WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JULY 2023

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  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,630 Member
    edited July 2023
    kevrit wrote: »
    July 2023 Jump Back Up
    1. Take a small step to help overcome a problem or worry.
    2. Adopt a growth mindset. Change “I can’t” into “I can’t…yet”.
    3. Be willing to ask for help when you need it.
    4. Find something to look forward to today.
    5. Get the basics right: eat well, exercise and go to bed on time. Will do!
    6. Pause, breathe, and feel your feet firmly on the ground. Will meditate today to help me do this.
    7. Shift your mood by doing something you really enjoy. I really need to do this today.
    8. Avoid saying “must” or “should” to yourself today.
    9. Put a problem in perspective by seeing the bigger picture.
    10. Reach out to someone you trust and share your feelings with them.
    11. Look for something positive in a difficult situation.
    12. Write you worries down and save them for a specific “worry time”.
    13. Challenge negative thoughts. Find an alternative interpretation.
    14. Get outside and move to help clear your head.
    15. Set yourself an achievable goal and take the first step.
    16. Find fun ways to distract yourself from unhelpful thoughts.
    17. Use one of your strengths to overcome a challenge today.
    18. Let go of the small stuff and focus on the things that matter.
    19. If you can’t change it, change the way you think about it.
    20. When things go wrong, pause and be kind to yourself.
    21. Identify what helped you get through a tough time in your life.
    22. Find 3 things you feel hopeful about and write them down.
    23. Remember that all feelings and situations pass in time.
    24. Choose to see something good about what has gone wrong.
    25. Notice when you are being judge mental and be kind instead.
    26. Catch yourself over-reacting and take a deep breath.
    27. Write down 3 things you are grateful for (even if today was hard).
    28. Think about what you can learn about a recent problem.
    29. Be a realistic optimist. Focus on what could go right.,
    30. Reach out to a friend, family member, or colleague for support.
    31. Remember we all struggle at times. It’s part of being human.
    RVRita in NM
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    1. Take a small step to help overcome a problem or worry.
    2. Adopt a growth mindset. Change “I can’t” into “I can’t…yet”.
    3. Be willing to ask for help when you need it.
    4. Find something to look forward to today.
    5. Get the basics right: eat well, exercise and go to bed on time.
    6. Pause, breathe, and feel your feet firmly on the ground.
    7. Shift your mood by doing something you really enjoy.
    8. Avoid saying “must” or “should” to yourself today.

    For me, there are two ways I attempt to overcome problems or worries. 1. Prayer - I pray for peace and wisdom. 2. Doing something about it - even just first steps. So I don't worry a lot and I rarely lose sleep over things.

    My "I can't" is usually "I don't want to" or "I don't have time for it". But if I want to or if I do have time for it, I will. :)

    So right now, I don't think I sing very well. I'll tell people, I can't sing. But that's not really true because I can sing, but maybe not beautifully. Taking voice lessons is on my "50 Things To Do Before I Die" list, so maybe one day I will, when I have time for it.

    At work, sometimes I just can't figure out the code to get my programs to do something. If that happens, I've got work colleagues who are more skilled than I am and I'll tap into their knowledge.

    My days are full of "musts" and "shoulds". I have a long list of things I need to do. Sometimes I become overwhelmed by it all and feel like the entomologist in Woman in the Dunes. But it does feel good when I finally accomplish something.

    So as for looking forward to something, I look forward to accomplishing something from my list. I also look forward to getting outside and exercising, to reading a novel, to colouring, to working with my photos, to working in my garden, to having wins with my code and data at work, to some of the many webinars I attend, to walking outside with Rhody .... These things can help improve my mood. Fortunately, I do enjoy most of my life.

    Today, I looked forward to sleeping in. Same with tomorrow. I slept about 11.5 hours last night and it was wonderful! I could easily do that again and sometimes wonder how many 11.5 hour sleeps it would take before I no longer felt tired.

    Today was a rainy, windy, cool day. A couple times I thought about going out to the garden, but then another band of windy rain came through, so I gave it up. I stayed in my PJs most of the day and only changed to take Rhody out for a walk between waves of rain. Occasionally I take a PJ day. I probably need it more often than I take it but I enjoy the few days like this I get each year.

    However, I have done some paperwork and computer stuff.



    Machka in Oz
  • myvt9v4crh
    myvt9v4crh Posts: 391 Member
    We had rain last night. I watched John Wayne Westerns with dh. It was an excellent show featuring Native Americans. It was the best of his movies that I have seen.

