girls who hit on guys who are taken (or vice versa)

Right I don't think the partner should be obligated to say something about the guys calling her sexy on her profile. However if she had a co-worker emailing her those things regularly that would be a completely different story and she should tell him to stop.

Agreed - if she knew someone close, I'd be very upset if she played along and went with it and kept it on the QT. Someone she's spending 8-10 hours a day with can develop into something more much more easily - heck they spend more time with said person than yourself and is perfect for this kind of thing to develop.

Fortunately, my OH, despite us going thro the grinder recently will tell me if she's ever hit on in the real world.

What would you hope to gain from offeriing chocolate ice cream to a person whom you know is specifically not eating it or anything else fattening? Knowing that it would undermine their plans in the long run?

Watching her lick it would be hot of course! :bigsmile:

there's really nothing wrong with flirting. but there is a fine line when you're taken.


Also i don't understand people who say it's not big deal because it's on the internet, as if things can't progress past the internet. Sure it's just on the internet now but that doesn't mean things can't happen in real life.

I found my ex talking to several different women on the internet and he said it was no big deal because it's just harmless flirting on the internet so i shrugged it off...then a few months later I found out he actually did something with a couple of those women.
So to act like it doesn't matter because it's on the internet is ridiculous.

I'm not saying everyone who flirts is going to cheat, i'm not stupid. I'm just saying that flirting on the internet isn't always harmless.

When it really comes down to it though it's about the two people in a relationship and what they're comfortable with.

What would you hope to gain from offeriing chocolate ice cream to a person whom you know is specifically not eating it or anything else fattening? Knowing that it would undermine their plans in the long run?

Watching her lick it would be hot of course! :bigsmile:

lol wronnnng answerrrr lol

I think flirting is healthy, but like others have said there is a line that shouldn't be crossed and a point where the person should say hey man I am taken. :flowerforyou:

my hubby and i both flirt and theres no wrong in that what so ever!!! as long as it stays with flirting its ok we know our limits and trust each other!!!

Hitting on someone who you know is taken is kind of a d*ck move. Giving into those advances even moreso.

It is morally wrong to hit on someone who is already taken.

However I don't get #2. Why would it be the fault of someone who gets hit on? If you act on it then you are wrong as well (and worse than the person from #1), but the mere act of getting hit on doesn't mean you are morally wrong at all.

Good point. I misread/misinterpreted the second question possibly.

I thought it meant if the 'hitting on' was reciprocated or more specifically...'acted upon'.

If the person knows someone is taken, then it's wrong to pursue it.
If the person being hit on accepts and acts upon it, then they are most definitely wrong too!

If someone is being hit on, it's not their fault. They can't help someone else's actions, .....they can only control their's

Do you think the person who reciprocates is worse than the person who is hitting on them? I do. I think their responsibility to being faithful to their own significant other is much greater than the person outside of that relationship not to interfere. So for that reason I don't get the people who have more anger at the mistress than they do at their own cheating partner.

I don't think one is anymore wrong then the other...wrong is wrong. Period.
Anger stems from hurt, and I think more of the blame/anger is going to fall on who 'hurt' you more.
If the person who is doing the 'hitting' is a close friend/family member etc....it can hurt just as much as the reciprocators actions

In my situation, my partner's lack of commitment definitely hurt more (thus yes, more of my anger lied with him) because we'd been together so long. The anger at the mistress was up there on the scale too though as we knew her and she was a friend of the family. Our kids played together, and there were many times my ex and I listened to/supported her because she was upset about some other woman who had stolen her guy....

I've tried to let much of it go.
Karma is wonderful and has helped eased some of my pain

Example......Your partner is with you on MFP and they see men commenting on your profile constantly....calling you beautiful...sexy....etc and YOU say nothing to these men...acting as if its ok or as if you are single..and YOU know your partner clearly has a problem with it but you continue to let it happen because you dont want to seem rude or hurt these mens feelings....I say screw their feelings your partners feelings should matter most....sorry just ranting LOL

Can't agree with this. A comment on MFP is a harmless appreciation of someone's work. Heck, I'd have to take my pictures off FB and MFP.

Howeve, arranging to meet someone off MFP is not ok LOL

How you doin'? Kidding!!

Harmless flirting doesn't hurt anyone, and some jealousy is good for a relationship.