WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR FEBRUARY 2021
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Hahahahaha -- yep, that's pretty much the way it is!
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Machka-you really were prepared for divorce!
Ginny in Ohio
I knew things were going downhill. We were married and together for 12 years. The first 3 were all right. In the 4th year we moved to Winnipeg and the marriage started circling the drain. Looking back at it now, I would guess that he went into a depression and should have been on medication. But back in those days, depression wasn't recognised like it is now.
He was big when we married and during the first three years - about 6'2" and ranging between about 225 and 275 lbs. But he worked out in the gym and was quite muscular. We had a private trainer and for at least 2 years, I was into body building as well.
But when we moved, he didn't get into the job he wanted, I was having trouble finding work too (1990s recession), the gym we signed on with suddenly closed and took about 6 months of our money with it which we were never able to get back, there weren't any other good gym options nearby (lots were closing then) and we didn't have the money for it anyway. We were well below the poverty line for the first 2 years in Winnipeg, barely eating and only paying rent and our car payment by paying one in the first month and the other in the second month ... just frequently enough so that we wouldn't be evicted or have our car repossessed, but infrequently enough that we were sinking into debt. I would have sold the car, but what little work he was getting was as a courier - delivery driver - and he used the car.
After 2 years, I got a steady job and things started to get better but it didn't really for him and pretty soon he was 400 lbs and basically not interested in "adulting" anymore.
At about the 9 year point, after trying and trying everything I could think of with him, I started to move on. I started doing things I wanted to do ... things that made me happy and put me into a better position. I went to a tech college for 9 months and got my Engineering Technology certificate, and then to a business school for a year and got my Business Administration diploma, while working several part time jobs to pay for those. I got into bicycle racing and long distance cycling - slimmed up and got fit.
But like I said, I did think that if things suddenly came good, somehow, my preparations would have both of us in a good place. As it was, I was able to walk away with no regrets.
M in Oz
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Last evening, I vacuumed the house and scrubbed the floors in preparation for the inspection today ... which apparently went really well.
Last night, my meds put me to sleep quickly and deeply until about 6 am when my back and hip pain flared up. I should have probably got up and taken something but 6 am is only 2 hours till I have to be up and I figured I would just find a comfortable position and go back to sleep ... I didn't and ended up tossing and turning and dozing for the last 2 hours.
Hoping to hear from the neurosurgeon soon.
M in Oz3 -
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My mother died in 1991 and when I was going through all her files and papers and found all her pages of her spending for each month going back into the 1930's, I found it interesting until I got to a place where she had listed purchases for my sister and me and she'd spent more on my sister than on me, I realized that looking further had the potential to do me more harm than good and I got rid of all the papers and never looked back.
Barbie in NW WA5 -
Stat for the day-
Walk w/family- 2hrs 24min 48sec, 3.30min,89ahr, 110mhr, 7.20mi= 653c
Starve app = 873c
Also made 2 batches of dog treats
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Well slept for an hr and wide awake and fidgety even with pain meds and melatonin.. ugh
So wish I get a good nights sleep..5 -
I just heard that Season 2 of Lego Masters will be airing this summer, for those interested.
Pip - it’s nice to her be getting these things completed before you move in, but I bet you’re getting antsy to get in.
Great deal on a beautiful rug.
Debbie - that will be good for you and your Mom to have a weekend together.
Beth - I am so sorry to read your post, how irresponsible of them. Is there an advocacy group or local news station that would help at all? Your son and family are in my prayers.
My Grandparents were married in 1941, he passed in 1997 and she did in 2009. They always had separate bank accounts no joint and they would each pay a portion of the bills. There are numerous entries in Grammie’s diaries of anytime he borrowed money from her and then would be noted as he paid her back. As kids we would get Christmas presents from him and her and then usually a couple from the both of them. That was also noted in her diaries, “Harley bought Tracey a deep wine coloured velour housecoat for Christmas”. “We bought”, “I bought” all very detailed.
I always thought that they were forward thinking for their time.
Lisa - thank you for the smoothie tips.
Several of our staff lost their sense of taste and smell. All of our staff that has it had it between Nov 15 and Dec 20 and some of them still can’t taste properly.
I use the Working Feet and love it.
😂😂 John Travolta.
Barbara - Yes it is my sacroiliac joints that I just got the 1-2 degree mobility in. When I started I had no mobility in my right hip or sacroiliac joints. She told me the first day that it would be 6 weeks and I’m only half way through. I feel a difference in my mobility but the pain is terrible as all of my joints and muscles wake up and start being used properly again. I’ll be glad when I’m pain free, I just need some patience.
Terri - “Spending our kids inheritance”, my parents and grandparents were very fond of telling me that it wasn’t their job to leave an inheritance. My Grandparents did though. My parents really had nothing, they lived paycheque to paycheque all their married lives.
Machka - I hope you do get some good nights sleeps, I think you really need it more than you know.
Barbie - I wish I had been taught about money growing up, but I think when you have no money and are always robbing Peter to pay Paul and not spending properly yourselves it’s hard to teach your children another way.
Annie - did your affirmation here work? Did you eat anymore?
