Would you cheat?

Porn is not cheating. It is a release. A lot of men need their release (heck I know I do) almost daily/twice daily and a lot of women can't or don't want to keep up with this. Would you rather your man suffer and got frustrated (and so angry, harder to deal with) or dealt with it. Men don't look at the woman or what they are about in porn - its simply a body to to look at. Hence mens porn is just that - no real story, nothing. Just T&A and bea....

Id fill my fiance's needs 3-4 times a day. and he still looked at porn xD
maybe im just not that attractive enough :P

Sadly, I have. He knows. It almost cost our relationship. Now..No WAY in Hell!!

I'd never cheat on wifey! If you really want to do such things, you might as well, and get out of your marriage or BF/GF relationship!

Size doesn't necearily have anything to do with it.

I know it doesn't reflect the best of me, but I have been the other woman (both knowingly and unknowingly) and have been the skinner girl. But, I have also been bigger than their SO.

In my experience, people cheat because they are unhappy in their current situation and are looking for something the "think" they are "missing". . .intimacy, friendship, love, caring, generousity, sex, someone to talk to, etc.

Sometimes they find it with the person they are cheating with and sometimes they don't.

Sometimes the straying makes their primary relationship stronger and sometimes it doesn't.

Everything depends on everyone involved in and every facet of the situation.

no i would never cheat my believe it or not my husband cheated on me cause i lost over 150pds.. he liked me fat and told me he didnt like the new me.. so our 15 yrs marriage went down... and i am single agian and have been very happy for almost 4 yrs...

Porn is not cheating. It is a release. A lot of men need their release (heck I know I do) almost daily/twice daily and a lot of women can't or don't want to keep up with this. Would you rather your man suffer and got frustrated (and so angry, harder to deal with) or dealt with it. Men don't look at the woman or what they are about in porn - its simply a body to to look at. Hence mens porn is just that - no real story, nothing. Just T&A and bea....

It's not that I can't keep up with him, it's the other way around. When he is solely watching porn and wanting nothing to do with me, that hurts.

That's a different issue, but that wasn't very clear earlier in the thread. You and him should really have a talk about that. Its never good when your spouse doesn't want to be intimate with you.

I agree with this.

Talk to your husband. I suspect that you guys have some serious communication issues if you are using the internet to find answers and he is all lost in porn. Put the baby down for a nap. Turn off all forms of media. Engage in a little intimacy with your husband. It can start as a conversation and who knows where it will lead... all the best to you.

Thanks, but this really isn't about me. My husband has sleep problems and is always tired, so that's why there's little to no sex. Or at least I'm hoping that's the only reason lol. I have talked to him about the porn, because I caught him watching it, after he had told me when we first got together he would give it up for me. He lied, and what's worse, hid it from me. I am not like most women...that does bug me. But I BELIEVE it's over with now....

It bugs me too, & im pretty sure he has ways of jacking off to something. But we're having a baby now, and our baby is all that matter to me. I could care less about my fiance's porn addiction. (:

Porn is not cheating. It is a release. A lot of men need their release (heck I know I do) almost daily/twice daily and a lot of women can't or don't want to keep up with this. Would you rather your man suffer and got frustrated (and so angry, harder to deal with) or dealt with it. Men don't look at the woman or what they are about in porn - its simply a body to to look at. Hence mens porn is just that - no real story, nothing. Just T&A and bea....

It's not that I can't keep up with him, it's the other way around. When he is solely watching porn and wanting nothing to do with me, that hurts.

That's a different issue, but that wasn't very clear earlier in the thread. You and him should really have a talk about that. Its never good when your spouse doesn't want to be intimate with you.

I agree with this.

Talk to your husband. I suspect that you guys have some serious communication issues if you are using the internet to find answers and he is all lost in porn. Put the baby down for a nap. Turn off all forms of media. Engage in a little intimacy with your husband. It can start as a conversation and who knows where it will lead... all the best to you.

Thanks, but this really isn't about me. My husband has sleep problems and is always tired, so that's why there's little to no sex. Or at least I'm hoping that's the only reason lol. I have talked to him about the porn, because I caught him watching it, after he had told me when we first got together he would give it up for me. He lied, and what's worse, hid it from me. I am not like most women...that does bug me. But I BELIEVE it's over with now....

