Things people say when you lose weight

bobsburgersfan · July 2020

I was talking to my mom earlier, and she was telling me about a woman she knows who has lost A LOT of weight, and of course she made the comment that this woman has lost too much. I tried to make the point that it's just in comparison to what she used to look like. She wasn't having any of that. "Well, she looked better a couple months ago." (Eye roll.) I just can't wait until I get down further; I'm guessing anything below 200 will seem too thin to her.

lilmissrmb · July 2020

Best:

Coworker takes me to one side "have you lost weight?"
"yeah"
"wow you look great, I just didn't want you to think I thought you needed to before by my asking!"

Worse:
"you don't really need to lose weight, you need to remember you're a lovely person on the inside" (said by an overweight friend)
"were you pregnant before?"

torabelle79 · July 2020

don't get any smaller, you'll disappear! Or you were fine to begin with, now you have no bum!

sbe80 · July 2020

The worst comment I got was that I should lose more and that I still look fat to obese. At the time I was 140lb (I'm 5'6) and a size 8-10. That was very mean and it came from a close family member who was jealous and wanted to sabotage my weight loss. I'be also head of people who lost friends when they stopped being the fat friend. I know now you should just ignore them.

1BlueAurora · July 2020

My favorite remark was from the produce man at my grocery store. He said he noticed I'd lost some weight and that I looked happy and light on my feet. I said something like, "thanks. I've got quite a ways to go.". He said, have you lost 10 or more? I said, "yeah, I've only lost 12." He marched over and picked up a ten pound bag of potatoes and pushed them at me to hold. I'm holding those potatoes and I must have looked like it had just dawned on me that I'd actually accomplished something . He's smiling this big grin and says, "don't forget how you feel right now. You're doing great."

birdtobe · July 2020

Losing weight in quarantine is weird because no one can see you and comment on it (for better or worse). I've lost 50 pounds since most people have seen me. I met up with one friend for a walk and she didn't say a single word, which made me think I must not look that different. A few days later, I saw another friend and she went on and on about how great I look and how hard I must be working. I have to admit, that felt amazing. I guess some people just don't want to say anything for fear of offending. But "you look great" can never be offensive, in my opinion!

RelCanonical · July 2020

birdtobe wrote: »

Losing weight in quarantine is weird because no one can see you and comment on it (for better or worse). I've lost 50 pounds since most people have seen me. I met up with one friend for a walk and she didn't say a single word, which made me think I must not look that different. A few days later, I saw another friend and she went on and on about how great I look and how hard I must be working. I have to admit, that felt amazing. I guess some people just don't want to say anything for fear of offending. But "you look great" can never be offensive, in my opinion!

You would be surprised, some people will take "You look great" and think you're implying that they looked terrible before. Additionally, some people drop weight because they're sick and don't want to be reminded of it.

Sand_TIger · July 2020

1BlueAurora wrote: »

My favorite remark was from the produce man at my grocery store. He said he noticed I'd lost some weight and that I looked happy and light on my feet. I said something like, "thanks. I've got quite a ways to go.". He said, have you lost 10 or more? I said, "yeah, I've only lost 12." He marched over and picked up a ten pound bag of potatoes and pushed them at me to hold. I'm holding those potatoes and I must have looked like it had just dawned on me that I'd actually accomplished something . He's smiling this big grin and says, "don't forget how you feel right now. You're doing great."

Now... THAT is how to do it.

That produce guy was one cool dude. Sounds like he's been there before, too.

aplaw87 · July 2020

hallobailey wrote: »

Weight loss is a very personal journey but it inevitably draws comments from the people around us. I’m curious, what kind of comments have you received related to your weight loss? Good, bad, frustrating. Here are a couple for me...

Good: “You are looking fit”
Frustrating: “you don’t have any weight to lose” or “don’t get obsessed with your new diet”

Here in the south we hear "Well you've lost weight & I've found it!" lol

mtaratoot · July 2020

1BlueAurora wrote: »

My favorite remark was from the produce man at my grocery store. He said he noticed I'd lost some weight and that I looked happy and light on my feet. I said something like, "thanks. I've got quite a ways to go.". He said, have you lost 10 or more? I said, "yeah, I've only lost 12." He marched over and picked up a ten pound bag of potatoes and pushed them at me to hold. I'm holding those potatoes and I must have looked like it had just dawned on me that I'd actually accomplished something . He's smiling this big grin and says, "don't forget how you feel right now. You're doing great."

This was SO awesome to read. Way to go, and keep going!

