When guys yell out the car and honk the horn at you..

Part of me is flattered and part of me is wondering if they are making fun of me. My husband is the type to drive by unattractive people or a large bootie bending over in a garden and honk. He doesn't yell anything just honks and thinks he is hilarious. Of course he is also the same guy making a fart noise as he walks behind you when you are bending over in the grocery store! lol And no...I don't really think it is funny but embarrassing but I'll admit I have giggled a few times.

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I had a creepy guy whistle the other day as I was walking. Mind you, I was pushing my son in his stroller and my daughter was riding her bike with us. That ***t is the most ridiculous esp when you have your kids with you

I had a big dude walk past me and do the glance over with a "how YOU doin'?" when I was 8 months pregnant with my fourth. I ignored him but thought to myself, "Really? REALLY?" Unless it's my husband, I think it's super weird for a man to find me attractive when I'm pregnant.

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It's an attack on your worth as a human being, and if they yell out of the car at you, all you are is a piece of meat that they feel they can judge.

It's degrading, deplorable, and honestly, whenever I get cat-called at, I flip them the bird. They quickly change their tune to "YOU B*TCH/S*UT/W*ORE!" or whatever their feeble little minds can come up with.

It's also called "rape culture." But if I start in on this, I'll be here for hours.

I'm guessing it's more about you flipping them the bird that gets you called those names and less about them feeling the need to overpower you by raping you. If you don't like it, ignore it. But, doing something insulting is going to always bring you MORE negative attention. That's not rape culture, that's just reality.

no, it IS rape culture.

it's the belief that yelling objectifying things at a strange woman is acceptable. it's a power play. and it IS degrading.

lucky i'm fugly, because i'd be terrified if someone yelled at me when i'm walking.

Oh get over yourself. When I was young, we used to go out walking hoping it would happen. It was fun. It's still fun. And who has the power? The guy begging to be noticed or the woman who can choose to ignore him?

it's strange to me women who enjoy that objectification. what goes through their heads?

"i really really hope someone screams things at my body. that would flatter me lots"

"maybe if i wear something slutty enough no one will expect me to have a personality"

"my fitness routine would sure be made better if some strangers yelled things at me"

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Its not so much where I live since bad things can happen anywhere. Usually the guys who do it are delivery guys for the stores and restaurants nearby so they're not actually even from here for the most part.

Just because something hasn't happened to you yet still doesn't make it okay to be so excited over an environment that fosters that type of behavior. Most cases it usually is just a look or compliment. I get compliments from random guys daily too but maybe only twice has someone actually said something mean to me for ignoring them. It's just not okay for a man to harass you simply because you're a women walking down the street. If its a friend or neighbor giving a compliment its one thing but some random creep objectifying you is a whole other story.

The fact that some women look forward to that maybe they didn't get enough positive male attention growing up so the negative stuff doesn't bother them. A lot of the common responses were women saying they wish it would happen to them or someone recently lost weight now it happens more often. I grew up with a lot of respect from all the men in my life so when I come across some creep I'm not going "Oh yay he thinks I'm pretty! :bigsmile: " I get enough of that from people who actually care about me and are sincere.

Oh, good freaking grief. I disagree with you. I have had a different experience from yours. IT DOESN'T BOTHER ME AND I'M ALLOWED TO NOT BE BOTHERED BY IT. That doesn't mean I have low self-esteem or that I lacked male attention or anything like that. I have my personality and you have yours.

I took feminist theory in college. This crap is directly out of that text book. I rolled my eyes at it then and I roll my eyes at it now. You don't like it, it's your right. But it's my right not to be bothered by it, so quit telling me what I "should" do or think or feel. It's none of your business.

Bottom line, dear, is that human beings at our core are mammals with animal instincts that we control. But certain things, especially when it comes to "mating" come out sometimes. Those guys are the crudest form of it, but it's all about shaking one's tail feathers and trying to attract someone to make a baby. It doesn't mean any of them are going to attack anyone.

Like I said earlier, I have come thisclose to being raped. It was not a random man on the street yelling stuff at me. It was someone I knew, had been on a few dates with -- met him at a church function, for heaven's sake.

I think I love you.

I think it's sad that it's become 'them and us' on this subject. Those who like it -v- those who don't. I'd never think that somebody who likes being honked at/cat-called/shout at is sick in the head, that's ridiculous, but at the same time I don't understand what's flattering about it. It seems to me, from what I've seen, that these men shout at anybody that moves - because they can. I don't know what their motives are but I hate it, I really do.

So, for clarification, I'm not calling any woman desperate/attention-seeking/self-esteem lacking, not at all, but I'm callng the men who do this CREEPS. I think they get a lot out of unnerving a woman and that's sick.