The middle agers group. (Upper 30s,40s & 50ish folks)

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  • annliz23
    annliz23 Posts: 3,756 Member
    annliz23 wrote: »
    AliNouveau wrote: »
    annliz23 wrote: »
    Just wanted to get this off my chest you dont need to answer but I have found it's best to not bottle things up for my well being.

    A difficult few days my hubby is great and I love him to pieces but he can be volatile and moody which can be quite stressful, I have learned over the years when to keep quite or stay out of the way, it's not physical just verbal or continued silences The other day we got up and I am not sure why but he was moody everything I did was wrong so I stayed out of the way that made matters worse. Today so far it's like walking on egg shells , its physically draining as it used to bo ok when I was working, I know a lots of it is his painful joints and hay fever and frustration due to his age and not being able to do things but hey ho I guess I will just grit my teeth.

    Hopefully no-one minds me sharing this I feel better getting it off my chest already!

    Have you ever thought of seeking therapy for yourself and him? That is really no way to live. You shouldn't have to basically live in fear of upsetting your husband. I hope you can find some help for this situation

    Thanks he wouldn't go anyway, normally I cope fine it will blow over I just have to find ways to keep occupied when he gets like it and remind myself it's his problem not mine!

    Life is too short to be miserable, but only you can say what you'll put up with. Big hugs for you 🤗 vent anytime 🙂

    Thanks!
  • slimgirljo15
    slimgirljo15 Posts: 269,456 Member
    annliz23 wrote: »
    annliz23 wrote: »
    AliNouveau wrote: »
    annliz23 wrote: »
    Just wanted to get this off my chest you dont need to answer but I have found it's best to not bottle things up for my well being.

    A difficult few days my hubby is great and I love him to pieces but he can be volatile and moody which can be quite stressful, I have learned over the years when to keep quite or stay out of the way, it's not physical just verbal or continued silences The other day we got up and I am not sure why but he was moody everything I did was wrong so I stayed out of the way that made matters worse. Today so far it's like walking on egg shells , its physically draining as it used to bo ok when I was working, I know a lots of it is his painful joints and hay fever and frustration due to his age and not being able to do things but hey ho I guess I will just grit my teeth.

    Hopefully no-one minds me sharing this I feel better getting it off my chest already!

    Have you ever thought of seeking therapy for yourself and him? That is really no way to live. You shouldn't have to basically live in fear of upsetting your husband. I hope you can find some help for this situation

    Thanks he wouldn't go anyway, normally I cope fine it will blow over I just have to find ways to keep occupied when he gets like it and remind myself it's his problem not mine!

    Life is too short to be miserable, but only you can say what you'll put up with. Big hugs for you 🤗 vent anytime 🙂

    Thanks!

    🙂

    I love your pp..I have poodles too. What's your dogs names?
  • fitnessinmy30s
    fitnessinmy30s Posts: 377 Member
    Ugh I guess I’m finally part of the middle agers group.....well...it’s good to be here people!
  • alteredsteve175
    alteredsteve175 Posts: 2,725 Member
    RandJ6280 wrote: »
    RandJ6280 wrote: »
    TonyB0588 wrote: »
    Another birthday!! My wife's, not mine. :)

    Happy Birthday to your wife Tony 🥳 :)

    Yes wish her happy happy belated B-day. I still have two months before I hit my next b-day.

    39? 😀

    Good morning middle-agers 🙂

    Of course same as the last 19 years :D;)

    Cracked up when I read your comment, Tony. And then flashed on this old Jerry Lee Lewis tune.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uiGDlj4VbW4
  • annliz23
    annliz23 Posts: 3,756 Member
    annliz23 wrote: »
    annliz23 wrote: »
    AliNouveau wrote: »
    annliz23 wrote: »
    Just wanted to get this off my chest you dont need to answer but I have found it's best to not bottle things up for my well being.

