How long have you been single for?

I've been single about 7-8 months. Why? Because I've grown to accept that most people can't handle me. I have all my *kitten* together and I want my partner to have his together as well. You'd think this would be easier to come by, but it's not.

That, and apparently the guys who think they can handle me live all the way in California. *evil eye*

I totally get that.... I've spent time figuring out me, I'm strong and confident in who I am and apparantly that is now more of an issue when I was scared and insecure!! LOL!! I know that I expect people to live up to the same standards that I hold myself up to, but its no easy find, and I'm not prepared to settle.

That is it. Exactly. I don't like feeling like I have to teach my partner so much. Naturally we're going to learn from each other, of course, but I don't like to be in the position of constant frustration because he's still figuring himself out. He will end up inevitably frustrated because he doesn't know what he doesn't know about himself.

I don't *like* being single because I love having a relationship and someone to nuggle with and talk about our days and watch tv, but at the same time, I'd rather be single than in a bad relationship.

This! Exactly. I've been single for 16 months, I'd say mutual decision to most people, but really it was me pulling the plug. I'm not rushing to find a new guy because A) I don't need one, I'm working on getting myself together/ being happy with me and C) my life's a bit complicated right now anyway, don't have the time or energy for all the potential emotional... stuff, stress, that goes with starting to date someone.

Just over 4 years :frown:

4 years.

I'm I the only one who gets really f*n po'd at people rubbing their relationships in your face? Great, you're in mutual lust and are happy... good for you. I don't need to see it day in and day out, I don't need to see it at all! I don't need to be reminded that I'm flying solo with no parachute. Grrrr....

I'm I the only one who gets really f*n po'd at people rubbing their relationships in your face? Great, you're in mutual lust and are happy... good for you. I don't need to see it day in and day out, I don't need to see it at all! I don't need to be reminded that I'm flying solo with no parachute. Grrrr....

Actually it makes me happy, kinda reminds me what it was like to have those feelings and happy that other people are experiencing that. Sure there is a cynical side to me that has thoughts in the back of my mind like "enjoy it while it lasts" but for the most part, I'm happy that others experience that and hold out hope that maybe one day I will be lucky enough to have that feeling again!

That is EXACTLY how I feel about it. To the word.

For about 8 months now, and haven't found anyone worth spending any time with.

4 years and counting. Unless you count the guy I went on 2 dates with 2 months ago. I'm happy being single but would prefer to be in a relationship (i just like the companionship). The guys that hit on me do so in a way that I would never consider dating them. And I've always been the girl that guys love being friends with but would never date.

More than 12 years... I expect to stay that way. I haven't been looking, and I don't really intend to. The reasons are complicated, and I don't hate men, at ALL, but I'm simply not going there, any more.

I got divorced in February...so...7 months. I dated a few guys since the divorce but none became my bf. Being single isn't all that fun to me....I was part of a couple for nearly 11 years. I'm 26 and a single mom and having to fully start over. My self confidence is gone due to my ex husbands comments and I'm just learning to accept the stretchmarks and skin left over from pregnancy. It seems that the men I've been with are superficial because not a one could look at my stomach...at least they never commented on it like my ex husband did. Oh well...there is a man out there for me...maybe I'll find him one day.

Two glorious years since I separated.

I've been single this long for a few reasons:
a) I like being single - I'm not about to settle for a sub-standard partner just because I can get lonely from time to time
b) It seems only married dudes or people who don't have their lives together are attracted to me
c) I'm not a warm & fuzzy approachable kind of person. . .

Meh - Someone out there will think my no-nonsense and biting wit is charming. . . Maybe.

I've been single for 2 months First time in 6 years and I plan to stay this way

before i begin...*clear throat* hi, my name is Jess, i am noob and this is my first post. feel lucky babies!


and sadly (?), for almost 25yrs, i've never been in a relationship. and mainly because for at least 20yrs...my weight always fluctuated. and because i am very quiet in nature...i felt like i couldn't fight back against those loud negatives with my own. so any crushes that i had, i never admitted (well, there was one guy, but he blew me off like 3mos after i confessed...and this was 2yrs after i graduated high school when i confessed), or do i feel confident enough to be seen with guys without making them feel like they're bait for jokes at my expense (actually have had that said to me from an ex...over facebook, that he only hung out with me because he felt sorry for me...and was embarrassed by doing so).

what makes it that much harder is that there is this guy at my gym, who i am sure is absolutely adorable and is a sweetheart...i've had almost a full year of staring at him from afar...and i'm still afraid to even say "hi". what's a girl to do?!?!?



s/n to OP: are you a fan of taeyang (your .gif) too? *hi fives if so*

Iv'e been single since 2007 because I drank WAY too much! I didn't drink everyday but when I drank it was AWFUL! The first 2 or 3 hours I was funny as hell but then it turned into an alcoholic drama! (no fights, no abuse, nothing bad.) Iv'e been arrested for public intoxication 35 times! Its only until 2011 that iv'e found some sobriety and have only drank twice! 2 times in one year? That's a friggin' MIRACLE! , GO ME! They said in AA not to get into a relationship for a year and so that is what I'm doing. MFP RELATIONSHIPS ONLY!

That's wonderful! Alcohol is one of the reasons my relationship with my ex failed. I knew I couldn't make him go to rehab or seek treatment of any kind. I think the divorce finally made him realise that he needs to choose...his daughter or alcohol and drugs. I still am not sure which way it will go. Time will tell. Congrats on making it this far! You're doing a wonderful job!

so after reading the comments on this thread it sure would be nice to hear some folks with positive things to say about relationships...

:laugh:

Singles thread about people's own lack-of-relationships? It's bound to be depressing.

But I have a good thing to say:
I am 3 weeks single, from a relationship that was 'official' for only 2 weeks. We dated last year as well, for a month. We remained friends even after the breakup. He was my first boyfriend, and my most recent.
Am I heartbroken? Yes. I have the chocolate wrappers to attest to that.
However, I was lucky with this one. He taught me so much about life and myself. When I was around him, I became the confident, honest, loving person I'd always wanted to be. Being around him, I came to realize I COULD be that person. He was a catalyst for personal change, he helped me break out of my shell and experience things in life I never thought I could enjoy.
So I am 3 weeks single from a relationship I may mourn for a long time.
But I have come away with a new outlook on life and a determination to be the best I can be for everyone I know.
And hey, I'm still friends with him. And I value our friendship just as much as I did our romance.
:ohwell:

Life moves on. I'll just be listening to 'My Love' by Sia every day for a while in the meantime...