WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR DECEMBER 2023
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2023 December Kindness
Word of the Year: appreciate—Today I appreciate heaters (had to replace ours yesterday)26. Get outside, pick up litter or do something kind for nature. My daily job!
Meditation: daily. 18/30 (82%(started Feb)(94%,100%, 74%, 93%,100%,100%,100,100,83%
Feeling sick all month. Colitis crap! And eye surgery.
Recommended exercise: cardio 5 days 30 min /23
Strength all muscles 2 x 0/8 a week
Flexible (yoga, stretching) /8 a week 10 min
Balance 5 days 10 min /20
1. cut back drinking and limit to 2 days a week. 0/8–(300%,100%,100%,100%,100%)
5 months SOBER!
2. Average 7,000 steps a week. 5907,5777, 4325,5916 (7,700,100%-9851,100%-9526,100%-9,559,100%, -8347,100%—7465,100%—6328,90%—6059,87%—6458,92%,-6847,98%-84% 5882-)
3. Update budget every 2 weeks 2/2 (10,00%) 50%
4. Contact close family every week (4x) 231/208—(733%,100% My mom called me for a change, 100%)
5. Contact Donat and sibs once a month (8x)107/96 100%)
6. Weigh less last day of month compared to first until I reach 140. Start at 178.6,176,174.2,173.4,175.4,174,175.6,173.4, 172.2, 173.2, 173.4, 173.4 (600%) 100%,100%
7. Develop a journaling practice by aiming to journal at least 5 days a week. 17/23. (681%,100,100,83)
8. Read 12 books at least this year. 51/12
(100%)
9. Pay off credit card debt by January 2024 by making monthly payments to NDR/Reach Financial 12/12—(100%)
10. Continue building emergency fund at SLFCU (min$25 a month)$25+$25+$71+700+25+25 +25+25 (100%) I put the money in, but end up taking it out.
11. April started putting 4% on income in savings. 700,200,200, 107, 157,0,0,0,0
500%) This has stopped. Spending too much.
January Met —100%
February met —-90%
March met met —-90%
April met——86.36%
May met——-89%
June met—-99%
July met — met 81%
August met—met 99%
September met——99%
October met —90.7%
November met—75%
December met—
1.Spread kindness and share the December calendar with others. Sharing with my MFP friends.
2. Contact someone you can’t be with to see how they are doing. Forgot to do this yesterday. Hope to do it today. I did this on Sunday 12/3.
3. Offer to help someone who is facing difficulties at the moment. Helped my fellow host in learning what to do in 2 separate incidents with campers.
4. Support a campaign, cause, or charity you really care about.
5. Give a gift to someone who is homeless or lonely. Did not do this. No chance to.
6. Leave a positive message for someone else to find. Did this yesterday.
7. Give kind comments to as many people as possible today. I will try. A bit down today. Not feeling well.
8. Do something helpful for a friend or family member. Will do!
9. Notice when you’re hard on yourself or others and be kind instead. I will try to remember.
10. Listen wholeheartedly to others without judging them. I need to learn to do this more.
11. But an extra item and donate to a food bank. Did not have a chance to do this today.
12. Be generous. Feed someone with food, love or kindness today.
13. See how many be people you can smile at today. I didn’t count, but smiled at ask the hospital employees I meet yesterday while getting eye surgery.
14. Share a happy memory or inspiring thought with a loved one. Will do!
15. Say hello to your neighbor and brighten their day. Sounds like a plan for today!
16. Look for something positive to say to everyone you meet today. My goal always!
17. Give thanks. List the kind things others have done for you. Will do this in my journal. I didn’t do this.
18. Ask for help and let someone else know the how of giving.
19. Contact someone who may be alone or feeling isolated.
20. Help someone by giving away something you don’t need.
21. Appreciate kindness and thank people who do things for you. I always thank people for being kind. I appreciate kind people always.
22. Congratulate someone for an achievement that may go unnoticed. Will do!
23. Choose to give or receive the gift of forgiveness. I pray for this every day.
24. Bring joy to others. Share something that made you laugh. 🤪
25. Treat everyone with kindness including yourself. I try to do this always.
27. Call a relative who is far away to say hello and have a chat. Calling my son. It’s his birthday toady and he lives in Connecticut.