    There are still water droplets on the window this morning & the hummingbirds have visited the feeder. 🌤️

    Katla
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,288 Member
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  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,105 Member
    Morning ladies
    Im having a cup of the good earth sweet and spicy tea.. i did put a smidge of stevia in it,not much.. I like it alot..
    This week coming up will be a doozy.. have to bring Alfie to groomers ,and go for a stress test ,but not on the treadmill.. its where they give you a shot.. such a thrill..
    Miles starts his daycare monday,its gonna be rough on everyone ..
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,630 Member
    grandmallie wrote: »
    Morning ladies
    Im having a cup of the good earth sweet and spicy tea.. i did put a smidge of stevia in it,not much.. I like it alot..
    This week coming up will be a doozy.. have to bring Alfie to groomers ,and go for a stress test ,but not on the treadmill.. its where they give you a shot.. such a thrill..
    Miles starts his daycare monday,its gonna be rough on everyone ..

    I'd rather do the stress test on a treadmill.

    I've done one of those once and they eventually just ended it because they'd picked up evidence of my damaged valves, and there was no point for me to keep running.


    M in Oz
  • majork29
    majork29 Posts: 760 Member
    Good morning, I am in my office with my cup of coffee, planning my day. Farley (10 month old bernese mountain dog/saint bernard mix) is waiting for me to finish so we can get out and walk.

    Barbie, thank you for the warm welcome. I have a puppy again right now and we love to go for walks.

    Machka thank you for the definition, see if only my kids could just answer without making fun, shaming…. LOL I joke they would make fun but it would be all in fun…

  • laltt
    laltt Posts: 27 Member
    Ginny-I’ve been to ortho twice and the first time they sent me to PT and everything was so painful and tight that they extended PT. By the end I felt great. Flare ups have been short but tight now it’s been about 10 days. Switching from Tylenol/Aleve to ibuprofen and this morning it feels a bit less intense. I do the exercises from PT. Last ortho appt he pretty much blew me off and said it’s just arthritis. My PCP was convinced it’s bursitis.

    Machka-owww! Lots of injuries. Glad you’ve been able to push through.
  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,535 Member
    The plan for tomorrow is to do ProForm’s Get Strong Sexy and Skinny DVD. Church tonight. But first want to go in the pool then take my walk.

    Rebecca - got dinner ready. I'm taking your suggestion and having just 1/3 of a Kodiak waffle.

    Heather – that is so nice of you to help out

    We do have sirius in all the vehicles. I especially like it when I’m traveling far from home (like going to FL). I sometimes listen to it on my walk (when I’m not listening to a podcast)

    Cut up the store cards that I don’t use. I’m only down to 2 store cards – Belks and Kohl’s. And 3 credit cards. Don’t really want any more.

    Off to the pool

    Michele NC
  • LisaInArkansas
    LisaInArkansas Posts: 2,908 Member
    I've got a small pile of ginger root waiting to be peeled and then sliced to make some candied ginger. Corey's off to get the grocery shopping done before the next storm moves in. Lovely soaking rain all morning, only a little thunder/lightning.

    Regarding finances:
    I've been resetting our budget to accommodate paying the house off this month, so am far too familiar with our monthly expenditures at this point. Averaged out the life, health, vision, dental, home and vehicle insurances ($400); taxes ($75); utilities including internet, trash, gas, water, electric and cell phones ($565); and entertainment (streaming services and books - $60) and came up with $1100 monthly outlay on average.

    Many of these I put into savings over the course of the year and pay from there, as they're paid annually or twice a year. Many of the insurances pay discounts if you go to an annual payment, and with interest rates high, am getting a much better return on savings, so the money earns a few dollars back.

    Groceries and miscellaneous costs vary so widely that it's not easy to predict, but I'm going through our credit card and checkbook records for the last six months to see where the dollars have gone and try to get a valid average for those, too. Once the house is paid, we have no debt, a goal we've been aiming for all our married life. We are very fortunate.

    Time to get in the shower, and then get this ginger started. Read everyone's posts, hugs to those needing them, kudos to those who've accomplished so much, and welcome to those who are new.

