ever been told you werent good looking?

i was raised by my mom as the ugly one compared to my sister. just yesterday my mom was trying to convince me that i am pretty. so strange that now she is trying to reverse the damage that she did to my self esteem so long ago! it doesnt work well in that order!

i told my colleagues that i was the most sought after gal in college, but they didnt believe , coz they saw me as this fat, ugly gal....now that i have lost weight and look good again, all of their attitudes have changed! They are in awe of me now and accept that i really look good!!

I have been told I'm unattractive or plain or ugly since I was in elementary school. Even now being married, my husband's dad has informed me if I have another baby I won't be allowed to eat at their house (our two kids are only fourteen months apart and the baby is eight months old). When we were dating he informed me that it was good his son found a plain girl so he wouldn't get too distracted. In my family I consider myself the "ugly" sister (there are five of us).

People are crazy. You're very pretty...I don't understand why anyone would say that to you.

I'm also from a family of 5, so I understand comparing yourself. I'm pretty sure my mother thought I was the least attractive of my sisters. My youngest sister especially was very cute, and people used to tell me all of the time. And, the girls would crawl out of the woodwork for my one of my brothers.

In any case, I think the whole family dynamic can play tricks with your mind.

The girl that told you that is wrong and was most likely lying to get your attention.

Not a great way to get attention but that would be the equivalent of a little boy pulling a girl's ponytail - acting mean to get the person's attention. She's obviously immature and insecure and you can do better.

The truth is that you're very good looking.

Don't let that get to your head because there's more to being attractive than just good looking. You also need a nice personality to go with it. (Intelligence, sensitivity and a good sense of humor are pluses too.) With that combo... look out!

Thanks for posting this. I've been the idiot before that has called someone ugly. It usually happens when I want to distance myself from someone. Obviously, for every person I thought was "ugly" there really was someone else out there that thought they were hot stuff. I can think of three guys off the top of my head that I find utterly unattractive, but each one of them has a gorgeous woman that finds him to be the hottest guy ever.

I have been told over the years both pretty and ugly comments. In high school, everyone said I was a "dirty scrub." More recently, the ugly comments are more along the lines of "are you pregnant?" I have also gotten lots of pretty comments though. My hair seems to be popular, but even then, when I was a child I got "I'd rather be dead than red in the head" comments all time. I get a lot of comments about my skin, both good and bad. My face shows very openly whether or not I feel healthy. I try to wear makeup so that it's more consistent, but somehow everyone can figure out when I look tired or sick. It's like my pale skin turns gray or something.

I could probably go on and on all day about every nice or horrible thing anyone has said to me, but the moral of the story is that beauty really is in the eye of the beholder. It is incredibly subjective. I hope that each of us can find the people that think we are beautiful and keep them close. Disregard what anyone else has to say.

I look the way I look as a result of what I want to do. I think I might grow my hair longer because everyone seems to like that, and I try not to wear holey or ill fitting clothes, but otherwise, I do what I want and I don't care what others have to say about it.

when i used to be chubby they said i was cute now that i workout and look like i workout they say you look hot.

I'm only told I'm sexy/beautiful/pretty when someone wants a booty call.

Hmmm . Simple answer to that. The booty store is closed for renovation.

My mom tells me I'm a "diamond in the rough" - I think she means it as a compliment/motivator, but I just think "why am I in the rough?"

I'm very not a looker - got a funny face and not in a good way. Plus I'm fat - ugly and fat is a bad combination! (The fat thing is changing though, one kilo down and only about a billion to go.)

BUT I'm nice, I'm friendly, I can sometimes throw out a good joke or two, and I'm lucky enough to be around people who value character above appearance. Some insults were thrown my way as a young'un, but nothing that I really took to heart. Now if I get any comments it's on my good qualities. I have quite a robust little self-esteem!

Im not very fat but i have been told my weight is a problem for some guys. ALso i have a health condition called strabismus that occurs when i intensely exercise or stress my body. i had surgery to fix it and yes people treated me like i was more of a person. When the lazy eye crops up people just want to laugh and taunt or not meet me in the eyes.