What would you say to your 18yr old self...

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  • MrsUnderwood
    MrsUnderwood Posts: 114
    You is kind, you is smart, you is important.
    ^^^THIS!!!
  • SweetDorothySweat
    SweetDorothySweat Posts: 114 Member
    Maybe this.

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    THIS feels so true. Any other advice Depp?
  • danasings
    danasings Posts: 8,218 Member
    Don't trust ANYONE who says, "Trust me."

    Believe in yourself...you are the only one who needs to.

    Go to grad school, get your PhD, and stop believing that your boyfriend is some sort of demigod.
  • polarsjewel
    polarsjewel Posts: 1,725 Member
    You is kind, you is smart, you is important.
    ^^^THIS!!!

    I just watched The Help for the first time this week. I love that line :heart:
  • _Timmeh_
    _Timmeh_ Posts: 2,096 Member
    Invest in Apple....or as Forrest Gump said "some fruit company"
  • ccburn5
    ccburn5 Posts: 473 Member
    1. Hey dumb a**, stop messing around with that no good girl, she is going to make your life a living hell!
    2. Have fun but stay in school, you think life is difficult now?!
  • MDawg81
    MDawg81 Posts: 244 Member
    1. Take more chances with girls, they may reject you, but at least you'll know where you stand. Trust me, it's better than not knowing.
    2. Stay in college until you finish. It's hell still trying to finish because I can't settle on a major.
  • Lerayima
    Lerayima Posts: 4 Member
    Go back to school now. Don't wait until you are older. And the arty stuff? Don't let anyone tell you that's a waste of time. You know that vague idea you've got in your head that you'd like to design jewellery? It's not just a silly whim. In general, some of the things you feel strongly about now won't stay with you, but some will, and that's okay.

    As for your love life,, it may take a while to meet a good guy, but contrary to your current expectations, they exist. Don't settle for anyone who treats you like crap.
  • ChaseAlder
    ChaseAlder Posts: 804 Member
    "Stay home and study."
  • dmpizza
    dmpizza Posts: 3,321 Member
    Plastics
  • fraser112
    fraser112 Posts: 405
    The world is going to end if you dont act now
    you must.........

    then i would leave:laugh:
  • laurastrait21
    laurastrait21 Posts: 307 Member
    just because you're in college, doesn't mean you need to drink alcohol! your body will thank you later!

    you are an awful waitress. don't try it. :laugh:
  • terri0527
    terri0527 Posts: 678 Member
    Listen to your mom and dad, they DO know what they're talking about. Stop trying to be such a badass know it all, you don't know JACK! Run away as fast and far as you can from that 1st guy who tells you he loves you because he will ruin you for another for a long time. Most of all, DON'T TAKE YOUR FAMILY FOR GRANTED, YOU WON'T HAVE THEM FOREVER!
  • MindyBlack
    MindyBlack Posts: 954 Member
    Plastics

    Heeheehee! Here's to you Mrs Robinson...
  • D446
    D446 Posts: 266 Member
    Ease up on the partying.
    Respect yourself more.
    DON'T get your hair cut short and dye it bright red because it will take forever to recover.
    Stop going for asseholes.

    But mostly I would tell myself to relax, stop stressing, stop making life harder for myself.
  • ahadj
    ahadj Posts: 257 Member
    You're not fat!! Stop thinking you are!!
    (You'll ACTUALLY be fat in about a year. College'll do that to ya.)
  • itgeekwoman
    itgeekwoman Posts: 804 Member
    Don't Marry him.. you have other options.. you aren't pregnant... you can work and support yourself. Parents are a bonus, but without them you can still survive. Move on, get an education and be a strong young woman. You don't need to get married to have a stable family.
  • DietingMommy08
    DietingMommy08 Posts: 1,345 Member
    Stay in school.

    Do that guy right, he actually cares about you.

    If you do that guy right you wont have to worry about the douchbag that comes next and ruins 7 years of you life.

    It can happen to you, and it will. '

    These stupid choices you are thinking about making, they arent worth it.

    Keep a job!
  • ChelseaM18
    ChelseaM18 Posts: 303
    'Hey, you're a year older than you are now and you're STILL a dork'
  • clintbritt3
    clintbritt3 Posts: 123
    Quit eating out and start working on toning your already skinny beautiful body and you'll feel so much better about yourself!!!!!! Because in the next 10 years you will have 4 babies and keep adding on the weight, get your crap together!!!!!!
  • Leslie85
    Leslie85 Posts: 265 Member
    Get rid of that loser, and I'm so jealous that you can weigh 108lbs and NEVER WORK OUT! GRRRRR!
  • missxlaur
    missxlaur Posts: 286
    "Love yourself and make friendships a bigger priority - no matter what your parents say"

    My parents always made me feel terrible about the way I looked and how heavy I was. I've had terrible body image and self esteem ever since.

