Why do you "unfriend" people

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  • Beastette
    Beastette Posts: 1,497 Member
    lol am I the only person who actually *knows* all of her friends? (; I don't add people... I get it, it's not the same as say... Facebook... but still... I don't know you ;P I'm not going to just start talking with you (; that being said I'm fine with people who've messaged me with advice or asked questions even. If I can help out that's great, whether I know you or not. And if you can help me, then I'm more than happy to take your advice(: but we don't have to be *friends*.

    I started that way. Some of the people on the forums are just far too cool to resist. You'll see.
  • maab_connor
    maab_connor Posts: 3,927 Member
    Many reasons:

    1. You're not active
    2. You don't like my foul mouth
    3. We fundamentally disagree on something I value to the point it's a deal-breaker
    4. You're annoying
    5. You're too needy
    6. I got trigger happy...

    It happens.


    pretty much exactly this.
  • BurtHuttz
    BurtHuttz Posts: 3,653 Member
    Seeing as how I've only got one friend, and it's my wife, I think it would be a pretty substantial disaster if I unfriended anyone.
  • scmcgee
    scmcgee Posts: 165
    I haven't actually unfriended anyone yet. I like to keep me list low, because I want to keep up with my friends on MFP and offer encouragement. I look for people my age and with the same goals that I have when I get a friend request and please put in a message about why you think I need to accept your friend request. Also, I want to be able to look at your food diary. If you are only doing 700 calories a day and those meals consisted of coffee and Lite Beer and Ramamen noddles- we are not at the same place in our goals.
  • KellyKAG
    KellyKAG Posts: 418
    I take them off if they have been inactive for 7 days and/or don't comment. I like to keep my friends list manageable so I can comment and offer support daily.

    ^^this
  • mummum2
    mummum2 Posts: 415 Member
    I don't delete anyone. I know that a lot of people will delete friends that have been inactive for awhile. I figure everyone has issues and they will need a friend if they get back on track. Obviously if someone were offensive or if I found we were completely wrong as friends, I would delete, but that hasn't happened as of yet. Don't sweat it, if you were being a good friend, it's their loss.

    ^^^^This for me also^^^
  • Rokwell
    Rokwell Posts: 143
    If they are not supporting and being active, they have to go.
  • LatinaGordita
    LatinaGordita Posts: 377 Member
    Because I wanna surround myself with BA people! They don't have to look BA yet but they need to have a good attitude! If people are whining about crap all the time (why didn't I lose a pound this week, wah wah wah) or just in general being buzzkills - they get the axe. Also, if they aren't interacting with me. I give out a lot of support and darn it, I expect some back! :D Show me your friends and I'll show you your future - that's my mantra baby!

    Like! And tell me how you are getting that body! WOW, amazing!
  • Argent78
    Argent78 Posts: 151 Member
    people posting things completely unrelated to this site, every hour... or guys making sexual/ flirting comments
  • AmberBarrios
    AmberBarrios Posts: 394 Member
    As another poster said, I delete people who treat this like twitter. If you are flooding my feed with non helpful things and I am get annoyed with constants posts that seem to be searching for sympathy multiply times a day then sorry I am not the person that will be feeding into that. I understand people need constant reassurance, but seriously!!!! Example: "Ugh I feel so ugly and unloved today" Okay if I see this post I am going to give you some encouragement along with the other 200 people you are friends with; however, if you post something similar to this 12 times a day sorry I can't help you.
  • alicia_louise29
    alicia_louise29 Posts: 101
    When they haven't been on for more than 10 days, I do check their profile normally they mention their going away but if not I delete them. Also If I notice I don't have much in common with them x
  • bigdawg025
    bigdawg025 Posts: 774 Member
    There are many reasons... it happens... I have a bit of a jealous streak in me (yes... those damn insecurities)... my issue... but also my right and my choice to delete you if you hurt me or do something that I simply don't agree with or can't handle. I used to have 273 friends at one time... there's a reason I only have 69 (was down to 40 at one point).
  • Dangerdat
    Dangerdat Posts: 31 Member
    I unfriend skinny people.
  • TheReese1206
    TheReese1206 Posts: 238
    I have deleted a few. For being inappropriate, constant negativity, talking down to others and a few other reasons. I want the people on my friends list to be supportive, positive and uplifting. I can understand having a bad day but when its constant.....I can't handle it.
  • xTenaciousJx
    xTenaciousJx Posts: 555
    only if they've inactive for 30 days or more w/o explaining.....why have ppl that aren't doing what they're here for?
  • SofaKingRad
    SofaKingRad Posts: 1,592 Member
    I keep my friend list to a minimum because I only want ones that I interact with, and in turn, interact with me. So if I'm not interacting with you, and vice versa, I just delete.
  • Coco_Puff
    Coco_Puff Posts: 823 Member
    I dropped a few yesterday because they had not logged on in over 6 months or so and some had deleted their membership. The others that has not logged on for 2 months or less, I sent an e-mail to get them back on it.
  • Lost_Mermaid
    Lost_Mermaid Posts: 136
    I worry that the few friends i have on here might delete me because i dont participate in conversations very much. I'm just shy though, i do go through and read everything and keep up with whats going on with my friends, but most of the time i talk myself out of commenting or posting stuff because i dont want to sound annoying or dumb.
  • Birder150
    Birder150 Posts: 677 Member
    I have one friend on my list who I'm friends with IRL.
    People noise tires me out and I prefer to be alone or in the company of one or two at a time.
  • Usbornegal
    Usbornegal Posts: 601 Member
    I have only unfriended once - they were constantly posting about everything, filling my pages so much that I couldn't keep track of all my other friends. I do not delete inactive posters, because if they are inactive, they are temporarily invisible, and I'll want to catch up to them when they come back. I can't comment to every person every day, but try to keep up a steady stream of encouragement across the board.
  • cglyfer
    cglyfer Posts: 104 Member
    I take them off if they have been inactive for 7 days and/or don't comment. I like to keep my friends list manageable so I can comment and offer support daily.

