Do you think you're attractive?

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  • catshark209
    catshark209 Posts: 1,133 Member
    Not so much. While I have a tiny waist and am thin, I don't' feel attractive. Not due to my weight but because I am very socially awkward and introverted.
    So I HATE it when people assume because of my body, I have men falling all over me, or say I'm "lucky". Try freezing up in a crowded party and being the dork that can talk about the Fallout universe for hours on end.

    Fallout ♥

    I just finished the last DLC too. :smile:
  • porffor
    porffor Posts: 1,210 Member
    Honestly no. I'm nearly 40 have been overweight since my late teens and my body shows that fact. I know there are features about me that guys have in the past found attractive and certainly my husband loves me but I don't look in the mirror and think I look good.
    My goal is to be in tiny jeans or jodphurs and feel good.. what I look like when I take them off well that I will ignore that.
  • Magnolea
    Magnolea Posts: 9
    I believe that being attractive is about having the right attitude. No matter how much weight we put off, if we dont see us as what we are really inside, We'll never be attractive.

    Learn to love ourself with what we have, and add a personal touch to it to make us original. I found myself attractive when I was 262 pounds and still now at 176..

    But its now about the weight I lost, its about the new attitude toward life I have.
  • XxXskinnyMiniXxX
    XxXskinnyMiniXxX Posts: 325
    I have days when I feel like I'm one hot b****, and other days when I can't stand to look at myself in the mirror. For the most part, though, I feel pretty average. Not too bad, but not as good I as I want to look.
    Exactly me lol
  • catshark209
    catshark209 Posts: 1,133 Member
    I was a very homely child and had beautiful sisters and gorgeous friends. I know logically that I have grown into my features and my hubby assures me that he thinks I am stunning, and I do get compliments from people, but I can't see what they see, I guess. Probably stinkin' thinkin' left over from my childhood, but no, I don't really think I'm attractive.

    That's how I was too. I'm an only child but my cousins and friends are all good looking and I was always awkward and bony. I had braces, glasses, and wore dorky clothes. Think headgear people.
  • Puggy33
    Puggy33 Posts: 300
    I find myself to be most attractive when i'm conversating and smiling alot, or sometimes it's as easy as putting on an outfit that fits me real well and it's like "damn, man, why can't you be this sexy all the time!" I mean my face is out there towards a 6 out of 10 with my body currently like a 4/10. If I felt I was attractive I most likely wouldn't have signed up to this site searching for an answer and some motivation, but i'm on a good path so far. Just gotta get my body to match this personality then i'll def be a trouble maker!

    :)
  • foodluver27
    foodluver27 Posts: 129
    I usually think I am just average although when I get "dressed up" I do feel attractive. I think we all have days when we just do not wanna look in the mirror but we were all fearfully and wonderfully made so on those not so hot feeling days I remind myself that I was made just the way I was supposed to be and someone always thinks I'm beautiful and you are too!

    I feel like this exactly! It's amazing what some cute clothes, make-up (imo) and high heels can do to a women's confidence..plus I have a wonderful husband who is always giving me compliments..even though over the years I used to not believe him but it is becoming easier for me to. I have always had some insecurities but don't we all?!
  • quigonnjae
    quigonnjae Posts: 399
    no not really .. probably below average at best
  • MindyG150
    MindyG150 Posts: 1,296 Member
    I sooooo agree! Not cute, not skinny, not smart, I am my own worst critic! I used to think I was overweight and I so was not! We need to stop listening to us :)
  • CoryIda
    CoryIda Posts: 7,870 Member
    I was a very homely child and had beautiful sisters and gorgeous friends. I know logically that I have grown into my features and my hubby assures me that he thinks I am stunning, and I do get compliments from people, but I can't see what they see, I guess. Probably stinkin' thinkin' left over from my childhood, but no, I don't really think I'm attractive.

    That's how I was too. I'm an only child but my cousins and friends are all good looking and I was always awkward and bony. I had braces, glasses, and wore dorky clothes. Think headgear people.
    I didn't have braces or glasses to blame my awkwardness on (although I was painfully shy). Instead, I was 5'10" before I was 12 years old, had so many freckles that they formed a Charlie Chaplin-like "mustache" above my lip, and had strawberry blonde/strawberry brown eyelashes and eyebrows... in other words, my eyebrows and eyelashes were basically the same color as my skin, so I looked like a freckled giant with two dark brown blobs where my eyes were... Oh, and don't forget the tiny mouth and pointy chin.
    On the plus side -- at least I always had nice teeth and pretty ears. It's not much, but it's something.
  • voluptas63
    voluptas63 Posts: 602 Member
    I don't think, I know.
  • catshark209
    catshark209 Posts: 1,133 Member
    I had that snorty shrieky laugh. Oh and I had a boy's bowl haircut.
    Ya'll beat that!
  • quigonnjae
    quigonnjae Posts: 399
    I had that snorty shrieky laugh. Oh and I had a boy's bowl haircut.
    Ya'll beat that!

    I think my asthma , allergies , horrible eczema and lack coordination contributed to my overall perception of myself
  • Molly_Louise
    Molly_Louise Posts: 503
    I've just read most of the replies since my reply this thread and your responses are interesting.

