WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR DECEMBER 2023
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Kylia - I use a spray bottle of dish soap, vinegar, rubbing alcohol and water. Good for everything except windows and mirrors.
It smells like window cleaner.
Bicarb and vinegar should not be used together, despite YouTube videos, as one is acid and one alkaline, so they cancel each other out! Both good at separate tasks.
I will see if I can find the exact recipe..
Love Heather UK xxxxxx4 -
Good morning, Collette is coming today so I'm getting things picked up and counters cleaned off.
Rosemarie - isn't this a neat group of gals? Sounds like you have settled on getting some assistance in decluttering.
Also, I am surprised that others think you are up to helping with caregiving at this time. I would have been irked like Machka was. Already busy with her husband and sorting out her own life. Some people are natural born caregivers and would love to be in a position to help, but I don't think I can ever go that route again, although I enjoyed being a hospice volunteer.
Annie - thank you for the update on your mom, I am so happy to hear people are gathering around you in your mom's final days. (((HUGS)))) I would love to sit with your mom and be a companion for your dad during this time. During the final days of my mom's life, my dad was a basket case and he didn't have diagnosed dementia, but his thinking was certainly all messed up. Looking back, I wish I could have done a better job in being a support for him, but I know he appreciated just having me fly back to Indiana and being close.
Before I forget - regarding decluttering - I discovered the "Free Box" outside the dog groomer's, where I'd been dropping off some of my husband's clothing and even food bags, is being constantly raided by a gal who lives across the road from the box. As soon as people drop things off, she scoots over and hauls the nice stuff to her place, sorts through it, sells some things on Ebay and who knows what happens to the rest.
. And here I thought poor people were stopping by to grab a jacket or pair of slippers for themselves. Those of us who thought the same thing aren't too happy about it, and her reasoning is "well, it's free, so why not?" This discussion took place in the community section on Facebook. 
But, I know several other places in town that do have a free monitored clothing bank and I'll just rearrange my schedule and drop items off there since they generally don't open until later in the morning. And I'll still drop off items at the thrift stores that support the senior centers and charities.
Machka - I love the idea of your "ops shop" and "tip shop".
Michele - regarding that shot. My doc says that being around other people and being exposed to their germs actually strengthens our immune system. Maybe that's your doctor's reasoning. I would imagine you, being around a lot of people, have probably been exposed to every germ known to man by now and have generously shared them with Vince.
Better get crackin'. Make it a great day, ladies!
Lanette
SW WA State
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My sink has never been so shiny!!! Cleans most things. For windows and mirrors, leave out the dish soap.
I bought spray bottles from Amazon.
Love Heather UK xxxxxx2 -
Love Heather UK xxxxxx7 -
Hugs to Annie and Rosemary, especially. Such difficult times. Annie, your dad's reaction is heartbreaking. I feel so bad for him and his limited understanding of what is happening. I'm thankful your mom is comfortable. You are doing a lovely service caring for her and your dad during this time. Take care of yourself, too, as you are able.
My mom died a year ago on December 17. The days leading up to that were rough, as I reflected on those final days with her, but I am feeling better now.
Take care everyone.
Flea
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Annie - Glad you have some help, for however small a space of time... Take every bit of time away that you can, and bank your own mental and emotional strength for the days to come.. So many hugs for you and your sister and your dad.
Kylia -My biggest tip for cleaning in the sense you're talking about is to do it in small doses. I have always been reluctant to clean walls, etc., because once I start, it's very hard to stop. It's one of the few true gifts the pain gave me. Now I try to clean a particular space (like one hallway wall, not an entire room) and then I make myself stop. In the past, because I wanted to do a "deep clean," I knew it would take hours. However, I can deep clean one wall and baseboard in five minutes! Hardest lesson I've had to learn, in all actuality. It accomplishes much more, in the end, because I don't end up exhausted and in pain and ignoring it for the next six months, because I want to clean the entire space. When I notice it, I clean it, and then maybe clean another wall tomorrow, or the next day. I can vacuum one room, I don't have to vacuum the whole house! Not saying this is easy--and, because I'm also the queen of procrastination, it's much easier to wait until after Christmas...
