WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JANUARY 2023

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  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,692 Member
    Anniesquats100 wrote: »
    Happy birthday Rori!

    I'm in a lazy funk. But at least I finally trimmed Teddy today. He looks much slimmer and the little starter mats are gone. Much better.

    The book I wanted to listen to went on sale, so I've got it on my Kindle Paperwhite. Now I have to pair the earbuds with the Kindle, and I will be ready to listen and walk. It's the first Agatha Raisin book.

    I have a Dr appointment on Tuesday that has me brooding. Whatever will be, will be. No sense in worrying about it. I'm driving myself this time, and somehow it feels like the first step in growing old alone. What a terrible attitude! But I can't seem to shake it.

    Annie in Delaware

    I've gone to the doctor by myself since I was about 19 years old. It's just part of being an adult.

    M in Oz
  • wizzywig
    wizzywig Posts: 1,246 Member
    Suebdew Sorry to hear about your BIL, thinking of you and your Sister <3

    Viv UK
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,792 Member
    edited January 2023
    Suebdew - How very sad that the pain relief wasn't effective. I hope you will all find peace together when you meet for the funeral. Sending my very best wishes for you all. Thinking of you. <3

    Tracey - Much love. It's good your DH is going out there. It will help him. Strength to you as you wait. Often the hardest thing. <3

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,692 Member
    {{{{Sue and Tracey}}}}
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,692 Member
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    Warmth
    Sun
    My near-complete dry stream
    Flowers
    The bees
  • TerriRichardson112
    TerriRichardson112 Posts: 19,152 Member
    Not much time this morning as I have Creative Writing am, and Monday Painters after lunch.

    Intentions for today:
    ♦️10.30am Creative Writing
    ♦️2pm Monday Oainters
    ♦️look out fabric for embroidery journal
    ♦️solid habits


    Virtual (((hugs))) and 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 for those who need them.

    🙋‍♀️ Miele failte to the newbies.

    ☘️ Terri


  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,692 Member
    Poerava14 wrote: »
    It's been a great weekend celebrating my 67th Spin Around the Sun. Had lunch with neighbors, dinner with niece and enjoyed an unusually sunny and warm day walking for 3 hours at our big Flea and Farmers Market. Didn't need a blessed thing but still managed to fill a bag with cheap little "finds" that make me smile: a new pair of snowpants, lucky bamboo branches and a vintage Denver Nuggets tshirt. Also some beautiful mangos and apple bananas. Score!
    Rori
    Colorado Foothills

    Happy Birthday!!

  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,692 Member
    1 Sit in silence for three minutes... it's harder than you think. Does silently working in the garden count? Done! I sat silently for 7 minutes and prayed.

    2 List 5 things using each of your senses. Right now? I can see my Christmas decorations, I can hear Christmas songs, I can taste my coffee, I can smell my coffee, and I can feel a comfortable temperature in the room.

    3 Let go of at least 5 items in your house. I'm not in a downsizing or reducing mode so I've taken some lunch things to work, I will take an item to be mailed and another to be given to the people at work.

    4 What was your favorite Christmas gift? (this year or ever). I can't tell you what my favourite Christmas gift this year is yet. It's a secret.

    5 Move for at least 30 minutes today. Absolutely. It's a very rare day that I don't.

    6 Share a goal you achieved last year. We completed the longest bicycle ride since my husband's accident and the fastest.

    7 Slow down and savor one meal today. Mmmm ... pizza!

    8 Who was your favorite teacher. My father. :):) But I've had quite a few good teachers, in addition to him, over the years.

    9 Create something today. I finished creating my first work-related project plan today.

    10 What is your favorite lyric from a song. Difficult one given that I like so much music. But let's go with: "A thrill of hope the weary world rejoices"

    11 Send a card/note to someone today. Do emails count?

    12 What are you looking forward to in 2023? Can't tell you that! It's a secret ... same secret as my favourite Christmas gift. :)

    13 Tell a random person they look "good" today. It's a bit late in the day to read this and didn't meet too many random people today ... or people in general. But I smiled at some horses and told Rhody he's gorgeous.

    14 Tell us three amazing things that happened recently (you decide what "recently" means...lol)
    One is a secret ... I should be able to tell you by the end of the month.
    My skin cancer surgery went better than expected and all my margins are clear.
    I've been able to hold my granddaughter.

