Things people say when you lose weight
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I've posted here before but have a few new ones:
A new friend told me I looked very fit, first time I've been told that!
My doctor said he wasn't worried about me because I was thin, never been told that either!
My Mom had previously said now that I hit goal I could start gaining weight as I was too thin. My parents recently went to Hawaii and brought me chocolate-covered macadamian candy. When I was hesitant she told me I could eat them now that I'm thin. Um, does it matter that we're all diabetic? I may be off my meds but I'd rather not go back to them.25 -
A couple of the nicer ones I've had recently are: "Bloody hell! You look ripped"; and "You've got a six pack. Where did that come from?" These were both from divers at my club whilst changing into my drysuit.
These are the comments I'd prefer, I hate being told I'm skinny or wasting away, I'd rather hear my workouts are giving me some serious muscles!8 -
I don't like "skinny mini" that phrase over the years really become nerve grating, "where's the rest of you", "you'll snap in half" ect ect....most of the time I can roll with it but "skinny mini" makes me red in the face.14
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They say I look much younger lol and if I had Botox or somethin Hahahaha
With my 25 yr old son ☺️ turning 54 this year41 -
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@seltzermint555 aww 🥰 thanks ❤️3
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trailrunner64 wrote: »If people ask you "are you losing weight on purpose" - it just show they want to be sensitive to your health. You could have a medical condition (i.e. cancer) that caused a dramatic weigh loss.
I have a different opinion. I lost my beloved husband to cancer. Several years later, I lost weight simply because I was overweight, wanted to be healthy, and wanted to fit in my clothes (the usual reasons people lose weight).
A neighbor who doesn't see me often asked your question, "Did you lose weight on purpose?" In other words, she wanted to know if I had cancer, too. I asked her if that's what she meant and she said yes.
Her comment opened up my husband's death and traumatized me for days. That question may seem sensitive to some people, but I find it intrustive, nosy, and jarring.
It's better to tell someone it's good to see you and leave their appearance alone if you aren't sure why they've changed.20 -
trailrunner64 wrote: »If people ask you "are you losing weight on purpose" - it just show they want to be sensitive to your health. You could have a medical condition (i.e. cancer) that caused a dramatic weigh loss.
I have a different opinion. I lost my beloved husband to cancer. Several years later, I lost weight simply because I was overweight, wanted to be healthy, and wanted to fit in my clothes (the usual reasons people lose weight).
A neighbor who doesn't see me often asked your question, "Did you lose weight on purpose?" In other words, she wanted to know if I had cancer, too. I asked her if that's what she meant and she said yes.
Her comment opened up my husband's death and traumatized me for days. That question may seem sensitive to some people, but I find it intrustive, nosy, and jarring.
It's better to tell someone it's good to see you and leave their appearance alone if you aren't sure why they've changed.
Sorry for your loss Hollis.🌹I agree with you.
There's this quote that helps me to let go of people's insensitive comments. Don't attribute malice for ignorance. Some people are thoughtless and low on the interpersonal intelligence/socially inept intending to express care and concern not realizing how they come across to the other person as offensive, hurtful, intrusive, imposing, etc.10 -
trailrunner64 wrote: »If people ask you "are you losing weight on purpose" - it just show they want to be sensitive to your health. You could have a medical condition (i.e. cancer) that caused a dramatic weigh loss.
I have a different opinion. I lost my beloved husband to cancer. Several years later, I lost weight simply because I was overweight, wanted to be healthy, and wanted to fit in my clothes (the usual reasons people lose weight).
A neighbor who doesn't see me often asked your question, "Did you lose weight on purpose?" In other words, she wanted to know if I had cancer, too. I asked her if that's what she meant and she said yes.
Her comment opened up my husband's death and traumatized me for days. That question may seem sensitive to some people, but I find it intrustive, nosy, and jarring.
It's better to tell someone it's good to see you and leave their appearance alone if you aren't sure why they've changed.
I have had a Dr. ask me that: If it was on purpose. Please don't be mad or upset, as it is a symptom of several diseases, including cancer.
I just told him...Well yea!
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@epangili Thanks for your kind and thoughtful comments
@1PoisonIvy A situation with a doctor is entirely different. The doctor is there to oversee my health. I would absolutely not be offended if a doctor asked me about weight loss, especially a major loss -- in fact, the doctor would be remiss not to bring it up.
The situation I described was NOT in a medical office -- a nosy neighbor stopped me while I was walking my dog and wanted to know if I had a serious disease. She's not even a friend, just nosy. It was extremely offensive.
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MsHarryWinston wrote: »@CMSC143 You look fabulous. I agree with the poster above, I thought you were your son's girlfriend!
Thank you all so much ❤️. I appreciate such compliments . I am really trying to maintain my weight because it benefits me a lot. Mainly, my health.. Keep safe and God bless us all. ❤️❤️❤️❤️6 -
Ok not say but do...
I was so flattered this morning...
I went to pick up my free birthday latte at Starbucks but wasn't ready yet so walked away. Behind me was a handsome tall young man with blue eyes at least 10 years younger than me, when I turned back around to check my order I caught him at a total frozen pause at the doorway threshold holding door open staring at me unabashedly with a huge smile even boldly did the slow once over body scan. I NEVER got that kind of attention when I was obese... I'm so motivated now to stay at my high school weight and keep my girlish figure...24 -
I am just shy of 2 months into this. I have lost 15 lbs (with 40 more to go). One person complimented me (which was nice) then listed off reasons why she can’t do it. She is busy, work, has a kid (I have 3), food budget, etc. I have the same barriers. I finally said “I understand, I am in a similar situation. I have had to find ways to make it happen.” She proceeded to tell me how much busier she is than I am. I gave excuses for years. I get where she is at. But I didn’t like that it implied that I had it easier because this has required a lot of work/focus. But I know it was more about her than me. Just had to complain for a second. Now I am done 🙂.30
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Many of us in my country, Nepal, are not very subtle about providing comments. One of the first comments I received when I lost about 10 kg weight was, "Do you have a medical problem?
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One time I got “okay now just focus on weights, you’ve lost enough” I also get “Dont look for healthier options of things you used to like that’s not the point of a diet” both game from family members who have not been on diets ever in their life. It was kind of a downer and whenever they see me eat a lot of chicken or have some hot chocolate they go “can you eat that??” Or “that’s a lot” and comments like that have honestly just been a fuel for me to keep going rather than a downer. I have gotten a few “you look good” which is nice. But it’s mostly been jealousy and drawback even from people closest to me.17
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Shoot, I lost 50 pounds already and haven't gotten a comment yet! Oh well, I guess that happens when you start at 435 pounds. Maybe just maybe, if I continue to persist, someday, someone will ask me if I'm sick
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Yes, DO continue to persist!!!tonygermano2 wrote: »Shoot, I lost 50 pounds already and haven't gotten a comment yet! Oh well, I guess that happens when you start at 435 pounds. Maybe just maybe, if I continue to persist, someday, someone will ask me if I'm sick When you start at higher weights, it generally does take at least 50 lbs before it's noticeable to others. That was true for me, anyway. I've also found that when you get to a point that you change out your too baggy clothes for smaller ones, it will become a lot more noticeable to others. 22
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