Barbara AHMOD - Thank you for the Katla update. I think of her often.
Rosemarie - Well done on the mantelpiece, and on signing up for the decluttering! Every single step is a step forward, and every step forward is a step toward being happy again. I have a feeling you are a very happy person. If you have an iPhone, an Apple watch is a good fit to work on your fitness levels... and if you have a Droid phone, a Fitbit watch is a great fit--I've got mine set to remind me to get up and walk every hour, as well. It does help.
Allie - Perspective is a good thing, but there's no need to apologize for talking about your troubles here. "Shared pain is lessened; shared joy increased..." is a favorite quote. By talking about it here, your pain is lessened, and by listening and responding to others, their pain is also helped. It's also the place to come to share Miles' smiles... and they are such a balm to the heart! It's a great balance, in the end...
Rebecca - Keep forgetting to say that I just loved the pictures of the Christmas lights and you and your friend enjoying yourselves. I love the fact that you've got someone there to enjoy eating out with and spending time driving around to see the lights!
More in a bit...
Love y'all,
Lisa in AR5 -
(((Carol)))
(((Vickie)))
So hard to have loved ones suffering!
Dh has a dental visit tomorrow. They sent a list of procedures to be done as a pre estimate. They listed a fluoride treatment. I told him to tell them NO! He had thyroid issues and cancer. His poor liver has enough to deal with all the pharma they have him taking.
It is hard for me to keep quiet. The more I learn how toxic cancer treatment is the more I would like DH find other treatment. The best I can do for myself is lighten my own exposure to toxins. I have never had a Fluoride treatment at the dentist. There is more than enough in our water. I do not even use toothpaste. I use coconut oil and occasionally baking soda.
I am under 180 now since I started limiting grains. I have eliminated wheat! In the process it does limit sugar too. Sugar is next on the list! If I can stick to it that is better than a Fluoride treatment for my teeth.
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SophieRosieMom wrote: »Carol - so sorry to hear about your BIL. Prayers for you, your husband and the family, they've been through a lot. Hope the lunch with your sis and niece goes well.
Vicki - also sad news about your brother's wife. Hopefully she's under good care and will pull out of it OK.
Rebecca - what a nice picture of you and your friend at lunch. Love your hair, you both looked so happy and relaxed. Nice meals!
Rosemarie - Everyone advised me - don't make any major changes for at least a year after my husband passed. It took me a year and a half to decide I didn't need a lot of this clothing still taking up room in our closet. That was a start and that's enough for now. I sold items taking up space in the shop - his truck, drum collection. They meant nothing to me, had no memories in common. I'm glad I'm able to take my time and take things in stages. It's only in the past couple months that I've felt comfortable saying "my house, my car" instead of "our." Lisa has a great take on your son's and DIL's upcoming visit.
Lisa - hoping the acupuncture kicks in for you.
OK, good visit with Dr. Matt this morning:
He's very supportive of my "House Walking" and said "You're crushing it!". I knew that would be his reaction. He's in his early to mid 40's and it's neat having healthcare providers that could be my kids, LOL. I love his energy.
He said DON'T LOSE WEIGHT! As some of us have discussed in this thread recently, unless there's a medical reason to lose it, focus instead on being active - whatever that means to each of us - the gym, walking, treadmill, whatever resistance type training we can get in ... and eating plenty of protein. Crash-type diets can result in muscle loss (sarcopenia) and we don't want that for many reasons as we get older. That smartbmicalculator.com is right on the money.
We talked about intermittent fasting and I told him I normally have a 12 hour gap between finishing supper and eating breakfast, maybe longer if I'm not hungry for some reason in the morning. He said OK to throw in a 16 hr every once in a while, but for my age, (72) I'm getting plenty of benefits going 12 to 14 hours, no need to be stricter. I told him I'm usually getting at least 80 gm of protein and he said that's great and breakfast is important for me.