28. Be kind to the planet. Eat less meat and use less energy. Will try!
29. Turn off digital devices and really listen to people.30. Let someone know how much you appreciated them and why.
31. Plan some new acts of kindness for 2024.
The results of your personality test are in. Here they are:
Personality type: Logistician (ISTJ-T) Traits: Introverted – 69%, Observant – 58%, Thinking – 75%, Judging – 56%, Turbulent – 54% Role: Sentinel Strategy: Constant Improvement
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dlfk202000 wrote: »Debbie the family drama is why I live so far from family. It got to me making me have panic attacks along with depression so bad that I kept losing jobs. Moving to TN then to the RV were the best things I did for my health. I’m so sorry you have to go through all that with your family. Maybe you need to take a vacation away for a couple of weeks, just you to relax. Tell me again WHY your DH has to go there twice a day? It seems to just make things worse for everyone. Can he not just go once a day and taper that off as well? I know culture plays a big part in this, and can be very hard to deal with.
RVRita
It started over a year and half ago- mil fell twice in two days-(disoriented because of UTI which they diagnosed after the second fall) first one broke bones in her hand and wrist, the next day 3 ribs.
Then she needed dh there 24/7. I helped when he had to work, working one or two night shifts a week.
As she got better he has cut back to going over twice a day- making sure she takes her pills and taking food over to her.
Now, she doesn't NEED the twice a day but she pretty much demands it. IF he misses one, she takes it out on him for the next week.
Why he sits there for an hour or so each time, so she can just chew on him , I have no idea- I keep telling him to just do the basic and leave but he wont.
She says that isn't enough- that she wants to hire someone because she wants more help(wants someone to just sit there and let her talk *kitten* about us or complain to them) Not only does he go there twice a day but does all the shopping for her daily(always something she needs), does her bills, takes her to dr appointments,etc. She still tells everyone she is all alone, no one to help her with anything, just her and her dog- while dh is standing right there. We did hire a lady- she was shaking in the corner the second morning.
Why does he do this- out of obligation because he is the only one here and playing the martyr- so people will feel sorry for him I guess.There are other options but it is up to him to do it- I can't make him- I suggest things and they are always wrong/won't work......
I may be mean but I would give him a choice, her or me. I don’t know if I would be as patient as you are.
I give you tons of credit for putting up with the both of them for so long.
I say these things with love. No malice toward you intended. I know I couldn’t do it. You are impressive! 🥰
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Barbara I am confused....I thought Fosamax was for bone building? I am on estradiol and have been for 10 years. No problems with it, but also have no history of clots etc. Definitely need more information.
Margaret Yay for you in standing up for your DH's health decisions. My DH totally trusts the doctors. It can be really unnerving for me. I do go into all his appointments mainly because what DH hears when doctor is talking is....wawawawa. I am also the one that questions.
Lisa I can't take nsaids either. I am in pain from the minute they hit my stomach all the way through intestines. And no, it is amazing how little they actually read in charts. I miss my old school doctor. He was a true believer in natural remedies, prevention, and follow ups. Actually, I have had two doctors like that. I currently have one that I am not a fan of.....probably should look for new. Will put it on my list.
I got two totes of misc stuffs sorted and dealt with before work this morning. Finished laundry and put away what isn't laying in pool table drying. Vacuumed base boards, dining room chairs, and bathroom (lots of hair). Productive morning so far....let's see if I can transfer that to work work-haha!
Hugs!
Kylia still in Ohio
Kylia I too go to all my DH’s doctor appointments. If I left it up to him, he would say nothing changed and he is good every single time. I have all our meds and appointments on notes on my phone and bring that up every doc appointment and write down the suggested changes to supplements and/or med doses along with questions to ask the doc. Those notes have provided me and the medical community valuable information. Since I always have my phone with me, it is easy to add questions change doses, etc. I also have a list of allergies, food sensitivities, vaccines, surgeries, etc on them, so when going to a new doc, I can either print the list or use it when filling out the forms. Saves all sorts of time and is more accurate than my memory since I have to remember for both of us! My doc is a functional doc and looks for the reason for the symptom, not just prescribe meds. The practice will give suggestions for supplements, changes in food, and will prescribe if needed. I am very happy with them. The only thing I question is the quarterly blood work. But I see the reason, it shows if the suggested changes are working.
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cityjaneLondon wrote: »Personally, I don't trust any generalised doctor. They know nothing. I only want to see the top person, who might, just possibly, have a clue. Maybe not.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
Here, GPs are like triage units.