    A difficult few days my hubby is great and I love him to pieces but he can be volatile and moody which can be quite stressful, I have learned over the years when to keep quite or stay out of the way, it's not physical just verbal or continued silences The other day we got up and I am not sure why but he was moody everything I did was wrong so I stayed out of the way that made matters worse. Today so far it's like walking on egg shells , its physically draining as it used to bo ok when I was working, I know a lots of it is his painful joints and hay fever and frustration due to his age and not being able to do things but hey ho I guess I will just grit my teeth.

    Hopefully no-one minds me sharing this I feel better getting it off my chest already!

    Have you ever thought of seeking therapy for yourself and him? That is really no way to live. You shouldn't have to basically live in fear of upsetting your husband. I hope you can find some help for this situation

    Thanks he wouldn't go anyway, normally I cope fine it will blow over I just have to find ways to keep occupied when he gets like it and remind myself it's his problem not mine!

    Life is too short to be miserable, but only you can say what you'll put up with. Big hugs for you 🤗 vent anytime 🙂

    Thanks!

    🙂

    I love your pp..I have poodles too. What's your dogs names?

    Poppy (black one) shecis nearly 6 years old and Alfie (apricot) 3 years old. Thanks
  • mtaratoot
    mtaratoot Posts: 14,287 Member
    RandJ6280 wrote: »
    RandJ6280 wrote: »
    TonyB0588 wrote: »
    Another birthday!! My wife's, not mine. :)

    Happy Birthday to your wife Tony 🥳 :)

    Yes wish her happy happy belated B-day. I still have two months before I hit my next b-day.

    39? 😀

    Good morning middle-agers 🙂

    Of course same as the last 19 years :D;)

    I was 36 for a LONG LONG time. At my last birthday, I decided I probably could let myself be 42. So that's what it is for now. Garmin tells me my fitness age is actually less than that, so woo hoo. I guess I can just be my fitness age and be sub-40 instead of over 50. Nah. I'll just stick with 42.

    I have a buddy that started counting backwards at 50.
  • AliNouveau
    AliNouveau Posts: 36,287 Member
    I to take a fitness walk today....I differentiate walks. We do adventure walks where we find something to explore, family walks which are slow and fit was walks where I typically go 5km as fast as I can. I added 100m light jogs to it today to test the knee and I managed to get the time under 40 minutes. While walking I decided i will make an August fitness challenge. So I'm challenging myself to do some sort of workout most days and get into shape.by September 1... we'll see how long it lasts
  • Versicolour
    Versicolour Posts: 7,164 Member
    I am level 39. I will be level 40 soon, and everyone knows that's when you get the really cool spells
  • CMac06820
    CMac06820 Posts: 12 Member
    I fall into the 50ish category and would be happy to loose 50ish pounds. Seriously, I've used MFP previously but stepped back from it years ago but here I am again working out at my gym walking etc etc.... I'm seeing it's not the lack of exercise that kills me but what I choose to put in my body.... Looking forward to making some friends...
  • JDavid007
    JDavid007 Posts: 331 Member
    I am level 39. I will be level 40 soon, and everyone knows that's when you get the really cool spells

    Lets power level to 80! lol
  • RandJ6280
    RandJ6280 Posts: 1,161 Member
    mtaratoot wrote: »
    RandJ6280 wrote: »
    RandJ6280 wrote: »
    TonyB0588 wrote: »
    Another birthday!! My wife's, not mine. :)

    Happy Birthday to your wife Tony 🥳 :)

    Yes wish her happy happy belated B-day. I still have two months before I hit my next b-day.

    39? 😀

    Good morning middle-agers 🙂

    Of course same as the last 19 years :D;)

    I was 36 for a LONG LONG time. At my last birthday, I decided I probably could let myself be 42. So that's what it is for now. Garmin tells me my fitness age is actually less than that, so woo hoo. I guess I can just be my fitness age and be sub-40 instead of over 50. Nah. I'll just stick with 42.

    I have a buddy that started counting backwards at 50.


    mmmm I need to calculate my fitness age. Where can one find this out?

