Posting Before & After Pics... Husband is NOT supportive

Don't go behind your husband's back. That will only cause problems. You should be respectful of his feelings and ideas, too. You know how much weight you have lost. You can feel good about that and be proud of yourself without posting pictures on the internet. Possibly, if you are respectful of his ideas, you will be able to change his mind in time when he sees how well you are doing and how important it is to you. (If not, you picked him!!! LOL) Just keepworking hard and remind him every now and then how nice it is to see others pictures....how motivating..maybe even try to get him to look at some of the photos of ladies fully dressed.

Good luck on your journey and remember that your marriage is of the utmost importance here........

If my long term partner said I couldnt post pictures I would first of all be bemused as to why, then a bit pissed off, then I would post them anyway...maybe its just me but I can't see how someone would even really mind that? its a weight loss website, everyone does it, its not naked, its in clothes you would wear to the beach. Although Im all for not upsetting someone, he would be upsetting me by telling me no to something so small, id be doing it anyway lol! Maybe I am just obstinate though...

Maybe it's just because I'm young and this generation doesn't see things the same way anymore...but if I were in your shoes, the issue for me wouldn't be whether or not I could post pictures, I'd be more concerned about him telling me that I couldn't. It's not like you're wanting to pose nude on some random website, this is a fitness site that has tons of motivating success stories all over it. The only issue should be whether or not you feel comfortable putting your pictures up. I don't think I'd even know what to say if my fiance ever told me that he didn't want me posting pictures somewhere... it's my choice. I guess I'm just one of those people who thinks that being in a relationship doesn't automatically mean that you still aren't somewhat your own person. Not every decision has to be a compromise, you don't always have to make the other person happy (when it's over such small things). The other thing that would bother me about this is that I'd feel like he had an insecurity or lack of trust in our relationship or me.

And yes, I've read through a lot of the more traditional responses about marriage and how to make a relationship last...but times are changing and not a lot of people share those views anymore and I don't necessarily think that's a bad thing either.

I understand if he is private but truly this is your journey. Maybe you could compromise and if he will take them then you won't post them. Maybe just keep them for your own comparisons. Just because the photos are taken doesn't mean you HAVE to post them on the internet. If you must post them to keep going on your journey then definitely cut off your head in them and wear a conservative 2-piece. AND if he won't take them at all, stand in front of a mirror and take them yourself!

Maybe it's just because I'm young and this generation doesn't see things the same way anymore...but if I were in your shoes, the issue for me wouldn't be whether or not I could post pictures, I'd be more concerned about him telling me that I couldn't. It's not like you're wanting to pose nude on some random website, this is a fitness site that has tons of motivating success stories all over it. The only issue should be whether or not you feel comfortable putting your pictures up. I don't think I'd even know what to say if my fiance ever told me that he didn't want me posting pictures somewhere... it's my choice. I guess I'm just one of those people who thinks that being in a relationship doesn't automatically mean that you still aren't somewhat your own person. Not every decision has to be a compromise, you don't always have to make the other person happy (when it's over such small things). The other thing that would bother me about this is that I'd feel like he had an insecurity or lack of trust in our relationship or me.

And yes, I've read through a lot of the more traditional responses about marriage and how to make a relationship last...but times are changing and not a lot of people share those views anymore and I don't necessarily think that's a bad thing either.

Maybe it is a generational thing. Some of us have already been divorced. Trust me, it is an emotionally and financially taxing event in one's life. Marriage is not something to take lightly, and your husband's wishes should come before your own in some respects. It is not detrimental to her health to post progress pics on the internet so why risk her marriage for the sake of personal pride?

My husband does NOT want me posting any body pics NONE whatsoever.

I took "before" bikini pics back in the summer. We were dating then, not even married. Even then he complained about the pics and begged me not to post them, so I took them down after a few days. I've since lost a few lbs and inches and was thinking about taking updates, but he absolutely refuses to take them for me... !!??!!

I told him "everyone's doing it"... LOL. He hates the idea of me "sharing" myself on the internet. I told him it's for a good reason but he won't budge. The only thing I could do is go behind his back

I am a bit upset about this. What would YOU do? Any opinions, advice, suggestions?

He is your husband and I would suggest you do not post them, out of respect for him. It is possible that he is worried about someone else taking you away. Is it really worth an argument just to post a pic of the changes? Is he supportive of your improvements? If so than who else do you need to comment? If not then there may be a bigger issue.

It comes down to which is more important to you; your pride or your husband's faith, love, and trust?

I didn't read any of the other responses, but my opinion: DO WHAT YOU WANT! It's your body, your journey, yoru hard work, and your decision. He has no say in what you post on the internet - especially nonsexual photos. Photos of you in a bathingsuit or undergarments showing your before and after photos are not sexual at all (assuming you're not taking them in provocative poses). It bugs me how our society so quickly labels nudity (or partial nudity) as intristically sexual. It's just a body. It's YOUR body. Your choice.

If it keeps peace in the family don't post it, pick you battles pictures sound trivial

My husband does NOT want me posting any body pics NONE whatsoever.

I took "before" bikini pics back in the summer. We were dating then, not even married. Even then he complained about the pics and begged me not to post them, so I took them down after a few days. I've since lost a few lbs and inches and was thinking about taking updates, but he absolutely refuses to take them for me... !!??!!

I told him "everyone's doing it"... LOL. He hates the idea of me "sharing" myself on the internet. I told him it's for a good reason but he won't budge. The only thing I could do is go behind his back

I am a bit upset about this. What would YOU do? Any opinions, advice, suggestions?

That's a control issue there. If you told him to stop doing something that he really wanted to do, would he do it? If he didn't, then you have your answer to what you should do. There's absolutes and compromise. Absolutes don't usually win.

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