Tell loved ones they are overweight this Christmas

"Tell loved ones they are overweight this Christmas"

-Because nothing says Merry Christmas like "Hop on the treadmill fatty!"

I'ts always a fun time of year to say. "I'd like to get serious with you, but I am afraid we would have fat children"

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(I'm assuming that you are being sarcastic! If I thought you were serious, I'd be using a different "Smiley" altogether!)

I think the person (or people) who said to set an example instead has the right idea. You might even "brag" about your weight loss a bit. Tell about your exercise, your weight loss, your eating, etc. Don't act stuck up about it though. Maybe that overweight person will think "if they can do this, so can I."

Being a good example works for me and makes me feel like I can make a difference in someone else's life. And it affects other areas of my life. I just had my annual review (a bit early) for the job I started in February. One of the things my boss said about me (after giving me lots of positive feedback on my work performance, yay!) was that he was impressed with how I've taken advantage of some of the fitness activities the company has offered (we do fitness and health challenges monthly for anyone who wants to participate, and many people walk/run on a park path outside the office), and he really appreciates how I've encouraged other people to walk/run with me

While I don't "brag" about my weight loss, I've lost enough that people constantly ask me about it--how did I do it, what do I eat, etc. I am very happy to share what has worked for me, and I encourage the people around me to be more active...when I was overweight, I knew it. Prodding didn't work...I had to be ready to do it myself.

I think it Is aweful to tell people they are overweight, They allready know and no dought hate being that way, mind your own buisness unless they ask then be careful

i think it depends on the person also! If they were skinny and started getting fat most people dont realize they are even getting big, i would much rather a family memeber tell me "hey your getting chunky " than let it go and me not notice and keep gaining weight! But thats just me

My thoughts exactly!

Telling just ANYONE that they are overweight is certainly not going to go over well nor earn you any brownie points.

However, when it comes to my family (and how prevalent diabetes is in our family) I'm not shy about it. We all know the dirty truth...

When I speak to my grandma (who's in her mid-sixties, but still gorgeous as ever) and tell her that she needs to lose weight, I don't tell her that outright. Instead, I usually show what I've been doing and share MFP with her, showing her what it's done for me. I love her and I know how much she's struggled with weight loss, so I approach it gently (if at all) with her, and ONLY because I care.

If you go about it the right way and you actually have SOME PLACE to start the conversation--i.e. they are a dear close friend or a loved one who you care about--then I don't see the real harm in talking about it, particularly if you know they've never made any attempts to lose weight in the past. They may not see it immediately, but knowing that their health matters so much to someone else might sway them to start taking better care of themselves... just maybe...

This is not directed towards anyone specific here it is just 'food for thought': No amount of Nagging will get someone to change themselves. They have to want it for themselves. Telling them (when they didn't ask for feedback) in any case wll be seen as nagging or an a personal attack and may even hurt their feelings... and for what? So the newly reformed eater- in this case you - can feel like you did them a service by informing them that they are fat? Guess what smarty pants, they already know that they are fat and the last thing they want to hear from the new reformed eater this Christmas is that your new skinny-eyed arrogance thinks that they are fat.

If you choose this route, they will do just enough of what is required to either shut you up or shut you out. As long as your in the judging mood why don't you invite tem to feel free to judge something about you that you need to change but probably arent aware of. Becase thats all you are doing in this case and its only fair to ask for the same Christmas gift back from them. Be sure to smile and gracefully thank them for the feedback, the way you expect them to thank you for letting them know, "Say, ah did you know your getting kind of fat? Merry Christmas!"

Why not try a different approach and ask them to go for a walk or to do something active with you, and remember you will have to scale back your 1000 calorie "Nice burn" work out to something they can do too without trying to be Jillian. If they ask is this what you did to get fit, say "Yes, I do this all the time. It's this easy to start getting fit." instead of the classic discouraging one upper response: "No I work out way harder than this boo-yah!" You can give them the rousing and inspirational pep rally speech once they get up and get active and ask you for additional advice. The important thing is to get them off the couch so they can see they CAN do this.

Christmas celebrations are not the time for food addiction intervention. Unless you want everybody to hate you.

I don't think telling people they are overweight is the best thing to do... ever.

You are better off setting an example for those around you, and hoping they decide for themselves to get on board.

Jeff makes a great point here - we are all setting examples for our families by staying in shape. Maybe instead of telling a family member how fat they are, you can suggest everyone goes on a walk together or play a round of ping pong- something active that everyone can do. If you live near to your family, maybe try and make it a weekly thing. You could also make the holiday meal together, and show you family how they can make healthier versions of classic recipes. Hopefully your healthy lifestyle will rub off on them.

On a side note though, I like it when people tell me I look ugly or fat (not all the time but every once in a while), because it keeps me in check. Otherwise I get complacecent and slip back into the "oh one cookie won't hurt me attitude."

I love this!!!! I think if people actually hear the words they will be less likely to engorge in front of the family during a big gathering which is also going to help with a less gain over the holiday weekend! I may just like this because I'm a weird person that just needs to be told hey your FAT or chubby, or requests my bf to tell me I need to do an extra 10 or 20 on the treadmill because I'm feeling a little fluffy in the mid section again! I think before this is yelled, there should obviously be some kind of relationship with the person, and discretion should be used while saying it, but if it needs to be said out loud than say it!!!!!!

Perfect! So that person can feel ostracized and munch on carrots sticks while everyone else gorges themselves on cakes, pies, and cookies!

Then next year when they are thinner they will be ostracized AGAIN for not eating the same crap everyone else is! It doesn't go away even with the weight loss. When I was fat, I had a few "helpful" family members make remarks implying that I needed to lose weight. So now when I turn down all that crap (50+ pounds later), I get more snide remarks because I "think I'm better than everyone else." BEFORE I lost the weight and told people I was trying to lose it, friends, family and coworkers made it a point to monitor everything that goes into my mouth. It's pretty sad when I have to keep my eating and exercise plan a secret from everyone.

I'm not even overweight anymore but it's left me with that permanent stigma. My weight was and still is open to everyone's interpretation. Sorry, this is a touchy subject with me, I should probably just go away now...

Wait, so you're saying I should eat a bunch of cookies, cakes, and pies this Christmas because the rest of my family is? Just so I won't feel "bad" about eating some veggies? I think something is wrong here...

I love this!!!! I think if people actually hear the words they will be less likely to engorge in front of the family during a big gathering which is also going to help with a less gain over the holiday weekend! I may just like this because I'm a weird person that just needs to be told hey your FAT or chubby, or requests my bf to tell me I need to do an extra 10 or 20 on the treadmill because I'm feeling a little fluffy in the mid section again! I think before this is yelled, there should obviously be some kind of relationship with the person, and discretion should be used while saying it, but if it needs to be said out loud than say it!!!!!!

^ I do the same thing. I tell my boyfrined to tell me no. Sometimes I know my self control is weak, and it helps to have him backing me up. Sometimes I feel pouty at first when he says no, but then I remember why I told him to say it and that's all I need to put down that cookie!

I think that's great, but I think you're the exception rather than the rule. So honestly, I think the status quo should be to NOT tell people they are fat. If YOU would like to be told that you are fat, then I think it's great for you to tell your boyfriend, your dad, your second cousin once removed, that they should let you know when you're gaining a few lbs.

I really do think that's great. I just don't think it should be the status quo. If it would HELP you, then tell people in your life to tell you if they think you're getting fat. But many, if not most, people would be disheartened rather than encouraged, so NO, it should not be the automatic thing to do.