion. Didn’t realize that it was the small box of Cheerios that were on sale. Not much of a sale. Then home.

    This morning I opened the package of Bubba vege burgers. I didn’t realize they weren’t precooked so I tried cooking them in the microwave. They never did cook. Unfortunately, I put them on for 5 minutes and it burned. Plus, it melted the food cover that I had. When will I learn to take the cover out of the microwave before using it? Now the house is smokey. I opened the porch door but Vince wanted me to close it. Wound up cooking them on the stovetop. Which reminds me that I have to clean it

    M – great job on that race! You are so right…thank goodness for online menus

    Lisa AR – the doc thinks your weight has something to do with it? But you aren’t THAT heavy, not at all.

    Lin – so great to see you!

    Pick – welcome! At the end of this month, Barbie will post a link for posts for the next month. We go on and on and on and on. Just be sure to bookmark this site so you can come back

    Longing – how I wish I could see PJ! Even skyping would be fine.

    Rita – I’m so sorry you were sick but glad you’re better now

    Michele NC
  • sh0tzz99
    sh0tzz99 Posts: 985 Member
    Heather - I am with you on the partners and food. I love to cook and my mister eats whatever I put in front of him. I have a friend who has the palate of a 5 year old...chicken strips, cheese pizza, mac & cheese, bread...He would drive me nuts.

    Allie - I think he should walk to work. 2ish miles each way is good exercise for him!

    Headed out for a run on this Santa Ana day. Will have to get used to it. Our only car went out of service in a big way yesterday.

    Tina in CA

  • OregonMother
    OregonMother Posts: 1,687 Member
    Karen Thank you for your input on assisted suicide. I grew up with my Dad being bipolar (and my first abuser). He threatened suicide from the time I was 10. I have also struggled with depression and anxiety over the years, but suicidal thoughts stopped when I had my children. I could never do that to them! My friend apparently stepped in front of a train...such a tragic ending. That is why I wish she could have had medication to end things peacefully! 😭 Still interested in everyone else's feelings on this subject!

    On a happier note, I am taking care of my DG today...5 1/2 weeks old now. My how she changes from week to week!! She is such a happy baby!

    Luci (still struggling a bit) in WNC

    I am sorry for your loss, Luci. That is horrible -- a very difficult thing to deal with.

    Re: Assisted Suicide: I do believe people should be allowed to die with dignity. My husband and I just dealt with some of this with his mother. She was on hospice at the end, and all they were doing is making her feel comfortable. None of her regular medicines were administered in the last week. She couldn't eat or drink. He said she did seem peaceful. But some of his family (aunt and niece) are a little miffed because we didn't have her on life support. They couldn't understand why she wasn't on IVs or oxygen or or or. Now my husband is struggling with that, too. "If we had had her in a regular nursing home, she could have had life support," is what he is struggling with. But I believe it is much better this way. She would never have wanted to commit suicide, she wanted to cling to every shred of life -- and I don't mean in a good way -- but I do think her body was ready to go, even if she still wanted everyone to do everything possible to keep her here. Her body was done. I believe she had a dignified death. She followed a natural course.

    So I guess I believe people should be able to choose their exit. I don't see myself choosing that route, but just because I wouldn't doesn't mean that I believe others shouldn't have the opportunity if they want. Does that make sense?

    Flea
    Willamette Valley, Oregon
  • KJLaMore
    KJLaMore Posts: 2,856 Member
    If you feel the urge (I know I did) please answer Lisa's question " What do you long for?" And also give input on assisted suicide as Luci requested. Both important topics. BUT... you know me...going to flip our little thread and get some good mojo going into February. Here is my question to you, What makes your heart skip a beat? You know...the things that make you extraordinarily happy/proud. The things that make you want to spin, flex your muscles, do a back flip? Tell me!
  • OregonMother
    OregonMother Posts: 1,687 Member
    My alcoholic,demonically abusive father committed suicide when I was very young.He was never nice to us and I’m stoic about his leaving-I don’t miss what I never had.And it meant there would be no more beatings.But that’s when my monster Really started living for herself as her “friends “told her she should.Different men in and out the house and different abuse.Shed gone off on one her usual weekend away and left me alone.I had No one .I had been hospitalized with 3 bleeding ulcers a hiatal hernia and acid reflux like nobody.I was 13.So I had plenty of pills in the house and monster had plenty of booze.I figured I’d had enough and no other escape.Obviously it didn’t work and she never knew.I have moments when it crosses my mind but I can’t inflict that pain on my family.Ive lost a couple dear friends to suicide 😔.And just in the past couple days list a couple good friends 😔😔.Ive been skimming through and wasn’t going to say anything because my life has been SO messed up.I still feel so damaged and have no one to talk to and hate to burden y’all beautiful ladies with itSorry for the mini novel.
    Debby in Va

    I am so sorry, Debby. I am thankful that you are here. And you are no burden at all. On the contrary, you are valued and seen.

    Flea
    Willamette Valley, Oregon
  • margaretturk
    margaretturk Posts: 5,337 Member
    Debby my hearts goes out to you!

    As a child you had no safe place. Now as an adult you can create those safe places for yourself. Healing the scars from our childhood takes a village. Know you are not alone. As I said to Luci in a personal message. You can know in your head that your father was ill the emotional impact is much harder to heal.

    You are not a burden. Just giving voice to your pain can start the healing process.

    To answer your question Kelly...Singing is the number one thing can pull me from the darkest cloud...Getting into the zone when I paint also transcends me to a place of contentment...Getting those hugs from students who are placed in my care Bliss!
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,823 Member
    LisaInAR wrote: »
    I feel as if the day, supportive or not, kinda went sideways into a gray place for all of us--sorry if I was part of causing that, it was genuinely not my intent. :'(

    Love,
    Lisa in AR

    Tomorrow is a new day, new month, and new thread!
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,884 Member
    Debbie - You are definitely not alone. This thread is frequented by quite a few with similar experiences, including myself. I sought help from professionals and was lucky enough to find it. My life's work has been to heal from my childhood. It is a never ending journey, but can be done. One thing to remember is, you are free now. The past does not exist. Only the present moment exists. You can use each moment to choose what you want for your future happiness. <3

    What makes my heart skip? Almost everything! :D Just being in the moment is a wonderful thing. Just recently the miracle of finding a singing group still astonishes me! I never tire of the sea. On a more mundane level, I love to get dressed up, put my face on, and go out to lunch somewhere delightful with a really good girlfriend for a good, long gossip. Wonderful! :D<3

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,452 Member
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  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,884 Member
    Just arranged a lunch date in Portsmouth for next week. :DB)

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
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