    Counting backwards from 50... lol.. I Like this, in that case, I'm almost 8 years old.
  • RandJ6280
    RandJ6280 Posts: 1,161 Member
    Hi all, sorry I was out this weekend. Spent too much time working out in the yard and moving boxes... dang storerooms. My back decided to work overtime...... Acupuncture appointment went WELL yesterday and just decided to take it easy.
    This morning I did a 1.5 mile jog/walk, 15 mins stair-stepper, and then 15 mins on Elliptical.

    How is everyone today?
  • EdTheGinge
    EdTheGinge Posts: 1,616 Member
    Morning/afternoon/evening

    Started this in my 20s, life happened and now I'm back where it all started. Older and much heavier. Free for adds
  • annliz23
    annliz23 Posts: 3,756 Member
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  • AliNouveau
    AliNouveau Posts: 36,287 Member
    Well I guess I'm not getting my "walk" in today which is ok two days in a row of 5 km is ok. It's pouring rain here again. At least the gardens wil be happy and they really needed it.

    I've done a short various video now I'll do something for my upper body so I can rest my knee. Gotta get fit August continues
  • mtaratoot
    mtaratoot Posts: 14,287 Member
    edited August 2020
    RandJ6280 wrote: »
    mtaratoot wrote: »
    RandJ6280 wrote: »
    RandJ6280 wrote: »
    TonyB0588 wrote: »
    Another birthday!! My wife's, not mine. :)

    Happy Birthday to your wife Tony 🥳 :)

    Yes wish her happy happy belated B-day. I still have two months before I hit my next b-day.

    39? 😀

    Good morning middle-agers 🙂

    Of course same as the last 19 years :D;)

    I was 36 for a LONG LONG time. At my last birthday, I decided I probably could let myself be 42. So that's what it is for now. Garmin tells me my fitness age is actually less than that, so woo hoo. I guess I can just be my fitness age and be sub-40 instead of over 50. Nah. I'll just stick with 42.

    I have a buddy that started counting backwards at 50.


    mmmm I need to calculate my fitness age. Where can one find this out?

    Counting backwards from 50... lol.. I Like this, in that case, I'm almost 8 years old.


    The Garmin website calculates it for me based on its estimate of my VO2-Max. So get yourself a Garmin device and go run several times. Apparently my VO2Max improved again with my last run so I'm a year younger now.


    RandJ6280 wrote: »
    Counting backwards from 50... lol.. I Like this, in that case, I'm almost 8 years old.

    Check your math. You're 43. Next year you'll be 42. I still plan to be 42, unless I just start reporting my fitness age :smile:
  • slimgirljo15
    slimgirljo15 Posts: 269,456 Member
    mtaratoot wrote: »
    RandJ6280 wrote: »
    RandJ6280 wrote: »
    TonyB0588 wrote: »
    Another birthday!! My wife's, not mine. :)

    Happy Birthday to your wife Tony 🥳 :)

    Yes wish her happy happy belated B-day. I still have two months before I hit my next b-day.

    39? 😀

    Good morning middle-agers 🙂

    Of course same as the last 19 years :D;)

    I was 36 for a LONG LONG time. At my last birthday, I decided I probably could let myself be 42. So that's what it is for now. Garmin tells me my fitness age is actually less than that, so woo hoo. I guess I can just be my fitness age and be sub-40 instead of over 50. Nah. I'll just stick with 42.

    I have a buddy that started counting backwards at 50.

    That's great your Garmin age is lower, well done. 🙂
    You can be any age you feel like, it's just a number anyway 😃
  • slimgirljo15
    slimgirljo15 Posts: 269,456 Member
    RandJ6280 wrote: »
    Hi all, sorry I was out this weekend. Spent too much time working out in the yard and moving boxes... dang storerooms. My back decided to work overtime...... Acupuncture appointment went WELL yesterday and just decided to take it easy.
    This morning I did a 1.5 mile jog/walk, 15 mins stair-stepper, and then 15 mins on Elliptical.

    How is everyone today?