    Regards,
    Lisa in AR

  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,333 Member
    July 2023 Jump Back Up
    Word of the year: appreciate. Today I appreciate my coffee.
    Meditation: daily. 8/30(82%(started Feb)94%,100%, 74%, 93%


    1. cut back drinking and limit to 2 days a week. 4/8–(100%,100%,0%,0%,0%,0%)
    2. Average 7,000 steps a week. 5989, (7,700,100%-9851,100%-9526,100%-9,559,100%, -8347,100%—7465,100%)
    3. Update budget every 2 weeks 1/2 —(100%,100%,100%,100%,100%, 100%)
    4. Contact close family every week (4x) 126/208—(100%,100%,100%,50%, 83%, 100% should be 137 by August 1)
    5. Contact Donat and sibs once a month (8x)56/94 (100%,100%,100%,100%,100%,100%)
    6. Weigh less last day of month compared to first until I reach 140. Start at 178.6,176,174.2,173.4,175.4,174,(100%,100%,100%,0%,100%,100%)
    7. Develop a journaling practice by aiming to journal at least 5 days a week. 3/15 (100%,88%,100,100%,100%,100%,93%)
    8. Read 12 books at least this year. 24/12 (100%,100%,100%,100%,100%,100%)
    9. Pay off credit card debt by January 2024 by making monthly payments to NDR/Reach Financial 6/12—(100%.100%,100%,100%,100%,100%,100%)
    10. Continue building emergency fund at SLFCU (min$25 a month)$25+$25+$71+700+25+25 +25 (100%,100%,100%,100%,100%,100%,100%)
    11. April started putting 4% on income in savings. 700,200,200, 107 (100%,100%,100%)

    January Met —100%
    February met —-90%
    March met met —-90%
    April met——86.36%
    May met——-89%
    June met—-99%
    July met — met
    August met
    September met
    October met —
    November met—
    December met—



    1. Take a small step to help overcome a problem or worry. I am working on helping my son through this tough time by being in contact with his case worker and tracking his location.
    2. Adopt a growth mindset. Change “I can’t” into “I can’t…yet”. I try to never use those words. I follow Yoda’s ‘Do or not, there is no try”
    3. Be willing to ask for help when you need it. I will. My back hurts today so will easily ask for help when I need it.
    4. Find something to look forward to today. Missed posting this yesterday. So today I am looking forward to my therapy session.
    5. Get the basics right: eat well, exercise and go to bed on time. Will do!
    6. Pause, breathe, and feel your feet firmly on the ground. Will meditate today to help me do this.
    7. Shift your mood by doing something you really enjoy. I really need to do this today. Did not do this. Had a bad day all around yesterday.
    8. Avoid saying “must” or “should” to yourself today. I will try.
    9. Put a problem in perspective by seeing the bigger picture.
    10. Reach out to someone you trust and share your feelings with them.
    11. Look for something positive in a difficult situation.
    12. Write you worries down and save them for a specific “worry time”.
    13. Challenge negative thoughts. Find an alternative interpretation.
    14. Get outside and move to help clear your head.
    15. Set yourself an achievable goal and take the first step.
    16. Find fun ways to distract yourself from unhelpful thoughts.
    17. Use one of your strengths to overcome a challenge today.
    18. Let go of the small stuff and focus on the things that matter.
    19. If you can’t change it, change the way you think about it.
    20. When things go wrong, pause and be kind to yourself.
    21. Identify what helped you get through a tough time in your life.
    22. Find 3 things you feel hopeful about and write them down.
    23. Remember that all feelings and situations pass in time.
    24. Choose to see something good about what has gone wrong.
    25. Notice when you are being judge mental and be kind instead.
    26. Catch yourself over-reacting and take a deep breath.
    27. Write down 3 things you are grateful for (even if today was hard).
    28. Think about what you can learn about a recent problem.
    29. Be a realistic optimist. Focus on what could go right.,
    30. Reach out to a friend, family member, or colleague for support.
    31. Remember we all struggle at times. It’s part of being human.
    RVRita in NM
  • Anniesquats100
    Anniesquats100 Posts: 3,296 Member
    Jolene great loss! Slow and steady wins the race.

    Majork29 ooh that sounds like a big furball of cute puppy! Just old enough to get into things but still a sweetie. My little Teddy is twelve years old and sixteen pounds. Just a white hairy lapdog, very affectionate.

    Annie in Delaware
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,288 Member
    Stat for the day-

    Outside bike ride- *new saddle* - 2hrs 4min 47sec, 352elev, 68aw, 13.7amph, 135ahr, 158mhr, 28.5mi= 1044c
    Strava app = 569c
  • Whidislander
    Whidislander Posts: 3,820 Member
    Snowflake1968 wrote: »
    Barbie - I really hope you’re right. I worry.

    Michele - I have a crystal collection. My grandmother started it for me the year I was 16 and received my hope chest for Christmas. I had always pretended to drink champagne out of a glass of hers that looked like crystal. I was drinking ginger ale. I guess I got so attracted to it probably from the soaps, especially Dynasty and Dallas. 😂. I’m sure my girls won’t want it, but I can tell where every piece came from.

