I wanna give up. I love eating, I don't like walking
aleena2975
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Ugh, and the numbers game with my calories and macros is annoying. I'll admit in my previous routine sometimes I ate badly because I am a foodie. However in this new phase of losing weight (again) my eating is very healthy. I have minimal adjustments I have to make with regards to getting rid of unhealthy snacks or candy.
But even though I eat healthy and attend a workout class that I mostly love (some days it does feel too hard), I still have to adjust how MUCH I eat. Even at 1600 calories, I can't enjoy the amount of carbs I want because of my damn exercise bar I ate this morning. All a girl wants is some rice for dinner. But my macros aren't allowing for it. It feels exhausting to be so on top of my game and always searching for the perfect snacks I can fit into my diet, and then how to manage my dinners accordingly. Last night I wasn't hungry but I still had a hard time sleeping as my dinner was extremely low carb (I had already eaten my carbs for the day so I had cauliflower rice).
If you think this is a hangry rant you are also wrong. I just had the most delicious chobani flip yogurt after my lunch, which, as you could've probably guessed, puts me over my cal limit by 160. I'm annoyed. It seems my old no tracking methods of eating much less than I normally do was more effective and easier than having to think about what I can have all the time. It's also annoying because calorie restriction allows you to have some things, but also restricts so it's not too much. In a restriction mindset (low carb, eat minimally) you can't have MOST things, so you don't really get false hope. Restriction can also last for a short few weeks while you rapidly loose the weight. In this "healthier" method I am trying, I wait 6 weeks to see if a pound will come off. And then I get taunted by my gym to "accept the number" or "not focus on the number" or "focus on the clothes size going down" but never to actually get the number down too!
Also, how the hell do I fit in a daily walk. I love laying down or just sitting!
Sincerely,
Frustrated Frannie
But even though I eat healthy and attend a workout class that I mostly love (some days it does feel too hard), I still have to adjust how MUCH I eat. Even at 1600 calories, I can't enjoy the amount of carbs I want because of my damn exercise bar I ate this morning. All a girl wants is some rice for dinner. But my macros aren't allowing for it. It feels exhausting to be so on top of my game and always searching for the perfect snacks I can fit into my diet, and then how to manage my dinners accordingly. Last night I wasn't hungry but I still had a hard time sleeping as my dinner was extremely low carb (I had already eaten my carbs for the day so I had cauliflower rice).
If you think this is a hangry rant you are also wrong. I just had the most delicious chobani flip yogurt after my lunch, which, as you could've probably guessed, puts me over my cal limit by 160. I'm annoyed. It seems my old no tracking methods of eating much less than I normally do was more effective and easier than having to think about what I can have all the time. It's also annoying because calorie restriction allows you to have some things, but also restricts so it's not too much. In a restriction mindset (low carb, eat minimally) you can't have MOST things, so you don't really get false hope. Restriction can also last for a short few weeks while you rapidly loose the weight. In this "healthier" method I am trying, I wait 6 weeks to see if a pound will come off. And then I get taunted by my gym to "accept the number" or "not focus on the number" or "focus on the clothes size going down" but never to actually get the number down too!
Also, how the hell do I fit in a daily walk. I love laying down or just sitting!
Sincerely,
Frustrated Frannie
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Dear frustrated Frannie: lose the extra restrictions and concentrate on what matters.
Low carb of high carb may change your water weight in the short term; but long term your fat deposits will change based on your excess or reduced calories.
Period. Full stop.
Make your choices so that you get the best bang for your buck based on your budget.
If you get a Gucci bag, you may not be able to pay rent or get a cab or gas for your car.... because you've blown your budget and spent all your 🤑 money.
So, I eat candy bars and cauliflower rice because I prefer candy bars and cauliflower rice and being within my budget to eating regular rice and no candy bars while still being in my budget, or to eating real rice and candy bars but being over my budget.
It's a free world and we make choices. It does take a while to figure out which ones work best for us as individuals and that's ok. At least we're working at it! 👍
As to where you find time to do the new things you want to do the answer is the same as when you evaluate the benefits of mayo vs mustard for the calories.
Sometimes mayo calories are worth it and sometimes they're not.
We grow. We change. Our priorities change.
Part of this self experiment is to figure out which aspects of life you're willing to change and exchange/trade for other stuff you would prefer doing
If nothing changes in your life the inclination for your weight to continue on its previous trajectory will also not change.