This got me thinking. A few months back, I put on an 8-pound SeaSoft SCUBA weight belt and went for a walk to see if I could tell the difference. I could. So today, I took a look at what SCUBA belts I had assembled. I had one with two 5-pound uncoated bricks, one with two 3-pound and two 2-pound coated bricks, and my SeaSoft 8-pound comfy belt. I put all three on. I almost added a two pound weight to make an even 30. Anyway, it was really weird wearing THREE SCUBA belts, but there ya go. I walked around. I could feel it in my knees. I used to carry that much more of ME wherever I went. I am SO glad that I shed 20% of my body weight and am at a healthy weigh now. I plan to stay this way.

Anyone is welcome to borrow my weight belts to do a similar experiment, and I'm happy to make them different weights just for fun. Pretty much cold water diving is 18 pounds for me these days, and that is also awesome since it used to take a lot more lead to get my adipose tissues off the surface.

IAmTheGlue · July 2020

This morning’s NSV is my compression pants aren’t compressing anything anymore. They actually barely stay up! I haven’t been wearing them as my other ones are lighter weight so that was a pretty big surprise this morning. 😀

Carp614 · July 2020

I still don't know what NSV means, but Someone did say something to me the other day about it. They said, "that looks good on you."

Nice.

Diatonic12 · July 2020

@Carp614 Non Scale Victory

Your kindness towards others is appreciated.

ImChipper · July 2020

Oh man, I read all these comments and have gotten those!

When I was losing weight with my wedding as a goal, I got A LOT of unwelcome comments.

"If you turn sideways you'll be invisible!"
"Don't lose TOO much weight." (Don't put those impossible standards on me- you seem to be screwed if you do and screwed if you don't)

"You can stop now."
"Don't drink too much water."
"You should live a little." (Because I refused any more truck stop candy bars)

Sand_TIger · July 2020

ImChipper wrote: »

Oh man, I read all these comments and have gotten those!

When I was losing weight with my wedding as a goal, I got A LOT of unwelcome comments.

"If you turn sideways you'll be invisible!"
"Don't lose TOO much weight." (Don't put those impossible standards on me- you seem to be screwed if you do and screwed if you don't)

"You can stop now."
"Don't drink too much water."
"You should live a little." (Because I refused any more truck stop candy bars)

This makes me want to make a thread for snappy comebacks to silly comments! If someone said to me "you should live a little," it would be hard to resist saying "I AM! Do you have any idea how good I feel?"

GummiMundi · July 2020

Sand_TIger wrote: »

ImChipper wrote: »

Oh man, I read all these comments and have gotten those!

When I was losing weight with my wedding as a goal, I got A LOT of unwelcome comments.

"If you turn sideways you'll be invisible!"
"Don't lose TOO much weight." (Don't put those impossible standards on me- you seem to be screwed if you do and screwed if you don't)

"You can stop now."
"Don't drink too much water."
"You should live a little." (Because I refused any more truck stop candy bars)

This makes me want to make a thread for snappy comebacks to silly comments! If someone said to me "you should live a little," it would be hard to resist saying "I AM! Do you have any idea how good I feel?"

I love that comeback! I may "borrow it" next time I need it.

Kaitie9399 · July 2020

@Sand_TIger I wish I was as quick with the witty comebacks as you.

Twice today, from two people, I was told to stop losing weight. My MIL said my face was looking gaunt--thanks, that makes me feel great-especially coming from the lady who's been morbidly obese since the day I met her. I weigh 125.2 pounds, which is technically still 10 pounds from the low end of my BMI. My goal is first 125 and then 120 and then maintenance.

When I was losing the weight I loved the attention 'you look great' 'hey skinny' etc...now, I don't want to remember being fat, I'm embarrassed by how fat I was, so people's remarks, although I'm sure they mean them nicely (except my MIL) I'd rather they not say anything anymore. I want how I look now to be the normal me--and the fat me to be gone and lost forever.

bkbrsys · July 2020

"Don't regain the weight" - from my ex-husband!

bmeadows380 · July 2020

bobsburgersfan wrote: »

I was talking to my mom earlier, and she was telling me about a woman she knows who has lost A LOT of weight, and of course she made the comment that this woman has lost too much. I tried to make the point that it's just in comparison to what she used to look like. She wasn't having any of that. "Well, she looked better a couple months ago." (Eye roll.) I just can't wait until I get down further; I'm guessing anything below 200 will seem too thin to her.

I'll get those comments too. When my uncle lost a lot of weight to help with health issues he had developed, that was mom's comment then, even though I thought he looked fine - skinnier than I was used to, but not unhealthy.

CerebralEcstasy · July 2020

One person told me that they thought I was much prettier with more weight.
Another told me I was too fat (my aunt)

I can't wait to hear what the husband has to say this time. Last time he accused me of developing an eating disorder because I was counting out almonds. You know, portion control. I could sit down and eat a bag of almonds, but one serving size is 15 almonds.

My middle eastern dance instructor commented, "You'd look better in that costume if you lost another 15lbs." All said though, I appreciated her comment because it wasn't out of malice. Just a matter of fact statement.

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