    15 Call or text someone you haven't talked to in at least a week. Well, I did email a couple people yesterday. :)

    16 What made you smile today. Do you mean like evil laughter?? :naughty: Or a happy smile? :smiley:
    Happy would be big fresh strawberries from our plants and my colouring book. I'm colouring little rainbows right now.
    17 Take a photo of something you're grateful for
    18 What material comforts are you most thankful for? You can make your list as long as you like...
    19 Write a positive review for a company for goods or services you've received recently
    20 Write down five things you like about yourself
    21 Pay it forward in some way
    22 What do you most desire in your life right now?
    23 Go an entire day without complaining
    24 What about you makes you special?
    25 Spend time with a loved one
    26 When was the last time you felt pure joy?
    27 Hold the door for a stranger... or a friend
    28 What fear have you overcome?
    29 Engage in a random act of kindness of your own choice
    30 When was the last time you laughed so hard you almost peed?
    31 Now try to "meditate" (sit in silence) for ten minutes...


    Machka in Oz
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,692 Member
    cityjaneLondon wrote: »
    Rebecca - Yes, I see it as Art in a very plain room. Or a colourful bedspread in an all white bedroom. I don't think it would be difficult to do, just time consuming! I could see it in my guest room, which is aqua. Blue and pink are my default colours. :D

    So many things to watch on TV tonight, after two nights of nothing! Why does that happen so often? I can only record two things at once, so have had to leave one programme and catch up on it on iplayer. New 'Vera' which I am recording, so we can skip the adverts. Also 'Great Pottery Throw Down'. Watching 'Call the Midwife' and 'Happy Valley'. 'Digging for Britain', with my favourite fantasy dinner party guest, Alice Roberts, will have to stay on iplayer. We often watch the BBC, with no adverts, and record the commercial channels.

    So, lots of treats in store!

    Love, Heather UK xxxxxxxx

    I bought the whole set of the Newhart TV series for us for Christmas so that we would have something to watch!! I haven't seen Newhart in years, probably a couple decades, at least, and my husband has never seen the series. It wasn't played in Australia ... or not widely if it was.

    We were getting rather bored with seeing everything on TV for 100th time.

    M in Oz
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,692 Member
    LovePBandJ wrote: »

    @KJLaMore what is this list? It seems nice.

    The list below ... :)
    minicooper452 wrote: »
    Thanks so much for the JANUARY 2023 thread, Barbie!!! HAPPY NEW YEAR ALL!!!

    I'll share the list I made again here, Kelly. Check it out below.

    OMGosh that Miles Smile, Allie! DANG!

    Oh Barbie... Harley was arguing with the fireworks again last night! I'm surprised he didn't have the neighbors up in arms! Hopefully they were all awake anyway. (and they didn't last long) smh, that little monster.

    Is that supposed to be the Cheshire Cat, Heather? Love the artwork.

    My three minutes turned into five and then almost ten... it was so relaxing. But then Mom was really into transcendental meditation when we were kids and taught us all how to do it. I've missed that. We were all able to slow our heartbeats WAY down. I've used that so many times in the last several years in all sorts of meaninful ways! LOL Think I need to add this to my daily prayers every morning again.
    Love and Blessings, Carla, in MN

    I really, REALLY like this gratitude thing, so I grabbed a boatload of these lists and I tweaked it big time! So I'm going to keep it going... myself. One day you're doing, or NOT doing... like the 1st, the next day you're thinking/reflecting.
    1 Sit in silence for three minutes... it's harder than you think
    2 List 5 things using each of your senses
    3 Let go of at least 5 items in your house
    4 What was your favorite Christmas gift? (this year or ever)
    5 Move for at least 30 minutes today
    6 Share a goal you achieved last year
    7 Slow down and savor one meal today
    8 Who was your favorite teacher
    9 Create something today
    10 What is your favorite lyric from a song
    11 Send a card/note to someone today
    12 What are you looking forward to in 2023?
    13 Tell a random person they look "good" today
    14 Tell us three amazing things that happened recently (you decide what "recently" means...lol)
    15 Call or text someone you haven't talked to in at least a week
    16 What made you smile today
    17 Take a photo of something you're grateful for
    18 What material comforts are you most thankful for? You can make your list as long as you like...
    19 Write a positive review for a company for goods or services you've received recently
    20 Write down five things you like about yourself
    21 Pay it forward in some way
    22 What do you most desire in your life right now?
    23 Go an entire day without complaining
    24 What about you makes you special?
    25 Spend time with a loved one
    26 When was the last time you felt pure joy?
    27 Hold the door for a stranger... or a friend
    28 What fear have you overcome?
    29 Engage in a random act of kindness of your own choice
    30 When was the last time you laughed so hard you almost peed?
    31 Now try to "meditate" (sit in silence) for ten minutes...

  • kymarai
    kymarai Posts: 3,731 Member
    Good Monday,
    Hugs to (((all of you. )))

    Allie Prayers. Remember she needs time to process what you have said. Continue to be "there" for all of them.

