what is the ideal age to get engaged/married?

When you are ready and mature enough to handle a life long commitment.

25-30.. most people are mature enough and settled or know what they want by then perhaps.

I think divorce only happens when one or both people stop fighting and working for the relationship, or one shows colours they hid before the marriage (aggression or something).

When you are ready to settle down. I got married at 25 and thought that was a good age, my husband was 34 and he thought that was a good age, maybe a little later than he planed but he has admitted to me that he wouldn't have been ready before that. We were only dating a few months when we got engaged but we knew each other and were practically best friends for about 2 years before that.

I knew I was ready because I had my degree, had a good job, was able to support myself and had a sense of self. My husband and I from the time we started dating we have traveled a lot. So unless you are planning on getting married just so you can have kids I wouldn't worry about "traveling first" because I traveled more with my husband than when I was single. Iceland, Hungary, Denmark, all over Germany, France, England and Wales and of course in the US.

Marry when you feel you are ready. Get advice from those closest to you, older siblings, parents, aunts & uncles, they often know what they are talking about....and other times they are completely full of it. But if you have lived around them long enough you can tell the difference.

I'm always kinda miffed by questions like this. I don't really see how someone's age at time of marriage is anyone elses business, ya know?

Of course it varies across the board and there are exceptions to the rule but I would have to say after 30 for a guy and AT LEAST after 25 for a girl (late 20's is probably better). Soley on the basis of maturity, life experience, life skills, compassion, and loyalty. Men really seem to mature in their 30s and women really come into their own and find themselves in their 20s.

I wouldn't put an age limit on it my husband got married when we were 19 and 20 and we are very much in love 8 years married this summer. However I do see with statistics that a lot of couples married in their teen years have a hard time making it due to you are still changing alot and maturing. I think most people would think ideally mid to late 20's.

Soon after you find the ideal person to be married to!

You have the best chance of staying together if you are both at least 25

According to who? My grandparents were married at 23, both happily married for 50 years until my grandad died.
My mum and dad, 19 and 21, happily married for 33 years.
I married at 22, been happily married for 9 years so far.

I have been with my boyfriend for a year 1/2.. lived together for a year... last weekend he broke it off with me.. Gutted.... moral of my story... Live the single life, dont move in to soon, enjoy, live, love, get married when its right... i thought he was right... i was wrong.

MEAH.

Me and my fiance have been together 9 years in March, and I am only 24 years old!

We have a 6 year old daughter, and are getting married in July - and are absolutely best friends. I wouldn't trade my relationship for anything in the world The only time we spend apart is 9 til 5 Mon - Fri because of work But apart from that we spend all the time together...still.

I'd say when you feel it's the right time - meaning you should be 100% happy with all of your relationship.

I've thought about this after watching the various successes and failures of friends' and relatives' marriages.

I used to think nobody should get married before 25 and preferably not even before 30, just because I think there is tremendous benefit in spending some time on your own and learning who you are before you commit to spending the rest of your life with someone.

But now I think the right time to get married is when you are sure of what you want for your life and you have found a person who wants the same things. I have a friend from high school who got married at 18 to her 20-year-old boyfriend. 10 years later, they are still very happily married with two kids. I asked her once why she never went to college or spent any time living on her own before she got married, and she said "I didn't want that. I knew I wanted to be a wife and a mother, and it didn't make sense to me to waste time and money doing other things just because people thought I was too young."

That made sense to me. I, too, want to be a wife and mother someday, but there were other things I wanted, too, and I knew that it would be easier to do those other things first. But if I hadn't had any educational or professional ambitions or anything else I wanted to do before settling down, I probably would've gotten married a long time ago.

when you've decided to give up caring only about yourself

NEVER!!! Dont do it!!! Have the kids, but dont get married!

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For about 23 years and through various relationships I was convinced I never even wanted children. Woke up one morning and knew I wanted a baby. Within 3 weeks I was pregnant and he's now a handsome, 6 foot 15 year old.
Never wanted another, not interested in other peoples kids but he's brilliant!

I still would never get married though.

When you're good and ready.

When you're ready. Age means little when it comes to love or maturity.