    Barbara - that’s a rough day. Mirrors aren’t cheap, although we found one for our daughters car for 60 on Amazon and the dealership wanted 200.

    Debbie - I wish your DH would get some help too. It’s not healthy for you or him.
    My DH’s family resolved things at the top of their lungs. He is very calm and quiet. I think he didn’t want to be like that. I have a foul temper, it takes a lot to get me there and it’s probably only come out about 3 times in our marriage thankfully. I don’t like myself like that.

    Allie - I understand the stress their family dynamics puts on you, Carmine isn’t going to be able to get her problems fixed without Kyle getting his fixed. It’s a terrible situation and I hope they get help soon.
    I hope you feel better soon, my SIL apparently woke up sick today with a cold/flu.

    Kylia - maybe it’s the meds causing the infection. I haven’t had one for years but used to get them all the time.

    Heather - beautiful painting.

    Margaret - well said.

    Rebecca - out cable and internet are close in price to yours. We are looking at how to lower the cost without losing services. It’s always such a game with these companies.

    Lanette - DH now has a 2017 Dodge Ram. The road to credit rebuilding has started I guess.
    Great news about your car. My brother swears by Toyotas. He is a mechanic.
    I just saw your comment about driving your DH’s truck. Yesterday, DH told me he didn’t know if he would let me drive his truck, I told him that I’m sure I would be the first time he needed something that he didn’t want to go get and wouldn’t fit in my vehicle. Tonight, he came home from work, put on lounge pants and remembered he needed gas. So I’ve driven it already.
    One of my previous jobs required me to drive all sorts of trucks, the biggest was a Dodge 3500. It was a bit much, but I did it.

    Pip - What a hassle losing a wallet. It takes so much time to get things replaced.

    Rosemarie - we signed up for Paramount Plus through Amazon easily on the app on my phone. I spent 2 hours trying to cancel it last week, turns out you can only cancel through the Amazon website not the app. They always find some way of trying to get you.
    I set a calendar reminder for a few days before the membership renews so I can cancel if we’re not watching. I just cancelled a few last week. Right now we have Apple TV free.

    Annie - I agree with Lanette, about $500 for rotors and brakes on my car last year. I would have thought prices were cheaper in the States, but not so much.

    I just saw that there is a 5th Toy Story in the works. That is my favourite animated movie series of all time. I also like Shrek. Inside Out is one that I keep waiting for a sequel. That one came out the year my Mom was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and it made me cry. Our eldest daughter thought she should have had royalties, because it explained so much about how she felt when we moved her across the country at age 8.

    I have crafted most of the day, trying new things. I’m not done to my satisfaction yet so will have to finish tomorrow probably.

    Tracey in Edmonton

    It is pricy! We are blessed that its just one out of three bills we need to pay. Son pays for electric bill. We could always cut out cable and have the three or four major channels. Then just watch our videos and CDs. Check out movies and series from the library. I would be totally ok with that. So just the modem use. As much as I turn on the tv these days, its really only on when husband has a meal. That seems a wee bit sad, but its intentional viewing not just a drone noise in the background.
    Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Wa
  • Whidislander
    Whidislander Posts: 3,820 Member
    exermom wrote: »
    The plan for tomorrow is to do ProForm’s Get Strong Sexy and Skinny DVD. Church tonight. But first want to go in the pool then take my walk.

    Rebecca - got dinner ready. I'm taking your suggestion and having just 1/3 of a Kodiak waffle.

    Heather – that is so nice of you to help out

    We do have sirius in all the vehicles. I especially like it when I’m traveling far from home (like going to FL). I sometimes listen to it on my walk (when I’m not listening to a podcast)

    Cut up the store cards that I don’t use. I’m only down to 2 store cards – Belks and Kohl’s. And 3 credit cards. Don’t really want any more.

    Off to the pool

    Michele NC

    What do you do with the rest of the waffle?😁. I eat most things one at a time. I'm the only one eating it, so they don't really reheat well without turning into a rock.🙃
    Great cutting of cards. 👍🏼
    Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Wa
  • Anniesquats100
    Anniesquats100 Posts: 3,296 Member
    Carol so sorry your ankles are bothering you. Time to sit back and elevate them. Take care of yourself!

    Allie, you too! Hope that chest cough is nothing serious.

    I just went through and updated all my phone calendar reminders to better reflect my life. And I squeezed some slots for biking and meditation in there. Now I am feeling so organized! I still have several paper piles I need to handle.

    Annie in Delaware

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