Ladies - Would you date someone who is divorced?

if a man is strong enough to get through something like that and come out on top then good on him of course!

No.

Because I date to get married, and I am not promising "till death" to someone who has already illustrated that marraige doesn't mean that.

Sometimes there are circumstances that warrant a divorce or make it inevitable.

"Circumstancs" is not 'till death, now is it?

I know people who got divorced because their spouse was abusing them. Cheated on them (and in one case gave them an STI). frauded them. turned out to be gay... seriously, there are a lot of reasons why people get divorced and not all of them are issues that can be 'worked through'.

I am not saying one shouldn't get divorced (or, preferrably annulled) in some of the extreme circumstances. I am saying I wouldn't get remarried after going through that, because obviously I didn't do a good job of picking the first time.

please tell us what it's like to live in a world with unicorns where people fart rainbows and gardens grow lollipops? it sounds so lovely. :huh:

A friend of mine was in a marriage where her husband was suspicious and jealous of everything she did, and constantly accused her of cheating. Eventually she did cheat. They went to counseling and tried to work it out, but ended up divorcing about a year later.

I'm not defending what she did. But it was a mistake, and she genuinely tried to make things work after that.

In the past I might have said that cheating would have been a deal-breaker. But seeing her go through this situation, I can't really say that anymore. Because if I think, "Would I date her?" then the answer is yes, I probably would.

Of course I would.

I'm very lucky - my boyfriend doesn't care that I've been married before and divorced, nor does he care that I have two teenage children too.

Of course.... not now I'm married though!
At my age (45) the options are someone who has been divorced or someone who has never been married. In general I'd take the divorcee over "never married" but everyone is so different you can't really apply blanket rules to dating.

My boyfriend is divorced. He did what he thought was the right thing and married a girl that he got pregnant. They were dating at the time. It just did not work out. They are still on very good terms and I actually get along wonderfully with her. She states often that she is very happy that he has found someone she likes to help raise her child. We actually talk and email alot. Alot people would say that it is weird but I wouldn't want it any other way. She just recently remarried and had her second child. We took her and my boyfriends son to see the new baby the day after delivery and hung out awhile with them. I would say that yea it is not for everyone but in my case it has worked out wonderfully for me and I would not change a thing.

My ex and my DH have gone golfing before LOL

Her and I have actually planned on going to a movie together once but it fell through due to other things. I ask my bf if he thought it was weird or bothered him and he said no so, I dont see the problem.

What I find amazing is how many women wouldn't date someone who has kids....

But, would these women if they were single moms expect men to date them?

i have dated guys with kids in the past and when the relationship ended (they were long term so I did get to know the kids fairly well) it was the hardest on the kid... not saying all relationships end but if they do you have to consider the miniature humans involved to... for me kids are not a deal breaker (even if I do not plan on having any of my own) but I am pretty cautious about them because I hate seeing anyone hurt, and kids can get attached pretty easily.

As a rule I wouldn't rule out divorced men as I was divorced by the age of 23. But it TOTALLY depends on the circumstances and if I was comfortable with the situation.

I was married 15yrs and didnt ask for a divorce nor at the time wanted one. In Florida you cant contest a divorce, I said when I signed it, what if I dont sign this, they said you would be subject to contempt of court!

absolutely.......... considering I am divorced I can hardly judge someone for it.

It just depends on the person and the situation. I'm dating a guy whose currently still married, but gettig divorced. So far, many of my friends and family slam me for that (but they dont know anything about him. He's a really cool guy (we've been friends for 4 years) and he's working hard financially to get stable. so yes, just depends.

If I was single.... I would prefer a man who wasn't divorced (as in, never married lol) just because. I don't know. I don't like the idea of being the second wife. But if he was the right man for me yes I would.

I really don't think so - then again I'm only 20!

I married "until death do us part" too...and tried for 20 years to ignore the emotional, verbal and occasionally physical abuse. Yeah. When the violence kept escalating (slamming on brakes on freeway, throwing plates of food, spitting on the floor, the counter, etc., threatening to get a gun because he was mad at our teenager...the name calling...I could go on) and he was doing it in front of our younger child so that law enforcement had to get involved, it kind of gave me the wake up call that I do NOT have to live this way and teach my children that this behavior is normal. Living with that kind of abuse is NOT God's punishment for choosing the wrong spouse.

I'm really curious what story he will tell his future dates. He insists he's a "nice guy." Whatever. If whomever he dates is in his life and has in impact on my kids', I will do my best to get along with her. And good luck to her.

Will anyone want to date me? They'd be crazy not to. I'm a catch.

divorced and moved on YES separated and bitter NOPE