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@Up_n_Running and @MissMay Thanks for your support.6
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@Up_n_Running I will say a prayer for him and for you as well. And kudos to you for not going to the bottle to deal with a stressful situation. Keep us posted.4
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Up_n_Running wrote: Ā»@Up_n_Running I will say a prayer for him and for you as well. And kudos to you for not going to the bottle to deal with a stressful situation. Keep us posted.
Thanks Jen. I'm over eating instead to cope with the stress. I wish I wasn't using food but it's the lesser of the 2 options for me.
That is very sad to hear about your brother. I'm so sorry. Is there someone you could call? Like your therapist or someone to see what can be done or some resources for him. I will pray he gets the strength to seek help. And be sure to take care of your health, too. I'm so sorry.4 -
Up_n_Running wrote: Ā»@Up_n_Running I will say a prayer for him and for you as well. And kudos to you for not going to the bottle to deal with a stressful situation. Keep us posted.
Thanks Jen. I'm over eating instead to cope with the stress. I wish I wasn't using food but it's the lesser of the 2 options for me.
He is probably still very traumatized over the death of your parent(s) and this is how he is coping. Maybe your boyfriend can intervene and go over there; I'm sure you tried that. Maybe you can reach out to a clergy person who also has helpful phone numbers you can call. I'm just grappling for ideas...4 -
Up_n_Running wrote: Ā»Thanks @RubyRed427
Well his girlfriend has forced him to call the doctor for help. (She said that he pretends all is well, when he is back home with me). But she is seeing something different. His doctor has actually contacted me, to find out if he was alright cos he wasn't answering the phone to speak to the doctor. I spoke to him on text message earlier, apparently he is coming home tomorrow and also plans to actually speak to the doctor tomorrow as well.
He won't answer his phone, and when I text, I need to wait long stretches of time to get a reply. Its funny cos only weeks ago, I asked if I could add his girlfriend on Snapchat....I had no contact details for her prior to this so it's been a blessing that I had a way of having contact with her. I am so grateful for her honesty and letting me know what he has been hiding from me.
Sounds like his girlfriend is a truly good person, that she contacted you and told you this situation. She's in it to help him. I'm happy he will get some help. This might be rock bottom- who knows? And this could be the start of good things for him.3 -
Hugs to everyone dealing with their stuff5
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I wish I had been able to say Bye to @donimfp. Sad to see her go She was a valuable part of our group
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Good morning friends! I sure feel good today. Last night, I went to a family wedding (half the guests were Russians) so each table setting had a small bottle of vodka on it. You know those little shot size bottles. The wedding favors were shot glasses. When I sat down, I saw I didn't have one. I think my sister snagged it so I didn't see it and have to deal with looking at it.
Here were some observations:
A table of three young priests and their wives (Russians) had a magnum of vodka on their table. More than 3/4 of that huge bottle was gone by the end of the evening. They toasted everything; I saw the wives wag their fingers at them, but the men sheepishly kept on drinking. Can you imagine the hangover today?
My Dad said to me he observed a lot of the young women quite drunk. Well, it was a wedding. I remember having that much fun too.
When I was leaving, I saw a wedding party guy being driven away with his head leaning on the window looking like death.
Anyway, I don't judge them. I am just so delighted my sister and I were completely sober. I may have caved in if she wasn't there. So, today I wake up quite happy with no hangover. One day at a time...7 -
Up_n_Running wrote: Ā»Iv managed to get some help arranged for my brother. He decided to speak to a doctor, thank goodness. š
I'm needing to take more time off work to make sure he does follow through with plans and to be available to make any arrangements etc. He really isn't well.
Only blessing is he is willing (for now at least) to accept help. So fingers crossed.