You go to a GP with your list of symptoms.
The GP sends you for bloodwork and other tests to try to narrow the scope of the problem.
Then the GP sends you to the specialists ... to specialist surgeons, to physiotherapists, etc.
It's rare that a GP will diagnose, unless it is something fairly straightforward. For example, when I went to one for my cat bite, she diagnosed that it was infected and put me on antibiotics.
But for most things I go to the GP to get referrals to specialists.
And I always have to remind them of my allergy to antibiotics and about my genetic pre-disposition to clotting.
Machka in Oz
It seems many, if not all, the doctors in the US are the same. My primary care does the bloodwork, tries to correct with supplements and diet, if no better next blood test (quarterly) you go to a specialist, this is why I now have a gastroenterologist, cardiologist, ENT, Renal, Therapist, ophthalmologist , surgeon, and a urologist! I don’t mind but it just seems I’m going to some doctor or having bloodwork done almost every week for the next 2 months!
RVRita in NM4 -
Heater We were able to get a heater that works very well for the RV. We use an electric space heater rather than the gas one that is installed in the RV. Works just as well and no cost except for purchasing the heater. The old one was 5 years old and had fallen down the stairs several times in its life. I’m surprised it lasted as long as it did! Here is a picture of the new one bought at Sam’s Club.
RVRita is a nice warm RV in NM6 -
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G came over, stopping in on her way home from her two night break in Eastbourne. On the way she drove to Beachy Head, which is a famous beauty spot.
She is relieved to have an appointment with a consultant on Thursday. But worried about potential treatment for autoimmune disease. Steroids and monoclonal antibodies. Well, we shall see. She is astonishingly stalwart.
Nice to see her. John joined us after he had finished talking to his younger daughter about her next book. Deadline Jan 8th, so she is getting up at 5.30 to finish it!!
She is talking about moving down here eventually. Nothing definite, but she is playing with the idea.
I'm feeling tired and achy today. Legs a bit jelly like. Machka has made me think.....
We have the girls tomorrow. No doubt 'Art' will be done.
Love Heather UK xxxxxx3 -
Lisa I have vinyl plank in my kitchen and laundry room/mud room. I love it! Ot has survived 10 years of large dogs and is now going on 14 yrs. Easy care. Still looks new. Not slippery when wet. I always will remember linoleum as getting really slippery when wet. Just my two cents worth.
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Well it is now 1pm and I feel much better. I now have the energy to do a walking video while listening to a Debbie MacComber audio book, while sipping on coffee. All this seemed completely out of reach 2 hours ago! Of course, my son and DIL were here 5 days and I prepared for them beforehand and I went to the rescue 2 mornings while they were here.
I stayed up one night until 1 am looking at used hybrid Toyota Camrys. I might get a hybrid but I am not going to sit at a charging station in the GA heat during the summer. Hopefully I can just use gas during the summer months. I need to look into it more. Does anyone have a hybrid?
Best,
Rosemarie from GA
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grandmallie wrote: »Morning ladies
Got back about an hr ago from watching Miles,whoosh he is a whirlwind..
Daddy stayed home today as he wasn't feeling well
I saw something on the way home that blew my mind.
I saw a man jogging along the main highway well rt 66 with no shoes or shirt,I was flabbergasted to say the least.
I was in such shock that I wanted to stop and help,but I don't think he wanted any,maybe an escapee from the CVH which is the psychiatric hospital in the next town over.who knows..
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Well I had to sit with my Dad and help him with readings and hymns for the service. He is still crushed. I had to reach back to my Christian childhood which is always awkward. So much for my quiet day. But the weekend will be quiet, too.
Then we have to decide who does the eulogy. I feel like it ought to be Sarah, Dad or me, or even Aunt Donna, but Dad and Aunt Donna will be too devastated. Sarah has enough on her plate. That leaves me. I could probably get it done, and that would be better than letting the minister do it. But it would be a little awkward. I have to think about it.
Annie in Delaware8 -
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I may be mean but I would give him a choice, her or me. I don’t know if I would be as patient as you are.
I give you tons of credit for putting up with the both of them for so long.
I say these things with love. No malice toward you intended. I know I couldn’t do it. You are impressive! 🥰
RVRita[/quote]
I would love to give him the ultimatum- I have thought about it many times but right now is not the time.