Clean slate and goal oriented.
Everything is on the chopping block and up for re-consideration.
Keep the keepers and swap in the new foods and activities that will help you reach your goals and help you continue to achieve them in the future too. And slowly change to where your new reduced weight is the result of your default choices
I know you can! 😎👍
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It is possible to ignore macros for the sake of commitment and just stick to your calorie allotment.3
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I'll just throw this in - don't let yourself become a slave to your tools. Use the tools that work but throw away the ones that don't.
Focus on your overall diet, aim for a target range of calories and choose a few things to focus on. For me it is sugar, fiber, and protein, and an effort to hydrate better. For everything else, it is what it is. It's a recipe for insanity to try to make everything on the chart turn out just right every day.6 -
You're making this too complicated and awful. Forget calories and carbs.
Go on a 30 minute walk every day.
Make sure your first meal is mostly protein.
Don't eat heavy carbs (rice, pasta, potatoes) for dinner.
Do that for a month and see where you are. I bet happier and healthier.3 -
Eat what you want when you want - just stick to your overall calorie goal. If you WANT “heavy” carbs in the evening then eat them! (Carbs at dinner are not evil, people!)You're making this too complicated and awful. Forget calories and carbs.
Go on a 30 minute walk every day.
Make sure your first meal is mostly protein.
Don't eat heavy carbs (rice, pasta, potatoes) for dinner.
Do that for a month and see where you are. I bet happier and healthier.
As an example: I eat a carb- heavy diet (currently 200-250g per day, but it’s not unusual to go over 300g on some days). I am now in maintenance but I lost weight eating high carb and lower fat - personally I am not a fan of high fat foods, so I ate what felt good to me. For weight loss the overall calorie intake is what matters. For health you need adequate protein and fats, and for satiety you need to find what works for you. Sounds to me like you need more carbs to feel full. Why not try that for a while and see how you go?
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Then give up.
Or don't walk if you don't like it. The calorie expenditure for walking is rather low anyway. Find an activity you enjoy for health, not for weightloss.
Eat the way you enjoy eating, even if it's 60% carbs. There's no problem with that. Macros are totally unimportant for weightloss. Yeah, they are important for satiety and for being happy, but which macros do that for someone is totally individual.
In summary: All you need is a calorie deficit. No special macros needed, no exercise. And if you exercise then you should eat at least a part of the exercise calories back, provided your tracking is on track and you're not overeating accidentally.5 -
Addition: Don't make this harder for yourself. Find the easiest and most enjoyable way to lose the weight, really.2
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Per you
"I'm annoyed. It seems my old no tracking methods of eating much less than I normally do was more effective and easier than having to think about what I can have all the time"
Go back to your old method then. No one decides on your macros but you. Low carb is NOT the only way to lose weight.
"Also, how the hell do I fit in a daily walk. I love laying down or just sitting!"
If you don't want to go for a walk, just try to be more active in general (fidgety - embrace little ways to move more) and get some extra steps that way. There are threads on NEAT, check them out, some of the ideas are asinine (imo), but other suggestions aren't bad - the old mantra of "park farther away when you shop" for example.2 -
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^^This.It is possible to ignore macros for the sake of commitment and just stick to your calorie allotment.
No lecture from me. I get it. It's SUPER hard for me to stick to my calories and I lost all my weight 16 years ago - so it didn't really get easier by much. I mean, I'm still in my chosen weight range and I still over-eat frequently. One thing that helped was I've set my daily calorie goal to 500 calories less than I know I can eat. Those red numbers kinda work on me.
It's hard to wrangle that ego.
Keep going. Slow weight loss is still weight loss.6 -
LOL, right after I posted that I went to my meditation site for my daily thought...this is it:Thought for the Day
Saturday 29 June
It is permissible to take life's blessings with both hands provided thou dost know thyself prepared in the opposite event to take them just as gladly. This applies to food and friends and kindred, to anything God gives and takes away.
— Meister Eckhart
Eknath Easwaran's Commentary:
In order to live in freedom, we must learn to accept a temporary disappointment, if necessary, when it is for our permanent well-being. Sometimes, when we want to eat something that appeals to us, or when we want to eat a little more than is necessary, we can’t help feeling disappointment as we push away from the table. We cannot help thinking that we could as well have stayed on for five more minutes of pleasure, forgetting that it would probably be followed by five hours of stomachache at night. The right time to get up from the meal is when we want just a little more. This is real artistry, real gourmet judgment: when we find that everything is so good that we would like to have one more helping, we get up and walk away.