    Hope your back is still feeling ok. Gentle on it is probably a good idea.
  • TonyB0588
    TonyB0588 Posts: 9,520 Member
    JDavid007 wrote: »
    I am level 39. I will be level 40 soon, and everyone knows that's when you get the really cool spells

    Lets power level to 80! lol

    The higher levels are harder to reach.
  • alteredsteve175
    alteredsteve175 Posts: 2,725 Member
    TonyB0588 wrote: »
    JDavid007 wrote: »
    I am level 39. I will be level 40 soon, and everyone knows that's when you get the really cool spells

    Lets power level to 80! lol

    The higher levels are harder to reach.

    A lot of things are harder to reach at level 80, Tony. HAHA!😁👍
  • yvonnemhansen
    yvonnemhansen Posts: 8 Member
    Hey all, I just turned 40 and have decided that I need to do something different. I've been overweight my entire adult life and I'm just done with it. I'm done having kids now and have finally recovered from weaning and post-partum so now it's time to focus on myself a little. I need to lose over 100 pounds so if there's anyone out there in a similar boat feel free to add me I could use the motivation :)
  • jenkspaf
    jenkspaf Posts: 48 Member
    Hey there, I'm 46 and back at it... My weight has gone up and down my whole, entire life. I get to a point where I'm at goal and I think, "Oh! I'm cured!" And then I stop tracking, start eating crap, skip workouts. You'd think I would know better by now. Anyway, here I am near 160 and I have finally come to accept that I will need to track what I eat my whole life. Because if I don't, I'll keep telling myself that eating, "just this one thing..." about 6 times a day is okay and then getting upset with myself when I am back to a place where I am uncomfortable with my body AGAIN. I also have a 14 year old daughter and would like to role model a decent, rational relationship with food. I also go back and forth between "everyone should love their body the way it is" and "I don't love my body the way it is." Sigh.... Anyway, I would love to make friends with you all and help support you on your journeys as well. Anyone else figure they are going to have to track for life? - Jen
  • joyneville253
    joyneville253 Posts: 59 Member
    Hi im almost 40, 5ft. , and mom, wife, grandma! In here to support and recieve support😘ive lost 137 lbs so far still working on it!
  • RandJ6280
    RandJ6280 Posts: 1,161 Member
    AliNouveau wrote: »
    Why does no one wants to be their age? I don't mind being 47. I don't feel 47, I'm told I don't look 47. It's just a number really. I know lots of 89 year olds you'd never guess are 80. I say be proud of your age because we all get older.

    Good point.. ok.. I AM 57, and I'm looking forward to being 58 next month! I want people to look at me and say that... you sure don't look 58.
  • AliNouveau
    AliNouveau Posts: 36,287 Member
    RandJ6280 wrote: »
    AliNouveau wrote: »
    Why does no one wants to be their age? I don't mind being 47. I don't feel 47, I'm told I don't look 47. It's just a number really. I know lots of 89 year olds you'd never guess are 80. I say be proud of your age because we all get older.

    Good point.. ok.. I AM 57, and I'm looking forward to being 58 next month! I want people to look at me and say that... you sure don't look 58.

    Ya surprise them. Be proud of your age you've put in those year experiencing life. Ya it comes with aches and pains but no reason at all to be ashamed of aging since it's something everything on the earth does. And heck if people say I don't believe it then more power to you but I do often wonder who decides what certain ages look like. Maybe I look 47 and those who look it when I supposedly don't just look older
  • alteredsteve175
    alteredsteve175 Posts: 2,725 Member
    RandJ6280 wrote: »
    AliNouveau wrote: »
    Why does no one wants to be their age? I don't mind being 47. I don't feel 47, I'm told I don't look 47. It's just a number really. I know lots of 89 year olds you'd never guess are 80. I say be proud of your age because we all get older.

    Good point.. ok.. I AM 57, and I'm looking forward to being 58 next month! I want people to look at me and say that... you sure don't look 58.

    Love that attitude, Tony! I agree - the best compliment you can get - "You don't look that old". HAHA! :D