We talked about adding heavier weights as I walked. He said when I felt strong enough, it was OK to pick up 8# bar bells in each hand and walk, but he said to do it "farmer style" - just holding them at my sides. And concentrate on good posture.
I showed him what I was doing right now, holding 3# or 5# weights and doing slow bicep curls or other movements with my arms and wrists to strengthen my wrists and biceps. He grabbed the instrument he had to measure my grip (a gripometer? LOL!) - right hand gripped 61 lbs, left hand 30 lbs. No surprise there since I'm right-handed. He said walking and holding heavy weights like that should really improve my hand strength over time and I should be able to unscrew jar lids. A bonus I hadn't thought of.
He takes good notes and went over problems I was having last time - bloating, foot pain which have gotten better.
I see him again in 4 months.
That's a wrap.
Lanette
SW WA State
You should have seen us after we finished!!. Happy ramen food coma.😁🤗. Then as I paid, I picked up some Japanese treats. The bowl of ramen $20, gyoza $15, drink unknown, treats (not saying), paid the 20% tip because you know I was in that happy food coma!! My receipt said $71 and I don't know what happened.😂. Husband was stunned but heck it only happens every couple of months. I have declared her my ramen buddy and we are required to go periodically for my mental health.💖
Rebecca
Whidbey
Wa
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2023 December Kindness
Word of the Year: appreciate—Today I appreciate the Christmas Season.16. Look for something positive to say to everyone you meet today. My goal always!
Meditation: daily. 18/30 (82%(started Feb)(94%,100%, 74%, 93%,100%,100%,100,100,83%
Feeling sick all month. Colitis crap!
Recommended exercise: cardio 5 days 30 min /23
Strength all muscles 2 x 0/8 a week
Flexible (yoga, stretching) /8 a week 10 min
Balance 5 days 10 min /20
1. cut back drinking and limit to 2 days a week. 0/8–(300%,100%,100%,100%,100%)
4 months SOBER!
2. Average 7,000 steps a week. 5907,5777,(7,700,100%-9851,100%-9526,100%-9,559,100%, -8347,100%—7465,100%—6328,90%—6059,87%—6458,92%,-6847,98%-84% 5882-)
3. Update budget every 2 weeks 2/2 (10,00%) 50%
4. Contact close family every week (4x) 229/208—(733%,100% My mom called me for a change, 100%)
5. Contact Donat and sibs once a month (8x)99/96 100%)
6. Weigh less last day of month compared to first until I reach 140. Start at 178.6,176,174.2,173.4,175.4,174,175.6,173.4, 172.2, 173.2, 173.4, 173.4 (600%) 100%,100%
7. Develop a journaling practice by aiming to journal at least 5 days a week. 12/23. (681%,100,100,83)
8. Read 12 books at least this year. 50/12
(100%)
9. Pay off credit card debt by January 2024 by making monthly payments to NDR/Reach Financial 12/12—(100%)
10. Continue building emergency fund at SLFCU (min$25 a month)$25+$25+$71+700+25+25 +25+25 (100%) I put the money in, but end up taking it out.
11. April started putting 4% on income in savings. 700,200,200, 107, 157,0,0,0,0
500%) This has stopped. Spending too much.
January Met —100%
February met —-90%
March met met —-90%
April met——86.36%
May met——-89%
June met—-99%
July met — met 81%
August met—met 99%
September met——99%
October met —90.7%
November met—75%
December met—
1.Spread kindness and share the December calendar with others. Sharing with my MFP friends.
2. Contact someone you can’t be with to see how they are doing. Forgot to do this yesterday. Hope to do it today. I did this on Sunday 12/3.
3. Offer to help someone who is facing difficulties at the moment. Helped my fellow host in learning what to do in 2 separate incidents with campers.
