Why do you "unfriend" people

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  • 987Runner
    987Runner Posts: 209
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    I deleted because honestly, I'm not good at keeping up with people. I'm sure people would have booted me anyway for not responding to their posts and successes. For me it's just easier to focus on my diet/exercise and then come to the forums to respond or get information. If I were to make a good connection with someone on here, i wouldn't delete them without giving them a reason why (if I deleted at all!). I just haven't made a connection with anyone yet. :)
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
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    I've only unfriended three who I had a lot of contact with. One wrote something on her page that I found quite rude to people who had been trying to support her. Basically, she didn't like people using certain wording when congratulating her. While I don't even remember if I ever was one of those people, I decided she was not the type of person I needed to be in contact with. Another continually said things on the boards that a closer friend found extremely upsetting, so out of respect for the other friend, I unfriended. And a third was a guy who seemed OK but turned out to be kind of creepy.

    Otherwise, I've only unfriended people who I never have contact with and I can't even remember why we were friends to begin with.
  • CharityEaton
    CharityEaton Posts: 508
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    I've only unfriended one person outside of my normal "rules" If you don't log in for over a week without an explanation then you get cut. If I feel that we are no longer on the same page, you get cut.
    One person I just got tired of the drama and lack of commitment to getting fit so they got cut.
    But all the people that I communicate with regularly are still there, I don't just randomly drop people. If you have not logged or you are bugging me I will stop communicating with you for a while and if you don't make any contact over a few weeks THEN I go ahead and drop you...but no way would I just randomly drop someone....that's not very nice at all! : )

    ETA I am a little more strict on what Friend requests I accept though...I don't like having a huge list of friends because I really do like to keep up with all of my friendsand be supportive! 40 or so seems to be my comfortable number....any more then tht and I just can't keep up and I just don't like that. Plus....no msg with a FR you don't get accepted...it's just strange to randomly pick people and not tell them WHY. BUT I usually send them a msg flat out asking...why did you FR me? If they re offended then so be it...I don't want creepies! Had a guy that had all women as his friends...and over 200 of them...let's just say I was not the same ethnicity as his "friends" so I felt a little stange about that. I'm not trying to be rude but REALLY I would stick out like a sore thumb in his list and that was enough to friek me out!
  • Jfearn64
    Jfearn64 Posts: 353 Member
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    Only one I un-friended was mentally unstable and I did not need the extra drama in my life right now.
  • LuLuSUPER
    LuLuSUPER Posts: 189
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    I delete people I see making the same mistakes over and over again, and then whining about not seeing any progress. I have spent a good amount of time getting rid of the negative in my life, and I don't tolerate anyone who brings it back in.
    AMEN!!!!:bigsmile:
  • Rachelito
    Rachelito Posts: 119 Member
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    I unfriend people that dont make their diary public at least to friends. I mean, seeing other peoples food intake helps motivate me to eat better, so if I cant see yours plus you are never posting anything useful, I will delete.
  • sirabe
    sirabe Posts: 294 Member
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    I delete people who don't log in for months. I just assume they aren't there anymore. Maybe they found a new system or something
  • Serah87
    Serah87 Posts: 5,481 Member
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    I "unfriend" people if they haven't logged on for several weeks. :tongue:
  • billsica
    billsica Posts: 4,741 Member
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    I only delete if there is too much drama, or you haven't logged in in over four months.

    Also because I'm an a** hat.
  • mslack01
    mslack01 Posts: 823 Member
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    1. People who haven't logged on in a month
    2. People who are extremely offensive (and I am not easily offended)
    3. People who really get on my nerves
    4. Thinking about deleting people who never respond when I comment on their posts or don't comment on mine either. I give lots of support and don't expect you to comment on every post but you could help a sista out sometimes....
  • luvnthenewme
    luvnthenewme Posts: 121 Member
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    I have only unfriended one person. Honestly, I got tired of her posting EVERY day that "Today is a cheat day" or "I did *some normal activity* so I am going to splurge". Maybe I am not a nice, supportive person, but my other friends are out there working their tails off and truly changing their life habits to achieve their goals. That is what I want to be surrounded by.
  • CoryIda
    CoryIda Posts: 7,887 Member
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    If they don't log in for a while or the need more support than I can provide or they do stupid things like HCG or I just don't feel connected to them.

    Or if they make any of my favorites uncomfortable. Yes, I do play favorites.
  • fitniknik
    fitniknik Posts: 713 Member
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    I unfriended people due to we are at different places.
    They are trying hard to loose and I'm trying to maintiane
    I've lost all I need to and it just did not feel right.
    I do support them in going for it, it very much worth the
    work.

    How do you think you got to maintenance? By losing, with the help of people who have lost! Sad that you arent willing to share your wisdom!
  • DJJW
    DJJW Posts: 519 Member
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    I have defriended people who haven't shown up in FOREVER and who hasn't been part of my weight loss, but on the other hand, I still have people who haven't logged on in a year, but who I had a bond with and if/when they log back on they will still see me here. But I would never delete you, you rock.
  • MrsSWW
    MrsSWW Posts: 1,590 Member
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    Show me your friends and I'll show you your future - that's my mantra baby!

    ^^ Ooooh I like this!!!

    I posted yesterday that I have 41 friends and every single one of them had logged in. In the past I have unfriended people who are consistenlty under 1k cals, but I've softened in my old age, and hope to lead by example i.e. eat healthy food 90% of the time (and a lot of it), exercise, and achieve a steady, sensible weight loss. :smile:

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  • SheilaSisco
    SheilaSisco Posts: 722 Member
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    I unfriend people who are pro-ana or unsupportive. It irritates me when people send me a friend request and then don't even make the effort to talk to me.

    ^^^This!^^^

    Yes, I can totally agree with this!
  • LovelyLifter
    LovelyLifter Posts: 560 Member
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    cos im a b*tch
  • cramernh
    cramernh Posts: 3,335 Member
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    I wont judge anyone who doesnt post something, nor if they hadnt been on MFP in a while... Too many factors can cause a person to not respond, or come around, etc. If I see they have been gone for like, two months, yeah, Ill remove them. If they come back and ask for a re-invite.. sure!

    There was one MFP member that life just got in the way for her. I sent a private message letting her know that where she confided in me on a few things that were going on, I understood. I had removed her, but I told her that when she was ready to come back, if she would like to keep in touch, I wanted her to know that I recognize life gets the best of us and Ill gladly grab her back. But, we dont monitor our MFP's together. I stay out of her business (per her request), and she stays out of mine (per my request)... My MFP experience is really no one's right to tell me what to do, nor mine to tell them... but I wont put up with someone's rediculous drama that they just seem to thrive on... ***rolling eyes here

    Some people have made it known that they plan on taking a period of time off and werent sure when they were coming back. They dont even have to say that to anyone.. its nice, but not necessary.

    I will though avoid folks with eating disorders though. Thats an area that I am plain-out not comfortable with at all. Nothing against them personally.

    People just need to focus on theirselves I think. Im here on MFP for myself because I have to focus on myself under the guidance of specialists who are helping me with my medical conditions and such by monitoring my intakes.
  • warmachinejt
    warmachinejt Posts: 2,167 Member
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    people that add me and i never hear from and yea people with ED's that don't wanna listen
  • muwchck
    muwchck Posts: 261 Member
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    I've deleted people who have continuously eaten very low calorie amounts and think that it's ok. It happens to everyone every once in a while, and I understand that. But if you make it a daily point to eat 900 calories and burn 400 or more, you're not about doing this the right way, and I don't need you bringing me down.

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