Don't Request Me

Oh wow! You are really missing out , cause I'm hot , and ripped but I'm too old for you . Your loss.

I love what you said! I've had a few friends delete me (people who I used to talk to all the time) and it hurt because I'd read this type of disclaimer or rules... I wanna be your friend! haha

There is nothing wrong with being selective. Think about your life.
Do you want to be friends with everybody you meet?
Of course not.

THIS

i'm a bad MFP friend....if some one never comments on my updates i delete them. if they dont log in for a week, i delete them. (unless its some one who is usually very supportive or that i know in real life)

Same here, I dont need 'friends' on MFP. I need people who are just as positive and inspirational to me as I am to them.

But as someone stated, to each his own.

I find it very strange how people refuse to add more friends or set so many guidelines for them.

Wait until you're here a bit longer and you might change your tune a little.

I accept pretty much everyone unless they're spamming or a creeper. I'll delete if they're creepy, spamming or haven't logged in for several weeks. But I can't keep up with everyone and don't even try.

I like to be helpful and encouraging. It's in my nature. I'm under no delusion that I have it all figured out. I figured out what worked for ME, but there's no saying that will work for anyone else or even that it will continue to work for me as time goes on. And it can get overwhelming when people are asking you for advice, because the real answer IS as simple and at the same time complicated as "figure out what works for you," but it seems like such a cop-out answer.

So honestly, I'd prefer friends who appreciate my personality over people who think I'm an inspiration. I don't think I've accomplished anything inspiring.

Didn't mean to repost your post! Girl, Ive read comments like that too and thought...WOW some folks are just plain rude!

Not everyone is alike nor are their bodies.There could be a very reasonable explaination as to why a person has not logged in for several days-sickness, out of town, no access to internet and so on.
Also, why would some post their success stories and then tell people not to friend them? That's crazy!?!? We are all here for the same purpose to lose weight and to be an inspiration to to others. And If eating 1200 calories works for you, so be it! We do whatever it takes and it that's their choice of weight loss...who cares? What works for one may not work for others. But that's their choice.

I totally agree and I wouldn't want people with this kind of attitude being an inspiration to me-Way to negative!!

I am fairly new to this too, with only about 2 months in. I have seen and felt the same exact thing and have wondered but never posted anything, so I commend you for bringing this up for discussion. I agree that we are all here for the same thing and everyone is at a different point within their Journey. I just feel that if I send someone a message with a compliment, then request to be their Friend, with an explination and I get denied, than I really didn't want to be their Friend. I don't have many Friends and that's ok, I would rather have fewer comitted Friends than to have an overload and not have many people here motivating me. I give feedback to each and everyone of my Friends. There may be days that I cannot comment on every post but I do my best to help support them. I even review their Diary and comment on their accomplishments and give advice, when I feel they need it.

I aso want to say now that I have read comments from some of the other people on the opposite side and I understand where some of them are coming and their reasons and that's ok, if they don't want to be Friends, I will not get offended but will continue on my path and meeting new Friends that are here to support me and I will do the same for them.

I would love to have you as a Friend. I wish you the best of luck and I thank you for commenting on this important issue.

MFP told me to only eat 1200 a day :c

if mfp told you to jump off a bridge, would you do that too! Only joking

Hi there. I'm from Dallas too. Just added you as a friend!

Wow!! Un-freaking-believable!!
I am 2-days into this and right now, I feel like I am in this by myself (no support from friends and family) so I would really love some friends. I would love to request a few but I don't want to be "that girl" on this website. Any suggestions? By the way, I'm Ms. Quida from Texas...Glad to make your acquaintance!!

We are all here for the same reason.

I really hate when people say this. There's plenty of people who will be your friend, why get bent out of shape about the few who are all set? Do you expect every stranger you meet on the street to be your friend? That would be weird.

If I saw that I wouldn't request them. Let 'em think they have it all figured out. I'm here to help ppl from my own experience and to keep a food diary for the first time in my life to see where i can improve...they sound like "fitness snobs" and who needs them? I know what I'm doing. I lost 70lbs in the late 80s and kept it off! So I wouldn't want someone removing me b/c my computer crashed and I couldn't log in for 5 days. Forget them! There are plenty of ppl on here who want the support and accountability.

^^this.

i'm more than happy to befriend anyone who needs the support. i know having friends and support has made a HUGE difference for me. of course, i tell my friends who clearly only eat a single meal a day "you need to eat more!" but i try to make it playful and lighthearted and show my concern at the same time. i don't judge. you do what you want and what you feel works for your body.