WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR FEBRUARY 2023
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Bellatrix you have come to the right place. This supportive and understanding group of women will listen , understand, and respond. Please come back. Husbands and kids are not a sufficient support system. We have all been where you are. There is a solution
Barbie in NW WA 🌞😺🌻 7 -
Lanette—DH & I are ok. Our son is handling closing up our home. He has a big load to get the inside furniture, outside furniture, and items in storage spaces. He deserves high praise for all he is doing. I thought our daughter was going to help him but she has had a work related problem. I haven’t heard from either of them recently. ❤️
Katla9 -
Belinda LOL! It took my Roomba a whole year after the passing of my Sara to quit filling up the bag every 2 weeks running 6 days a week. She has been gone 2 years now. She was a Great Pyrenees and Golden retriever mix. Mandy was our German Shepard. She has been gone 3 years. I so understand the hair bunnies!!!! They destroyed my Shark vacuum.
Expectations.......I expect coworkers to help pick up slack if I am incapacitated. I expect my coworkers to do the job correctly when I am not there. I expect that my coworkers will get all the information on units and customers. I expect coworkers to care about their jobs and customers. I expect coworkers to take pride in their job. I apparently need to adjust my expectations. I have work to do. I corrected improperly inputted repair orders. Put in information that they didn't put into computer on units both sold and in for repair. Now need to total invoices that they didn't even attempt to do for the two days I was absent. I knew this would happen, yet get frustrated when I come back to have to fix stuffs. This is why vacations can be stressful. Just needed to get that off my mind.
I have washed and changed the bedding, scrubbed DH's bathtub, and caught up with you ladies.
I reckon I need to go help DH with some stuffs, then get some work done.
Love you All!
Kylia in Ohio
I worked for two brothers for twenty+ years. When I would go on vacation, one brother that worked the business full time learned that they should put items on my desk in a certain way for me to make it through it quickly when I returned. The other brother who worked another job full time and just bothered us occasionally, would want to just toss stuff in my door (not literally, but close). Brother one won, he would lock the other one out of my office so he couldn't mess stuff up. Just thought it would give you a chuckle.
Okie in the TX Hill Country7 -
Have sorted some more stuff, done a bit of dusting and washed bedding and towels. Went for my walk-made it around 1.75 miles-way more tired than that when I returned. The sun and the crisp air felt wonderful. Going to make bed, iron up the few things in the basket and then find a sit down item to do that doesn't require intense thought.
Lisagoing to the store to buy something easier instead of putting up with frustration is so something I would do (and have done). Glad it seems like Corey is showing improvement. In terms of care taking-just ask him every so often if you can get him . . . . a drink, a sandwich -doesn't have to be Florence Nightingale-just enough to let him know you are there and can help-think about what he would do for you.
Debbie-glad you are on the mend-whatever it is you got got you good. I hate bathroom dashes.
Belinda-welcome to the group.
Kylia-you might want to try out Okie's idea. They probably figure since you always fix it it isn't any big deal. It's very hard for me not to step in and fix-usually because of other consequences. I am getting betting and pushing back and making others come up with the steps and if I have to give them some of the answers I will, hold them accountable, but then politely point out why I believe they should have been able to figure it out given their position, etc.
Think I'm rested enough to make it to the basement and bring laundry up.
Ginny in Ohio8 -
hi how do i join this group6
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[bIh2][/b]-you just did!3
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We are in the middle of a nasty wind and dust storm here. Power out but RV running on batteries. Can’t go outside, too windy and dusty! Sooo I found this and will do it starting in March. Join me if you’d like!