    I am so glad I got a nap yesterday! Once we got home I knew I needed to vacuum seal the venison. It should have taken about an hour. ....but took much longer. Meat in fridge must go in pan to prevent leakage, note to self. I guess my fridge wanted cleaned out🤪. Late to bed. But kitchen and fridge clean. I even got stuffs into crockpot for dinner tonight. I figured kitchen was already a mess, so easier to clean up once.

    I managed 90% of my specific goals for last week. Not bad....Got a little more specific on some of them.

    15 Call or text someone you haven't talked to in at least a week – I called and texted a senior friend that I haven’t heard back from since November. No answer. Also texted my sister- no response.

    I will be carrying you all in my pocket today.

    <3
    Kylia in Ohio getting ready to head to work


  • 1948CWB
    1948CWB Posts: 1,658 Member
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  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,792 Member
    Well done Allie. <3 You have done the right thing. People are often afraid of the truth and yes, they do think it's normal to live on eggshells. No, it's not. NOT. Change is scary for everyone, they would rather live in their familiar suffering than take a brave step into the unknown. We all know how hard it can be to take your future into your own hands, but it is essential for a truly happy life. No one should ever put up with a person who is indulging in toxic behaviour. Your partner should be just that, a partner for your mutual growth and happiness.
    She needs time to assimilate the information and your considered, loving, intervention. We love you. <3

    Did a bit more work on my book publication today, but chickened out of actually putting it on. :o Soon, very soon. ;)
    It's ready for me to push the button.

    Then I chatted to my friend G who has just got back from an expedition to France.

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
  • LisaInArkansas
    LisaInArkansas Posts: 2,954 Member
    teklawa1 wrote: »
    (((Sue))), thinking of you and your sister.

    (((Tracey)))

    I'm missing Jack. Today is our anniversary. It is hard not to have him to talk to everyday...it's really the little things that get me. I catch myself realizing that I don't have someone to discuss the everyday thoughts. But I feel lucky we had years together and I have family and friends that have rallied around and have supported me.

    Betsy in NW WA

    Betsy - So much love coming your way. The dates always sneak up on us, don't they? One thing that helped me for quite some time was writing letters to my mother. I was in the habit of writing to her before she died, and would send the letters to her. After her death, I didn't stop writing her letters until well over a year later. I just kept them in a notebook. I finally stopped when I re-read my last letter to her and realized I was lying to her and telling her I was fine so she wouldn't get upset. Perhaps writing letters to Jack in the evenings might help? Just a thought.

    Much love,
    Lisa in AR
  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,152 Member
    Well Tracy thinks alot of it is Carmines fault,once he went from Taliah to Carmine its been a rough road and when he isnt around all is quiet,
    But Kyle being raise by a psychopath doesn't help..
    She knows its rough and no marriage is all flowers and all.but I don't need to hear about how you grew up,about grandpa and yes we yell ..
    But It just hurts me so to see them going through this.
    She said if he was dangerous she wouldn't be here.
  • LisaInArkansas
    LisaInArkansas Posts: 2,954 Member
    Hang in there, Allie - you and your family will get through this, too. I'm glad you said something, and I think you'll be glad of it later. Pretending that all that rage is OK gets to be a habit. You've done all you can for right now, my dear friend.
  • margaretturk
    margaretturk Posts: 5,294 Member
    (((Allie))) You did the right thing. You can't control the audience. You can only set your own boundaries for your own health you need to tell Tracy you can no longer be around Kyle. I have a brother that I have to set that boundary. He has anger issues too! I do not feel safe around him just like you do not feel safe around Kyle. I pray for my brother and wish him well but I will not let him get close to me.

    When I was in a tough spot my sister told me the story about the frog. If a frog is put in water and the water gets hotter the frog does not have enough sense to jump out. It takes an outside force to help the frog. If the frog recognizes the water is boiling it will have enough sense to not get in in the first place.

    Your first priority is your own health then the health of your grandchildren.
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,360 Member
    Thinking of you GRANDMALLIE
  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
    :flowerforyou:
  • sh0tzz99
    sh0tzz99 Posts: 973 Member
    Machka9 wrote: »
    Dr appt this morning. BP 148/85 - top end of normal. It has been about that for a while. Not worried but I would kinda like to get it lower.

    Pre-2018 it was usually quite low.

    M in Oz

    I have found mine to be a bit higher post-menopause. Not high, but higher than before.

    Tina in soggy CA
  • Anniesquats100
    Anniesquats100 Posts: 3,306 Member
    Hmm Machka now that you mention it, I have been to the doctor alone a thousand times. I remember once my ex husband said he was coming along, and I was so shocked! Just goes to show how I get a warped viewpoint feeling sorry for myself. Flea you are a marvel of strength. And thank you Michele for the warm wishes!

    Annie in Delaware

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