The man and his horrid comment

Sounds like he was trying to come on to you and it just came out wrong. Not all men are poets! Don't let it get you down.

Seriously, I understand he didn't say it right. But I would LOVE my man to tell me when I don't look good in something, or that I'm a bit big here or there. As far as he is concerned I could walk around in a frumpy moomoo and he wouldn't care! It drives me insane! I think we as women need to grow some. Men are men, they have their ways and if we can't handle it, then it might not just be "their" problem.

Wow! You are absolutely right. *Mentally checkin' myself in the mirror.

I got a question:

Why do women develop complexes of such things? I know you do. My wife does the same things. I'm not saying the guy was in the right, sounds like to me it was said jokingly, and not in a mean spirited way, but it doesn't take a genius to realize it was a bad idea....

But my wife will walk past me and slap me on the butt, and say, "getting a little jiggle down there eh?" I know she is joking, so I don't care, in fact i don't mind it at all. One day, I made the universally bad move to do the exact same thing to her... After an hour of her crying in our bedroom and many I'm sorry's later she came out. Why?

Not trying to start a fight, I'm just curious, as to why for most guys it gets shrugged off, but with most women, it is taken to a higher level?

I admit, I have met many many men that are just as bad as some of the women, and in my time in the Army, I met more than one woman that could kick my butt...

I got a question:

Why do women develop complexes of such things? I know you do. My wife does the same things. I'm not saying the guy was in the right, sounds like to me it was said jokingly, and not in a mean spirited way, but it doesn't take a genius to realize it was a bad idea....

But my wife will walk past me and slap me on the butt, and say, "getting a little jiggle down there eh?" I know she is joking, so I don't care, in fact i don't mind it at all. One day, I made the universally bad move to do the exact same thing to her... After an hour of her crying in our bedroom and many I'm sorry's later she came out. Why?

Not trying to start a fight, I'm just curious, as to why for most guys it gets shrugged off, but with most women, it is taken to a higher level?

I admit, I have met many many men that are just as bad as some of the women, and in my time in the Army, I met more than one woman that could kick my butt...

cause 90% of men go around saying how hot these stick figure perfect looking women are "joking" around and than we look at ourselves in the mirror and realize we look nothing like them and it makes us upset

I got a question:

Why do women develop complexes of such things? I know you do. My wife does the same things. I'm not saying the guy was in the right, sounds like to me it was said jokingly, and not in a mean spirited way, but it doesn't take a genius to realize it was a bad idea....

But my wife will walk past me and slap me on the butt, and say, "getting a little jiggle down there eh?" I know she is joking, so I don't care, in fact i don't mind it at all. One day, I made the universally bad move to do the exact same thing to her... After an hour of her crying in our bedroom and many I'm sorry's later she came out. Why?

Not trying to start a fight, I'm just curious, as to why for most guys it gets shrugged off, but with most women, it is taken to a higher level?

I admit, I have met many many men that are just as bad as some of the women, and in my time in the Army, I met more than one woman that could kick my butt...

Because we are our own worst critics. As long as no one agrees with us our flaws are minimized. The minute you agree with us or point a flaw out then it must be true, right? Personally I don't go there with my husband anymore, it just sets him up for failure and he shouldn't bear the brunt of my emotions for my hang-ups

I got a question:

Why do women develop complexes of such things? I know you do. My wife does the same things. I'm not saying the guy was in the right, sounds like to me it was said jokingly, and not in a mean spirited way, but it doesn't take a genius to realize it was a bad idea....

But my wife will walk past me and slap me on the butt, and say, "getting a little jiggle down there eh?" I know she is joking, so I don't care, in fact i don't mind it at all. One day, I made the universally bad move to do the exact same thing to her... After an hour of her crying in our bedroom and many I'm sorry's later she came out. Why?

Not trying to start a fight, I'm just curious, as to why for most guys it gets shrugged off, but with most women, it is taken to a higher level?

I admit, I have met many many men that are just as bad as some of the women, and in my time in the Army, I met more than one woman that could kick my butt...

Because we are our own worst critics. As long as no one agrees with us our flaws are minimized. The minute you agree with us or point a flaw out then it must be true, right? Personally I don't go there with my husband anymore, it just sets him up for failure and he shouldn't bear the brunt of my emotions for my hang-ups

I can agree with this... My wife is way more self critical than I am. I take it for what it is. I love her for her. Not how skinny/fat she is. So its not a big deal to me. If she wants to work out, I would be glad to join her. But i wont force her. I think a lot of women need to love themselves as much as they want someone else to love them first.

That's when you grab his crotch and say "we need to work on this so I have something to grab!" LOL

AND THANK YOU FOR MAKING MY WHOLE WEEK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :drinker:

That's when you grab his crotch and say "we need to work on this so I have something to grab!" LOL

this. hahaha

I kind of feel that if you are on a weight loss journey, and you're public about it that you open yourself up for comments from people. Whether they be good or bad you've just got to let them roll off you

I read your profile and my bet is she left you for a far less shallow reason than you gained weight. You had a pretty severe addiction and I'm sure that didn't help anything.

The hypocracies in your posts is mind boggling. But oh well, its MFP and you can say whatever you want. Good luck with life, where anything a woman does is fine and dandy but god forbid a man says what he wants and its just shallow and inconsiderate

You state in your profile that you spent four years plopped in front of a video game and "it ruined my life." That's an addiction sure as alcoholism and drug abuse. There is no hypocrisy in my post. I doubt your girlfriend was real happy playing second fiddle to a video game. Someone gaining weight doesn't mean that person is necessarily sitting on the couch eating bon-bons. It happens to people who are out living life, too.

If your weight gain was the sole reason you got dumped, then she was a jerk. But based on what you said about yourself, she either lied or you didn't hear her right.

Thankfully I raised better to make personal attacks and hence the reason I wouldn't say what I would like to but you should realize, 4 years is not a lifetime and I have had relationships before and after.