Action for happiness.org - March 2023
1. Set an intention to live with awareness and kindness.
2. Notice three things you find beautiful in the outside world.
3. Start today by appreciating your body and that you are alive.
4. Notice how you speak to yourself and choose to use kind words.
5. Bring to mind people you care about and send love to them.
6. Have a ‘no plans’ day and notice how that feels.
7. Take three calm breaths at regular intervals during your day.
8. Eat mindfully. Appreciate the taste, texture and email of your food.
9. Take a full breath in and out before you reply to others.
10. Get outside and notice how the weather feels on your face.
11. Stay fully present while drinking your cup of tea or coffee.
12. Listen deeply to someone and really hear what they are saying.
13. Pause to watch the sky or clouds for a few minutes today.
14. Find ways to enjoy any chores or tasks that you do.
15. Stop. Breathe. Notice. Repeat regularly.
16. Get really absorbed with an interesting or creative activity.
17. Look around and spot three thing you find unusual or pleasant.
18. If you find yourself rushing, make an effort to slow down.
19. Appreciate nature around you wherever you are.
20. Focus on what makes you and others happy today.
21. Listen to a piece of music without doing anything else.
22. Notice something that is going well, even if today feels difficult.
23. Tune into your feelings, without judging or trying to change them.
24. Appreciate your hands and all the things they enable you to do.
25. Focus your attention on the good things you take for granted.
26. Choose too spend less times looking at screens today.
27. Cultivate a feeling of loving-kindness towards others today.
28. Notice when you are tired and take a break as soon as possible.
29. Choose a different route today and see what you notice.
30. Mentally scan your body and notice what you are feeling.
31. Discover the joy in the simple things of life.
RVRita9 -
Good evening ladies!
Today I ate 1236 calories and then walked 40 mins for a calorie deficit of 20. So a neutral day, like most Sundays lately.
I've been babying my knee, wearing the brace. I can feel it pinching on the stairs from the exercises yesterday. So I hope that was the right level of difficulty.
I was evaluating room for an exercise bike as I walked, and it would work in my corner if we got rid of the coffee table that we don't use. I have to talk to my parents about that. An alternative would be to get rid of my knitting, or my camping equipment, or something else. I can see this turning into a big basement clean out.
Annie in Delaware4 -
Evening ladies
2 loads of laundry done and made myself a BLT .. I ordered a dress from Amazon and shoes the dress is adorable and it has pockets .. and the shoes 1/2 a size to big,so will send them back and order the 1/2 size lower.
Im only taking a carry on ,my Cpap and a big purse
I ordered Miles frozen meals called Once upon a farm.. organic plant based and he gobbles them up as you can see..they have a drawer freezer and he goes over and picks out the one he wants and mom heats it up for him..
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Stats for the day-
Housecleaning etc- 2hrs 34min 9sec, dust, vacuum, laundry fold and put away, make hummingbird food, etc= 720
Other- 2hrs etc, make more tea, make chocolate chip cookies = 100c
Total cal 8203 -
Pip lol how can making chocolate chip cookies be 100 calories? For me, I would eat several, so closer to minus 600. You made me laugh. You are such an inspiration!5
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I am up a couple lbs. I am managing the best I can. Youngest son will soon be stateside and I yearn to connect with him. It just shakes me to my core. On the outside I am cool as a cucumber, but inside I am in turmoil. I am not depressed, but I am feeling a great sadness. Much that I do is just a distraction to not go to a place that I can't get up from. Maybe I will video chat with eldest sister tonight.💖
Rebecca
Whidbey
Wa
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Have sorted some more stuff, done a bit of dusting and washed bedding and towels. Went for my walk-made it around 1.75 miles-way more tired than that when I returned. The sun and the crisp air felt wonderful. Going to make bed, iron up the few things in the basket and then find a sit down item to do that doesn't require intense thought.
Lisagoing to the store to buy something easier instead of putting up with frustration is so something I would do (and have done). Glad it seems like Corey is showing improvement. In terms of care taking-just ask him every so often if you can get him . . . . a drink, a sandwich -doesn't have to be Florence Nightingale-just enough to let him know you are there and can help-think about what he would do for you.
Debbie-glad you are on the mend-whatever it is you got got you good. I hate bathroom dashes.
Belinda-welcome to the group.
Kylia-you might want to try out Okie's idea. They probably figure since you always fix it it isn't any big deal. It's very hard for me not to step in and fix-usually because of other consequences. I am getting betting and pushing back and making others come up with the steps and if I have to give them some of the answers I will, hold them accountable, but then politely point out why I believe they should have been able to figure it out given their position, etc.
Think I'm rested enough to make it to the basement and bring laundry up.
Ginny in Ohio
Even when you are feeling better, continue to rest even more. The fatigue will really linger if you don't.
Debbie
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Bella- We have all been there. For some exercise helps lots, for others medical intervention has helped, for others just the support of these ladies has helped, for others it takes all of this. Keep coming back. Our spouses support us the best they can, but sometimes it takes more. Keep coming back!
Helped DH move stuff from garage attic to barn loft. Apparently the ceiling in the garage is sagging. So we moved out the heavy stuff. Wouldn't you know I got my pinky crunched. It is better after icing but still tender. At least the heavy stuff has been moved so that we can get the ceiling lifted now.