    What if someone is on vacation for 7 days? Thats kinda $#!TT^

    This is one of my big reasons also...and if they were my friend I would know that they were going on a cruise...they might have mentioned it a time or two before leaving...I keep my list under 30 peeps so I can stay in touch with each of them...if I don't have any contact with them over a weeks time I may cut them...
  • Jennplus2
    Jennplus2 Posts: 984 Member
    Many reasons:

    1. You're not active
    2. You don't like my foul mouth
    3. We fundamentally disagree on something I value to the point it's a deal-breaker
    4. You're annoying
    5. You're too needy
    6. I got trigger happy...

    It happens.

    :laugh:

    I mostly agree, but I tend to let people be a little needy. If they are always needy that is different but everyone every now and then just has a crappy day and needs to vent. But if folks are not being supportive or they keep telling people to do unhealthy things I'm out. (example: One person kept telling her friends to eat only cabbage soup, only 335 cal per day and she IMO needed help with an eating disorder. It was very sad to see and I could only offer advise to a point, if she doesn't want help I can't make her listen :cry: but I couldn't just sit and watch it either )
  • chachita7
    chachita7 Posts: 996 Member
    My friends list consist of peeps who have similar goals - it isn't just about losing weight it is about making changes towards a healthy lifestyle. My goals are set for complete health - mental, emotional, and physical - to be successful and to encourage those who I interact with their goals must be of similar.

    Therefore I believe I cannot encourage someone who has, in my eyes, unhealthy behaviors such as exercising way too much, not eating near enough and constant negative self criticism.
  • blynn2708
    blynn2708 Posts: 262 Member
    I deleted someone not so long ago, she was harming herself when she ate something bad and tell everyone she did it. She would not take anyone's advice and I felt she didn't want anyone's help and didn't want to help herself. She needed more then what MFP could give her! I felt bad for "unfriending" her, but else could I do? That's not what mfp is here for.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    Many reasons:

    1. You're not active
    2. You don't like my foul mouth
    3. We fundamentally disagree on something I value to the point it's a deal-breaker
    4. You're annoying
    5. You're too needy
    6. I got trigger happy...

    It happens.


    pretty much exactly this.

    I like your blue footed boobies :blushing:
  • aquarianpixi
    aquarianpixi Posts: 131 Member
    I don't delete anyone. I don't talk much. I don't feel comfortable around people even online a lot of the time, so I don't talk, or leave a lot of comments. If someone has a question on my friends list I will help out any way I can, but I don't congratulate every completed diary, or even look at other peoples diaries.

    am I someone worthy of being defriended? probably. Just know that just seeing other peoples progress is just as motivating as, if not more so, then constant "congrats" comments.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    I unfriend skinny people.


    *LMAO*
  • ihateroses
    ihateroses Posts: 893 Member
    Don't take it personally. I'm sure whoever deleted you didn't think twice about it, and already forgot about you...so why dwell on it?

    Now if a REAL friend un-friended you, thats something to be upset about.
  • Kristy0728
    Kristy0728 Posts: 63
    I delete people when I see they arent eating enough, or they arent using MFP consistently. I try to wait and make sure not logging in is a habit and not a vacation.

    I dont want a play by play and dont comment on the mundane and inane stuff. "I am home now." "Going to work now." Blah blah blah. Its not what I am here for. I don't want a modified "facebook" experience. I have a few friends, most of which are good about "wtg" and "good job" etc. Some that ONLY comment on the frustration stuff, and thats good to. They comment when I have questions and can relate. THATS what I was looking for when I decided to start friending people.
  • Alma_Sana
    Alma_Sana Posts: 453 Member
    Many reasons:

    1. You're not active
    2. You don't like my foul mouth
    3. We fundamentally disagree on something I value to the point it's a deal-breaker
    4. You're annoying
    5. You're too needy
    6. I got trigger happy...

    It happens.

    I love #6! HAHA
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