Marriage is hard. It can't survive without communication.

No way....my hubby and I have been through so much together. I love him so much and his given my 2 beautiful children.

I was cheated on for that very reason. My ex husband was never happy with my weight. I was either too thin or too fat. I was 10 pounds away from being back at my pre baby weight. It wasn't good enough for him. I had to listen to his BS for years and year until the weight just started coming back on. It was an emotional roller coaster. I gained a hundred pounds.

He started cheating on me with women half my size. Always, half my size. The size I used to be. He's an *kitten* though... LMAOOO

I would never cheat on anyone. If I wanted to screw someone else, I would break up with my current partner.

Been there, done this. It's not nearly as easy as cheating which is probably why people just opt to cheat.

wow what a question, size of the person has nothing to do with why peple cheat. People cheat because their un happy or un satisfied one way or another and they will do it with whomever is willing to cheat with them and because they don't have respect for the current relationship their in.

This is what I've been told by every guy I've asked the question "What would make you cheat?" -- They all say "If I'm not happy."

HOWEVER, knowing my fiance, I'd say that's not true. I don't think he'd look to cheat on purpose, but I'm pretty sure he'd have a hard time saying no if someone seduced him. I could be wrong, but it just seems to me that if some good lookin chick came onto him and started to take advantage, he'd probably not push her off. Most people would say "Well why would you stay with him? You're disrespecting yourself." Well I'll tell you why. I have yet to find someone that I have more fun with and get along with better than him. Plus, there's the chance for cheating in any relationship. No one is perfect and I'm not going to give up what is currently a good relationship just due to the chance he might cheat. If I had that mentality, I'd never be able to date anyone. If he cheats, I break up with him and move on. Simple as that.

I've been cheated on plenty of times. Once a woman bigger and uglier than I was (...wtf?!) and the rest all smaller and cuter.

sorry you got some pissy responses. its just a question... I get that....I think everyone has fantasized or thought about someone else attractive. I think its denial if you say you haven't! now that doesn't mean cheating, but lets be honest even if you are married you will still find the opposite sex attractive and can appreciate a nice body! now i don't believe people end up cheating with someone better looking per say. its just someone who is fulfilling a need at that moment. in fact statistics say that when most people cheat it is with someone who is similar in portions...interesting! I don't think this should make people angry : ? cheating should be discussed.its out there and talking about it with your partner and being open can prevent it!! just saying.... being calm and taking about the real factor that there is so much temptation can make your relationship stronger!

It bugs me too, & im pretty sure he has ways of jacking off to something. But we're having a baby now, and our baby is all that matter to me. I could care less about my fiance's porn addiction. (:

Why does it bug you? Why are you 2 women trying to control your mens sexual requirements?

I meant to say Bugged. my bad.
I never control him or his sexual requirements. I know its what guys do.
But when he first started doing it (3 months into our relationship. we've been together for 2 years), he never payed any attention to me. Now i could care less since something else important is coming up. even if we didnt get pregnant, I still wouldnt care as of today, because I know he loves mee.

sorry you got some pissy responses. its just a question... I get that....I think everyone has fantasized or thought about someone else attractive. I think its denial if you say you haven't! now that doesn't mean cheating, but lets be honest even if you are married you will still find the opposite sex attractive and can appreciate a nice body! now i don't believe people end up cheating with someone better looking per say. its just someone who is fulfilling a need at that moment. in fact statistics say that when most people cheat it is with someone who is similar in portions...interesting! I don't think this should make people angry : ? cheating should be discussed.its out there and talking about it with your partner and being open can prevent it!! just saying.... being calm and taking about the real factor that there is so much temptation can make your relationship stronger!

^This!.

I wont deny it, I always thought Marilyn Manson was attractive while i was with my fiance.. o.0

Beautifulredb - makes sense now. Couldn't get my head around why you want to control how you're man masturbates. I'm sure you women would be in uproar if someone came on and said my BF/hubby said I can't use my rabbit any more.