4. Support a campaign, cause, or charity you really care about.
5. Give a gift to someone who is homeless or lonely. Did not do this. No chance to.
6. Leave a positive message for someone else to find. Did this yesterday.
7. Give kind comments to as many people as possible today. I will try. A bit down today. Not feeling well.
8. Do something helpful for a friend or family member. Will do!
9. Notice when you’re hard on yourself or others and be kind instead. I will try to remember.
10. Listen wholeheartedly to others without judging them. I need to learn to do this more.
11. But an extra item and donate to a food bank. Did not have a chance to do this today.
12. Be generous. Feed someone with food, love or kindness today.
13. See how many be people you can smile at today. I didn’t count, but smiled at ask the hospital employees I meet yesterday while getting eye surgery.
14. Share a happy memory or inspiring thought with a loved one. Will do!
15. Say hello to your neighbor and brighten their day. Sounds like a plan for today!
17. Give thanks. List the kind things others have done for you. Will do this in my journal.
18. Ask for help and let someone else know the how of giving.
19. Contact someone who may be alone or feeling isolated.20. Help someone by giving away something you don’t need.
21. Appreciate kindness and thank people who do things for you.
22. Congratulate someone for an achievement that may go unnoticed.
23. Choose to give or receive the gift of forgiveness.
24. Bring joy to others. Share something that made you laugh.
25. Treat everyone with kindness including yourself.
26. Get outside, pick up litter or do something kind for nature.
27. Call a relative who is far away to say hello and have a chat.
28. Be kind to the planet. Eat less meat and use less energy.
29. Turn off digital devices and really listen to people.
30. Let someone know how much you appreciated them and why.
31. Plan some new acts of kindness for 2024.
The results of your personality test are in. Here they are:
Personality type: Logistician (ISTJ-T) Traits: Introverted – 69%, Observant – 58%, Thinking – 75%, Judging – 56%, Turbulent – 54% Role: Sentinel Strategy: Constant Improvement
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LisaInArkansas wrote: »Annie - Glad you have some help, for however small a space of time... Take every bit of time away that you can, and bank your own mental and emotional strength for the days to come.. So many hugs for you and your sister and your dad.
Kylia -My biggest tip for cleaning in the sense you're talking about is to do it in small doses. I have always been reluctant to clean walls, etc., because once I start, it's very hard to stop. It's one of the few true gifts the pain gave me. Now I try to clean a particular space (like one hallway wall, not an entire room) and then I make myself stop. In the past, because I wanted to do a "deep clean," I knew it would take hours. However, I can deep clean one wall and baseboard in five minutes! Hardest lesson I've had to learn, in all actuality. It accomplishes much more, in the end, because I don't end up exhausted and in pain and ignoring it for the next six months, because I want to clean the entire space. When I notice it, I clean it, and then maybe clean another wall tomorrow, or the next day. I can vacuum one room, I don't have to vacuum the whole house! Not saying this is easy--and, because I'm also the queen of procrastination, it's much easier to wait until after Christmas...
Barbara AHMOD - Thank you for the Katla update. I think of her often.
Rosemarie - Well done on the mantelpiece, and on signing up for the decluttering! Every single step is a step forward, and every step forward is a step toward being happy again. I have a feeling you are a very happy person. If you have an iPhone, an Apple watch is a good fit to work on your fitness levels... and if you have a Droid phone, a Fitbit watch is a great fit--I've got mine set to remind me to get up and walk every hour, as well. It does help.
Allie - Perspective is a good thing, but there's no need to apologize for talking about your troubles here. "Shared pain is lessened; shared joy increased..." is a favorite quote. By talking about it here, your pain is lessened, and by listening and responding to others, their pain is also helped. It's also the place to come to share Miles' smiles... and they are such a balm to the heart! It's a great balance, in the end...
Rebecca - Keep forgetting to say that I just loved the pictures of the Christmas lights and you and your friend enjoying yourselves. I love the fact that you've got someone there to enjoy eating out with and spending time driving around to see the lights!
More in a bit...
