girls ... do you mind if your men go to strip clubs?

My husband is a retired Navy sailor. He's been to strip clubs all over the world. Any club in the U.S. is a Disney movie, according to him, compared to what he's seen, so he really has no interest in going. That being said, we do cross the border from time to time, where the strip clubs are a bit more "adventurous." I'm another one who doesn't care where he gets his appetite, I know exactly what to serve up!

We made a little vow that included the words "forsaking all others" and "love, HONOR, and respect". . .walking into that sort of establishment would certainly NOT be upholding his end of the deal.

So, yah. . .I'd have a big problem with it. '

My 2 cents.

"forsaking all others" - so that means you no longer speak to your family, you have no friends? If you want to get literal it means your spouse is the ONLY one in your life, that you don't just give up "lusting" after someone else but you give up every person in your life with the exception of him.

There is also a difference between making an innocent trip to the beach and going to a strip club to seek sexual arousal. I think a husband and wife should only seek sexual fulfillment with eachother, and not look outside of the marraige for that satisfaction; ie porn, swinging and strip clubs. Why make vows to eachother if you don't want to be monogomous? I am a jelous wife (but not a totally insane one) and I don't want to share my husbands body; I am thrilled that he wants me all to himself as well. If that's the case, why would I make him feel inadequate by having a need to "whet my appitite" elsewhere before sealing the deal with him?

There's a huge difference to me in seeing a girl on the street and commenting that she looks cute, and purposefully going to a porn site or a strip club and trying to feed that appetite with a woman who is not me. That, to me, is cheating. You seek that out, you're making another woman the person of your desires, and she's the one fueling and/or fulfilling your sexual needs. For my partner, that needs to be me. For me, I look to my man. I have to say, I feel so incredibly fulfilled with my guy, I wouldn't ever dream of wanting another, and I know he feels the same about me. Maybe I'm just one of the lucky few in a relationship where all our needs are actually taken care of by the one we're with - we don't need to look outside. Running into attractiveness and acknowledging it - great. Seeking it out to fuel your desires when you're with someone perfectly wonderful and attractive (who apparently just doesn't do it for you and somehow isn't hurt by the fact that you find others to get your motor going)- not okay in the slightest.

I'm just curious about all the people saying that they wouldn't go because their run by organized crime or human sex trafficking and the such. Does this mean you wouldn't go to church cause of all the preachers that have got caught molesting young boys, stealing from the church they represent, being caught spending church funds on hookers?

...My point is there is evil everywhere so you can't judge the whole of anything by the bad apples that are mixed up in with the good.

Those men are victims of lust, not promoters of it. They are the victims of organized crime. Which is why keeping men away from those places is a good thing. And yes, you had better be a damned good judge.

This "not judging" stuff is something only a fool would go for.

So your saying organized crime is what made these priest have sex with young boys? From what I read not many of the priests spent a large amount of time at the local strip club before hand either...
That being said my cousin worked as a stripper for a couple years while finishing up college and not once was she part of organized crime. Now she has her degree a good job and is able to support herself and her daughter working a regular job.

Thank goodness she was able to break away from that life!

Well that life as you say was what was responsible for her being able to take her life and career to the next level. While there's people that work in the factory I work at that are probably on drugs, beat their wife, spend most their life drunk. But I guess since they keep their clothes on their good people...

They might be sinners, but at least they are not exploiting/stimulating the lust of others to make money. There are better, more ethical ways of taking your career to the next level. Using your beauty is such a way leaves traces on the soul that you can never get rid of. Plus it drags down other souls with it, marking them in ways that aren't pretty too. Purity is worth the struggle. Money is not everything. So, yes, those drunks and drug addicts are better people.

*sigh*

Well I know I'm not pure! I guess I'm slated for the fast track to hell.

Who wants to join me?:devil:

As AC/DC said I'm on a Highway to Hell 8-)
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Yeah, I know. But you can get off the bus any time. No one is keeping you there.

Why make vows to eachother if you don't want to be monogomous?

Not all vows have to do with monogamy.

Marriage vows do..

also i live in Florida and when i say girls at the beach are way more worse than the women at the strip club , girls have came up to me with my child and man and tried to talk to him needless to say when we go to a strip club it is just more or less the environment . my bf tells me all the time it isnt the most attractive thing ... women who take their clothes off and all that. he likes women who are dressed nicely or hippyish it is hard to explain. but you shouldnt feel jealous .i always say dont not come home and no lapdances that is my thing. from there all the rest is trust.