The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living

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  • donimfp
    donimfp Posts: 795 Member
    @Up_n_Running, (Wow, my first time not typing your Foo Foo handle) . . . you are incredibly strong. I really don't think there are many of us (certainly not ME) who could hold up as well as you have in your situation.

    I'm just glad you've seen how beautiful sober life feels and how giving that up would be doing yourself a huge disservice. Hang in there. I'm sending positive thoughts and prayers your way.
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 3,889 Member
    @billyfallon1 Day 1 is over probably - hooray! Now on to day 2. Just think one day at a time. And never stop trying!

    @chariotlady Thank you for your post. I reread it twice to really absorb your wise words. I understand where you are coming from. I am also slowly changing my friend groups-they're good people but alcohol is at the center of every, single thing we do.

    Recently I planned a solo trip to FLA, and my drinking friend heard and asked me twice if she can come.
    I want to tell her the truth: NO because you drink Long Island iced teas all day long on vacations; I know because I have vacationed with her for many years. Since I am striving to be sober, her presence is hard for me because of course, I would love to drink but I cannot. So, I told her no I want to be alone.

    Anyway, I noticed you said you went to Spain and thought your could drink again.

    I watched a video and the guy said when you take a break from drinking and go back to alcohol you pick up where you would have been had you been drinking all along; is that what happened to you? You went right back into heavy drinking?

    @chariotlady My sister recommended Women in Sobriety too. She is nearly one year sober. Hope you stop by again. I really benefited from your words!

  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 3,889 Member
    My partner told me that, my brother poured the rest of his alcohol down the kitchen drain last night

    Hmmmmm. That's interesting. Maybe he has had enough 🤔

    I remember doing that, making promises to myself that today will be different, and then sheepishly stopping after work to buy a bottle. So many wasted bottles I poured down the sink. But those episodes collectively brought me to where I am today. So at least it's a good start for him. Congrats on 4 months!!! Amazing!!!

    Last night the scrapbooking girls had French martinis. Oh how I used to make them and love them. But I felt my lip snarl a little bit when they asked me if I wanted one. What I observed is these people are not like me. I didn't see them say "let's have another round" or anything like that. Ahhh. they're normal drinkers, must be nice.

    I do feel for how badly your brother's hangover must have been. OMG those were wicked times; hangovers where you saw the world around you go by and people doing things and I was lying in bed praying to God to help me or at least kill me, I felt so badly!!!
  • aroze0928
    aroze0928 Posts: 254 Member
    Still hanging in still sober after my slip up last month. @Up_n_Running congrats on your 4 months!
    I woke up pretty depressed and sad this morning. My husband is back full swing into drinking after giving it up for 3 months. Well last night he said the lousiest things to some of us that were having a great time carrying on alcohol free. It hurts. But how long do you carry it around now? We know the source we know hes a bad character when he drinks not all the time but alot. Idk. Im pretty disgusted. And all the more reason not to drink. Seeing is believing. And I want nothing to do with alcohol.
  • donimfp
    donimfp Posts: 795 Member
    @Up_n_Running, I like that advice from Bex Weller about treating yourself to something besides alcohol. Of course I'm not going anywhere during the pandemic, but I often think about the trip I took to Italy a couple of years ago and wonder how on earth I could go back there and not drink. Wine was so much a focus of our trip that my sister-in-law actually quit her job and bought a winery in Virginia when we returned. I have wanted very much to go see her beautiful winery but thought, "How could I possibly do that and say 'no thank you' to tasting the wines?" After my Jan. 6 disaster, I know for sure that there would be no such thing as tasting the wines and then jumping right back into sobriety. I do like the idea of pre-planning something wonderful for yourself to enjoy while others are drinking. Thanks for that thought.
  • SunnyDays930
    SunnyDays930 Posts: 1,245 Member
    I have a general idea of when the last drink was/day one, but I do not count. I have no idea what year I even quit smoking. I prefer not to think about it at all.
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 3,889 Member
    My girlfriend and I were reflecting at the mysterious occurrence that happened last year to her. She was at a family party and she had 2-3 glasses of wine and then suddenly she could not move. She was frozen. Her husband had to rush her to the hospital. It is still a mystery as to why her body reacted to alcohol like that.
    She has drank several times since and never had that problem again.
    Side note: She was kicked by a horse and her liver was lacerated nearly in half. After this accident, she says she doesn't feel that well when she drinks even a few glasses. She wondered if that is related to her accident. I wonder. I have no idea.
  • SunnyDays930
    SunnyDays930 Posts: 1,245 Member
    @RubyRed427 Surely having your liver that damaged by a horse would cause any alcohol intake to affect her worse than someone that has not had that injury. One wonders why she indulges at all at this point!
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 3,889 Member
    Hi everyone ☺ hope everyone is well.

    My brother has been chatting to me about taking a break / cut down his drinking and has been genuinely listening to my tips and hints. He wanted to drink tonight but we agreed to bake a cake together, instead, and now we are sipping Sparkling water with a slice of lime (so super refreshing)

    I pretensed to him it was a 'mojito' lol he is looking forward to waking up hangover free at the weekend for a change. Might go a run together tomorrow. I don't think he plans to quit alcohol completely, but it will be good for him to cut back how often / how much he drinks. 👍

    I think that is incredible progress. Your positive influence is really helping so many people!