I can't be the reason he drives off a cliff. I am trying to get him to get some medical/mental help right now.
I just got off the phone with him- over half an hour, of him venting. My suggestion to go away for a week and I would take care of his mom , he said if he went away for a week, he wouldn't come back- he couldn't come back after getting away for just a week.
My suggestions to go get help for him, he dosn't care anymore. He will continue to take all his meds and not eat(sick to his stomach from stress all the time). Maybe that will put him in the hospital or worse.
Told him we need to hire someone-he ignored that option.
He called me while sitting in his car in her driveway because he didn't feel safe driving
All of this because we picked up the groceries that she wanted and brought them this morning, instead of tomorrow!!! Seriously
@ food but she cooks anyways and throws a fit if he doesn't take some home. She doesn't listen/hear when he talks.
Right now, I have no idea where he is. I just pray he is safe and just calming down before coming home.
Is this the life I want for myself, of course not. I just don't see a safe option right now.
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Snowflake1968 wrote: »Machka - you’re right. We still just say “go get tested” I have not heard it shortened to RATS.
I love how you keep Christmas going well into January. I would do that as well if I thought I could get away with it.
Beth - thank you. I had a sense of déjà-vu this year when we were unwrapping presents. It’s an odd feeling.
So sorry for your Mom’s decline. I hope she is able to recover. I’ll pray for some strength and rest for all of you.
Flea - lovely family. The men in our family say Die Hard is a Christmas movie too.
Rebecca - I just love how you and your family uses technology. I can’t seem to get anyone in my family to use it for connecting that way.
I remember my Mom & grandmother being frustrated when something in a store changed. I get it now. Just like I get why they were always fussing about “what to make for supper”.
You have inspired me. I have asked my girls what their favourite Christmas shape is. I am going to make a jewelry picture like yours for them. I am going to use my grandmother’s wedding dress as the background. They were married in February 13, 1941 in Kingston, ON while Grampie was in boot camp to go overseas for WWII, her dress is a deep dark green velvet. I’ll have to see if I can find their wedding picture to share with you ladies.
Terri - sorry for the sudden loss of your friend.
I agree we need to make as many memories as possible with our loved ones.
Ginny - I hope you find relief soon. What a sweet granddaughter you have there.
Barbara - I made sugar cookies. My grandmother had never written her recipe down that we could find. Years ago, close to 30 now, I decided I would try to make them. I would make a batch, have cousins taste test get feedback and try again. Her secret ingredient was nutmeg.
I have to say though, I am not a baker, it is not something I find enjoyable and relaxing. My eldest daughter has been making the cookies since she was a teenager. She couldn’t this year, so I’m quite proud of my accomplishment. I am taking some to one of my cousin’s granddaughter’s today, her Mom and Grandfather were some of my taste testers. Her Mom and I were the same age and she passed suddenly when we were 51. Her Grandfather was my Dad’s age. That side of my family is huge.
By the way - your roast and potatoes sounds so much better to me than the turkey we had. I think my family would disown me if I didn’t make a turkey. Apparently my son in law was going to make a ham too, I was excited when I found out, but he had forgotten he had mentioned it to my daughter and didn’t do it. 😂
Kylia - Love the pictures! I think I’ll take Christmas down on New Years Day. I like keeping them up a bit longer so I have the pretty lights in dark and gloomy January.
I usually only buy wants for Christmas and birthdays. Like you, I grew up with Christmas being about needs and a couple wants from Grandparents. DH really only wanted us to buy wants over the years, he dislikes if I buy needs.
Rosemarie - I hope you got your tv stand together. I am hoping to redo my living room in January. I want to paint and buy a new sofa. DH is going to make a new shelf/storage system for me in the spring or summer.
I used to take the grands more often so the parents could have date nights. It seemed to have fell off during Covid I hope to pick it up again.
Allie - I personally haven’t used Ozempic, but I know a couple who have with great success. It’s very hard on the stomach at first, though apparently it settles after a few months. I would definitely make sure all of your medical team was aware though, you have a lot of health problems that it may make worse.
Carol - nice photos.
Rita - I have a sign in my kitchen that says “not my cows, not my pasture, not my bull$hit”.
I love the sentiment.
Sue - I miss the days of no electronics in appliances. They don’t last very long because of them.
Your Christmas sounds so peaceful.
Vicki - I hope you are able to fix what’s off swiftly. I hate having that feeling.
