Survey time: Should a guy pay on a first date?

Yes, they should. However, ladies, we should always at least "reach" for our wallets and allow him to say "no, it's on me". And if he doesn't, suck it up and pay your half and you can make your own decision on his qualities/compatabilitiy for yourself.

When I went on the first date with my husband, I offered to pay for a round of drinks- even though I was an Au Pair making 600 dollars a month. He managed to hide just how much money he makes at his job for a few dates, once I found out, I never paid again! But he always appreciated (and I liked) that I bought that round of drinks- it makes for a funny story now!

Yes

No...he pays. You are paying with your time.

Because your time is that much more important than his?

Yup. most women spend more time turning down dates than actually going on them. Men seem to ask everyone out for some reason. I dont go on a date with every single guy so the ones I do go out with I do expect them to value the time i'm giving them.

Whew. I'm glad to see that nobody is perpetuating any of those pesky stereotypes.

He shouldn't feel obligated to - i surely don't need a man to pay for me, but if he really wants to, fine for me, but I don't expect it and always take money with me to pay my part of the bill.

Split the bill unless the guy wants to pay. I don't think men should always be forced to pay for dates, its sexist.

Ummmm Well the way I see it is, you gave him money for dinner, he took it. What did you expect him to do? I always, as a rule, bring money and order to my own budget so that I can at least pay for my own meal on a first date. I don't think a man is EVER required to pay, regardless of who asked who.

You offered, he took. The only time I didn't support this was in my own life... was on a first date, barely ordered anything that cost, had a terrible time. Check came, I got money out, and the guy gave the waitress his debit card, so I was like okay cool... proceeded to put money away.. and the dude reached over and took it straight out of my hand without a word.

Moral of the story: Don't give out money if you expect him to pay.

No...he pays. You are paying with your time.

Because your time is that much more important than his?

Maybe.

IMHO, any man who asks a woman out for anything should pay. And IF I ever asked a man out, I would do the same.

Just wanting to know everyone's view on who should pay on a frist date. I know equal right and all that but if I guy does not pay for me on the first date I just assume he is a tight a*rse and he not getting a second date.

Sunday night, first date, dinner came to $75 I gave him $50 and he took it and did not offer any change, hmm nice!

Don't bother ever going out with him again. You got away from someone mean for only 50bucks, count yourself lucky

No...he pays. You are paying with your time.

Because your time is that much more important than his?

Yup. most women spend more time turning down dates than actually going on them. Men seem to ask everyone out for some reason. I dont go on a date with every single guy so the ones I do go out with I do expect them to value the time i'm giving them.

Whew. I'm glad to see that nobody is perpetuating any of those pesky stereotypes.

I guess for some people its a stereotype. I get asked on a lot of dates and I only go on the ones with the guys that I really like. To me it honestly just seem like its a numbers game to guys. If they ask out a bunch of girls eventually one will say yes.

This may be a Red Flag that he isn't good with his money. When my husband & I were dating, I always paid because I always had money. He got bill collector phone calls on our honeymoon and I "inherited" thousands of debt. We paid it off in 1 year and he has now financially responsible. He loves the debt-free feeling.
It's okay to offer to pay, or to pay the tip. Just not every time. You need to be shown that he wants to take care of you.

If he asked me out I would expect him to pay, I may leave the tip or pay for drinks or something else we may do. That dude should have paid for the meal. If a man is having money problems and I suggest the date, I would tell him "I got you, no problem".

^ This

i usually assume whoever asked the other on the date is the one organising the date and should therefore pay.. however on a first date if the man has done the asking - if it's gone well i will try and offer to go halves but then if he insists on paying i then say "ok as long as you let me pay next time"... which usually works :-)

equally if it's not gone well and he's organised it i'll offer to pay halves and if he agrees pay and if not let him pay
and the same if i organised it and it's not gone well - if he offers to go halves i'll accept that but go prepared to pay the whole thing

If they ask you out and pick the place, they pay. It goes both ways, but I think the man should pay until you are going out more than twice a month or so. Then it should be split.

I guess I'm old fashion I think he should always pay

ALWAYS.