    It's odd how we all have different perceptions of ourself. I wish my perception of myself would change, ah well. Can't win 'em all I guess.
  • anitacar
    anitacar Posts: 3
    I think I have a pretty face but the rest of me needs to catch up.
  • LovahLaura
    LovahLaura Posts: 43
    I think my face is attractive, just as long as I don't get a double chin. I have very clear skin so I'm lucky in that way. But I think I have the most disgusting looking body. And it only recently started looking bad (within the past 2 1/2 years). I've gained about 30 lbs. and I have stretch marks on my hips and parts of my buttox. The celeulite doesn't help the situation either. I don't know how to make those issues go away once I do lose a significant amount of weight. :frown:
  • hrobinson416
    hrobinson416 Posts: 207 Member
    Most definitely not. And I have had lots of people who have been oh so willing to randomly confirm this for me. It sucks but ah well its life. Not everyone can be pretty :-) The good news is...I make everyone else look alot better haha.
  • DWilbanks
    DWilbanks Posts: 420 Member
    today I feel attractive...I lost 4 more lbs..ummm talk to me again next monday weigh day and I'll give you another opinion...LOL
  • hrobinson416
    hrobinson416 Posts: 207 Member
    I wonder if it has a lot to do with where you are from, how old you are and what you believe/faith. There's something inside of a lot of people that makes them dismiss what people say. I mean for example, your parents saying you are beautiful/pretty. I see that as something they are programmed to say anyway because you are their child and at the end of the day you have their attributes.

    I think you're going about that all wrong. Belief in our own beauty and self-worth has to start as a child and from the people who count; if not, we give it up to the first person who tells us and is usually not worthy. From the time my girls (twin daughters) were born, I have told them how beautiful they are AND I told them to not listen to anyone who tells them otherwise because my opinion is the only one that counts. Neither of them are vain, nor are they insecure. Too often, as a teacher, I see young ladies whose parents never/rarely told them their worth. These girls then cling to the first guy (regardless of age, aspirations, looks, anything) who tells them they're pretty.

    Being fat hasn't made me unattractive, being fat made me unhealthy.

    I agree with the response here. My parents did the opposite of the above and they flat out told me I was ugly. This was their honest attempt to prepare me for my future. To them a woman's worth and ability to find a mate was 100% based on her looks. So, they expected I would never marry and they wanted me to be prepared for this fact. Of course I am married, and I even managed to squeek out a couple of kids. Trust me, my parents are shocked by this turn of events and they praise my husband for his ability to look beyond the physical and somehow find something redeemable about me.(sigh). I tell my sons daily that they are handsome and amazing. It is so important to instill in chidlren that they are amazing. It does not take much to instill someone with self esteem.


    I was a gorgous baby and child....my parents tried to play it down because they were afraid I would be vain.....I had never really thought about my looks until I was told just how ugly I had become. ;-\ It certainly hasnt improved over the years, and I was very healthy and skinny. People would stare at me - thats how ugly I was. Now that Im heavier - its awful being in a public place. People are mean. And you shouldnt listen to your parents....I dont think you are ugly.
  • LuluGirl140
    LuluGirl140 Posts: 364 Member
    This is a difficult question. Some days I feel attractive, other days I don't. If you don't really know me, you'd think I was super confident. In all honesty, I think I'm ok looking. I think I can look attractive if I get dolled up. I do think I have a nice figure, just need to work on the spare tire around my midsection. So, I guess it depends on my mood. Yes and No. LOL!
  • Andythefitfamilyman
    Andythefitfamilyman Posts: 420
    Thor dont think so but thor wife does, dont know why
  • Shannonigans84
    Shannonigans84 Posts: 693 Member
    I feel like I'm getting better with age, so I'm much more confident now than I was 5 years ago. Sure there are days when I don't feel good about myself, but overall I'm happy with the way I am.
  • dckim
    dckim Posts: 311 Member
    I think we live in a youth and beauty obsessed hyper consumption culture. Way we look (superficial vanity) is a small part of what makes us unique. :flowerforyou:
  • stardozer
    stardozer Posts: 180
    No... I don't feel like I'm attractive at all. In fact, I feel like I'm very fat and ugly :/

    Same very same.
  • amandavictoria80
    amandavictoria80 Posts: 734 Member
    No, I don't really have attractive features. But I've made peace with that fact a long time ago. Everyone can't be Julia Roberts.

    Well, I think you do and that you are pretty.

    Personally, there is no way I would want to look like Julia Roberts. I just don't find her to be attractive in the least bit. To each their own I guess. :)
  • dmpizza
    dmpizza Posts: 3,321 Member
    I am a decent looking guy.
  • MikeSEA
    MikeSEA Posts: 1,074 Member
    Meh, I'd do me.
  • EmpressOfJudgment
    EmpressOfJudgment Posts: 1,162 Member
    I think we live in a youth and beauty obsessed hyper consumption culture. Way we look (superficial vanity) is a small part of what makes us unique. :flowerforyou:
    I think you are absolutely right. they go hand in hand as we women help drive the economy with our beauty products and accessories.
  • XxXskinnyMiniXxX
    XxXskinnyMiniXxX Posts: 325
    I feel attractive from the neck up lol neck down I feel gross
  • amandavictoria80
    amandavictoria80 Posts: 734 Member
    Unfortunately, no, not at all. I have some self esteem issues and believe myself to be very unattractive. Especially because of being over weight.

    There are very few days that I wake up feeling attractive. And even on those days it doesn't last too long. As soon as I have to go anywhere or I see beautiful women on TV, that feeling is completely ruined.
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