Heather - I like to decorate earlier and leave it up until usually New Year’s Day. I enjoy the lights so much. I would leave it up longer but DH would start complaining.
Great news on your pension!
I feel so bad for your friend G. What a bout she has had with this. Hopefully they can get her some relief soon.
Lanette - I think it’s smart to save for later too. I get DH to do that.
Lisa - your sunroom is coming right along. It’s going to be great.
I too got rid of all but tax documents. I have everything I need scanned and all bills are electronic now.
I’m glad you enjoyed the little cartoon.
I did almost nothing today. I went to Michael’s because the item I wanted for Christmas was on sale 50% off, they didn’t have one in stock when DH did his shopping so bought me a GC. Since he was so generous and not aware of the sale, o bought another item also 50% off and I have 25.00 left. I then went to Walmart to exchange the pj’s he bought me, when I went to put them on last night someone had switched the pant size to 2XL instead of XL. I can get away with L on the bottom, but the boobage makes me need XL. I knew I would never be comfortable in a 2XL. Turns out they didn’t have any in stock so gave me a refund. I found another pair that were now on clearance for $8 so bought a wallet too.
I went to put the set I bought on tonight and the top is a crop top. I told DH I’m keeping it because I really like the bottom, I may make myself a shirt to go with it though.
Tomorrow I am going to pick eldest daughter up and go to exchange the book she bought me for Christmas then I have to go for a mammogram.
I guess I should head to bed. I have done not much of anything today and I’m still tired.
Tracey in Edmonton
Lol I don't really give them a choice. Its like I say "when can we video chat, I miss you". There isn't any IF in it. 😁😂. We do have a Family group message chat tab. So that's how we get everyone together.💖
Rebecca
Whidbey
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Annie: My son and I each did a eulogy for my husband. A grace and strength came over me and I got through it until the very end when I started to thank people for their support. Then I got some tearful. I went to one funeral recently and a daughter around age 30 gave her Dad's eulogy. She spoke about a time around age 3 when she had a full blown temper tantrum because Toys R US was closing for the evening and she didn't want to leave. Her Dad without saying a word, calmly picked her up and took her out of the store. She talked about his patience. She also said that to this day she thinks this is why Toys R Us officially closed...because she had a temper tantrum in the store!
Thinking of you during this time,
Best,
Rosemarie from Georgia8 -
grandmallie wrote: »Morning ladies
Got back about an hr ago from watching Miles,whoosh he is a whirlwind..
Daddy stayed home today as he wasn't feeling well
I saw something on the way home that blew my mind.
I saw a man jogging along the main highway well rt 66 with no shoes or shirt,I was flabbergasted to say the least.
I was in such shock that I wanted to stop and help,but I don't think he wanted any,maybe an escapee from the CVH which is the psychiatric hospital in the next town over.who knows..
Or he could have been an ultra marathoner in training
There's nothing wrong with the minister doing it. You could just write up the highlights of her life and have him read it. I believe we did that with both my sister and my mother, then we had a time of sharing, and that's when family members got up to talk about detailed memories.
Thinking of you every day. It was nice of you to go to church with your dad and help him with the service.
Take care.
Flea
Willamette Valley, OR4 -
Stats for the day-
Walk w/family- pushed Chispa in buggy- 1hr 59min 2sec, 102elev, 3.12ap, 93ahr, 138mhr, 6.24mi= 635c
Strava app = 765c
Walk home to store and bk- 9.36min, 86ahr, 111mhr, 3.44ap, ,54mi= 67c
Strava app= 67c
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Debbie- gee your between a rock and a hard place.. I know you DH is about to go off the deep end,and needs help,here is hoping he gets it and toot sweet .
Rosemarie- my Ex has a Chevy Volt and he loves it,though he had to wait quite a few weeks in florida during the GM strike to get the water pump replaced.
He has a charger in the basment ,he has or we had a house built 63 yrs ago 1960 and it is a ranch with a 1 car garage .we have a friend who is a master electrician, who put in a charger in the garage so when he used to get home from work he would charge it and it would be fully charged before he went to bed,so he would unplug it overnight.he also has a charger in Florida.
You can get tax insentives on them also.
I must be getting old,
I would really like to see my friends ,Sue and Bob,her brother Mike is playing at a restaurant/bar ,remember the one I told you about a few months back?
I didn't want the hassle and the crowds and the noise. Id much rather be home.
