Why don't I get hit on?

People hide behind then anonymity of the internet - I've had several "pick ups" on here - one of them took - but in public I get nothing, nor do I expect it. I find that the best asset you can posses is confidence. That's hot.

I get starred at a lot but never hit on so the only thing I can assume is that I'm very odd looking. Sigh. I'll never get a boyfriend.

Right there with you, I never get hit on. Forever alone :sad:

I don't know you, but I have seen you around on the forums and I think you're beautiful and very inspirational.
With that said, many men simply aren't confident enough to approach a beautiful/confident woman out of fear of rejection. You have to consider all the possibilities - don't assume the negative. There could be a guy who finds you attractive who doesn't even consider hitting on you, because he may believe you're already taken

I don't get hit on either... I could SMILE at a guy across the bar and not get hit on.

I get yelled at out of car windows or comments when they're walking by in GROUPS, but no, very rarely actually spoken TO, let alone asked out, or even asked to dance.

I put it down to a lack of confidence in men. Even only 8 years ago they WOULD approach me, but something is wrong now. (no, it's not that i've gotten too old... i'm 26 and told that i could pass for 22)

Something is really wrong when they don't respond to eye contact and SMILING.

I always felt the same way. My friends and sisters and cousins etc... would say I was very pretty but I never got hit on so I thought they were always just being nice. I would sit and wait and watch as my crushes asked out other girls as I faded into the background...Finally I got sick of it and I asked a guy i liked out. Right on the spot, the moment I met him, at a greyhound bus station no less! Weve been together for 2 years. I found out late from my boyfiend that he had been stealing glances at me too but didnt want to come over and be a creeper (what does that make me?) haha! Dont wait for them, boys are just as shy.

i didn't read the entire thread, so i apologize if this has been said a bunch.

if you're not trying to catch someone's eye then more than likely they're looking and noticing you, but also noticing that you're not looking at them. very FEW men will do the cold approach to someone that has NOT maintained eye contact for at least a second.

look someone in the eye, smile and see what happens :-)

someone else commented that a lot of it has to do with vibes you send and how you carry/ present yourself. i agree with this!!

i know that when I'm out anywhere with my 5 kids, or i look like i'm in a hurry, or a 'don't mess with me attitude' i am pretty much left alone by all people, and especially men. there are rare times when i have all 5 kids out and we're having a great time and men will approach me and compliment me and the kids. but, it doesn't happen all that often.

now, when i'm out without kids, or i'm with friends and we look like we're having fun...... it's a different story. but, again, it comes down to sending out the right vibes and catching people's eyes..........

do you have any single girlfriends you could get dressed up and go out with?? sometimes this is the best way to get noticed! :-)

The thing is, here on MFP I am quite fortunate that I have lots and lots of very supportive friends who give fabulous compliments.

They say that I am attractive, but in real life...

no one looks my way.

Is it just me, or is that odd? I mean, even taking into account the fact that I am probably more photogenic than actually good looking, it still seems a bit odd that no one EVER looks at me in real life if I'm considered, at least on here, to be not bad looking.

It just doesn't make sense.

Small world...my girlfriend lives in Tucson off Speedway between Pantano and Kolb. I'm down there every weekend lol (usually Friday nights...we go up to Pockets a lot). So if you ever see a green and gold two wheeled blur that looked like it was wearing a flat black helmet...give a honk or wave, it was probably me .

On topic...I've spent a lot of my life single...and am told the same things you are. You know...how great a catch you are for (insert xxxxx reason here). Yet there I was...single anyhow.

I still haven't made sense of it. I ask my girlfriend why she's attracted to me...both in a physical and personality sense. Her reasons mirror those of my female friends on MFP. Is it the truth? Well...she's quite attractive (to put it lightly lol)...very intelligent...and could have her pick...not to mention having a rather honest personality.

So...I've got to believe her lol.

Still makes no sense to me though. I know the rest of the female population just flat isn't interested for the most part...lol.

Oh...and for the record, if we had run into each other in a social setting...both single...you're certainly attractive enough that I would have approached you. Also...you've got to know that Tucson guys aren't known for their intelligence hun...lol. You may end up having to do the approaching down there .


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I never got hit on until after I started dating my fiancee. Silly men. The ring means NOT available.

I was told once, before I met my guy, that I'm "intimidating." 5'8" with long legs and real boobs, defined waist even when I'm not at my best weight, usually smiling or laughing and trying ot be agreeable and supportive. Not sure exactly WHAT's intimidating about me. LOL

I figure it was just fate keeping me single til I found the right person.

What I can't figure out is why my fiancee never had any luck with women. He's tall, good-looking, easy-going, he was looking for an honest-to-goodness relationship, steady job, and heck, he'll even wash dishes or clean the bathroom without being asked! I always hear women saying they want someone like that, but when there's one RIGHT THERE, he's not "exciting" enough?