Okie and Ginny- I love your ideas. Unfortunately, the customers are the ones inconvenienced when others don't step up. Their belief is the old way worked forever so there is no reason to change. The customers actually appreciate that we can find their unit without a claim check, know how old their unit is, know how many hours they have put on the unit since last service, and what parts they need if they forget to bring in their numbers with them. New stuff/changes are always a struggle with this family whether in business or home. (It did take my DH 15 years to ask me to marry him!) Some days I just get tired of trying so hard. Hugs!
I still haven't gotten any work done. Oh well, will wait until tomorrow.
Love you Ladies,
Kylia in Ohio5 -
(((Rebecca)))— Chatting with your sister is a good idea. I hope your son will man-up and give his Mama a big hug. If he doesn’t man-up, get his brothers to give him a talking to. You are a terrific mom and deserve love & respect. 🌹
Katla6 -
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Women 50+ Friends—I have no idea how to fix the mess from MFP. I would love your help to fix it if possible. I hope things can go back to the way it has always been and return my ID. Katla & Katla 49 are both okay. I’d love to see Schooner’s photo again. I don’t have the skill to fix it the problem.
Katla2 -
KetoneKaren wrote: »Machka,
For some time, I have been meaning to say this:
You are inspiring. Unique. Surprising. Insightful. Smart. Self-assured. Resilient. Resourceful. Skilled. A Role Model. A Survivor. Caretaker Extraordinaire. A Gift.
I find myself wishing for the world’s sake that you had passed on some genes to a biological child…
Very sincerely,
Karen in Virginia
Oh wow ... thank you so much!
There are many times I don't feel any of that ... where I'm wondering what in the world I'm supposed to do next. I give a lot of credit to my parents and grandparents... their genes and the way they brought me up.
Unfortunately, one of the things I couldn't do was have a biological child.
Machka in Oz6 -
Anniesquats100 wrote: »Tina hmm. Interesting option, thanks. That bike is affordable, probably about the cost of five Physical therapy co-pays. I'm not sure I have the room for it though. I have had this bad knee for so long it might be time to get more serious about working on it. Would the bike work okay on carpet with cement underneath? It might settle into a dent in the carpet and stabilize that way.
Annie in Delaware
If you get one, just make sure you can set it up correctly, or you will have more knee problems.
M in Oz2 -
myvt9v4crh wrote: »Women 50+ Friends—I have no idea how to fix the mess from MFP. I would love your help to fix it if possible. I hope things can go back to the way it has always been and return my ID. Katla & Katla 49 are both okay. I’d love to see Schooner’s photo again. I don’t have the skill to fix it the problem.
Katla
I know you've never signed out before, but now is the time.
1. Sign out of MFP
2. Sign back in again using Katla49
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Expectations.......I expect coworkers to help pick up slack if I am incapacitated. I expect my coworkers to do the job correctly when I am not there. I expect that my coworkers will get all the information on units and customers. I expect coworkers to care about their jobs and customers. I expect coworkers to take pride in their job. I apparently need to adjust my expectations. I have work to do. I corrected improperly inputted repair orders. Put in information that they didn't put into computer on units both sold and in for repair. Now need to total invoices that they didn't even attempt to do for the two days I was absent. I knew this would happen, yet get frustrated when I come back to have to fix stuffs. This is why vacations can be stressful. Just needed to get that off my mind.
Love you All!
Kylia in OhioOkie and Ginny- I love your ideas. Unfortunately, the customers are the ones inconvenienced when others don't step up. Their belief is the old way worked forever so there is no reason to change. The customers actually appreciate that we can find their unit without a claim check, know how old their unit is, know how many hours they have put on the unit since last service, and what parts they need if they forget to bring in their numbers with them. New stuff/changes are always a struggle with this family whether in business or home. (It did take my DH 15 years to ask me to marry him!) Some days I just get tired of trying so hard. Hugs!
I still haven't gotten any work done. Oh well, will wait until tomorrow.
Love you Ladies,
Kylia in Ohio
Lowering expectations helps ward off disappointment.
Have your coworkers been trained in the new system?
Is there any way the new system can be modified to be more like how they work?
Machka in Oz
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Covid vaccines this morning - so far, arm is a little sore; we’ll see what tomorrow brings.
Just got home from spending about 4 hours with LillyBell and Rory and their mom & dad. Lillybell is 3 and Rory is 8 weeks old. Both doing great. We cuddled and played while mom & dad straightened up the house and got dinner. They swear it was helpful. lol they’re brainwashed
I adore “lounging Miles”...so stinkin’ cute!
Super tired, guess I’ll turn in.
Karen in Virginia4 -
Welcome to all the newcomers here.
By posting here, you have joined the thread.
This is a busy thread where we talk about all sorts of things. Feel free to jump in where you like.