So here I am.
And here is Miles jumping in puddles to round out the day.
And the guy that was running he was in no shape to be a long distance runner believe me.3 -
HUGS as I think each of us could use one or even two!
We are here for each other. Remember to reach out as needed regardless of what you are going through. YOU are NOT ALONE!
Love you all,
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Worked then soup kitchen. Home to make an apple crumble for Sunday (I’ll just keep it in the fridge.
Will go into work late tomorrow. They say that the delivery is usually around 11, so I figure starting 11:30 I’ll keep texting the manager to see if it came yet. I do have to lector so I would need to leave by 3:30 so I can change. One time before they didn’t order enough and the manager asked me if I could come at 11. That time I said “the soup kitchen starts serving at 11:30” which is true. But also a part of me felt “failure to prepare on your part does not constitute an emergency on my part”. But this time the truck is coming later because of the holiday. They don’t have control over that. Well...they could have ordered extra knowing that there wouldn’t be enough for me for Sat. Next year I’ll remind them to order extra.
M - Where I work, it's about teamwork ... not about winners and losers. We all play an important part. I’m talking children, not adults
We're all vital little pieces of the puzzle. That’s how it is in every company
In many places of employment, if you're someone who shows up regularly and participates, you're an ideal employee! But the boss still expects the work done.
One of the things that really appealed to me about randonneuring/audax (the type of cycling I've been involved in since 2001) is that everyone who finishes the event within the time limit is a winner ... not just the fastest. The challenge is within yourself and with things like your own equipment, the environment, the terrain, etc. ... not against other people. It means that other people can be supportive and encouraging. I’m talking work not leisure
Tracey – I agree with you in that children should learn that the world doesn’t revolve around them. Unfortunately, not all children learn this. Don’t get me wrong, I certainly appreciate the fact that Colby gave me something he thought I’d like. I just don’t know when I’d ever use it. I also think your grandmother would approve of your decision about her dress. It IS lovely, but your proposed use of it sounds like the best way to go. It’s unfortunate no one can fit into it, but these things happen
Barbara – fosamax is also a biphosonate drug with the possibility of osteonecrosis of the jaw. Hmmmmm….. I agree that we all need to do for ourselves what we are comfortable with. Tooth YEAR….lol
Flea – believe it or not, I’ve never heard of xgeva. My injection is once every 6 months. I know reclast is an infusion once/year
Annie – thinking of you
Hey, just thought of something...going into BK later means that I’ll be able to exercise and take my walk. YEEEAAAAA
Rosemarie – funny, we were just talking about hybrids (I don’t own one) and the fact that when we drive to FL, we wouldn’t have to wait hours and hours while the car recharges. It seems a lot of people are finding hybrids a good alternative to an all electric vehicle
Allie – proof that God made puddles for one reason – to be jumped in.
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Hi Gals,
Christmas decorations – I put outside lights up in Nov. BUT don’t light them until 12/1. I get a fresh tree (maybe not next year) so don’t put it up until the 2nd weekend of December and usually take it down the week after new years, as by then it is drying out and is a hazard. Inside non-tree decorations are put up between 12/1 and the tree going up. Everything inside comes down at the same time. The outside lights I may leave a week or two longer, as the darkness of winter is so dreary the lights are a cheerful sight.
Gifts for whatever occasion – the ones I give can be either wants or needs, I prefer to shop from a list provided by the person, but I am also known to listen and take notes all year round on ideas for the folks I do gifts for. I most often put things on my wish list that are closer to need than want. So this year I had waterproof boots (my old ones had given up and could not be repaired – I was making due with my fabric sneakers with double plastic bags over my socks. It works, so not really a need, but I love not having to do the bag system. Good news I did get them. LOL I just went back to my list and the most want leaning item was a battery charger – so I did not have to buy batteries over and over again – and I got that too. I really think this want vs need gifting is tied to the finances of the recipient if they can afford their needs – wants is the way to go, if affording their needs is hard, than a need is a gift that is treasured every time it is used.
Annie – thinking of you. Sending hugs!
Lisa, Machka, and others – short vacation time in the us…. My last employer started you with 3 holidays, 3 sick days, and 5 days of vacation. At 5 years of service you got 1 more holiday (your birthday) and 1 more vacation day, every 5 years after that you added one more vacation day…. It was ridiculous! We all hated it… and voted for a union at about my 4th year working there, I got laid off during my 5th year.
