When guys yell out the car and honk the horn at you..

I have had some interesting things said most of them make me blush while others make me want to gouge their eyes out.

one time in particular I was jogging and some landscaper was in the tree with his shirt off and jeans and was trimming a branch was ogling me started straddling the tree and making lude gestures with his tongue hands and what have you .. I chucked a rock at his F#*ken head who taught him that's how to behave only God knows.. dumb prick.

another time some dude made a comment to his friend at the top of the stairs about my "tig o bitties" .. * I was alone at the bottom of the stairs and seriously felt threatened having to walk past him and his buddy.. I buried my lunch box ( used to carry the metal ones as purses ) in his sack as hard as I could on the way up.. and my husband ended up catching wind of what happened and had a very stern talk to the guy and made him come out to the car and apologize,..

this happens to me quite frequently as I run on a road that is also a popular lookout spot and cars are always going up and down. Honestly, I can never understand what they are saying but I always yell back, makes it more fun!

I've noticed it's usually only guys do it when there are a lot of other guys in the car, it's like they're doing it more for their friends than anything. I'm not offended.

Twenty years ago I was annoyed. Now I'm flattered.

i feel flattered, but feel like they're immature and at the same time feel violated. i get the same feeling when someone's staring at me...the kind of undressing stare.

unless i'm attracted to you, stop it. it's weird.

I think it's hilarious how many women think it's ok to behave like an idiot if you're hot enough to pull it off, but if you aren't...you're just a jerk lol.

I do agree with this, though - if you're hot it's okay, if you're not it's creepy?

I used to acknowledge it (before I got married) (which was between the years of (12-16) and smile or something... they must've thought it was an invitation, because every time I did that, those creepers would try to come talk to me. I got freaked out the last time when this man followed me almost to my house. (I went to my neighbor's house down the street so he wouldn't know where I lived). After that I quit acknowledging it...
Since I don't live in that city anymore, I get less of it.. and when I do get it, I don't feel like they're trying to kidnap me anymore hahahah.

It's an attack on your worth as a human being, and if they yell out of the car at you, all you are is a piece of meat that they feel they can judge.

It's degrading, deplorable, and honestly, whenever I get cat-called at, I flip them the bird. They quickly change their tune to "YOU B*TCH/S*UT/W*ORE!" or whatever their feeble little minds can come up with.

It's also called "rape culture." But if I start in on this, I'll be here for hours.

I'm guessing it's more about you flipping them the bird that gets you called those names and less about them feeling the need to overpower you by raping you. If you don't like it, ignore it. But, doing something insulting is going to always bring you MORE negative attention. That's not rape culture, that's just reality.

no, it IS rape culture.

it's the belief that yelling objectifying things at a strange woman is acceptable. it's a power play. and it IS degrading.

lucky i'm fugly, because i'd be terrified if someone yelled at me when i'm walking.

Oh get over yourself. When I was young, we used to go out walking hoping it would happen. It was fun. It's still fun. And who has the power? The guy begging to be noticed or the woman who can choose to ignore him?

it's strange to me women who enjoy that objectification. what goes through their heads?

"i really really hope someone screams things at my body. that would flatter me lots"

"maybe if i wear something slutty enough no one will expect me to have a personality"

"my fitness routine would sure be made better if some strangers yelled things at me"

:sick:

LMAO

Sweetie, I have plenty of personality and plenty of intelligence. And I use both. Like I said, I wouldn't date a guy who did that, but it's nice to be noticed for how I look. I guess if you never get that kind of attention, you feel better about yourself making it a feminist issue.

I totally agree with you.

One time my boyfriend did this to me, trying to get my attention, I slapped him AND his friend that was in the car with him SO HARD

I try to stay out of that part of town! :grumble:

One time my boyfriend did this to me, trying to get my attention, I slapped him AND his friend that was in the car with him SO HARD

Domestic violence ... Always a proper response.

For the record, saying that I am flattered is not the same as saying you should be.