    My parents always made sure that schoolwork and getting into a good college were the most important things in my life. Well now that I'm an adult, I realize that those were important, but they're not always the most important. Friendships are so important to leading a happy, healthy life.
  • Arperjen
    Arperjen Posts: 108 Member
    "You're a computer artist, you just don't know it yet."

    "You were right to dump your parasitic friends for that new boyfriend. You'll get married and he'll be the friend you've always needed."

    "You'll have a wonderful son in 2 years, but I have two pieces of advice on that. 1 - exercise after having him. 2 - don't get him shots. Please just trust me on this."
  • vasogoma
    vasogoma Posts: 53 Member
    Even though that was not so long ago there are so many things I wish I could have said to myself.
    "Vale, you are beautiful, stop comparing yourself with them. Even if they have their perfect bodies and their perfect hair, in the end that won't get them anywhere. There will be a guy who will want to be with you for who you are, just be patient."
    "Open yourself to new possibilities, don't stick to some idea of what you want to major at when in fact you are only doing it because you've said it for very long, that is not what you actually want to do with you life."
    "Don't do anything reckless or anything stupid. Killing yourself is just not an option. What you are feeling at the moment will go away. Trust me, there will come one day when you won't feel depressed and when you will see some light in your life. You won't succeed anyway, you will only do a lot of damage to your body and specially to your loved ones. Stay strong, they need you, their face and sad eyes when you wake up in the hospital will hunt you for a long time, it is so not worth it."
    "Stop over thinking everything and starting enjoying of the little things in life, everything will come to you in their own time"
    "Do NOT eat that cookie, do not eat any other cookies, you don't need them and what youa re eating now is what you will regret in a couple of months"
    "All that money that you have now is money that you should put somewhere where you won't be able to take it at all. You will end up waisting all your money in stuff you don't and won't need at all"
    "Love yourself, if you don't then no one else will"
  • rkk1
    rkk1 Posts: 18 Member
    I would have told myself not to waste my time crying and chasing around jerk guys. Someday (12 years later) I would marry someone who would know how to treat me right and give me the love I needed. I wasted so many years pursuing men who didn't want me (in part because of low self-esteem due to my weight), that I wish I could have those years back. I wish I could have realized back then not to let my weight define me as a valuable person. I would have told myself to have more confidence in meeting men and if they weren't interested in me, then so what... move on and meet someone new without internalizing and thinking of myself as undateable because a few people didn't want me.

    I would have encouraged myself to have the confidence to reach out and meet new people, rather than allowing myself to feel like nobody wanted to be my friend. I'm sure now that many people wanted to get to know me better, but I was standoffish (due to my own insecurities) and denied both of us the chance for friendship.

    I would have also encouraged myself to reach out for help and counseling, so that I could have gotten what I needed at that point, instead of needlessly suffering for years with depression and shame and all the other factors that go along with it.

    I would have put more of my time working out and getting in shape, as metabolism only slows down later and it gets progressively harder to lose that weight.

    I would have also encouraged myself to learn more discipline, better time management and money management habits, and learn about healthy eating and portion control before entering college.

    I would have also told myself how smart and beautiful I was, and I would have encouraged myself to work even harder to do well in school (rather than falling into depression because some unkind boy rejected me).

    I would have also told myself to put more time into developing a better relationship with my younger sister, and she needed me then, and I was too preoccupied with my own life to have realized it.

    I would have told myself to set stronger boundaries with my parents (esp my mother), and not to let her words or criticisms dictate how I would live my life. I would tell myself that until I started standing up for myself and my dreams and start being more independent, only then would she be able to respect me more and treat me better. I never deserved any of the abuse I suffered, but I would have told myself to accept that she wasn't planning to change... and thus the change (to make myself more emotionally independent and strong) needed to come from me.

    I would have also told myself not to sweat the small stuff too much, but to focus more on finding meaning and purpose in things that truly matter. I would have also told myself that vulnerability in relationships is a sign of strength, not weakness.

    I would have also encouraged myself to get a part time job in college, so that I could develop a stronger work ethic, instead of depending on others to help me through.
  • Spruillie03
    Spruillie03 Posts: 155 Member
    Stop making decisions based on your b/f at the time dumbass!
  • fitplease
    fitplease Posts: 647 Member
    I'd probably give her a list, which she would promptly throw away. I don't think I would want to listen to the me that I am now. I'd have to send someone else, maybe someone closer to her age, like my 22 year old self. LOL.
  • 2shoes123
    2shoes123 Posts: 204 Member
    Dump the loser! Anyone who truly loves you uses words that build you up - not tear you down. You are beautiful, but it doesn't really matter - don't waste your time worrying about what other people think.
  • rubyrenga
    rubyrenga Posts: 402 Member
    RESPECT YOURSELF! Also, stop smoking. Don't worry about what other people think of you. Get motivated and chase your dreams. Know that you deserve the best, and don't settle for less from any of the multitude of scumbags you will date in the future....:happy:
  • WhitneyAnnabelle
    WhitneyAnnabelle Posts: 724 Member
    Don't become mentally ill.

    Hahaha...but no, really.

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