WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR AUGUST 2020

Gnawing at the bit waiting for the September thread. I always love a new start. Lord knows I embarrass myself enough I need it.

SuziQ113 wrote: »

Hello everyone.

Allie - While I agree with what the others have stated I know a change of scenery does not change us. Those changes we must make for ourselves. If we pick up and leave without resolving our own issues/areas in need of improvement, we only take that baggage along with us.

I learned this when I relocated from NJ to FL. My family was very co-dependent and as a result I was too. It took awhile for me to realize the needed change was within myself. The distance was of some assistance because we did not see each other for long periods of time, but I found I was ending the same situations just in a different place. Until I looked inside and dealt with those issues I was stuck. Once I started reading about co-dependency and understood why I reacted in certain ways that is when real change occurred. Do I slip, yes I do, but I recognize things much quicker than I had in the past.

Sending positive thoughts to you.

Yes, spot on SuzieQ. My experience also. Moving can be like rearranging the deck chairs on the titanic or patching the leak. Patch the leak. then rearrange the deck chairs.

Thank you kind friends. Now I sit and wait to talk to someone about one of his accounts related to his disability. I put it on speaker phone because it took me three days just to get this number from a live person. Finally got someone and they told me who to talk to. I just called that person and they are going to look into it to find out what to do.

Again reminder as you are setting up an estate. Include info phone numbers and contact people of what to do to close up accounts.

He did not have much of an estate. This is will hopefully be the hardest one and once it is done I am going to something special for myself. I am going to have other son be our rep and I will go over with him, what needs to be done.

SophieRosieMom wrote: »

Ladies who drink coffee: Has anyone tried an AeroPress? I saw it discussed on a FB group I frequent, and I see Amazon reviewers give it high ratings.

Looks simpler than a French Press and less wasteful than a Keurig, and I like the idea of 1 cup at a time. I always water it down anyhow.

Lanette
Foggy & Cool SW WA State

We have Aeropress and it's great. It makes a great cup of coffee and is easy to use and clean. It's probably my favorite way to have coffee.

Barbara - "Puck Lights" are little round lights that can go under cupboards or on the bottom of a shelf. They look like pot lights but are not recessed into anything.

Terri - Having zero expectations sure makes a difference doesn't it. My brother and I talk every 2-3 months usually because I call him. I get a FB birthday greeting and that's about it. I gave up about 4 years ago sending cards to people as I got tired of not even receiving and acknowledgement that they were received. Since we moved to Alberta it has been 100% our responsibility to make calls, plan trips, send gifts etc with everyone but my parents and my best friend. Once Dad passed and Mom went into the nursing home we have very few calls. I love all of my family but have had to lower my expectations.

Margaret - My heart just breaks for you. Everyone thinks that they know what someone else is going through and by telling their stories they think it helps you. At times like these silence is golden.

Kelly - How adorable are they?!

Allie - Jean sounds like she is mentally abusive towards you. Can you find other employment so you don't have to put up with her regularly? I hate how she manipulates you and your brother. Your brother allows it to continue and it's OK if he chooses to do so, but he obviously doesn't stick up for you and takes things out on you too, you need to stick up for yourself. They won't change.
Maybe you need to look at anti-depressants again. I have been on them twice and they helped me tremendously. My son in law's Mom is a professor of psychology when I was hesitant about using anti depressants she told me that it is just a chemical imbalance in the brain. She herself has been on the lowest dose possible for 30+ years, every time she tries to stop it comes back so she just continues them.

Faye - I'm sure that it was an error hitting that disagree button. I hit it myself a few times when scrolling on my phone.

Carol - I am finding my motivation lacking with meals as well. Yesterday I had a plan all day for supper that would have been relatively healthy, but in the afternoon about the time I would have started making supper I decided to go for fast food. I want all the comfort food. I don't know why. I am not in the same position as a lot of you. I have been able to see my girls and grandchildren. I have continued to work. I am just struggling. I think a major part of my problem is the two miserable Summers we have had here and it's calling for a tough Winter according to the Farmer's Almanac which is usually pretty accurate.

Katla - what a special treat to have just one to Facetime with.

My coworker is off today, she visited her Granddaughter Thursday evening and Friday her Granddaughter developed a fever. They have both gone for Covid tests on Saturday. She has to wait until both come back negative before returning to work.

We are allowed to visit and have cohorts here up to 15 people inside and 50 outside, but I fear with school starting that will change again.

I should get to work, I have spent most of my morning on here updating.

Tracey in Edmonton

Allie,

An eye-opening book for me was "Perfect Daughters". It deals with adult children of alcoholics. It's amazing how many areas of the book applied to me and set me on a healthier course.

SuzieQ- thanks ill look into it,and yes im thinking of going back on the antidepressants..