ever been told you werent good looking?

I was told I was pretty...not beautiful....just pretty
I was working in a barber shop one day and this guy came in and said that they should have beautiful people working there....

I've been told I'm hideous, revolting, ugly.. And I've been told I'm pretty, cute and all that as well. Unfortunately, it wasn't until my mid twenties the nice comments started to stick. I would forget whatever compliment I might have been given, thinking they were just saying it to be nice... And still dwell forever on the insults, instead of writing them off the same way ("only saying it to be mean").

Initially, the ugly-comments what part of what fueled my love-hate relationship with food, but now I've learned to take compliments. I'm also lucky enough to have some supportive friends helping me keep my head straight and not take one persons opinions to seriously. I mean, if I'm not attracted to someone, and right now..If they're not my boyfriend, why would I care that I'm "ugly" to them? It's a really rude way of saying "you're not my type", really. And if they're rude, they're not my type either.

I live in the UK and some of the guys here are HORRIBLE. I've been called ugly, fat, dog, doghead, heard them say 'nahhhh' (as in to go near me). Ive had food thrown at me on a night out with them saying 'eat that you fat cow'. I've had stuff like 'oh my god you're really pretty......HAHA AS IF YOU FAT *****' Umm I could go on and on and ON AND ON!! I've had so many horrific incidents. They really are s**theads!!

But you are so pretty..why would men behave like that? I'm sure they are upset because they have tiny ****s..

Yes, my whole life. My brother was especially cruel. Even though I was a kid then it is still hard to get over that. It's funny that my mom never made him stop or apologize to me. Boys in school were bad too, especially Jr High. I still have the worst memories of that period of my like. It has taken me 46 years to think I may not be so bad after all, but that is only on good days.

And how is someone who tells you that you arent good looking your "friend"? Thats horrible!
I used to be told that I had "such a pretty face". Translation: the rest of you is not so hot. Women get pretty mixed messages about what is beautiful. We start out thinking the epitome of beauty is our Barbie doll. If a Barbie were build to scale, it would have the bust of a grown woman, the hips of a teenager, and the waist of a child. Pretty unrealistic.
As teens we become interested in fashion mags... when I was a teen the modeling industry was into the "waif" look. I'm doomed there.
Then we get older and dont have a clue what we are supposed to look like.
After all that programming we get told that "noooo, being skinny isnt healthy. men actually like curves. being thick is a good thing. blah blah blah"
Too confusing. Im feeling comfortable now.... getting there anyway. My wonderful fiance met me when I was chunky and loved me the way I was. Not to say he isnt thrilled with how I look now! What matters is what You think of you. Everyone else can piss off.

I am thankful she was honest.

How unloving was it of me to let myself go, knowing that when we married, I was a guy in peak condition?
Love is neither blind nor unconditional.
We've been married 28 years and she's in peak condition and expects to be equally yoked.
If I had not lost the fat, she would have divorced me for sure.

And I would have had ONLY myself to blame.
Further, not that it would ever be, but if she was the fat one, same deal.

I could never be married to that.
In the dark, all cats are not grey.

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Thank GOD my husband doesn't think this way!

seriously!!!!!!!!!!! my husband loves me for me and THANK GOD for my husband not thinking that way!! luckily some people out there know beauty isnt just whats on the outside

The only thing I could think of is how shallow is this marriage? What happened to "for better or for worse"? This is one of the reasons why divorce has risen - people just don't understand that love is deeper than the looks of your mate.

Tell me about it! But, somehow they've made it 28 years...

And the reason is HONESTY about what we each need in a relationship.

My wife needs a fit husband, because fat is a major sexual turn off.
REALITY - hello.....
And rather than kill me with kindness and lies, she told the truth.
People who don't value truth are the ones getting divorced, cheating and in unfulfilled relationships.

Think People!

I've been told I wasn't good looking since we all had to watch that horrible video about the chances in our body. Purberty is a horrible thing. I'm still getting the "ugly girl" looks from people.

I was hanging out with one of my chick friends and her sister and realized I'M THE UGLY FRIEND!

There's no way you are the "ugly friend", you're beautiful.

This!! You are stunningly beautiful.

Don't be upset. Her words are meaningless. She is obviously unstable.

The mirror tells me everyday but hay ... I have other qualities that many people don't have so swings and roundabouts.

When god gave out looks I could have sworn he said books and got to the back of the queue.

I'm always the girl with the pretty face and "it's a shame she's so fat" - my husband's friends decided to share this with him one day. I'm always the fat friend and the one that guys want to be friends with just to get with MY friends. It's annoying. This weight loss journey I'm on is for a few reasons.

1. I want to be here for a long time for my kids and my husband

2. I want to not be the fat friend for once

and

3. I want my kids to realize that being healthy can be fun and enjoyable.

Also take the satisfaction that one day you will be able to say ... I'm not pretty and fat now, I am gorgeous with a stunning figure.

I'd given this guy a ride home and we sat in the driveway talking (I didn't know him all that well...we'd see each other for a week once a year for about 5 years...he was a friend of a friend who'd come for a week vacation once a summer). He said "I don't understand why you don't have a boyfriend." And I replied, "Well, I think it's because not many people find me attractive." And his reply..."Yeah, but you're really smart." So, he didn't flat out tell me I was unattractive, but he didn't argue with it, either. When I gave him this sort of shocked look, he said, "I mean, I'm in no position to lie to you." Nice, eh?

I'm always the girl with the pretty face and "it's a shame she's so fat" - my husband's friends decided to share this with him one day. I'm always the fat friend and the one that guys want to be friends with just to get with MY friends. It's annoying. This weight loss journey I'm on is for a few reasons.

1. I want to be here for a long time for my kids and my husband

2. I want to not be the fat friend for once

and

3. I want my kids to realize that being healthy can be fun and enjoyable.

Also take the satisfaction that one day you will be able to say ... I'm not pretty and fat now, I am gorgeous with a stunning figure.

Aww thank you so much!

How mean. Obviously she doesn't feel good about herself. Remember it is not how you look but, what is inside.

Yup. All the time. I'm ugly. Sad but true. Oh well, I guess.That's why I settled for the loser I'm married to and spend everyday miserable. I let other peoples opinions define my life. Want to see what I look like? There's another pic in my profile. Enjoy.

I'm only told I'm sexy/beautiful/pretty when someone wants a booty call.