Strip clubs for married men?

Ok I don't want this thread to be shut down so plz be good Just curious.. A newlywed friend had this issue & it sparked a huge debate w/ my HB tonight. Do u feel strip clubs are okay for married men/women? What about a club vs. a hotel room? Would love some input from you all

Ohhhh here we go This is a good one.

My personal opinion... sure it's FINE... guys watch porn all the time. BUT personal lap dances are not okay, especially behind closed doors (the dirty strip clubs.) Club is fine.. Hotel room I'm iffy about though.

Yes sure why not? Hell sometimes my wife and go for the fun of it. in fact we're going this Sat.

My husband and I both enjoy a strip club occasionally (together and apart). We don't care where we get the appetite as long as we eat at home. It's a fun evening for a bachelor(ette) party or an occasional wild hair type fun. No touching allowed on our parts (our rule even if the club allows it).

Just not a big deal IMO. We've been married 10 years, have an almost 5 year old son.

Every relationship has rules, knowing them up front and what is non-negotiable is what's important, for us this just isn't a big deal.

Not on a regular basis, but for a friend's bachelor party or whatever, find. And yeah, clubs are WAY better than hotel rooms, or personal in-home strippers.

i think its pretty lame to have to do, you could spend that money on better things and if he really wanted to see someone strip he could buy a pole to instal and some fun outfits for you and watch you shake it lol :P would have a much happyer ending

At the end of the day you either trust them or you don't. You don't need strip clubs to cheat.

I've been to strip clubs with my ex-hubby, he's been with out me, I think it becomes an issue when it starts to be a regular thing.

If you believe your fella shouldn't be allowed to go get a lap dance from a woman at a club (who could care less about him anyways), you better not be burying your nose in love novels! That would be hypocritical.

If he wants to go, he WILL go, with or without your knowledge. May as well make peace with the idea and consider going with him. If he has a habit about going, then you may wish to re-evaluate your relationship.

Personally, I lost interest in going after a mere 20 or 30 visits.

Awh man, this topic is getting more hits than my toilet paper debate. :grumble:

Ok I don't want this thread to be shut down so plz be good Just curious.. A newlywed friend had this issue & it sparked a huge debate w/ my HB tonight. Do u feel strip clubs are okay for married men/women? What about a club vs. a hotel room? Would love some input from you all

Ohhhh here we go This is a good one.

My personal opinion... sure it's FINE... guys watch porn all the time. BUT personal lap dances are not okay, especially behind closed doors (the dirty strip clubs.) Club is fine.. Hotel room I'm iffy about though.

Agree

I don't think it's a problem if you only go once or twice a night.

I honestly think its normal. I actually go to strip clubs with my fiance. But my fiance is not the first male I've gone to strip clubs with. I've also gone with my ex boyfriend, and two close male friends. Its really all in good fun. Or at least with me, its always been in good fun. Honestly, my fiance and my ex both have said that strips clubs are fun with me because I interact with the strippers. And get them free lap dances. ;-)

Nope.
Yea, I'm the crazy ***** that dragged my fiance (then boyfriend) out of a strip club. and he's never been again. His friends (and their wives) adore me and tell me anything and everything. He's never been to another strip club since. It was a topless only club and all the strippers were young moms with the FUPA, c-section scars and saggy boobs. It's still a strip club to me, no matter how you paint it.

Everyone has their own opinion on the matter but it makes me uncomfortable. Not that he would touch the strippers, even when he was single I don't know that he ever had a lap dance, it just makes me uncomfortabl. This was made clear before we even started seeing each other so he knew exactly how strongly I felt about it. I expect the same respect I give to you.

Let me tell ya girls .. A strip club is much 'safer' for a married man than a regular bar. There are rules of conduct in a strip bar .. Patrons are there to look, enjoy the show and socialize amongst themselves. A bar, on the otherhand .. many more predators on the loose.

Now having said that .. there is a level of trust that 'should' be enjoyed between two married or even commited people .. It shouldn't matter if they are in a grocery store in a room full of nekid women .. A little self control can preserve a marriage for .. well .. for ever!

First off, think of the industry they are in. They are just doing their "job' The girls have no interest in hooking up the the guys. I go maybe once a year and even then its with my wife. We have both had private dances and are fine with it. Would I go alone? Yes, but I would let my wife know and have absolutely no doubt it would be ok.