WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JUNE 2023
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Morning ladies
Woof this morning was a nightmare...not for me but for Tracy....
She had a meltdown..Carmine is just beyond beyond.. she is doing as she pleases.. and Tracy with Kyle away is dealing with it alone..no more therapy,because the therapist said all she does is go to crab about how mistreated and horrible her life is..
So no more therapy.. she didn't show up to the house Tracy found out she was hanging out at a local restaurant.. well at least let mom know where you are..
She stole pills from her grandfather, so she is no longer aloud down there ,granted it was only melatonin but still.. so Tracy went through her room last night.. so Carmine came down and started going through her parents room..and so it goes..
They can get no help anywhere financially because they make to much.. and I told her to call the crisis line..its now or never..
It is effecting Miles for sure..5 -
Good morning ladies!
Allie that is so sad, the family is in such a crisis. It's not good for anyone.
My Dad's computer is not working this morning. The monitor is getting weak/no signal. I can barely follow the cords- it's a rat's nest back there. I feel inadequate when I can't fix it, but at least I didn't go for the chocolate. Yet. I just hope he leaves the router alone so the house internet keeps going.
I skipped my exercise last night. It doesn't take much to wear me out, and after groceries and cooking supper, I was just tired. I need to get back into that automatic habit thing. Dumbbells tonight.
Annie in Delaware
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(((Allie))) - many hugs. Sounds truly awful for all concerned.1
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Allie ... "no more therapy" for Carmine because the therapist said all she does is complain? That is exactly one of the reasons why she needs therapy. Maybe not with the current therapist as it seems they aren't able to establish a relationship with Carmine. Therapy takes time and finding the right therapist. Carmine also has to want to make her life better ... regardless of who is at fault. Sigh. Praying for you all.
Tracy ... your work situation just sounds more toxic by the moment. Thankful you have a doctor who sees the situation for what it is.
I am trying to get my food choices back on track ... not only for me but for my guys.
Beth near Buffalo
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Allie—Sending good thoughts for Carmine. I hope that she is able to get help. Beth’s comments are wise. Carmine also needs to want to make her life better. It may take time for her to feel things are going better.
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(((hugs))) to those who need them.
Bully is exactly what he is, Kim! Just a creepy, narcissistic, bully! And that danged girl is just not good at keeping us informed. Haven't heard from her about the results from the hearing. I'm not worried, believe me. She's like this all the time. Rather selfish herself, unfortunately for us.
Yes, Barbara. She's Caddie and Hunter's mom.
They generally make these things quick, Tracey, even if it is "delayed". The continuance would only be for a couple days, maybe a week.
Oh my Tracey... that's kinda scary that the doctor is so concerned about "getting involved". I am glad you're finally getting a lawyer though. You really need one. I agree with Ginny, although I don't know how Canadian employment law works either. It's clearly been harrassment. Still praying for you. So glad you're on leave.
Allie, I hope she did call the crisis line. Is there any chance that Tracy would consider having Carmine put on a 72 hour hold? I mean, for her own good? Seriously. If she's that rebelious and just not listening anymore to anyone, could Tracy have her held as a danger to herself? Yeah... what Beth said... Did I really understand what you said? Did the therapist say no more therapy because all Carmine does is complain about how mistreated and horrible her life is? Isn't that what a therapist is supposed to listen to and dig into?
Love and Blessings, Carla, in MN4 -
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Carol in GA
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This is not the day to do tasks other than watering and walking Drew on short walks. We have the worst air quality in the nation yesterday and today! I found my N-100 mask which I will wear when I water and my other mask I made with a strong air filter insert that I will wear when I walk Drew.
Very frustrating after the winter and non spring that we had. After the third snowiest winter we now again are on the verge of a drought.
Another neighbor asked that I water for five days plants they just planted before they left. Also the day our poor air quality alert that suggests no one should be outside without a good reason. I am practicing my NO if anyone asks me to water again this summer. With our weather conditions and trying to keep two gardens alive already. What is that word again NO!
I know I am asked because they see how well I maintain my plants. Answer NO! Now that I practiced it three times it just might work for me to say it.
I do not understand if they knew they were going to be gone a week why they planted $300 worth of plants right before they left.6 -
Rebecca--It is a lot of work and when is all done your sister will never have anything to feel sorry about as she has bent over backwards for the kids. What a great sister you are for helping and being with her during this time.
Tracey--Sounds like your doctor has your best intest in mind and that is great. Hope you can get a lawyer and keep the bully away.
Flea--So happy for your good reports!
Allie--Sounds like it is time for tough love. Call the police and have her EPC'd. That would start things moving to get her help before something really bad happens. We had to do that with our oldest son about that age. It is not easy, but child needs help.
My one lady that is very limited in how many hours she can work, came in to talk to me this morning. I was so afraid she was going to tell me she was quitting. But she asked for 6 more hours every 2 weeks. So one day every 2 weeks I will leave early and cut back on overtime and I am excited. It's the little things that help.
