Women who don't accept male friend requests
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All I could think about is maybe women want women as friends so they have someone to relate to, who is just like them.Support from anyone is welcome in this journey I'm on. If ever I feel uncomfortable, I can always delete that person. Gender does not play a role when I accept friend request. I mean most of my friends here are strangers, so isn't it all a risk? So far MFP has proven to be great no complaints.0
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I used to do this because its a lot of guys on here who are just perverts and are using mfp to get laid instead of what its for. It starts to get really annoying. I actually added a few guys and one of them I had to delete over time because he was messaging me inappriate things and his whole mission was just to weasel his way in to getting my number. Sad!0
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I usually check their profile out before accepting. if there is anything that concerns me I probably won't accept. Both Male and Female.0
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Well, as a guy, if I turned down the women who asked to be friends, I would have like 12 friends vs. 60.
My avatar shows me about 45 pounds ago. Just based on that, I am surprised by how many women have asked to be friends. Trying to look at it from a woman's side of not having men friends, I kind of get it. I am shocked - well, kinda - that one woman said men have offered to send "pictures of their bits".
I treat all of my women friends here with respect. I don't flirt, though I may tell them that they look great, but that isn't flirting; it is being supportive.
My wife has seen my friends list and laughed when she saw that it was about 80% women. ( And like 50% of them being really attractive women in their 20's and 30's ) I used to think that was because I reminded them of their grandfather ( I am almost 50 ), but now I think I get it...... Because of my size and age, I'm not someone to be worried about..... and in a way that is true.... I am not one to be worried about.... you can just ask all my wonderful MFP female friends.
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I usually check their profile out before accepting. if there is anything that concerns me I probably won't accept. Both Male and Female.
This I also do. I check out the profile and see if anything looks strange. So far I haven't run into anything except awesome people.0 -
I used to do this because its a lot of guys on here who are just perverts and are using mfp to get laid instead of what its for. It starts to get really annoying. I actually added a few guys and one of them I had to delete over time because he was messaging me inappriate things and his whole mission was just to weasel his way in to getting my number. Sad!
I think thats a little bit of a generalisation. I have both male and female friends and treat both with the respect that I would hope to receive. I have faith that most people are on here to get fit / stay motivated together the above doesn't help things really.0 -
Of course it is no ones business!
So are a lot of the questions asked on the message boards. Still there is nothing wrong with the OP asking a question about something she is curious about.
Absolutely right. Most of the questions posed here are pretty personal or at the least subjective. Nothing wrong with asking...0 -
That this even happens is baffling to me. I don't understand why anyone would make a decision/rule like that based on gender.
I understand basing friends on similar goals, people you know etc etc, but not gender.
That said, I only have 1/2 active friends so it's never been an issue! Mostly because I don't send friend requests. I'm happy to accept them from anyone and everyone though. If there was some reason to delete them later, then I'd do that. Put then again. I wouldn't put anything on here that I wasn't happy for anyone to see. Google!
As for my partner, I see absolutely no reason to tell him, or that he'd care, about what online friends I have!0 -
I don't care if you accept or not. I don't send many friend request, but I do care if your dedicated. If I request someone that is in good shape or making major strides, it is out of respect.
Hard to skip days when you know everyone around you is working hard.
I cuddle with my wife, I get exercise goals and tips from MFP.0 -
Well, I think it is funny people show their pics of just their boobs and wonder why they get male requests. In my opinion, it is human nature. I have male and female friends and think my friends are all on this fitness site for fitness and good health. I only had one "creeper" and didn't delete him...just gave him my honest opinion until he deleted me...hoping I would hurt his ego! It worked!0
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"Out of respect for my husband/boyfriend/SO?"
Seriously?
I don't know about the rest of you, but my husband isn't a narrow-minded, self-centered, controlling man who would be offended or hurt if I were to have male friends on an internet forum. Most of my RL friends are men, and he has no problem with it in the least.
It's called being comfortable and secure in one's relationship. Try it sometimes...
Definitely no offense intended here, but you have to keep in mind that every situation is different. Just because someone is uncomfortable with his significant other having numerous male friends does not mean that he is self-centered, narrow-minded, or controlling. Wounded from before, maybe. Before I try to judge anyone for their opinions, I first try to examine their background for a better understanding as to why they feel that way.0 -
Well a few things to notice, yes guys on here are going to have majority of their friends be female, I'd venture to bet the active people on this site are at least 60%+ Female ... And quite honestly just personal preference, but I prefer talking to girls over guys for the most part. Conversations and support tend to be deeper than "good job brah!" from some muscle head.
This whole stigma works both ways. I get friend requests everyday from girls I've never talked to/helped, aren't even close to my age, don't live near me, don't send a message or bother acting like they have anything in common and it doesn't bother me. I've even gotten them from girls who have the "I don't friend guys" in their profiles .... tell me how that works...
To the girls getting unwanted harrassment, check your profile pic, what you say in posts and overall how you present yourself to the community. I'd imagine a lot could be avoided by not having a profile full of scantily clad photos, what kind of attention did you think you were going to get?
I have to agree with this! I don't care if it's a guy or a girl... if the profile pic is scantily clad with no face i decline. I also delete people who switch to this type of profile picture. I just don't want to look at some girls breasts or some guys abs in my news feed everyday and i'm pretty sure we don't have the same goals anyways.0 -
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Haha!! This made me laugh out loud!! Seriously though, there has been talk of harassment on here and I think it puts some women off for good. I can understand that, I have zero tolerance for it. Having said that, some of my best friends on here and my favourite sources of information, and my biggest cheerleaders are the male friends on here... I've been treated with nothing but respect on here by the guys... and the girls aren't so bad either :laugh:
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^^^this.
I have some AMAZING supportive males friends. And sometimes I feel like they can be more supportive than some of my female friends. No offense! I have the BEST friends on here!!! ALL OF YOU!!!!0 -
Umm. If your spouse is uncomfortable with you being fake online friends with a guy in an attempt to help gain an honest support community then he might have some issues. Does he check your phone, have your facebook password, and control who you see as well?
That's some crazy stuff. Sure you'll have a <5% of them that are creeps but in all fairness there are plenty of creepy ladies that hit up guys too, I seriously doubt statistically speaking there's much of a difference between the sexes in this aspect. You just ignore it and dont accept the request. Most men, like women, are pretty harmless and we all have one goal in common, losing weight. Just seems plain creepy to me, reaks of trust and control issues.0 -
I was curious about this but I do not have time to read this thread right now.
Supportive Z.0 -
I had male friends and my husband wasn't comfortable with this so I had to delete them. I have to respect his wishes.0
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I've heard that it has a lot to do with those few creepy guys on the site who do hit on girls. I personally add everybody who sends me a request at first and if I don't "like" them I will simply delete them.0
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I guess I don't really pay much attention to whether my friends are male or female on here. Nor do I start deleting people if I don't like what they are eating, or if they don't post within a certain timeframe or whatever. I find that way harsh! I am personally here for my own journey and not to harass or annoy others. I mostly used the site to track my calories, but have found my way to the boards for motivation or when I am just plain bored at work (like now). Keeps me from snacking LOL
If you are looking for someone who will be supportive when you need it, or will leave you the hell alone if you have a Thin Mint attack, please feel free to add me. If you are creepy, I will delete you.
PS - I am married, and my husband uses the MFP app to track his food/weight but doesn't participate on the site otherwise, and I think me, my dad and my sister are his only friends. He wouldn't give two figs about me being friends with men online, as 98% of his friends IRL are women (he's the sweet, friend guy every girl loves to have).0 -
Umm. If your spouse is uncomfortable with you being fake online friends with a guy in an attempt to help gain an honest support community then he might have some issues. Does he check your phone, have your facebook password, and control who you see as well?
That's some crazy stuff. Sure you'll have a <5% of them that are creeps but in all fairness there are plenty of creepy ladies that hit up guys too. It's human nature and you just ignore it and dont accept the request. Most men, like women, are pretty harmless and we all have one goal in common, losing weight. Just seems plain creepy to me, reaks of trust and control issues.
Agreed. A spouse like that has some very deep insecurities along with a lack of trust for their partner. Honestly, I'd laugh in my husband's face if he told me I couldn't be friends with somebody for any particular reason. I'm an individual I don't obey anyone.0 -
Should I be offended that I haven't gotten any creeper messages or offers of "bits" pics? *sigh*
I generally prefer male friends as many of them have the twisted sense of humor that I appreciate.0 -
I get the fact that sometimes women just want to hang out with women. And men with men. And so long as it is not being used to deny anyone equal opportunity, it is fine with me.
I think that in much of the world and most times in the past, the idea that women would become friends with men based on unsolicited long distance self-introductions from complete strangers might seem a little surprising. It's a measure of progress, in my opinion, that women are free to do so, or not, as they choose, just like men.
We seem to forget sometimes, how recent a phenomenon this "Brave New World" of social networking is. It is clear to me that that we have yet to work out the etiquette in a way that both allows beneficial mutual interaction and puts limits on inappropriate behavior.0 -
Should I be offended that I haven't gotten any creeper messages or offers of "bits" pics? *sigh*
I generally prefer male friends as many of them have the twisted sense of humor that I appreciate.
Sorry. There were too many complaints about unsolicited bits pics, so I just created a thread and posted mine.
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/542370-ladies-wanna-see-my-bits0 -
Sorry. There were too many complaints about unsolicited bits pics, so I just created a thread and posted mine.
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/542370-ladies-wanna-see-my-bits
Lovely, thank you! Nice bits. ;-)0 -
I love when women state they don't like accepting requests from males with females only on their lists. They are allowed to prefer female friends but I'm not? :laugh:
My list doesn't have a single male on it and that is how it will stay. Do I have some pretty hot women on my list? Absolutely! However, if they were not focuses on their fitness and supportive of mine, they wouldn't be on my list.
I remember when you first started on MFP..you said you were a girl and you only had LL Cool J as your pic because you thought he was hot, so this is a very strange thing that you are saying you are male now. Weird.0 -
I can see why some women won't accept male friends out of respect for their relationships...could be Scriptural or just an understanding between couples. Does it matter?
My husband has no issue with me having male friends, online or IRL, so I wouldn't mind having a few male friends. Right now, I only have two friends on MFP, both female. I won't reject a request based on gender and I highly doubt I'll get creepers...nobody wants to see old lady progress pic (once I decide to post them!).:laugh:0 -
I love when women state they don't like accepting requests from males with females only on their lists. They are allowed to prefer female friends but I'm not? :laugh:
My list doesn't have a single male on it and that is how it will stay. Do I have some pretty hot women on my list? Absolutely! However, if they were not focuses on their fitness and supportive of mine, they wouldn't be on my list.
I remember when you first started on MFP..you said you were a girl and you only had LL Cool J as your pic because you thought he was hot, so this is a very strange thing that you are saying you are male now. Weird.
YOU CLEARLY HAVE ME MISTAKEN WITH SOMEONE ELSE!!!!
I have been on MFP for over a year and have had kick *kitten* success losing weight. I HAVE NEVER HAD AN ACCOUNT WHERE I PORTRAYED MYSELF AS A WOMAN.0 -
I love when women state they don't like accepting requests from males with females only on their lists. They are allowed to prefer female friends but I'm not? :laugh:
My list doesn't have a single male on it and that is how it will stay. Do I have some pretty hot women on my list? Absolutely! However, if they were not focuses on their fitness and supportive of mine, they wouldn't be on my list.
I remember when you first started on MFP..you said you were a girl and you only had LL Cool J as your pic because you thought he was hot, so this is a very strange thing that you are saying you are male now. Weird.
And I didn't start using LL Cool J as my profile picture until after I lost my 60+ lbs and wanted to start focusing on my abs. Considering I have been on here for over a year, you are clearly mistaken and owe me an apology!0 -
Hmmm.
I dont think it matters male or female. This is a place people come to for support and motivation, who has what body parts doesnt really change that for me. I always did get on with guys more than gals but not because i chose to, its just nice to know people going through the same struggles.0 -
I love when women state they don't like accepting requests from males with females only on their lists. They are allowed to prefer female friends but I'm not? :laugh:
My list doesn't have a single male on it and that is how it will stay. Do I have some pretty hot women on my list? Absolutely! However, if they were not focuses on their fitness and supportive of mine, they wouldn't be on my list.
I remember when you first started on MFP..you said you were a girl and you only had LL Cool J as your pic because you thought he was hot, so this is a very strange thing that you are saying you are male now. Weird.
YOU CLEARLY HAVE ME MISTAKEN WITH SOMEONE ELSE!!!!
I have been on MFP for over a year and have had kick *kitten* success losing weight. I HAVE NEVER HAD AN ACCOUNT WHERE I PORTRAYED MYSELF AS A WOMAN.
I have MFPaddict as a friend, he has always stated he is a guy, he has been nothing but helpful and supportive!
:flowerforyou:
He is a really nice genuine guy! He has had amazing success with his weight and is here for that reason!
I think you have the wrong person, I have seen a few people use LLCool as profile, and lost of people have some ref to MFP in name.0 -
I love when women state they don't like accepting requests from males with females only on their lists. They are allowed to prefer female friends but I'm not? :laugh:
My list doesn't have a single male on it and that is how it will stay. Do I have some pretty hot women on my list? Absolutely! However, if they were not focuses on their fitness and supportive of mine, they wouldn't be on my list.
I remember when you first started on MFP..you said you were a girl and you only had LL Cool J as your pic because you thought he was hot, so this is a very strange thing that you are saying you are male now. Weird.
YOU CLEARLY HAVE ME MISTAKEN WITH SOMEONE ELSE!!!!
I have been on MFP for over a year and have had kick *kitten* success losing weight. I HAVE NEVER HAD AN ACCOUNT WHERE I PORTRAYED MYSELF AS A WOMAN.
I have MFPaddict as a friend, he has always stated he is a guy, he has been nothing but helpful and supportive!
:flowerforyou:
He is a really nice genuine guy! He has had amazing success with his weight and is here for that reason!
I think you have the wrong person, I have seen a few people use LLCool as profile, and lost of people have some ref to MFP in name.
Yeah, same here...he was one of my first friends on here from right around the time he joined, and has never respresented himself as a woman. I think you're confusing him with someone else.....0
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