Rebecca - I have the last two This is Us recorded that I need to get caught up on.
I have not been able to get comfortable since last evening, slept fitfully, and have squirmed more than a toddler in church all day trying to get comfortable. I still did my exercises in hopes that would be a health and not a hindrance but I’ve really not noticed a difference. I think I will take a pain reliever tonight.
Rodger has blood work in the morning and then is going to purchase the plumbing parts he needs to replace our sink and faucet.
I hope tomorrow is a better day.
On the plus side the temperature was only -8 on my way home from work.
I took this picture at 1826 this evening, this is facing Southeast.
Tracey in Edmonton
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Here's a fun video from a series going round. Others from the same series mostly change the word to make a parody but they said they found the words needed no change.1
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Did the 20-40-60 treadmill workout the rode the upright bike for ½ hour. I really couldn’t use that bike for my spinning workouts but that’s OK. I do find that in NC I can do cardio for 1 hr. However, down here I sweat so very much that I can only do ½ hr. The upright bike was more of a cool down than anything else.
Debbie – safe travels to your mom’s
lisa – one way I knew that I never had COVID was that I could smell the litterbox. It was good for something….lol One time when we lived in the Poconos my hands were so dry they were bleeding. I tried everything in the book – and I do mean everything. Nothing worked. Then I remembered that my grandmother used to use pure glycerine on her hands and they never bled. I figured “can’t do any worse than the other things, might as well give that a try”. And it worked! The only thing that did. Talking about the finger cots, what Vince does sometimes is take a rubber glove and cut off the finger. It’s just that we happened to have some gloves in the house. Thanks for the smile
Michele formerly NC
Thanks- I am looking forward to a long weekend with her.
As for the covid virus- Out of the five of us that had it here, my son was the only one who DID loose his sense of smell and taste. No one else noticed it at all. Everyone is different. My dad only had a cough and that was it until the last few days when he was really weak. Son was also the only one who had a fever as far as I know.(not sure about his girlfriend- she was here at our house but I was at mom's ) and his fever was just one night.
Debbie3 -
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Debbie, i'm sorry, i can understand not wanting to start again. My sister, whose marriage was ok, said she felt she got lots from her friendships.1
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bananasandoranges wrote: »Debbie, i'm sorry, i can understand not wanting to start again. My sister, whose marriage was ok, said she felt she got lots from her friendships.
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I am going to be 59 in a few weeks. Done this twice, don't want to go for a third. IF I had the chance to be back with # 1, like I thought might happen, I would consider it but that is no longer an option so will just hang in there and start doing more for myself. More time with my mom, more time doing things that help get me healthy(walking, Zumba if they start classes again), and staying in touch better with my friends. I have only a couple casual friends over here, most of my close friends are in the town my mom lives(my hometown).
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dlfk202000 wrote: »bananasandoranges wrote: »Debbie, i'm sorry, i can understand not wanting to start again. My sister, whose marriage was ok, said she felt she got lots from her friendships.
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I am going to be 59 in a few weeks. Done this twice, don't want to go for a third. IF I had the chance to be back with # 1, like I thought might happen, I would consider it but that is no longer an option so will just hang in there and start doing more for myself. More time with my mom, more time doing things that help get me healthy(walking, Zumba if they start classes again), and staying in touch better with my friends. I have only a couple casual friends over here, most of my close friends are in the town my mom lives(my hometown).
Debbie
Yes, focus on you!
I have no intention of leaving my current husband (with the severe traumatic brain injury) and every intention of staying with him till the end. I love him.
But if he goes before me, which is reasonably likely, I also have no intention of locating a #3.
I envision spending my last remaining decades on my own and I am quite comfortable with that idea. I have a vague notion of finding a quiet seniors complex of some sort in a flatter more cycling-friendly area, renting or buying a cute 2-bedroom, decorating it the way I want, and spending my days walking, hiking, cycling, and enjoying the outdoors ... or curled up on my sofa reading a novel with my cat.
M in Oz4 -
MRI and neurosurgeon appointments ... next week!!
That was quick!
M in Oz1 -
Pip – lovely rug. What is “offer up”? The Craigs List of CA?
M – I don’t know what the name of the underground fire is, that was one of my questions of the day, where is the most continuous underground fire? And the answer was Australia. That’s all I know.
I’ve been reading on Facebook all about how they are supposed to have this really big ice storm in NC. The gym I usually go to isn’t opening until 9 tomorrow. We looked at weather.com and they’re just going to get a small amount of ice. But you know NC – they are freaking out.
Michele in FL who stomach is growling. Not sure why1 -
Pip – lovely rug. What is “offer up”? The Craigs List of CA?
M – I don’t know what the name of the underground fire is, that was one of my questions of the day, where is the most continuous underground fire? And the answer was Australia. That’s all I know.
I’ve been reading on Facebook all about how they are supposed to have this really big ice storm in NC. The gym I usually go to isn’t opening until 9 tomorrow. We looked at weather.com and they’re just going to get a small amount of ice. But you know NC – they are freaking out.
Michele in FL who stomach is growling. Not sure why
Ah no ... I had to look it up and it is on the mainland about 1000 km away. Apparently burning for 6000 years.0
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