At Goal & Successfully Maintaining. So Why Am I Doing This All Over Again?
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I should explain why my halo is askew. When husband was diagnosed T2D twenty or so years ago, he changed his diet, lost a lot of weight.
I was about as unsupportive as it was possible to be. I was “that” spouse who pretended not to notice. Brought oodles of sweets and carbs in the house, didn’t bother to hide them or not eat them in front of him. Eventually he gave up, although he never really ate sweets much afterwards.
I’ve always felt terrible about that. So I never rode his butt when I started calorie counting myself. That wouldn’t have been fair at all.
It is amazing to be on the same path now, together, as a team, and planning stuff together,
For example, we’ve started planning late lunch/early supper on Friday, so we can combine the calories for both meals into something special like pizza or Mexican.
I sincerely regret not having joined him all those years ago and having pretty much been an epic fail of a wife in the food/eating/health department.18 -
Well, we live, we learn - it shows great growth as a human being 🙂7
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springlering62 wrote: »I should explain why my halo is askew. When husband was diagnosed T2D twenty or so years ago, he changed his diet, lost a lot of weight.
I was about as unsupportive as it was possible to be. I was “that” spouse who pretended not to notice. Brought oodles of sweets and carbs in the house, didn’t bother to hide them or not eat them in front of him. Eventually he gave up, although he never really ate sweets much afterwards.
I’ve always felt terrible about that. So I never rode his butt when I started calorie counting myself. That wouldn’t have been fair at all.
It is amazing to be on the same path now, together, as a team, and planning stuff together,
For example, we’ve started planning late lunch/early supper on Friday, so we can combine the calories for both meals into something special like pizza or Mexican.
I sincerely regret not having joined him all those years ago and having pretty much been an epic fail of a wife in the food/eating/health department.
My first go round my husband was unsupportive and the weight crept back on as I gradually ate more and more like him. Worst of all, he’s the sort who always orders more food than he can eat, then offers it to me. When I was diagnosed with diabetes one of the things that happened was a “come to Jesus meeting” during which I told him that diabetes was a condition which dramatically lowers your life expectancy, and increases the risk of heart attacks, amputations, strokes and blindness, and that I didn’t plan to die or be disabled and would treat as a mortal enemy anyone who didn’t share my priorities that my life was important. That meant never offer me food again, never ask to eat out at a fast food joint instead of eating a healthy already-planned meal, unhealthy snacks were to be kept in his cabinet not in the shared one, no whining about wanting to do something else together when I needed to work out, and no eating in front of me except at mealtimes. And to give credit where it’s due he has been nothing but supportive ever since, and one of the side effects has been that he lost thirty pounds as well.
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If only life had a rewind button for all the regrets we have. Sadly it does not. However, we have reflection and from that comes personal growth.
I have been married for almost 35 years. I have not always been the most supportive spouse, but with age comes wisdom (right?). I think it is so awesome that in our golden years, we pay closer attention to one another's health, needs, desires, etc. I would give up a (insert anything here) for another second of our precious time together.
@springlering62 you and your BL are both inspiring and loved by this community. Thank you for sharing the good the bad and the ugly (wish I could cue the music at this moment). Reality check is much needed and appreciated.9 -
BL asked me this morning,”what kind of milk is in the little glass jar in the fridge?”
It’s skim milk decanted into a pint jar, just enough to make a week’s worth of froth for chai.
“I’m sorry. I’m just not drinking enough of it to go through a gallon any more. It saves me 198 calories a day.”
Not to worry. The other 3/4 gallon goes straight into the pot to make skyr.
He’s started dabbling in plant-based milks now when he wants a bowl of cereal. Cereal consumption is way down, too, though, after he realized he could have a nice, protein rich plate of filling French toast made from homemade bread for about the same “cost” as his old bowl of cereal with a generous helping of milk.
Almond milk and the really good (and neutral tasting) Silk cashew/almond blend are 25/cup, versus 80 for skim. Yes, skim is higher in protein and Vitamin D, but we eat a lot of protein elsewhere, and the “New Us” spend a lot more time outdoors, inadvertently soaking up rays of D.
It’s almost like new habits reap unexpected rewards which beget more new habits, reaping even more rewards. It’s like a perfect little personal cycle of “Yay! You go, You!”.
This will be yummy homemade skyr by tonight, with a side of spreadable thick low cal cream cheese by tomorrow, and should yield 6-8 cups of liquid whey, too. Super easy to make. Requires no magic kitchen skills. Whey instead of water or milk makes baked goods super light and fluffy, and makes a homemade loaf of bread taste richer, without as much work as sourdough.4 -
When my kids were young I always made my own yoghurt but have never made skyr. Is it thick like skyr? Or thinner, like regular yoghurt? Please tell me more. I'd love to try making a batch.
