Ladies - Would you date someone who is divorced?
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Well, I did and so did my husband. I am divorced once and he is divorced twice....my ex-husband and his 2nd ex-wife were cheaters....that didn't mean we did anything so bad we deserved it. His first ex....well, that's another post entirely, but not every relationship works....maybe that just means that person didn't find the right one the first...or second time.0
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Since Im divorced I wouldnt have room to judge. I dont see a problem with dating someone who is divorced, unless they are divorced because they cheated. Thats the only reason I wouldnt consider a relationship with someone who was divorced.0
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Absolutely. In fact, I would tend to shy away from a guy who hadn't been married before....mainly because I'm 31 and usually attracted to guys a few years older than me. I view my failed marriage as a huge learning experience....I feel like a man who has been divorced and is willing to try again probably has learned some major lessons about marriage. I know I have.0
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I would never not date someone because they were divorced.0
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No.
Because I date to get married, and I am not promising "till death" to someone who has already illustrated that marraige doesn't mean that.
Sometimes there are circumstances that warrant a divorce or make it inevitable.
"Circumstancs" is not 'till death, now is it?0 -
If I were single, I would. I got married during college and was divorced before a year was up. I hardly feel like I had a first marriage! It's not much different than dating someone who had a long term relationship that ended. If there are kids involved that complicates it a bit but I would not turn down a date because of it.0
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Yes, depends on the person and situation0
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I'm married...
but i know that marriages can be done for the wrong reasons
so yeah I probably would..I would probably wonder what went
wrong so I would ask a lot of questions or expect the guy to
tell me so I don't dread asking...I would expect someone that
is good at communicating because in the back of my mind I would
be wondering if it would happen again-but as long as he was open
and upfront about it i wouldn't see a problem.
everyone deserves to be happy!0 -
I'm divorced, who am I to judge?0
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Hey ladies, anyone want my lying, cheating, piece of ****, soon to be ex?0
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No, he'd have to be married too.0
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No.
Because I date to get married, and I am not promising "till death" to someone who has already illustrated that marraige doesn't mean that.
Sometimes there are circumstances that warrant a divorce or make it inevitable.
"Circumstancs" is not 'till death, now is it?
Remember, It takes two to keep a marriage going.0 -
Yes, definitely, as long as the kids are over 18. I am divorced so that is not a problem for me. I do have a restriction on how soon after a man is separated before I will date him... because I am looking for a long-term relationship and most folks, shortly after separating or right after divorce, are not ready for a new relationship... they're best to spend time alone or to just date randomly rather than seriously.0
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I would rather date a divorced man than a married man.0
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"Circumstancs" is not 'till death, now is it?
I want a divorce. It's not me. It's you. There's nothing you can do about it. Here are the papers. I want you out by the weekend, because your replacement needs a place to stay.
Now you're tainted goods. Sorry.0 -
I hear ya,Im in the same boat.My ex and I just started going different directions after 14 years of marriage so we decided to go our own ways.Ive been single now for about a year and a half and have dated a few times.I have no problem dating divorced women and I think most women dont have a problem dating a divorced man.0
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I am 28, and if I were single I would. My answer would have probably been the same a few years ago too.0
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I definitely would. Why not? Without knowing the circumstances, how can you judge someone?0
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Of course... why wouldnt I ??0
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No.
Because I date to get married, and I am not promising "till death" to someone who has already illustrated that marraige doesn't mean that.
Sometimes there are circumstances that warrant a divorce or make it inevitable.
"Circumstancs" is not 'till death, now is it?
so say there was a guy who was divorced because his wife cheated on him repeatedly you would totally rule him out for not staying with her even though she was committing adultery?0 -
No.
Because I date to get married, and I am not promising "till death" to someone who has already illustrated that marraige doesn't mean that.
Sometimes there are circumstances that warrant a divorce or make it inevitable.
"Circumstancs" is not 'till death, now is it?
I know people who got divorced because their spouse was abusing them. Cheated on them (and in one case gave them an STI). frauded them. turned out to be gay... seriously, there are a lot of reasons why people get divorced and not all of them are issues that can be 'worked through'.0 -
Depends on the circumstances definitely. If the guy cheated on his wife....absolutely not.0
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Well no, my husband would hardly approve. But if I were single? Sure. Extra points if the person could be civil to the ex.
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Yes, I am divorced doesn't mean I don't take marriage seriously or that I didn't take my vows seriously, my now ex didn't take his seriously and had a problem with the forsaking all others part. I deserve better and I know it.
That said I would want to know why he was divorced.0 -
I'm married, but if I were single and dating, it would depend on the reason for the divorce, the relationship between the ex/potential bf/children, how much child support he was having to pay, and his attitude toward the divorce.
A huge red flag to me would be a man who did not acknowledge the part HE played in the divorce, the lessons he had learned from it, and the what he would work on personally as a result of it. A person who can't own up to their own shortcomings and learn from their mistakes is just destined to repeat them.0 -
No.
Because I date to get married, and I am not promising "till death" to someone who has already illustrated that marraige doesn't mean that.
Sometimes there are circumstances that warrant a divorce or make it inevitable.
"Circumstancs" is not 'till death, now is it?
Um, sorry. When my first husband threatened to beat me and repeatedly abused our dogs, I was out. I'm not sticking around to fix THAT.0 -
certainly, I had a long term relationship where we lived together and its fairly similar and my husband didn't hold it against me. And to the op who believes marriage must be till death I am curious if that includes cheating or abuse of you or your children? Or maybe you would just tamper with their brakes rather than divorce:ohwell: because sometimes staying is far worse than leaving.0
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Curious to your opinion on this one. It seems to be the elephant in the room when it comes to dating.
Done that, been there, twice, and thought to myself how is this any different then having a long term girlfriend...told myself it wasn't a big deal...I don't think I'd ever do it again.
The first one lied and cheated. I never even expected it, but I knew something was wrong, so I wasn't dreadfully surprised or upset, just disappointed in myself really. It was only a few month thing.
The second one I thought was the one. I would have jump over the moon for him. He stomped all over my grave before I was in it and walked away leaving me in a hole never to be seen again. That's the short story anyway. No idea what went wrong. Worst story of my life, I'll never be the same.
Now the words divorced send flashing lights and sirens and panic, and running and pitty and hurt and heart break and mostly running.0 -
If I were single. Absolutely everyone deserves to be happy0
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At age 21, no, because to me you shouldn't be married at this age, let alone divorced. But when I'm older, totally.0
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