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This is by far the best answer I have seen so far...many women will not like it and will bash the OP for saying it but as man who has seen (and been in) lots of my friends/coworkers unhappy in their relationships this answer is usually the reason...just saying. This can also be applied the reverse way too...men, you have to also put in your time and attention to your woman and try as hard as you can to be the best you in your relationship but if the above things happen...it explains a lot. Not saying it should ever come to that...but it does sometimes...thank you for that and your understanding.

Thank you.. I WAS in that relationship. For the last 3 years, I may as well have been housekeeper, cook and nanny. I couldnt PAY him to have sex with me, he never wanted to do anything, he didnt want ME to do anything with my girlfriends, If I wanted to watch Football, I was stuck in the bedroom with the little TV. It sucked. I was not with someone I loved or even liked. But until I was financially able to start over, I couldn't do anything about it...... Eventually I could, but that was a long, lonely, battery operated three years.

I hope this is not considered hitting on, but I find it hard to believe you would ever have to had pay anyone.

See, I told you I am not good at this flirting stuff...

I usually won't add guys out of respect for my BF, do unto others and all of that jazz. I really don;t want him to worry a second on it because I am here for my health; not for funzies (as he would say) The one guy I friend-ed was because he has some great insight and info on running, I can learn a lot from him, plus he is happily married, doesn't flirt with me and I feel comfortable that my BF would like him anyway.

I have gotten friend requests with flirty messages in them but I usually ignore and delete them.

Speaking as a married (and faithful!) man, I have to say that it is disappointing to see the sanctity of marriage being so...neglected. I am a friendly person, and like talking to people, but will not for an INSTANT think of taking things further. I wish I could say the same for all married men.

I appreciate this response very much, thank you for this!

I hear about that stuff from my female friends. So inappropriate. Get out of the damn relationship if you're unhappy you turd head.

Agreed!!! It is sad! It really does happen a lot on here, and then you have those that are great friends and stay committed to their spouses! I must add though that flirty does attract flirty, and so long as lines are not crossed why not have a little fun. Everyone needs to flirt it feels good LOL!

I only read the first few pages here, but I am gonna be a realist on this one.

As a woman, I know my own. Women can make men's lives hell. There are so many fantasies and outings that they want to share with us, but most of the time, wives are not willing. The ones with the awesome wives who are up for anything (not just in the bedroom) and dont mind if their guy goes out with the boys every now and then, are not the ones interested in other women.

But who wouldnt think of straying if you live with someone who gives you NO attention, does nothing to satisfy you, makes no effort to go outside the box a little, complains about everything you do, doesnt like your friends, wont watch what you want to watch, and doesnt seem to care about what you find visually stimulating?

I cannot blame them and think it is sad that some people are essentially stuck in relationships that they dont enjoy.

Divorce is not always a good option for some people. Kids, finances, lawyers etc get in the way........ If you KNOW that once you sign that paper, you lose everything you have worked for, you are not going to be as willing to do it.

Ok here goes,.........

As a woman, I know MY OWN. Men can make a woman's life hell, think woman don't have fantasies
or outings they would like to share WE do ! problem a lot of times is after working , cooking, cleaning house
and taking care of kids while the Male mows the grass (on his riding lawn mower) drinking beer then watching
football SURE honey let me dress the part of your fantasy and spend the next 2 hrs making you happy so you
don't cheat and when its over go grab some food and watch tv in bed while i finish cleaning the kitchen and getting
things ready for tomorrow

But who wouldnt think of straying if you live with someone who gives you NO attention, does nothing to satisfy you, makes no effort to go outside the box a little, complains about everything you do, doesnt like your friends, wont watch what you want to watch, and doesnt seem to care about what you find visually stimulating? LMAO DITTO!!!!!!!

Oh and don't forget the fear of losing everything HE HAS WORKED FOR 95% of the time the females lose more then the
males and they deal with children and the wanna be part time Dads.


BOTTOM LINE... If you feel you need / have to cheat get out, if you feel you can't get out SUCK IT UP
until you can, no amount of rationalizing will make cheating ok.

The op sounds just like a man, or a woman having an affair with a married man !!

GET THE F--- REAL IT TAKES TWO

Yes. Because we all know it's only men that do this. :huh:

Im glad someone said this, I see women on here making overtly sexy topics and posts all the time. Seriously shocked at times.

Yeah I've experienced a few problems with them too! I don't accept friend requests from them now. I know not all of men are like that but I'd rather not risk being creeped out.

Personally I think some men join with the sole intention of being perverted, it's easier to do on here then the likes of Facebook. All you have to do is pretend to want to lose weight then bam- you can be friend lots of women!

Personally I prefer female friends for that reason only

It's the same here and on facebook. And not just married men, I see married women doing it too. It really disgusts me and pisses me off.

I'm flirty/friendly!

Ok here goes,.........