I used to use mostly plant based milks in my smoothies and cereals and it was an easy way to cut a few calories. But I found that I always struggled to reach the bare minimum of my protein requirements, so now I'm back to using more dairy. Except for my hot chocolate. Unsweetened chocolate almond milk with a couple of dashes of stevia always hits the cozy spot for me (even more so with a splash of Bailey's 😉).2 -
I had a weird thing happen where I stopped dairy milk and used substitutes and then... went back to dairy milk, but in absolute fairness even after all this time I struggle with protein intake so it's basically skim milk or drinka protein shake and the couple of cups of milk lasts me longer.
Still WAY less than I used to use though and I imagine eventually that cycle will swing back.2 -
I think both @springlering62 and @ridiculous59 are combining to make a great point here, that I'd like to underscore: These food choice tradeoffs will differ individual by individual, so IMO it's better for each person to give it some personalized thought, and make his/her own best choices. Following rules that work for others may not be ideal for YOU.
I totally get what Spring is saying, about cutting milk-source calories (within taste preferences) if there are ample other sources of protein.
But I'm more like Ridiculous59, I value my milk as a calorie-efficient protein source, since I'm a vegetarian who needs to pursue protein at the margin to hit my nutritional goals. (I drink much more milk in my coffee - and use a wonderful hand-frother** since Spring posted about it in another thread - when I'm managing my calorie intake.) To me - in contrast to Spring - plant milks are calorie inefficient from an overall dietary/nutritional standpoint, even though lower in calories than dairy milk.
IMO, personalization - tailoring food choices to our own situation, among other things - is key to happy and successful weight management.
** For your amusement: My Garmin clears my move counter goal when I pump that li'l guy vigorously.9 -
ridiculous59 wrote: »When my kids were young I always made my own yoghurt but have never made skyr. Is it thick like skyr? Or thinner, like regular yoghurt? Please tell me more. I'd love to try making a batch.
I used to use mostly plant based milks in my smoothies and cereals and it was an easy way to cut a few calories. But I found that I always struggled to reach the bare minimum of my protein requirements, so now I'm back to using more dairy. Except for my hot chocolate. Unsweetened chocolate almond milk with a couple of dashes of stevia always hits the cozy spot for me (even more so with a splash of Bailey's 😉).
Skyr is made exactly like yogurt except you use skim milk and you add a few drops of liquid rennet after it cools to 110, same time as when you stir your starter.
You can make it as thick or thin as you like- depends on the draining time.
It’s a protein powerhouse.
I’ve also been setting some aside to drain extra extra well to use in lieu of cream cheese on pancakes.
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springlering62 wrote: »Skyr is made exactly like yogurt except you use skim milk and you add a few drops of liquid rennet after it cools to 110, same time as when you stir your starter.
You can make it as thick or thin as you like- depends on the draining time.
It’s a protein powerhouse.
I’ve also been setting some aside to drain extra extra well to use in lieu of cream cheese on pancakes.
This is awesome! Thank you for the inspiration. May be time to try my hand at making skyr. I’ve just been buying it when it’s BOGO at Publix. I’ve been brewing kombucha for years, grind my own wheat to bake bread, and just started growing blue oyster mushrooms- I’m all about foodie DIY!1 -
springlering62 wrote: »Skyr is made exactly like yogurt except you use skim milk and you add a few drops of liquid rennet after it cools to 110, same time as when you stir your starter.
You can make it as thick or thin as you like- depends on the draining time.
It’s a protein powerhouse.
I’ve also been setting some aside to drain extra extra well to use in lieu of cream cheese on pancakes.
This is awesome! Thank you for the inspiration. May be time to try my hand at making skyr. I’ve just been buying it when it’s BOGO at Publix. I’ve been brewing kombucha for years, grind my own wheat to bake bread, and just started growing blue oyster mushrooms- I’m all about foodie DIY!
I made cherry scones this afternoon and subbed skyr for the sour cream the recipe called for. Lots less calories and boy, were they good.
Skyr, kefir and Greek yogurt are amazing. I’ve baked cakes using nothing but a boxed mix and yogurt or kefir.
