husbands...

Awww....I'm sorry your husband was all logical and stuff. That really IS irritating when we're pissed off, isn't it?

What did you want to hear?

I agree, what response did you want/expect?

I am a husband and I try to be a supportive as possible of my wife. But hell! why ask a question if you do not want an answer? !

Your husband is probably like me. He wants to be supportive and helpful but is frustrated by getting negative feedback no matter what response he gives to pretty much any question. How about asking the question that you want need an answer to? Or, if it is emotional support you need, set a "date" to do something with your husband so that the two of you can spend some time together.

In addition, he is probably right! Focus on being healthy and you will lose weight! Focus on weight and you will be frustrated every time the scale does not move.

Frustrating!

I vent to my husband to just get it off my chest, but then he tries to tell me what I'm doing wrong, like not exercising enough, not cutting enough calories, etc.....it really gets under my skin. All I want to hear is, sorry you're having a bad day/week......or look how far you've come, just stay focused......nope, I get all those tips that worked for him when he was in the Army.........ERRRRRR, husbands just don't get it! LOL

Sounds to me like hes trying to HELP.

^^^agreed

Most husbands married you guys for who you are...not the size you have become or not (some men focus just on weight) I think I would be thankful if I had a guy that doesn't know how to express himself instead of a husband that constantly bashes me for being fat. Maybe you should make a list of the good and bad things. I am sure the good things will always outweigh the bad.


Hope your weigh in next week is good.

Give up now guys, with some women it doesn't matter what you do. Apparently just because you are a man you are wrong by default. :grumble:

yes dear.

Awww....I'm sorry your husband was all logical and stuff. That really IS irritating when we're pissed off, isn't it?

**Applause** :laugh:

Give up now guys, with some women it doesn't matter what you do. Apparently just because you are a man you are wrong by default. :grumble:

yes dear.

Uh, not you. Reading your profile, I would venture a guess that your wife isn't one of those. :0) She sounds like a great gal!

But, to all you complainers, what do you LIKE about your husbands?? Do you ever post about THAT??

*frustrated*

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/465921-brag-on-your-spouse-so-0

Really you women are just...
I just...


If it werent for the awesome boobs and getting the better end of sex I'd really hate being a woman because it's associated with complaints like this.

I'll join you in this. We should form a club or something. lol!

This morning was my weigh in day. I didn't lose anything .. which pissed me off. So when I told my husband it. All he said was stop thinking about it so much. And it will happen!
Boy that's not what I wanted to hear....

What a woman wants is for her husband's, and presumably best friend's, first reaction to be "completely pissed about it" just like she is, and want him to go kick someone's *kitten* because it's not happening the way she wants it to.

Then AFTER that "I totally got your back" reaction he can begin the process of trying to reason with her, encourage her, and bring her back from the edge of the cliff.

Yea none of these woukd be bad at all! My boyfriend couldn't care less if i am trying to lose weight or not xD Sometimes tell me to slow down because I am working out so much, but eh he just cares :]

Men don't know what you want to hear. They cannot read minds like we think they can. They could be saying "yeah get your fat *kitten* going, work harder!!!!!" but they dont. (my bf does in a joking manner tho hehe)

Oh FFS people, maybe she just wanted to vent. What, you never needed to vent about something? I'm lucky I have people I can vent to and not expect an answer or judgment. I didn't see this as male/husband bashing but as someone who was frustrated and needed to let off some steam. F*cking sucks when a person can't just say what's on their minds w/o getting reamed for it.

/rant

That's what friends are for, not the internet.

If you post something like that on a forum you should expect various types of answers, for or against your idea. If the OP can't handle that (and I don't see her complaining) then she should have sent this in an email to a girlfriend, not posted it on a public website.

I don't mean to generalize, but....most men want to "fix" our problems. So when you say stuff like that, I think sometimes they have no response b/c they can't fix it! Besides, we HAVE to think about it, and it doesn't just happen. Be damn sweet if it did!!

Keep logging, keep pushing, try not to let it discourage you. Take measurements, try on pants that used to be tight and see if they feel better. There are often things that change that the scale won't reflect.

Good luck!

She's right! In his way, he was helping.

http://www.healthguidance.org/entry/13967/1/Problem-Solving--Differences-Between-Men-and-Women.html

To the women defending the OP - Maybe she should come here for her b*tching instead of to her husband, because obviously he's not going to say the right thing no matter what.

This morning was my weigh in day. I didn't lose anything .. which pissed me off. So when I told my husband it. All he said was stop thinking about it so much. And it will happen!
Boy that's not what I wanted to hear....

What a woman wants is for her husband's, and presumably best friend's, first reaction to be "completely pissed about it" just like she is, and want him to go kick someone's *kitten* because it's not happening the way she wants it to.

Then AFTER that "I totally got your back" reaction he can begin the process of trying to reason with her, encourage her, and bring her back from the edge of the cliff.

Uhm... No. I do not want a rageaholic, over reacting douche bag.

But thanks. :flowerforyou: