worst comment ever made about your weight

Boyfriends grandmother said I think koreans and Japenese are really pretty and skinny. I mean beautiful! after 3 minutes of her emphasizing how pretty and skinny they were) She says but your pretty. She probabley didnt mean anything but i guess being being fat im not korean. And im not a beautiful korean, i see....i cried in the car with my boyfriend there afterwards. when i told him. I felt so ugle and still do, that was yeasturday by the way

My boyfriend and I have been together for 3.5 years and living together for most of it. Last Christmas my Aunt Joan came up to me and just started rubbing my tummy and smiling at me. I was like "Joan I'm not pregnant." She said "Oh don't worry dear, Aunt Joan can keep a secret. And Aunt Joan ALWAYS knows these kinds of things." All the while she was rubbing my tummy... Just as I was about to deny it again my Aunt Mindy walked by. Then she got all excited and I had to try and tell both of them that I wasn't pregnant. But they both thought that I was just 'keeping it a secret.'

I saw both Joan and Mindy this weekend for Easter and much to their surprise not only was I not pregnant, I had lost weight. They didn't know what to say...but apparently they hadn't kept my 'little secret' a secret and everyone was expecting me to announce what the sex of my baby.

...it was one hell of a long Easter full of "oh no I was never pregnant." "No, I didn't lose the baby cuz there never was one."

Gotta love Family...

As you get a little older and wiser, it takes the sting out of the remarks a bit.
The ones from strangers never bother me, but ones from Friends and Family really hurt.

I was always bigger than I wanted to be, but not the biggest girl in my class... so I never felt ok in my skin, I have a petite sister and a petite mom, so I never enjoyed shopping for school clothes or dresses to wear to dances etc.

I was always the fat/big girl with the pretty face........... well now I am 50 and they can't say that about my face anymore...

So I guess I gotta thin out some too!!!!

HANG IN THERE EVERYONE.. it does get better...eventually!!!!

My grandmother told me one time that I had gained weight; a girl in middle school wrote in my yearbook telling me to "stay pretty and skinny" and then told another person about it and laughed (I was a butterball back then); and every single guy I have dated has cheated on me with someone MUCH skinnier than me only to come back afterwards saying how they screwed up and regret it. Even though they come back on their knees it doesn't help the fact that I wasn't good enough physically for them to stay around the first time. I haven't taken any of them back BUT it has definitely done a number on my self-esteem that has caused me to become obsessed with my looks and weight.

I was always active and athletic throughout my life. Have played some sport throughout my adult life. Since I had metabolic syndrome , I was always overweight. All the comments that I got about my weight and shape has only impacted me positively to create a fire inside me to work my *kitten* off in the GYM. Some times the comments can positively impact to workout more, eat healthy and to show off later

My boyfriend said to me that my *kitten* was getting wider. He said this while I was getting dressed. Even though I've lost all the weight I needed to, I'm still uncomfortable with him seeing me naked.

I think it's time for a new boyfriend. That was nasty.

My grandmother, at my engagement party over ten years ago (I never did marry that guy) informed the whole room, his family and mine that I was way too fat, har har har. I got so drunk that someone carried me to bed. Backstory is too long - but I hadn't spoken to my family for a long time and it was just a really inappropriate thing. (also I was a UK size 10 at the time)

My mother was giving me a recipe and she said about browning the beef and draining it. And she paused and said "well, you probably don't drain the fat out!".

The guy I had a huge crush on as a fat teenager had a one night stand with me as a thin 18 year old because I looked so much nicer.

"Fat *****"

A coworker was talking about someone and said "I mean, they are even bigger than you!" - I was 220#.

Another coworker noticed my pants were loose and said that she had a pair that were too big for her and would surely fit. The pants were size us6. I was a size us14.

"you weigh how much?? I didn't think you were that fat" ... yeah, I am.

Recently as I lose there is a lady that sees me each weekend that insists on telling me I look sick and need to eat more and I'm getting too skinny. I am a size us12 now - was a size us20. I don't want to stop - I'm still over weight and how many times will she make me explain out loud in-front of people that I still need to lose. She also waits for the dining room (where I take my client to eat) to fill up and asks me how many calories I eat and what I'm doing - so that everyone hears.

My daughter plays with my stomach fat if I take a bath with her (she's 5).
Also she has said I have a big bottom more times than I'd like to remember. And "you're FAT mama" - but seriously, she meant it as a compliment. She has said "I hope I am fat just like you when I grow up" which broke my heart. I will teach her how to have a healthy relationship with food and exercise as best I can.



ALSO RE. CHILDREN SAYING THINGS
my 5 year old LOVES pregnant bellies. I mean, she adores them and loves them and will look at them all day. so unfortunately I have had the pleasure of seeing an overweight woman and having my kid shout "she has a baby in her tummy" - which puts me in an even awkwarder situation when I don't know if the woman is preggo or not. I just tell her it's impolite to stare - I won't say "she's just overweight" because she will start saying that!
She has also noticed people who are obese (400/500lbs) and she stares. I'm sorry. I try to not make it obvious or pull her away or I say "yes, there is a nice man/lady walking over there" or whatever. It's difficult.

Always been a big girl as long as I can remember and have been bullied about it my whole life. Sadly though, the one that stays with me is from when I was 10 years old and I was talking to my grandmother on the phone.

"Grandma, I love you."

"I love you too... but I would love you more if you weren't so fat."

{{{{{Hugs}}}}}} That's the saddest thing I have ever read.

I was 16, four years prior to joining the military, and working as a donation attendant at a local Goodwill. One of the children in the backseat looks at me, then looks at their mother and said - "Mommy, she's pregant, just like you!"
The lady looks at me and goes, "Yes she is honey. When are you due?"

...

Turns out I actually had a tumor and a huge cycst growing in my adominal cavity.. so I suppose they weren't that far off.

Right after the birth of baby number #8 .. my grandmother and aunt came to see us in the hospital.. neither of them had seen me in 3 years and the first thing out of their mouths was" oh My gosh you're fat!! Are you SURE you had a baby?.. haven't you ever heard of weight watchers!".
Wow! .lets not mention the fact that I was being watched during the last trimester for pre-eclampsia and had steadily rising blood pressure and was retaining a lot of water.. but really ..rude much?? You haven't laid eyes on me in 3 years and are always complaining that we don't come to see you and that is the only thing you have to say..really??
and they wonder why they only see us every few years!

well for starters you are all beautiful people and deserve complete recognition for all the effort you're making to be a healthier and fitter you!!

Mine doesn't seem that bad, but it's kind of a two-parter and stung.

I was staying at my brothers place and he looked at me and said, "wow, you really have put on weight", and I said, "Yeah, I told you that I put on a few kilos", and he comes back with, "Yeah, but now you look like you've REALLY let go" ... at that stage I'd put on about 10 kilos (22 lbs) in less than 9 months.

Then his 2 year old daughter came up and hugged me around my legs and said "chubbly" ... it was all I could do not to cry in front of her.

That was about 4 months ago and I've lost about 4kgs and have lost width in my thighs and waist. So thanks for the pushing there brother!

oh I should also add...

One day a couple weeks before christmas I was talking to my manager about what to get my wife for christmas. She suggested PJ's from Victorias Secret. I planned that day to go on my lunch to the nearby mall and get some...As we were having the discussion though a co-worker walked up and said "What are you going to Victorias Secret for? A Bra?"

Not gonna lie...I laughed.

Hugs to everyone that shared:flowerforyou:

Karen

In 4th grade, I went to a private school and my sister was dating the most popular guy in 8th grade. He'd have his friends follow him around and say things like "Got some butter for those rolls." And "You don't have boobs yet, you're just fat." (Since I had to start wearing bras before most of my other classmates). He actually also hit me and spit in my face, but now that I'm not a little 4th grader, I know he was just an abusive person and it had nothing to do with me.

I'm also not a fan of the "You aren't THAT fat" or "You aren't fat, you're thick" comments. It's like the people who think "You aren't ugly" is actually a compliment.

When I was 17, I was at the fair and a guy asked me when I was due in an attempt to hit on me. I found it really strange, but I didn't even consider myself fat at the time much less pregnant looking. I'd just lost weight and was wearing a junior's size 9.

I hid my weight pretty well and about a year ago I showed my boyfriend at the time my stomach. He tried to break up with me not long after that because he no longer found me attractive. Thing is that he weighed about the same as me, I just have a bit more loose skin which made everything look worse. He tried to break up with me several times because he found "every other girl on campus more attractive." Funny thing is that he commented to a friend on how I must have "cleaned up" after we broke up :noway:

The best revenge is getting a new boyfriend who is 100 times more attractive and nicer. Now he (ex) walks around looking miserable.