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Guys.....or anyone.....why would you not tell your wife/gf/mom etc she had a lot of facial hair? I mean, I guess she would have to know for herself so maybe this is irrelevant. I had to meet someone new a couple days ago and she ALMOST could post in the beards thread. That’s an exaggeration. But it was a lot. I get some people don’t care but when they seem to care about their appearance in other ways.....why? I hope someone tells me if it ever comes down to this.
I wouldn't say anything... I'd just feel kinda mean...
I'm supposed to just appreciate you as you are... 💕4 -
Guys.....or anyone.....why would you not tell your wife/gf/mom etc she had a lot of facial hair? I mean, I guess she would have to know for herself so maybe this is irrelevant. I had to meet someone new a couple days ago and she ALMOST could post in the beards thread. That’s an exaggeration. But it was a lot. I get some people don’t care but when they seem to care about their appearance in other ways.....why? I hope someone tells me if it ever comes down to this.
I had a coworker with a full-ish, grey beard. Her focus was on weight maintenance (she was the leader of like a weight loss anonymous or 12-step group, I forget how she described it)
Anyhooo, her eyesight was fine, she was in a committed long-term relationship and she was a great person so who am I to ask about her beard? I figured she wanted it there or didn't want to bother with the process of not having it there.
Sidenote: I've chosen to actively ignore (out loud) the subsequent question.
True. I get it. I still hope I have a friend who is good enough to me that they feel comfortable trying to help. I wouldn’t expect something that personal from a co-worker etc. Something in my teeth or my face etc.....anyone. I welcome anyone to have mercy on me.
Hey Mel.....you might want to do something with that scruff....its kind of itchy 😉2 -
PaperDoll_ wrote: »Miss_Chiev0us wrote: »Guys.....or anyone.....why would you not tell your wife/gf/mom etc she had a lot of facial hair? I mean, I guess she would have to know for herself so maybe this is irrelevant. I had to meet someone new a couple days ago and she ALMOST could post in the beards thread. That’s an exaggeration. But it was a lot. I get some people don’t care but when they seem to care about their appearance in other ways.....why? I hope someone tells me if it ever comes down to this.
I wouldn't say anything since it's on their face and I assume they already know about it. Also, some people have alot if facial hair because of medical conditions so to me it sounds kind of rude and none of my business to point it out.
This reminds me of a coworker one time. She had, what I assumed to be ink smudges on her chin. So I told her she had ink on her face to be helpful. She said it was stubble and she’d forgotten to shave it. I felt like such an *kitten*. 🤦♀️
Of course then she proceeded to explain to me why she had stubble because of a medical condition. I swear I didn’t ask her why. But I’m sure it embarrassed her because I, being the smart person I am, told her about the ink in front of another person too. 😬
This reminds me of a coworker I had at a part-time job in high school. She (older) had a goatee because of hormone shots for fertility treatments. No one said anything directly to her, that I know of, but she offered the info to try to shutdown some talk going on behind her back.1 -
Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »Guys.....or anyone.....why would you not tell your wife/gf/mom etc she had a lot of facial hair? I mean, I guess she would have to know for herself so maybe this is irrelevant. I had to meet someone new a couple days ago and she ALMOST could post in the beards thread. That’s an exaggeration. But it was a lot. I get some people don’t care but when they seem to care about their appearance in other ways.....why? I hope someone tells me if it ever comes down to this.
I wouldn't say anything... I'd just feel kinda mean...
I'm supposed to just appreciate you as you are... 💕
*kitten* no. Someone better tell me. If we’re close enough. Otherwise when I notice, I assume you hate me.
No one accidentally grows a beard...
And it's possible to hate someone and ask them to shave, lose weight whatever...
It's also possible to love someone and not care about these things... It doesn't mean you don't care about the person...3 -
ladies/guys-
you going through their phone if they leave it out when they're busy taking a shower or nah?2 -
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Kashmir_314_ wrote: »
Because his bathroom breaks were am hour long. Pfft, nobody plays words with friends for an hour 🙄
ah the good ole days1 -
Kashmir_314_ wrote: »
Because his bathroom breaks were am hour long. Pfft, nobody plays words with friends for an hour 🙄
If he's in the bathroom "playing words with friends", doesn't he have his phone with him???0 -
Guys.....or anyone.....why would you not tell your wife/gf/mom etc she had a lot of facial hair? I mean, I guess she would have to know for herself so maybe this is irrelevant. I had to meet someone new a couple days ago and she ALMOST could post in the beards thread. That’s an exaggeration. But it was a lot. I get some people don’t care but when they seem to care about their appearance in other ways.....why? I hope someone tells me if it ever comes down to this.
I had a coworker with a full-ish, grey beard. Her focus was on weight maintenance (she was the leader of like a weight loss anonymous or 12-step group, I forget how she described it)
Anyhooo, her eyesight was fine, she was in a committed long-term relationship and she was a great person so who am I to ask about her beard? I figured she wanted it there or didn't want to bother with the process of not having it there.
Sidenote: I've chosen to actively ignore (out loud) the subsequent question.
True. I get it. I still hope I have a friend who is good enough to me that they feel comfortable trying to help. I wouldn’t expect something that personal from a co-worker etc. Something in my teeth or my face etc.....anyone. I welcome anyone to have mercy on me.
Giiiirl, I adore you but how can someone grow a beard without noticing? 😅 I had 1 little hair on my chin once and that's all I could see 🤣0 -
ladies/guys-
you going through their phone if they leave it out when they're busy taking a shower or nah?
Never, I think if someone doesn't trust their partner enough that they feel like they need to snoop through their phone it's pretty obvious that there are issues in their relationship ou with themselves.2 -
Kashmir_314_ wrote: »
Because his bathroom breaks were am hour long. Pfft, nobody plays words with friends for an hour 🙄
Meanwhile, there are those weird people who read on the toilet for seemingly an hour or so. 🙄
Also.. who would want to sit in a bathroom for an hour willingly? Eww.