Love y'all,
Lisa in AR
We both have spouses that would probably slow to 40 mph and say ooh once and be done with it. So yes we got to enjoy them, heck even get out of the car! 😁
Rebecca
Whidbey
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Hugs to all that are having to deal with things.💖. You are all my heros, and have my admiration, and caring thoughts.
Rebecca
Whidbey
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Recent painting my sister did.💖😁
Rebecca
Whidbey
Wa
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Barbara Somehow I missed the Katla update, could you re-post please?
Matcha We have been watching Christmas movies since the day after Thanksgiving! At least one a day. There are a few Christmas Action (Die Hard) and some horrors to appease DH. I tend to start or watch the comedies and romances when DH is not inside.
Annie go slow girl and be sure to take care of yourself too. Having 2 parents living with you, both with different issues must be extremely stressful. Talk to us anytime. Friend me if you want to talk via text rather than this group. (Kevrit).
RVRita5 -
Only 2 things today but good ones!
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Miles at daycare making ornaments!!
Morning ladies
Well I took a tumble,this day hasn't been great.
I brought Alfie over to visit Tom after the groomer.Well found out the groomer cut to low on the quick and he was bleeding all over..so Tom and I were running around cleaning it up.
They got me a basket with all sorts of goodies so i have Alfie on the leash and,the basket and I trip on the sidewalk and go down.
I have a hematoma on my upper chest from where it hit something in the basket,and other than that im just sore.
But im so out of shape that I had to crawl to the car and climb in,dont have the strength to get up off my knees.
So tylenol and rest is for me today
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Grandmallie: What a miserable thing..taking a tumble. It is a relief that no bones are broken. I hope the tylenol helps and that you are able to rest.
Best,
Rosemarie from Georgia1 -
Gratitudes:
Tuesday 12/12: Dentist can see me tomorrow.
Rebecca con VERY gratulations to your middle son for his accomplishment!
Rita good catch and good reminder.
Lisa, really hope the acupuncture gives you some relief. Beautiful pottery especially the bowl.
Pip
the googly eyed reindeer on your fingernail. ((hugs)) for the hard season memories.
Tracey well done on revising the presentation. Perfect mark? Of course!
Heather “some kind of genius” John with the grands, sounds about right. Your huge silver Indian balls and twigs decoration sounds lovely, crisp and wintry. Hope you posted a pic…
Machka lunch WITH your unit AND designed a db to improve the work? Well done!
Annie hope Heather’s suggestions resonate and lift your load, especially asking the people at your Dad’s church for help. People appreciate the opportunity to help when it comes with direction…
Lanette ((hugs)) for your community, what a sad time.
Lisa I’m with you on the patience with kids scale. Happy to drop in my my god daughter and her six, but an hour is about my limit. Way cool bellbottoms!
Kim “hogwash” about the stages of grief, and pips “…no timetable to get over grief” Truth.
Allie bittersweet memories of Talia before teenage years.
Pg 31 bottom but chime reminded me time to get up and move!12/11: Move: ZERO sets PT, , line dance class, Jeopardy walking. Steps:8006
Fuel: sugar in vs mfp=18, CI<CO net=370, vits=0.5
Live: Joe, readings, BP, ptT, ptS, packed goodies and got into mail, one load laundry Wt: 131.8
Later, lighter, lovelies!
Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD
December: Move more: chair yoga, line dance, dailyish PT, play with dogs.
Fuel better: less sugar, CI<CO, dailyish vitamins.
Live NOW: dailyish time with Joe, readings, meditate 3 minutes/day. Open heart and mind before mouth.
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Oh no Allie! Please rest. Tylenol and ice.
Heather Thank you for that recipe. It is doable.
Lisa I am trying to remember to do small things (one bite). Like clearing off a counter and wiping it down. I tend to all or nothing-smh.
Kylia enjoying sunshine through the windows in Ohio
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Whidislander wrote: »Recent painting my sister did.💖😁
Rebecca
Whidbey
Wa
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