Blessings, Vicki GRAND ISLAND, NE 10 -
Good morning, ladies. Tracey it sounds like your doctor gave you very good advice. Hope you are able to get a lawyer to advice you further. So sorry you have to deal with this situation.
Carmine is crying out for help in my opinion. Hard to believe or understand why a therapist would basically turn her back.
Finally got much needed substantial rain. Started overnight and still raining with about an inch so far. Our county may be lifting the total fire ban now.
Lucy is settling in nicely. Still watches me closely and keeps me within her sight most of the time. Find that a bit sad as I'm sure being left by her owners has had an affect on her. Gets along very well with Buddy and all the cats.
Enjoy your day, ladies.
Joy
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Allie: (((Hugs))) Hope it can be worked out for Carmine.1
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June 2023 Happiness
Word of the year: Appreciate : today I appreciate my yogurt and berries for breakfast.13. Take a light-hearted approach. Choose to see the funny side. Already happening after a very stressful day yesterday.
Exercise goals added
Yoga 10 mins 3 times a week 0/15 (100%,100%,80%,73%,.1%)
Walk 7,000 every day 5/30 (84%,86%,94%,93%,65%)
6 min HIIT -1x a day start April 1- 1/30 (93%,0)
Arm weights twice a week 1/10 (100%, 60%hurt my elbow, hurt my shoulder 30%,50%,0)
Meditation: daily. 8/30(82%(started Feb)94%,100%, 74%)
Feeling overwhelmed and lethargic this month. Taking a break from the list above until I feel more in control. I am also having a bursitis/arthritis/tendinitis attack this month. Doctor prescribed something for me to try. Which seems to be working for my mood.
1. cut back drinking and limit to 2 days a week. 8/8–(100%,100%,0%,0%,0)
2. Average 7,000 steps a week. 7840,6796, (7,700,100%-9851,100%-9526,100%-9,559,100%, -8347,100%)
3. Update budget every 2 weeks 2/2 —(100%,100%,100%,100%,100%)
4. Contact close family every week (4x) 88/208—(100%,100%,100%,50%, 83% should be 103.2 by July 1)
5. Contact Donat and sibs once a month (8x)41/94 w(100%,100%,100%,100%,100%)
6. Weigh less last day of month compared to first until I reach 140. Start at 178.6,176,174.2,173.4,175.4,174,(100%,100%,100%,0%,100%)
7. Develop a journaling practice by aiming to journal at least 5 days a week. 11/15 (100%,88%,100,100%,100%,100%)
8. Read 12 books at least this year. 22/12 (100%,100%,100%,100%,100%,100%)
9. Pay off credit card debt by January 2024 by making monthly payments to NDR/Reach Financial 6/12—(100%.100%,100%,100%,100%,100%)
10. Continue building emergency fund at SLFCU (min$25 a month)$25+$25+$71+700+25+25 +25 (100%,100%,100%,100%,100%,100%)
11. April started putting 4% on income in savings. 700,200,200 (100%,100%,100%)
January Met —100%
February met —-90%
March met met —-90%
April met——86.36%
May met——-89%
June met
July met — met
August met
September met
October met —
November met—
December met—
1. Decide to look for what’s good every day this month. Started with friendly people.
2. Say positive things in your conversations with others. I will try, but people annoy me.
3. Re-frame a worry and try to find a helpful way to think about it. This will be about my son. Not sure how to re-frame it but will find a way today. I must realize he is a full grown man and in charge of his own life.
4. Take a photo of something that brings you joy and share it.
5. Think of 3 things you’re grateful for and write them down. 1. My family, 2. A roof over my head, 3. Enough food to eat.
6. Get out into green space and feel the joy that nature brings. every day!
7. Do something healthy that makes you feel good. 2 walks so far. And therapist today.
8. Find joy in music: sing, play, dance, listen or share. To be accomplished.
9. Ask a friend what made them happy recently. Did this on my trip to Lubbock to get my car back finally. Was a great day!
10. Bring joy to others by doing something kind for them. Will report on this later! Gave a family some Little Debbie cookies.
11. Eat good food that makes you happy and really savor it. Will do! Yesterday had a salad made from lettuce, onion, peppers, and tomato from my garden. The dressing was homemade too! Mmmmmm
12. Write a gratitude letter to thank someone. To be done! Sent my GS a thank you note for being my grandchild!
14. Share a happy memory with someone who means a lot to you. Will do.
15. Look for something to be thankful for where you least expect it. This will be fun to find things. How about turtle eggs on the beach that have to be moved to not be crushed.16. Speak to others in a warm and friendly manner.