Margaret – good job being DH’s medical advocate!
Pictures Pictures Pictures ! Love them one and all.
Tracey – I love the idea of using Grandma’s wedding dress, but also thought it would be a neat idea to on the back of the wall hanging you are making to put a copy of the pictures (the dress and them) with a little write up of the story. Then the history will not be lost as the wall hanging is passed down.
Lisa – love the sunroom! And yes I agree wood like flooring could be a bit much, I have seen the vinyl in a brick look, which would add to the “sunroom”- greenhouse theme… Very fun that John and gal friend will be a couple of hours away… far enough to call first, close enough to see monthly – and just for dinner LOL! Having skills in the “trades” is always good!!!
Beth – so sorry to hear about your mom…. Hope things are looking up.
Well – now I am caught up on you all, but still need to share my holiday time adventure…. More to come.
Love ya all,
Kim in N. California
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Heather - thank you. Yes this Grandmother was one of my best friends. I miss her so. I grew up right beside her.
A couple of years ago after my family telling me that I did too much for my Grands I told them that she was my role model as a grandmother and I would never do less than she did for me. They’ve all pretty much kept quiet on that subject now and DH has now said she would be proud of who I’ve become. He couldn’t have given me a nicer compliment.
Machka - my cousin said her limbs felt like dead weight with Covid. She thinks her and her DH just had it again, but still invited her son and family for Christmas. SMH I hope they all don’t end up sick although she’s pretty sure she got it from them.
Kylia - is Memorial Day in the States in February?
Annie - I wrote a eulogy for my Dad, my grandmother and my Father in Law.
My Grandmother and I wrote letters back and forth she signed her “Your #1 Grandmother” and I signed mine “Your #1 Granddaughter” (I was her only granddaughter) so for hers I wrote a letter to her telling her how much she meant to me. My youngest daughter read it for me.
My Dad’s I can’t remember right now, I think my daughter read it as well.
My FIL I gave the history of him and his immediate family, where he grew up, his parents, how much he loved his family. My youngest and our youngest niece read one for the grandchildren and great grandchildren and a family friend read one to represent the children.
I think every eulogy is specific to the person and can be whatever you want it to be. I think there are some funerals I’ve attended where there were no eulogies whatsoever.
Hugs to you.
Lisa - I have been thinking about sheet vinyl as flooring for our kitchen area. We do have vinyl plank in the bathroom and really like it. Ours looks like wood. I’m hoping sometime this year to be able to get flooring done.
I keep trying to get my daughter to do something in the trades. I think she would like it because a lot of it is working alone.
Rosemarie - I look pregnant too most of the time. I really need to get into shape before May.
I need to get my foot pain under control before doing anything.
Debbie - my heart hurts for you and your DH. He may need to just walk away from her. No one would blame him.
I took Jonah home today.
That kid just cracks me up.
I had a Hallmark Christmas movie on.
He asks why we’re watching it.
He then goes on to tell me, before I can answer, that they are all the same.
Girl gets fired or is about to be fired from her job. Has to move back home to Merrysville, USA and runs into her forever love, they make cookies, light a tree and bing, bang, boom they’re getting married.
He’s not wrong, but the funny part is they don’t have cable at home and his Mother won’t watch these. Apparently according to his Mother he learns it all from memes. 😂
I have the dress cut and the designs laid out, I should have the pictures done tomorrow
Tracey in Edmonton9 -
I am so glad I had my deviated septum corrected! I have been producing buckets of snot, but I can still breathe! 😤🤢
We had a bag of pears we had to use up, and I've discovered that ripe pears with a scoop of our own honey is a really nice treat that goes down well and leaves my throat feeling smooth rather than scratchy and dry.
We have not been eating much ... I've gone completely off coffee and tea and most of our usual meals. Most things just don't appeal.
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Today’s gratitude: 12/29 for the internet and the ability to research medical practitioners it gives. ;}
Still searching for a word for 2024, maybe “Strengthen”? My body, heart, mind and spirit?
Lutheran Ladies’ grief casserole successful. Many complements and went back for seconds. Grieving family took leftovers. TB suggested we adapt for hungry people casserole-a-thons. I am content.
Machka your “genetic pre-disposition to clotting”, family history or some kind of ?DNA? test?