On March 1, there will be a new thread ... please watch for that and join us over there.
Machka in Oz3 -
Hey Ladies!
Kim: Oh yeah Rafiq will be up and walking day two! My mother (the retired stern nurse) may need to come and stay if he doesn’t cooperate! Seriously though, he truly has been fortunate to keep his body in great condition. The knee issues stem from him being a tree surgeon with lots of climbing. The pressure of driving the stakes into the trees for over 40 years took their toll on him.
Michele: I have wondered about the same and the “herd mentality” theory. I don’t know if there is an absolute answer. Kind of like the flu its contagious and floating in the air.
Belinda: Noom is great for a mind reset, but it can’t replace the value of Pals here!
Machka: Thanks for the link! The book is about 8 inches thick. I feel so intimidated all I could do was ruffle the pages! I’ll get with the program next week for sure.
Lisa: Your saying I’m a strong woman made me feel tingly inside. I think you, more than many others. know that PTSD is not just caused from going to war. I have PTSD from growing up in a dysfunctional family. Many others have had other circumstances that have resulted in them having it as well. However, before I wax eloquently on that theme, I want you to encourage your daughter to participate in all the counseling the VA has to offer with or without her husband. I can’t tell you how much it helped me individually as well as us as a couple. If there are local veterans groups she may want to get involved with them as well. Sometimes it just helps to be able to tell someone “My husband acted like a nut last night.” PS, I think its great you know how to use a French Press! 
Night Y'all!
Tere in Chester VA
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Felt up to going out and did some shopping. Planned on two stops but was feeling well enough so stopped at Grocery Outlet- dh says it feels funny to go out shopping and not stop there. We did get some good bargains like usual. Got some cute Christmas cookie/pancake making kits that were 90% off that I can repurpose. The mini frying pan my daycare girl will love, same with the mini spatula and towel that was in another one. the Little cookie cutters are fun in the playdough. The sprinkles and syrups will be used in other baking projects.
Got some Bertoli Pesto for .97cents. Two in the fridge(one regular and trying one spicy) and two in the freezer, Terra Sweet Potato crinkle cut chips- 20oz bag(Costco size) for 1.97. Bought two. They are good. I wonder if my daycare girl will eat them- doubt it.
My main, planned stop was our local Mexican grocery store to stock up on avocados- little ones 3/$1 so got a dozen and will put them in the fridge as soon as the start to ripen at all plus got some fresh fish and shrimp for soup tomorrow night. Rainy and cold so perfect weather for it plus I can make it ahead in the pressure cooker and have it ready for the guys when they want it and ready for me after I get home from class.
Debbie
Napa Valley,Ca
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I've been thinking about PTSD recently too ...
The 5-year anniversary of my husband's accident is coming up in less than a month. The other day, I was walking along and just casually thinking about that, when all of a sudden I felt all the feelings I felt when I got the call, and in the first couple days hit me like a wave. I became quite dizzy and felt like I was going to throw up. I had to stop walking, hang onto something and do my box breathing.
And then I wondered ... could I be experiencing PTSD? Anniversary-induced PTSD?
Perhaps slightly related ... there's an outfit in my closet that I was wearing on the day of the accident. I've never worn it since. But when I'm choosing an outfit, I spot the skirt now and then and quickly flip past it.
M in Oz10 -
Machka- coworker picked the system without input from me. She doesn't use it for her book keeping, only used for front counter and customers. It isn't complicated. There was no training for the system. I asked for 3 weeks for any information about it before it was installed so that I could learn, nope, she didn't even give me the name of the system. Once it was installed I found you tube and company videos to figure it out. I wrote out instructions, simplified and step by step. Search first, then input customer info...name, phone number, address, and email. Add their equipment model/serial number, engine number and hours if riding equipment. Basic. If ordering parts, put in computer as a backorder to help keep inventory straight. It takes a little time up front but takes less time in future. She just doesn't see the value of all of that information as she rarely works the front counter unless I am gone. The minute I am there she rarely comes out of office or leaves early. You are correct, lowering expectations would lessen disappointment.
Thank you for taking time to answer back. Yes, could be PTSD as that was a life changing experience. I still can't watch shows with eye injuries. Makes me nauseous. Hugs and Deep breaths help. It has gotten easier most of the time. I do have to implement some of the other ladies strategies when dealing with DH when he is having a bad day due to lessened eye sight. Those days have gotten less, but do spring up at odd times.
Back to work tomorrow. 😒 The upside are most of my customers are great!
❤️
Kylia sleepy in Ohio.4
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