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Kashmir_314_ wrote: »Kashmir_314_ wrote: »
Because his bathroom breaks were am hour long. Pfft, nobody plays words with friends for an hour 🙄
If he's in the bathroom "playing words with friends", doesn't he have his phone with him???
Yes! Which lead me to borrowing his phone, which lead to suspicion, which lead to the door!
Do you have trust/security issues, or is this a reasonable response for most people? Or is this just chit chat being chit chat?2 -
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Kashmir_314_ wrote: »Kashmir_314_ wrote: »Kashmir_314_ wrote: »
Because his bathroom breaks were am hour long. Pfft, nobody plays words with friends for an hour 🙄
If he's in the bathroom "playing words with friends", doesn't he have his phone with him???
Yes! Which lead me to borrowing his phone, which lead to suspicion, which lead to the door!
Do you have trust/security issues, or is this a reasonable response for most people? Or is this just chit chat being chit chat?
I didn't, and I never looked through any of his things until he started hoarding his phone etc.
ah, ok.. that helps. You saw his behavior as suspicious and responded accordingly.1 -
Kashmir_314_ wrote: »Kashmir_314_ wrote: »Kashmir_314_ wrote: »Kashmir_314_ wrote: »
Because his bathroom breaks were am hour long. Pfft, nobody plays words with friends for an hour 🙄
If he's in the bathroom "playing words with friends", doesn't he have his phone with him???
Yes! Which lead me to borrowing his phone, which lead to suspicion, which lead to the door!
Do you have trust/security issues, or is this a reasonable response for most people? Or is this just chit chat being chit chat?
I didn't, and I never looked through any of his things until he started hoarding his phone etc.
ah, ok.. that helps. You saw his behavior as suspicious and responded accordingly.
I did. I'm not a jealous, sneaky type person. My gut was screaming at me for months.
was your gut right?0 -
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Someone in this thread must be REALLY inspired this afternoon.5
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Kashmir_314_ wrote: »
Same, but asking outright only ended up in a complete gaslighting situation.
Yuck. Gaslighting. Sounds like you dodged a bullet.
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Miss_Chiev0us wrote: »Guys.....or anyone.....why would you not tell your wife/gf/mom etc she had a lot of facial hair? I mean, I guess she would have to know for herself so maybe this is irrelevant. I had to meet someone new a couple days ago and she ALMOST could post in the beards thread. That’s an exaggeration. But it was a lot. I get some people don’t care but when they seem to care about their appearance in other ways.....why? I hope someone tells me if it ever comes down to this.
I had a coworker with a full-ish, grey beard. Her focus was on weight maintenance (she was the leader of like a weight loss anonymous or 12-step group, I forget how she described it)
Anyhooo, her eyesight was fine, she was in a committed long-term relationship and she was a great person so who am I to ask about her beard? I figured she wanted it there or didn't want to bother with the process of not having it there.
Sidenote: I've chosen to actively ignore (out loud) the subsequent question.
True. I get it. I still hope I have a friend who is good enough to me that they feel comfortable trying to help. I wouldn’t expect something that personal from a co-worker etc. Something in my teeth or my face etc.....anyone. I welcome anyone to have mercy on me.
Giiiirl, I adore you but how can someone grow a beard without noticing? 😅 I had 1 little hair on my chin once and that's all I could see 🤣
It’s the only way my mind can reconcile not caring? I honestly can’t imagine living that way. And not caring. But I’m a vain *kitten*. I’m sure people think that about things I do or don’t do too? (Also it was a “grouping” of long hair....technically not so much a beard but still)
The original questions was......why would you not tell someone you care about? I’d want to know how someone I care about perceives me in many areas. Because I know they have my best interest in mind. I’m assuming some people think that it’s not really “that bad” or maybe nobody notices. Or.....they’re ok with it. Which again, my brain no fathom that.
When I worked at a uni library there was a student with a very distinct dark stache. However, her dress made it apparent that she was a member of a faith that doesn't permit cosmetic enhancement. Presumably the idea is that if God put it on your face, it stays on your face.
I'm acutely aware of my most minute flaws, I assume my friends are also. They don't need me to draw attention to them.0 -
ladies/guys-
you going through their phone if they leave it out when they're busy taking a shower or nah?
Unnecessary.
Also, - (un)related - my phone has no lock code, is on silent/no notis and I leave it in another room most of the time. Basically, it's ripe for the picking I guess.
But...
If one was to be curious, they'd be bored WAY sooner than they'd be suspicious.2 -
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Guys.....or anyone.....why would you not tell your wife/gf/mom etc she had a lot of facial hair? I mean, I guess she would have to know for herself so maybe this is irrelevant. I had to meet someone new a couple days ago and she ALMOST could post in the beards thread. That’s an exaggeration. But it was a lot. I get some people don’t care but when they seem to care about their appearance in other ways.....why? I hope someone tells me if it ever comes down to this.
The gf has somewhat of a beard and we're close enough that I just flat out tell her that it's growing back in and to wax or sometimes I pluck it for her.
Strangers or freinds though I would never. I just politely ignore it.0 -
ladies/guys-
you going through their phone if they leave it out when they're busy taking a shower or nah?
Unnecessary.
Also, - (un)related - my phone has no lock code, is on silent/no notis and I leave it in another room most of the time. Basically, it's ripe for the picking I guess.
But...
If one was to be curious, they'd be bored WAY sooner than they'd be suspicious.
Please at least lock it. It’s not about what you do or have on it, it’s about what other less than reputable people could do as you if they stole it.2
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