Your brother sounds a little bit like my cousin. Out of control and needing help. I know how dearly you love him. I know you will take good care of him and help. Perhaps, this will be a turning point for him.
p.s. My sponsor's daughter became sober at age 19. My sponsor said she never even saw her daughter drunk, but the girl hid her drinking well enough. On her own, she started attending AA. And has been sober ever since. So, I applaud these young people who are being honest with themselves and seeing that there is a problem that needs to be solved.6 -
@Up_n_Running Wow you've had to grow up fast--you must have such a special bond. After all I've been reading, please encourage them to do a brain scan before just putting your brother on meds in case there is a physical component that needs addressing. I hope you both get some restful and healing time this week. You are an inspiration more than you know.4
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Up_n_Running wrote: Ā»My brother got a pretty serious diagnosis today (although it is *unofficial* as he will be contacted for further assessment). But, I'm pretty sure they have got it correct. I don't want to say what it is just because I would feel like I'm betraying his trust, I guess its quite a personal matter.
I have had to fight with every fibre of my being not to escape into a bottle of wine. Or beer. Or vodka. Or whiskey. Just wanted to escape. Instead I have bought myself a packet of cigarettes. Sitting with a coffee and a cig. Not the best, but the best I can do right now.
Main thing is, he is going to get the help he needs. That's a huge positive. Just have to try and digest the news.
OH dear. I'm sorry to hear that about his diagnosis. I'm sending you a huge hug to deal with all this! Hugs4 -
@Up_n_Running. It will all work out. Sending love and hugs for a positive outcome.5
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Good morning friends! Nothing new to report- staying sober... for today. That's all we have.
I'm planning a fourth of July party; so I have been so busy getting ready for it. I will be sober for it. I don't want to embarrass myself by drinking. I remember for my daughter's graduation party I was sober as well. I wanted to remember everything.
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My sponsor was telling me about a lady who was going to her AA meetings faithfully. This lady had a dysfunctional boyfriend who was into drugs and alcohol. So, the lady distanced herself and was getting her life on track.
Then, one night, she fell off the wagon. She and the boyfriend drank and decided to do drugs. Guess what happened? He died from the drugs, she was charged with murder, because she was the one who gave him the injection. That's it! Life's over for her and of course for him. I can only imagine how she spend nights in jail thinking, Oh why didn't I stay sober!!! That story scared me. She is no different than me. One bad decision can be so life altering.5 -
@Up_n_Running My sister was just talking about this group with me. She really likes their philosophy and has partaken in some online meetings. She said it was started by a woman who went to AA but found it to be too centered for the male participants.
On their website they have these statements: Happiness is a habit i'm developing.I am what I think. Life can be ordinary or great.... it all sounds quite positive.3 -
Up_n_Running wrote: Ā»Only 17 days left until back at my personal best š (134 days).
Just over 2 weeks ??
I can do this !!
Tattoo is getting nearer & nearer....8 days to go š¬šš¦š¹
8 days to go til tattoo day! I can't wait to see it. 17 days is very doable for you. You have great tenacity!
I will check out K. Johnson- I like positivity.
I ran across a TikTok of a psychologist ; he said we are so hard on ourselves; our inner dialogue is so depressing- we must avidly change that.
Another TikTok psychologist spoke of dopamine; she said visualization is the key to building that dopamine kick.
Here's an article about it. https://www.entrepreneur.com/article/2958853 -
Up_n_Running wrote: Ā»
I really like this post by Kirsten Johnson. I would also recommend her book, The Heartgasm Revolution. I love her, her positivity is infectious! š
I"m buying two copies- one for me and one for my sister! Thanks for sharing!2 -
Im right there with you @Up_n_Running
No off switch. I read in another thread.
its like Pringles once you pop you cant stop. Funny person whoever that was.
Ive been wrestling with the thought of drinking lately. Its the nice weather My husband cooler is fully stocked at all times. Hes doesn't remember things weve talked about the nite before. And it is a shiit show to say the least.. So its what keeps me from oh Ill just have a one or a few. No such thing.
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Congrats to all of you we only have today my actual sober b-day is 01-01-03 I have been drug and alcohol free and each day is a work in progress10
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