17. Take time to notice things that you find beautiful.
18. Look for something good in a difficult situation.
19. Get outside and find the joy in being active.
20. Rediscover and enjoy a fun childhood activity.
21. Send a positive note to a friend who needs encouragement.
22. Watch something funny and enjoy how it feels to laugh.
23. Create a playlist of uplifting songs to listen to.
24. Bring to mind a favorite memory you feel grateful for.
25. Show your appreciation to people who are helping others
26. Make time to do something playful just for the fun of it.
27. Be kind to you. Do something that brings you joy.
28. Notice how positive emotions are contagious among people.
29. Share a friendly smile with people you see today.
30. Make a list of the joys in your life and keep adding to it.
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I agree with putting Carmine in a 72 hour hold. She/he needs help, and clearly, the therapist she had is not a professional. Unless all that about no more therapy was all Carmine’s saying and the therapist didn’t directly talk to mom. Tough love by leaving my DS in jail for a month brought him to his senses and got him the help he needs. I know Carmine isn’t even 16, but she needs some hard intervention. My heart goes out to you Allie, because we can’t really do anything to intervene. The parent has to in Carmine’s case and my DS in his own situation which is getting worse by the minute as well.
We all need to take it one day at a time and try to do a little once a day towards trying to resolve it. Even if it is only being there for the troubled person. There is many services available I found out for my son in RI, I’m sure CT have many of the same. Look up for some then text only one at a time to Carmine and Tracy once a day with no other comments. Might help, might not, but it will give you something to do to help. And it will help you feel like you are trying to help without interfering and being cut out. IMO I’m not sure, just trying to help as well.
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grandmallie wrote: »Morning ladies
Woof this morning was a nightmare...not for me but for Tracy....
She had a meltdown..Carmine is just beyond beyond.. she is doing as she pleases.. and Tracy with Kyle away is dealing with it alone..no more therapy,because the therapist said all she does is go to crab about how mistreated and horrible her life is..
So no more therapy.. she didn't show up to the house Tracy found out she was hanging out at a local restaurant.. well at least let mom know where you are..
She stole pills from her grandfather, so she is no longer aloud down there ,granted it was only melatonin but still.. so Tracy went through her room last night.. so Carmine came down and started going through her parents room..and so it goes..
They can get no help anywhere financially because they make to much.. and I told her to call the crisis line..its now or never..
It is effecting Miles for sure..
Just thoughts by someone not in the situation. ~Your Granddaughter is *screaming out for attention, from the people that are suppose to love her the most! Her family. She has gotten away with the negative behavior for so long.. its her and the families normal. Has her parents tried spending time .. -quality time with her only. Plan a long weekend the 3 of them, so she can have that one on one with her mom and dad so she understands -she -matters to them! It’s hard to compete with a cute toddler. The therapist needs a therapist.7 -
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grandmallie wrote: »Morning ladies
Woof this morning was a nightmare...not for me but for Tracy....
She had a meltdown..Carmine is just beyond beyond.. she is doing as she pleases.. and Tracy with Kyle away is dealing with it alone..no more therapy,because the therapist said all she does is go to crab about how mistreated and horrible her life is..
So no more therapy.. she didn't show up to the house Tracy found out she was hanging out at a local restaurant.. well at least let mom know where you are..
She stole pills from her grandfather, so she is no longer aloud down there ,granted it was only melatonin but still.. so Tracy went through her room last night.. so Carmine came down and started going through her parents room..and so it goes..
They can get no help anywhere financially because they make to much.. and I told her to call the crisis line..its now or never..
It is effecting Miles for sure..
I agree with the other ladies. It sounds to me like Carmine is crying out for help. I can’t imagine how she feels knowing that her parents would go into debt to get another child, but they won’t do anything that’s going to cost them any money to help her. I’m not saying she’s right, but she had a whole lot to deal with when she was starting through puberty. She was watching her parents do everything they could to get another child. When you’re already screwed up from changing hormones, add on that it looks like you’re not enough for your parents. I don’t know how she was expected to deal with that.
It’s a horribly sad situation all the way around. If they don’t decide to do everything they can to help her, whether that’s an involuntary hold, spending the money on hospitalization/real therapy, or whatever else they can find, I fear this is going to have a very bad outcome.
Okie in the TX Hill Country
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Ladies
I agree with each and every one of you..
She went up to Seths on the bus without telling Tracy and doing whatever she pleases.and one of the reasons right now she is out of control is that Kyle isn't home.so she knows she can push Tracys buttons and Kyle isn't there to squelch it..
Kyle is dealing with stuff of his own..
So we shall see..
Tracy is at the end of her rope with a 1 yr old and a teen..
All I can do is be there for support.. at least school is done for now Summer school is online starting July 5th..we will see how that goes.
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Allie ~ Oakie and Lightstrongma have said what Tracy and Kyle need to hear. Perhaps you could send them a copy of the advise they are offering. Of course, then they might be mad at you for airing the family laundry.
I am so sorry for the whole situation for that family and you.
Tracey ~ I love your Christmas ornament! I hope the lawyer you visit will be able to get you out of a bad situation at work.
Carol in GA
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