Ginny “…I think we each need to balance our own risks.” That’s why I’m inclined to let the bones go to avoid the clots/stroke/breast cancer. Sorry to hear your workload will soon increase even more. How’s that retirement date looking?
Annie imho letting the dozen do their two minutes each would give a well rounded view of your mom, and take the pressure off from you.
Margaret “…yes to those that help me feel stronger…” This really resonated with me. Thank you!
Lisa had a strange notion, have you considered artificial turf for flooring the sun room?
Really like Kim’s “brick” or slate look idea.
Rosemarie like you all my weight is in my belly. I’ve looked pregnant since I was a little child :P
Allie one time while driving through Burns OR, we saw a man in the crosswalk, starkers !
Vicki enjoy your days off and lone time.
Rita well done. I’ve gone with Joe to one appointment, but he resists having me along. . .
Heather sure hope your jelly like legs are not Machka’s Covid. :noway:
Debbie prayers, hugs and more prayers. Saying this with love, but have you considered counseling for yourself? You’re going to need it if he follows through with his threats of self-harm. More prayers and more hugs.
Amen, sister, AMEN!HUGS as I think each of us could use one or even two!
We are here for each other. Remember to reach out as needed regardless of what you are going through. YOU are NOT ALONE!
Love you all,
Kylia in Ohio grateful for my lady friends
Michele “…..going into BK later means that I’ll be able to exercise and take my walk. YEEEAAAAA…” Now THAT’s an attitude I’d like to cultivate. Thanks!
Kim “gifting is tied to the finances of the recipient if they can afford their needs – wants is the way to go, if affording their needs is hard, than a need is a gift that is treasured every time it is used.” So very very well said. ((hugs))
Tracey give Rodger a hug for me. That was a wonderfully nice compliment. “Memorial day in the states in February? Nope. Last Monday in May. Poor Kylia, doesn’t get President’s day (February) or Good Friday (March/April) off. The price of family-owned small businesses.
12/29: Move: ZERO sets PT Steps:5650Later, lighter, lovelies!
Fuel: sugar in vs mfp=13 CI<CO net=791 vits=1
Live: Joe, readings, BP, AF, ptT, ptS, casserole prep, dog licenses, check out WRAR thrift store, Porthole café looking for lost check, DS’ memorial service. Wt:132.9
Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD
December: Move more: chair yoga, line dance, dailyish PT, play with dogs.
Fuel better: less sugar, CI<CO, dailyish vitamins.
Live NOW: dailyish time with Joe, readings, meditate 3 minutes/day. Open heart and mind before mouth.
2023: Be of good cheer.
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Hello everyone,
My name is Alison, mid 60s and I live in country Victoria, Australia.
I've come back to here to copy previous success after a long absence dealing with life's challenges.
Logging every day, interacting with other like minded ladies and supporting others does me and others so much good.
Is anyone willing to 'friend' me please?
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Rosemarie-I would (and have) felt horrible with vitamin D at 24-that is barely at the acceptable level. I have had mine plummet to 10 and felt truly miserable. If it is running low that may be part of your fatigue. With my thyroid issues my goal is to keep it closer to 50. Vitamin D has been ignored by many in the medical profession.
Michelle-regarding the tea infuser-I love brewing loose leaf tea. I find the flavors to be richer, I can control the intensity and I avoid the plastics in the tea bags. Maybe get a small pack of loose leaf and give it a try.
Barbara AHMOD-retirement date is looking good. Making schedule this weekend to prioritize items for completion (or nearly so). Am also making arrangements to see cottages they are building at my preferred complex. They have one bed with den or two bedroom and both have attached garage. You still get to use all amenities and can have a varied meal plan option.
Regarding holidays, etc.-I work for government. We get all of the federal holidays (11 of them now), in addition to day after Thanksgiving, Christmas Eve, New Year's Eve). People start earning two weeks vacation per year and can keep three years worth on the books. 15 days sick leave. I accrue 5 weeks vacation a year and have close to 15 weeks banked (I will get paid out at current hourly rate when I retire for that and 1/4 of sick leave up to 240 hours-planning a nice family vacation). The historical view has been that since government doesn't make a profit and your can't always match private sector wages, other benefits are given to balance it out.
Off to balance checkbook (it is Saturday and I got a bit lax over holidays). Special cleaning effort this weekend-I always like to start the New Year with a really clean house. I actually slept the last couple of nights and feel a bit energetic!
Take care all,
Ginny in Ohio6
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