WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR MARCH 2023

Have to let you know- a huge deal happened this evening, at least huge to me. Dh came home, ranting and cussing like crazy again because of his mom. He went out fed the cats and then sat down. About ten minutes later he actually came in and apologized for it and said he just needed some time to calm down. Got his plate of food(it was cold by that time) and thanked me for it.
These are both big deals. I just hope he can let things go a little.
Part of what he was so pissed about is when he took food over to his mom, she asked if I had cooked it- He said yes(I had cooked part, part just warmed up, but he didn't tell her that part because she has been complaining about frozen food)-She immediately told him to bring the garbage can over and threw it in the trash- didn't even try it. She thinks I just give her left overs- wants food prepared especially just for her-like from a restaurant (he picks up food daily there for her).
I don't care if she eats my food or not. He is mad about it because it is disrespectful.
She used to HATE it when I would bring food over before when his dad was alive because he always loved it. She refused to eat it.
She did like it when she first got hurt and couldn't cook for herself. Now the princess wants someone to cook just for her. Sorry, I am NOT that person. I will cook some things and make it the way she likes but not catering to her like she wants. Just wish dh would stop it.
She was mad because, first, she was almost out of cigerettes- had to go get 2 cartons- there goes $300 and then that "friend" is coming over this weekend. Took it out on dh and then he had to go get the cig. for her. Totally CRAZY-

Debbie

Hi everyone. Today is day 2 and it has become painfully obvious I need to make some serious changes now. The worst thing I do is skip meals. End up starving and overeat. Right now (10:30 pm) I have 790 cals left from doing just that. Ugh
Since this is where I overeat crappy food I'm gonna try something different. Talked to my hubby, who is very supportive, and came up with a plan. Specific food to eat and prolog to see where it puts me so I won't go over. Little ocd and neurotic, definitely! Lol
So here I go!

sista67 wrote: »

Hi everyone. Today is day 2 and it has become painfully obvious I need to make some serious changes now. The worst thing I do is skip meals. End up starving and overeat. Right now (10:30 pm) I have 790 cals left from doing just that. Ugh
Since this is where I overeat crappy food I'm gonna try something different. Talked to my hubby, who is very supportive, and came up with a plan. Specific food to eat and prolog to see where it puts me so I won't go over. Little ocd and neurotic, definitely! Lol
So here I go!

I have the same problem skipping meals eating at night not using my calories but my husband doesn't support me to much so I try to do it on my own it's not working out to good yet. I've hurt my knee I go to the sport doctor tomorrow praying it's not another surgery.

Hello ladies I'm Sandy I'm 53 years old and I've been having joint problems and my blood sugar is not under control so it hinders some of my treatment. I need to change my eating more. I have depression problems as well with my other problems. I go to the sport doctor tomorrow. I'm praying no surgery. Deb I had a mother in law who treated me poorly and my husband never done anything about I was the one who had to help her when she couldn't help herself but she did apologized to me before she passed away so maybe there's still hope that one day she'll see the error of her ways.


Sandy from a Ky

Debbie, It sounds as if your husband may be going through a mental/emotional shift because his mother is pushing him to his limit. Now might be a good time for you to go to him and tell him it’s OK if he needs to vent as long as he treats you as an ally and friend while doing it. His mother is abusing him, and he is using you as his whipping boy instead of retaliating. You need another role.

Karen in Virginia

margaretturk wrote: »

Karen Hoping it is not raccoons. Check with insurance if it is major. Need to find where they are coming in and seal the opening. Happened to a friend and they had to have it professionally cleaned and all new insulation because of raccoons. It is not a job for the average homeowner because droppings can be toxic. Every fall at our son's house I have to leave the lights on at night to deter bats from getting inside.

Interesting about fire and pets. Last night while cooking the smoke detector went off. DrewB went and hid. She is not afraid of fireworks or loud dogs. The alarm upset her. I know now if there is a fire where she will go and hide. Small children can respond in the same way. Important info to know if heaven forbid you have a fire in your home.

Margaret, I’m not planning to do the extermination/remediation myself. I’m getting suggestions for exterminators from my FB Community group. So far I have 2 good recommendations.

We got through our fire drill yesterday. My spouse tried to bargain with me. I swear she thought of every way to “cheat” - have the dogs on a leash already, go sit in the lounge with her rollator so she could just walk out on one level, ignore the drill altogether, go out to the evacuation area ahead of time, on and on. I finally agreed to put a rollator outside for her so she would have someplace to sit until we got the all clear.

As it was, she did pretty well. When the alarm went off, she went out, hung the “everyone is out of this apartment” sign on the outer door, grabbed the bag with spare collars/leashes...but then tried to go after Mabel and Molly who had taken off down the hall. I prompted her to leave them, and go down the stairs. Molly came right away, and Mabel eventually made her way down as other people came down the hall toward the stairs.

She safely negotiated three flights of stairs. Yay! Once we got out, I pulled the stashed rollator out for her, and we walked to the evacuation area. The dogs were both with us by then, and stayed close to us as we walked. I didn’t pick them up because we were pretending I wasn’t there.

Once we were at the evacuation area, other people helped get the harnesses and leashes on the dogs, and my spouse sat down on the rollator. Hopefully in a real fire if I am not home, she will remember to leave the dogs to fend for themselves (I worry about this), as she needs all her focus and energy to get herself down the stairs. There are so many people who will help with the dogs if she can just get them out of the apartment. They didn’t hide, thankfully.

Karen in Virginia