The Thought for the Day is today's entry from Eknath Easwaran's Words to Live By.
https://www.bmcm.org/inspiration/thought-day/it-is-permissible-to-take-lifes-blessing/0 -
What happens if you give up? You'll only resort to just getting heavier and risking higher health issues.
Mentality is usually the main issue people fail at weight loss. You have to wrap your head around thinking that you DON'T need to eat so much and that you DON'T need to fully satisfy your food cravings day in and out.
As for walking, you SET A TIME and just do it. There's really no other way around it. If you work a job where you have to be behind a desk all day, there are now slim line walkers that can be used at stand up desks.
But you HAVE TO WANT TO DO IT. If not, then it's just going to be an effort in vain.
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Dear frustrated Frannie: lose the extra restrictions and concentrate on what matters.
Low carb of high carb may change your water weight in the short term; but long term your fat deposits will change based on your excess or reduced calories.
Period. Full stop.
Make your choices so that you get the best bang for your buck based on your budget.
If you get a Gucci bag, you may not be able to pay rent or get a cab or gas for your car.... because you've blown your budget and spent all your 🤑 money.
So, I eat candy bars and cauliflower rice because I prefer candy bars and cauliflower rice and being within my budget to eating regular rice and no candy bars while still being in my budget, or to eating real rice and candy bars but being over my budget.
It's a free world and we make choices. It does take a while to figure out which ones work best for us as individuals and that's ok. At least we're working at it! 👍
As to where you find time to do the new things you want to do the answer is the same as when you evaluate the benefits of mayo vs mustard for the calories.
Sometimes mayo calories are worth it and sometimes they're not.
We grow. We change. Our priorities change.
Part of this self experiment is to figure out which aspects of life you're willing to change and exchange/trade for other stuff you would prefer doing
If nothing changes in your life the inclination for your weight to continue on its previous trajectory will also not change.
Clean slate and goal oriented.
Everything is on the chopping block and up for re-consideration.
Keep the keepers and swap in the new foods and activities that will help you reach your goals and help you continue to achieve them in the future too. And slowly change to where your new reduced weight is the result of your default choices
I know you can! 😎👍
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Great advice!! I needed to hear that today. Thank you!1 -
Hmm, doesn't look like @aleena2975 is going to come back. I wanted to ask her why she thought she HAS to eat low carb.
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But my macros aren't allowing for it. It feels exhausting to be so on top of my game and always searching for the perfect snacks I
Have you heard the adage - don't let perfect be the enemy of good?
It seems to me you are trying too hard to make this perfect and then you feel like giving up because it is not
It doesnt have to be perfect - it just has to be good enough.
Don't go low carb if that doesn't suit you - just aim to be round about the recomended macro mix most days and close to your calories most days
and if you want rice for dinner, have it (obviously i n sensible amounts)
My thought about daily walk is to try to make it a small habit that grows - maybe set yourself the target of doing a 10 minute walk every second day - or something like that - and build it up.1 -
Make sure your first meal is mostly protein.
Don't eat heavy carbs (rice, pasta, potatoes) for dinner.
Not neccesary.
I eat weetbix for breakfast nearly every day and most days I would have pasta or potatoes or rice (sometimes more than 1 of these) in my dinner each night
It is your overall diet that matters, not what you eat when or exactly what foods you eat.1 -
Since no one else is saying it…
Everyone here knows the basics of a low cal diet and exercise.
If you don’t want to do, then you won’t.
Suck it up buttercup.
Sincerely,
Thread Jerk6 -
If you give up, you will most likely end up like me. Angry at yourself, depressed and VERY unhealthy!
I lost 100 lbs a few years back.. by being lazy, making excuse after excuse and totally giving up, I gained 80 of it back. I went from my healthiest in my life to absolute S*** again. All that hard work down the drain. It's very easy just to throw in the towel and give into temptations, but so rewarding when you don't. The stats don't lie and I am a stat. most gain all their weight back because they GAVE UP.
This all being said, I am on my way back down again watching the intake and exercising every day. You have to just get through each day and within no time it will be routine....anyone can find time for a 30 min workout. I spend more time caring for my teeth. It's your choice, your life, what do you want out of it?2
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