As a woman, I know MY OWN. Men can make a woman's life hell, think woman don't have fantasies
or outings they would like to share WE do ! problem a lot of times is after working , cooking, cleaning house
and taking care of kids while the Male mows the grass (on his riding lawn mower) drinking beer then watching
football SURE honey let me dress the part of your fantasy and spend the next 2 hrs making you happy so you
don't cheat and when its over go grab some food and watch tv in bed while i finish cleaning the kitchen and getting
things ready for tomorrow

But who wouldnt think of straying if you live with someone who gives you NO attention, does nothing to satisfy you, makes no effort to go outside the box a little, complains about everything you do, doesnt like your friends, wont watch what you want to watch, and doesnt seem to care about what you find visually stimulating? LMAO DITTO!!!!!!!

Oh and don't forget the fear of losing everything HE HAS WORKED FOR 95% of the time the females lose more then the
males and they deal with children and the wanna be part time Dads.


BOTTOM LINE... If you feel you need / have to cheat get out, if you feel you can't get out SUCK IT UP
until you can, no amount of rationalizing will make cheating ok.

The op sounds just like a man, or a woman having an affair with a married man !!

GET THE F--- REAL IT TAKES TWO

First off...... NO. I am not a man. Nor am I a woman having an affair with a married man. I WAS the one getting **** on all the time. I WAS the one that was ignored. I WAS the one who was alone and never actually acknowledged.

Saying that you HAVE to do EVERYTHING is on you. I did everything in my house, and if given the chance, would have GLADLY spent 2 hours "trying to make him happy". But he didnt want me and was blatantly obvious about it.

I made more money than him. I was the one that had to move and get a new car. I was the one who lost everything. I am also the one who replaced everything. My ex isnt there for our daughter most of the time, and the last time he had her, she wound up in the hospital due to his negligence.

If you ARE married, I really feel badly for your husband....... It must be hell to live with such a bitter, self serving, entitled woman. Yes, it does take two. BOTH of you have to work at it. But if a woman cant manage to pull her side and complains about everything SHE has to do, it wont be pleasant. I have never cheated or been any part of cheating in my life. I have felt the urge to, and didn't because I knew I could not keep emotions seperate.

Perhaps you should get the whole story before accusing people of adultry.......

This thread is just one of many loaded with people passing judgment on people they do not know based on assumptions or what THEY feel is right & wrong.

a bit like day to day life, really. :-P

Ok here goes,.........

As a woman, I know MY OWN. Men can make a woman's life hell, think woman don't have fantasies
or outings they would like to share WE do ! problem a lot of times is after working , cooking, cleaning house
and taking care of kids while the Male mows the grass (on his riding lawn mower) drinking beer then watching
football SURE honey let me dress the part of your fantasy and spend the next 2 hrs making you happy so you
don't cheat and when its over go grab some food and watch tv in bed while i finish cleaning the kitchen and getting
things ready for tomorrow

But who wouldnt think of straying if you live with someone who gives you NO attention, does nothing to satisfy you, makes no effort to go outside the box a little, complains about everything you do, doesnt like your friends, wont watch what you want to watch, and doesnt seem to care about what you find visually stimulating? LMAO DITTO!!!!!!!

Oh and don't forget the fear of losing everything HE HAS WORKED FOR 95% of the time the females lose more then the
males and they deal with children and the wanna be part time Dads.


BOTTOM LINE... If you feel you need / have to cheat get out, if you feel you can't get out SUCK IT UP
until you can, no amount of rationalizing will make cheating ok.

The op sounds just like a man, or a woman having an affair with a married man !!

GET THE F--- REAL IT TAKES TWO

First off...... NO. I am not a man. Nor am I a woman having an affair with a married man. I WAS the one getting **** on all the time. I WAS the one that was ignored. I WAS the one who was alone and never actually acknowledged.

Saying that you HAVE to do EVERYTHING is on you. I did everything in my house, and if given the chance, would have GLADLY spent 2 hours "trying to make him happy". But he didnt want me and was blatantly obvious about it.

I made more money than him. I was the one that had to move and get a new car. I was the one who lost everything. I am also the one who replaced everything. My ex isnt there for our daughter most of the time, and the last time he had her, she wound up in the hospital due to his negligence.

If you ARE married, I really feel badly for your husband....... It must be hell to live with such a bitter, self serving, entitled woman. Yes, it does take two. BOTH of you have to work at it. But if a woman cant manage to pull her side and complains about everything SHE has to do, it wont be pleasant. I have never cheated or been any part of cheating in my life. I have felt the urge to, and didn't because I knew I could not keep emotions seperate.

Perhaps you should get the whole story before accusing people of adultry.......

I am Married to a wonderful man and we have a great relationship, what i don't understand is your post
is putting all the blame on the female , and defending the male !!! Sorry you had such a bad experience
everything you went thru was your fault ??
Your post and your reply contradict each other

I am Married to a wonderful man and we have a great relationship, what i don't understand is your post
is putting all the blame on the female , and defending the male !!! Sorry you had such a bad experience
everything you went thru was your fault ??
Your post and your reply contradict each other

Because the majority of the time it is the woman that is the indifferent, cold, bitter, whiney, and angry. My experience was not the norm. I have watched it. I have seen people go through it, and made a decision to never be "that wife". And although I am not married anymore, I am in a committed relationship with a man that I share a home and children with, and have the same responsibilities as any married woman, and I choose to not be that way BECAUSE of the angry bitter frigid women I see.

or getting caught in the rain.....?

totally AGREE!