Kefir is another good one for baking. I loved using it, but it fermented so fast I couldn’t keep up with it, and we were even eating the extra grains.2 -
@springlering62 thanks! When I was a child, cottage cheese was something that was ALWAYS in our fridge. It was my mother's go-to for everything. I personally don't care for the texture of cottage cheese, however sometimes I will mix it with the handheld blender, add some seasonings, and use it for a veggie dip. Plain Greek yoghurt is my version of my mother's cottage cheese and I always have it in the fridge. It's my go-to for everything and I eat it for breakfast, lunch, snacks, in smoothies, and baking. But I only buy skyr when it's marked down because it's a bit more expensive. I will definitely try making it though!1
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stumbled across this last month, and enjoyed the updates and BLs related observations/discoveries. Wondering how it goes? Is BL pressing forward and doing well with ease or hit an obstacle? Entered post-honeymoon phase and pushed through the common urge to stop? Hope all is well with continued progress.4
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LifeChangz wrote: »stumbled across this last month, and enjoyed the updates and BLs related observations/discoveries. Wondering how it goes? Is BL pressing forward and doing well with ease or hit an obstacle? Entered post-honeymoon phase and pushed through the common urge to stop? Hope all is well with continued progress.
BL is doing very well. He seldom weighs, even when reminded, but it works for him. 🤷🏻♀️
Me, I often weigh twice a day just because I’m curious how foods and workouts affect me. And I have to wait for the shower to warm up anyway, so….. and I’m so fascinated that I can drop three or four pounds after a pair of hot mat classes. I mean, where does it go? Atmosphere, I guess. I’m sure not dripping that much into my mat!
He’s already worn some shorts during our brief spell of very warm weather, and they are falling off him. He’s planning to order more “as soon as they go on sale” and has a smaller belt in reserve. Wants to get some more use out of the old one. This is the guy who carefully informed me he was replacing his twenty year old wallet, which was in shreds. Thank goodness men can’t “reward themselves” with colorful leggings and thank goodness he has no concept how much colorful womens leggings cost. 😂
We’ve fallen into the habit of homemade low-cal ice cream or sorbet every night, and he likes it so much, as long as I have frozen mix ready for him, he blends it without prompting.
He’s also realized the dog-walk around the block is 400 steps, so dog is going around the block a lot more as he tries to get his 10,000. Dog is getting SO many extra walks he’s like this half the time:
BL has also convinced me to join him for aquafit classes at the “Cocoon Gym”, as a friend has nicknamed it. (Very much an older clientele there.) Aquafit is boring imho but he loves it and loves me doing it with him. It’s a surprisingly good burn, according to Apple Watch, although we stay in motion and “run” the whole time.
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LOL @ leggings - i soooooo get that! I also wonder @ estimated cals burned for water exercise - and then realize how relaxed I am after - glad it is something he enjoys
Interesting how different approaches work for all of us ~ just tickled to hear he is doing so well - my gramps used to adjust his eating by his belt notch - when it tightened, he dropped desserts, sometimes increased his salad if hungry... never used a scale... and maintained within that notch area. Thanks for the update - and how he is embracing various things in his journey from wearing out the pup to creaming the dessert! It sounds like he's making it doable and not too complex.... and that's gr8! Cheers8 -
Are all the extra walks helping out with the HR dog's reactivity?1
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Are all the extra walks helping out with the HR dog's reactivity?
The High Anxiety Dog is improving, somewhat.
We’ve got a trainer walking him every afternoon, and she is a wizard.
He seldom barks at people now unless they step suddenly out of a doorway or alley (historical district backs up to walking trail- lots of wierd little doors and alleys people pop in and out of all the time).
Other dogs, still a problem. I can see some improvement, but mostly a brain shift. I think it exhausts him now, too, because if he sees another dog coming he simply pulls us across the street or toward any available alley to avoid the drama and the inevitable “bag dog, no treat for you”.
Being half dachshund, it’s all about treats. 🤷🏻♀️4 -
I wish I had a food orientated dog! Mine is affection/toys, and sometimes it isn't appropriate to pull out a squeaky toy2
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sheahughes wrote: »I wish I had a food orientated dog! Mine is affection/toys, and sometimes it isn't appropriate to pull out a squeaky toy
I oughta “disagree” you for that lol. “Food dogs” are always underfoot hoping you’ll drop something or cave and give them a scrap. It’s a constant battle.
I have to move the dog just to get the pantry door open.
Oh and then there’s was the dachshund who used to climb in the dishwasher to lick dishes the minute you turned your back. It’s a wonder his little yellow butt never went through a cycle.
This one’s half dachshund and half spaniel. So he’s underfoot half the time!2 -
Yeaaaah, but you can put that food motivation under pretty good control and use it to reward the dog for what you want. Like not getting under your feet and climbing in the dishwasher hoping for an opportunity to reward themselves (look up 'its yer choice' and 'mat training' - youtube has some good how to videos).
You can do the same with toys but it's much harder to train calm behavior with a toy because they're by nature inciting prey drive which is exciting and move fast/play.2
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