WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR SEPTEMBER 2021

Went to a barnyard annual party of close friend's SO's family.

The main thing on a CICO level is that there was mostly talking, eating and drinking and no moving. I didn't do fantastically on that level. I didn't eat masses, and not much dessert, since I'm GF and most deserts have gluten, but with no movement all day I feel bit heavy from it.

Social dynamics at party.
My friend says his SO is very often jealous - not necessarily on a romance level - but on an attentional level - of his friends, and tends to be harshly critical of them, and not very welcoming, sometimes avoids talking to them, etc. I must say that did seem to be the case.
She seemed to make sure that he didn't spend much time talking to his 2 friends who came, me and one other person, among the 30+ people. She rushes right over to give him something to do as soon as he is speaking with us.

Fortunately most everyone else was warm or normal!

Since I was tired, my friend B. said I could lie down in the shade in the back yard mid-afternoon, but then I missed some of the people I was mostly talking with going for a long walk around a nearby bee farm! that was a shame! It can be a bit long to spend many hours eating, drinking and talking with new people if there is not some natural strong link that develops.

My friend's SO knows and hangs out with some very rich and even famous people related to her work, and I have to say I find her and this one very well off guy she is close (the god-father of their kids) very image-conscious, and not very open-hearted. I didn't see anything natural or relaxed, though I'm sure she is hardworking, intelligent and courageous and devoted to their family, which is a lot.

I know my friend B. has very mixed feelings and he considers the relationship is not going well and wishes he hadn't had kids, and could not be in the relationship, but at the same time he is in it for the long haul, I think, out of responsibility, and the relationship is okay. He is making his choice to stay and I think he feels he maybe shouldn't. Or he is torn. He says it is a bit like the story of the wolf and the house dog from Aesop's fables.

I suppose she must guess that B sometimes confides in his oldest friends about how he feels, about his mixed feelings, and she must not like that, which I can understand.

When I was in a couple I preferred my SO have friends even women friends. I did trust him to be faithful. It seemed healthy to me. One of his closest friends was a woman an ex of his - not a serous one- I wasn't close to - but it seemed normal that he be able to go and talk to her from time to time, have someone to talk to, confide in from time to time.

I think lots of times both men and women confide more in women, from what I've heard, as - maybe on average - and OF course there are exceptions - women are better at or more interested in listening about personal things.

Not feeling great about day spent - heavy - no movement - somewhat stilted social dynamic - but that is the way it is! I did speak to several nice people. and it's presumably good for health to be in the countryside for the afternoon.

boring general meeting with 70 + people in morning - I left in the middle to go talk to other people about this and that. and sort things out. time well-spent. Also being 70+ with masks in poorly ventilated place is not fun!

Lunch fun and then the 2nd meeting (several smaller groups) really interesting. I am very low on the totem pole in this hierarchical place. At first I was slightly uneasy as everyone was participating but I didn't have much to say, but then I had some extremely pertinent and fundamental contributions that everyone seemed to appreciate, and that conceivably could have a big impact on a fundamental approach at the school.