WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JULY 2021

jamie1757--I have just under 100 and then will decide if more.

Machka--No we are not private. We are joined to the larges healthcare system in the USA. That is part of why it takes so long to hire anyone as HR is not on site. So different from when I started and we were just us and run by a borad that was local. They keep telling us this is better. HaHa!!

I send birthday cards and if they are under 18 and still in school they get a $2 bill. For christmas we do a little more and last couple years I have tried to make something for them. This year they are getting dish cloths and I am embroding tea towels. I do buy some gifts for the little ones. I am very good at buying stuff year round and giving just because.

My blood surgar this morning was pretty high for me(155) I do think it is from lack of sleep and stress. I am trying to eat more protein and less carbs and see if my blood count will go back up to normal range. I want to see what I can do before doctor appointment next month. I only work 9 hours tomorrow and 8 on Tuesday so hoping to get some rest and then see how the rest of the week goes.

Heather--Love the poem. I am sure the DGC will too. What a great thing they did taking the test so DH could be with them to watch the game. Shows how important he is to them and what a Blessing.

Been a pretty slow day so far at work. I did try something for the first time. Downloading pictures from my phone to Walgreens to be printed. DH will pick them up before I get off work and if it worked that will save me time. The new computer we bought is so hard to download pictures to print. This way they will be in my folder at Walgreens and I like that, because when I go into the store to print them off my phone they are not saved. It's the little things that make me happy.

Blessings, Vicki GRAND ISLAND, NE

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Heather—I love the photo of Edie and her soccer team.

RVRita—You seem to have worked out a good plan. I hope it goes well for you. Barbie’s suggestion to contact Al Anon is a good idea. :flowerforyou:


I am making a knitted baby blanket and having fun with the project. Our
son and daughter in law are expecting and the baby is due this fall. I have a good start, and a long way to go before I’m finished.

Katla in NW Oregon

Just found the community section. I’m in the car on the way home from vacay with my family. We visited 5 new high points. My son wants to get all 50. He’s done 15 since last summer. I’ve done most of them but my weight keeps me from being able to hike the really long hikes. Hoping July slows down because I’m a teacher and still am in recovery from the year of Covid teaching. I hope everyone has a great week!

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bananasandoranges wrote: »

Machka9 wrote: »

bananasandoranges wrote: »

Machka9 wrote: »

Regarding weight --

I have developed the knack of maintenance. After decades of up and down, I have maintained my weight for the past couple years! While maintaining is better than gaining, I'd like to lose weight.

But how?

I try to keep the number of calories I consume prior to 6 pm reasonably low. I eat lower calories foods and try to keep the quantity down. Until 6 pm, I'm on track.

Then I come home.

My husband makes dinner and sometimes that's OK, he'll make something fairly low cal but other times it's fairly high cal. I also get some really interesting combinations!! He has no sense of smell or taste because of his brain injury, so it doesn't really matter to him what he puts together ... and he doesn't really understand calories. I have made some attempts to explain but he doesn't seem to get it. I also cannot tell him that I don't want something because it upsets him. And finally, the Australian way of serving food is still weird to me ... the cook serves everything onto each plate rather than putting the food on the table in bowls. So he'll often serve me more than I want ... and if I mention I'd prefer less, that can upset him too.

Then he likes his sweets after and wants me to have them too. I talk to him about eating less and we do for a little while, then the quantity increases again.


So I've tried to eat less earlier in the day, but that just makes me grouchy hungry by the time I get home.
And I've tried to exercise more, but that can be hard to keep up ... I get tired.

I'm not sure what to do.

Machka in Oz

Hi Machka I think you just need to stick your guns.
it's not fair for anyone to be pushed to eat more than they want to because a husband, wife, mother, grandma WANTS you to eat more.

maybe you can say. this is delicious but as I'm smaller I don't have as big a stomach, so I'm happy to save some of this delicious food for tomorrow.
same for desserts.

I think it can be a tricky situation for many couples. I haven't been in a couple for. awhile but in my last couple I did most of the day to day cooking. when I'd cook I'd use like 1 tsp of cooking oil per person max or so. he could use a quarter cup for the 2 for 1 meal of us in his veggie cooking. it was very tasty I'm sure, but... and I think if I asked him to use less oil he didn't like having his style cramped...so I ended continuing doing most of the food prep.

It's really common for people in the same family not to eat exactly the same food and certainly not the same quantities.
You can also ask for it to not be served onto the plate OR serve it onto the plate yourself.

There needs to be a bit of compromise.

All that might work with a person without a brain injury ... unfortunately, it's a bit more tricky with a person with a brain injury.

Making the evening meal is an independence thing for him, and it's his way of telling me he loves me. Also it is really hard to explain things to him. So much misunderstanding and tears.

M in Oz

that sound rough,

maybe only eat dinner ?

I need fuel for my brain during the day!

I don't usually eat between about 9 pm and 11:30 am.

11:30 am - 100 calorie snack to fuel my lunch walk
2:00 pm - lunch: chicken, rice and veg ... sometimes I have seeds for extra protein but I think I need to stop that.
3:45 pm - small low cal yogurt
4:45 pm - mandarin orange. I was having a larger snack then, but I've cut that out. I need something just then so that I'm not nauseated on the bus home.





Machka in Oz

Home again.....
Got to see a deer that the guys bush hogging kicked up. That was cool!
There are lots of old switches and outlets at the farm house that are loose, dirty. and/or not covered. DH decided that this weekend would be good to change them. I told him he was on his own as I had stuffs to do. Well, he really did try. The small screws were so frustrating for him. I worked on my stuffs, then helped him in between. I saw the first 1/2 of 5 shows, and missed the endings of them all. SMH! After that we went out to the old hunting spot on the property. The weeds were super tall. I started walking through to see a cool flower, but I was in tennis shoes and the weeds were getting higher than my waist. Snakes were a concern.....just saying....DH to the rescue. He brought the 4 wheeler around to get me to the flower. While doing that we kicked up a baby deer. I was only about 5 ft from it! Kelly the cool red flower I found was Monarch milkweed. I broke off a piece to take back to my phone to identify. I looked for any evidence of eggs. I didn't see any on the piece I broke off. I did get to see about 6 different butterflies while out there. OHHHHH! Moon moth!!! There was a large one on the screen door last night. It was mint green. They are so cool! The farm is one of my happy places. I love the birds, bunnies, butterflies, moths, deer, cows, and flowers!




Kylia back in Ohio

OregonMother wrote: »

Health update

Metastatic -- so Stage 4, not curable. The CT scan this morning showed a suspicious spot on the 9th vertebrae.
I've spent some time today crying, not angry, just disappointed. But I talked to the oncologist this afternoon, and she wants to go for it. So I will get the port placed tomorrow and start chemo on Tuesday. She will schedule a PET scan and biopsy for the suspicious vertebrae and work on getting the rest of my care team on board. She is going to recommend that I still have a mastectomy to get rid of the primary cancer and radiate the hell out of my breasts and spine.

I felt better having talked to her because I don't know how I would have handled it if she had said, oh, well. We'll just keep you going as long as possible and say good by in 2-4 years, at the best.

She is not promising I will be cured, and I get that. But I don't want to go down without a fight.

Flea
Willamette Valley, OR

Hugs and prayers!

fresprit57 wrote: »

Just found this group. Happy to participate.

welcome. Add your name and some kind of location to each post it helps. (I"m new to and trust me....)

Kiz
North Florida