does anyone have a hard time making friends?
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i would rather sit inside and play video games.
all my friends are online.
i'm happy. people suck.
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It's actually easy to make "friends" but it is hard to know whether they are the "true" kind you want in your life~so I guess for me it is easy but hard to keep them:grumble:0
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Yes. Apparently I look like a ***** because I have a frown on my face alot?? It's just the way my face falls.
And I'm really awkward around new people because thye think i'm strange and I'm cross across as *****y and sarcastic, when I don't even mean it.
Stupid *****es and hoes :flowerforyou:0 -
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YES. I'm in college at the moment, and since all my friends were also my ex-boyfriends, since breaking up I don't have any friends at all. I sound like such a loser, haha. I do suffer from terrible anxiety and have always been naturally shy, I just find it impossible to move from talking in classes to actually being friends. I'm getting used to it now though, kind of.0
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Yes. Apparently I look like a ***** because I have a frown on my face alot?? It's just the way my face falls.
And I'm really awkward around new people because thye think i'm strange and I'm cross across as *****y and sarcastic, when I don't even mean it.
Stupid *****es and hoes :flowerforyou:
Yes. My sense of humor takes someone a long time to get. People usually don't get me for a while. It's unfortunate.0 -
I have horrible social anxiety, making friends is really difficult for me. But the friendships I do have are long lasting. I don't get to see them as often as I would like but just knowing that they are there is comforting. I would like to meet new people that live closer to me, I just usually end of feeling awkward.
^^^ this is me too even to the point I'm phyiscally ill before going out ... the things we do to ourselves
As a child my Dad used to say people will think I'm stuck up because I'm shy and quiet ... yet with friends I don't stop talkiing!0 -
I am in the same boat. When in high school and college I had a ton of friends, but not anymore.
I move from Canada to the states 13.5 years ago and I can honestly say that I do not have one person that I can call and talk to about anything serious. I am married and have a wonderful husband, but there are times when you just need a girlfriend.
Its harder when you don't have kids, as you would normally meet other parents and develope a friendship based on the kids, but I do not have any kids and past the point of having them.
Oh well, I can always hope when I get old and I am sitting in a seniors home that there will be like minded folks there with me and we will be kindred spirits!!0 -
I'm in the same boat as a lot of you. I have a few really good friends. But at 30 (2 years ago) I moved 5 hours away from them for my spouses job. We still keep in touch, OCCASIONALLY! I see them a few times a year for a day, which is a trip I always have to make. No hard feelings about that though. I am the one who moved away after all. But it would be nice if someone would come see my new home.
I was never the most outgoing person. I always made friends through other friends. And only had a handful that I would have called 'close'. Now I live far away, work from home and for the last two years have had no one to hang with except my spouse, his mom and now my little boy! Love him to death!
Boy would it feel good though to have someone local to hang with, drop in on for tea or just vent to!!!0 -
NO, if someone doesn't want to be my friend I kick their *kitten*. I'm a nice person so it's not a problem for me. LOL...I crack me up.0
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I completely agree with the original post.
Social media is definitely killing face to face friendship and activities. Some people seem more interested in growing crap on FarmVille and other similar games then actually living in the real world.0 -
Friends? That word sounds familiar... but I can't quite remember what it means....
I fall into that category where... people respect me, they just don't like me. =P0 -
I can relate to every response to this post....sad, isn't it?0
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Boy would it feel good though to have someone local to hang with, drop in on for tea or just vent to!!!
I wish I had normal friends that would drop by and just chat for a little while. Maybe as you get older, that kind of thing stops. I don't know. Maybe people have changed due to social media and tv...they don't have a need so much like they used to, to get out and chat with their friends and neighbors because they always have entertainment.
It feels to me like there are a lot of lonely people, and it should be easy to make friends.0 -
I've joined a local Country Club and started playing tennis. It's surprising how many nice folk like to hit some balls and then get something to eat or have a soda/drink afterward. I'm developing some really nice friends this way. Just a suggestion.0
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Friends? That word sounds familiar... but I can't quite remember what it means....
I fall into that category where... people respect me, they just don't like me. =P
exactly!! :ohwell:0 -
Lots of acquaintances, few friends. It hurts too much when you loose them.0
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Boy would it feel good though to have someone local to hang with, drop in on for tea or just vent to!!!
I wish I had normal friends that would drop by and just chat for a little while. Maybe as you get older, that kind of thing stops. I don't know. Maybe people have changed due to social media and tv...they don't have a need so much like they used to, to get out and chat with their friends and neighbors because they always have entertainment.
It feels to me like there are a lot of lonely people, and it should be easy to make friends.
Me too *sigh* Unfortunately I couldn't find anybody here who has a friend potential :sad:0 -
Honestly I've moved so much in my lifetime that I got used to the idea that people just come and go. Sometimes it doesn't have to be just physically moving......at times it seems that people and situations change, and for some reason, the friendships end. I don't know...I used to be bothered by it, but nowadays I accept the fact that people are in and out of your life for a reason. I lost my best friend when I got married, not because I was just settling down, but he had an issue with the new friends I became a part of along with my wife. I think he felt like he wasn't worth being a part of the group. Either way I look at it like people come and go. I've tried adding people that I work with but most of the time it becomes awkward. Being a musician helps though as you will gain friends out of nowhere. I can honestly say though, that I've never been considered to be anyone's best man, so while I have a decent amount of friends in my life, I'll never be that pivotal to anyone....and that took me a long time to accept \m/0
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I am a very personable person but kind of shy. Making friends can be kind of difficult sometimes.
Currently I have a few girls that I consider close friends - probably about 2-3 girls...
I used to wish I had more friends, but then I think back to the days in highschool where I was popular and start to remember all the issues that actually went with having more 'friends' (gossip, back stabbing, etc) and I am more than satisified with the small group I have now!!
Quality over quantity any day!0 -
i do! i'm kinda awkward though i guess.
i had great mates for a while, then i had a baby and suddenly every single one of them disappeared.well except my best mate, but i suppose thats why shes the best one =] xx0 -
I've joined a local Country Club and started playing tennis. It's surprising how many nice folk like to hit some balls and then get something to eat or have a soda/drink afterward. I'm developing some really nice friends this way. Just a suggestion.
Excellent. I love to play tennis. There is a club near by. I'll go talk to them next week and see how it works. A tennis group would be a great way to meet people. Duh! Why didn't I think of that?0 -
i think i am having a hard time with my age then.....i am only 26, but once i moved (only a 30 minute drive) no one wanted to come out. they will, but very seldomly. soon enough the phone calls stopped. today when i looked at my phone to see no missed calls, i thought..."i could be dead and they would never know!"...maybe it is time for me to grow up
i am too social though. i will have to find new friends.
Wow!! You sound exactly like me.I'm 26 also and I also moved just like you 30 minutes away. You would think I moved to another state. And seeing how I'm a stay at home mom I don't exactly get out enough to make new freinds.0 -
I am a lonely person. On-line it's easy but in person it's a different story." We're born alone, we live alone, we die alone. Only through our love and friendship can we create the illusion for the moment that we're not alone."
Orson Welles
"The most terrible poverty is loneliness, and the feeling of being unloved."
Ok, I do have friends but still feel alone. Even my husband who is my closest friend, I have some major desagreements in thinking with.
I have a book: Friendship by Joel D. Block,Ph.D. and it's marked up in my favorite parts. " Don't expect more from others than your able to give your self. We all have our limitations and needs. We all need our boundaries. We are our own best friend. No one knows us like we know our selves. Friends can be a sourse of great support in times of stress and need, but in the end we all have to walk that lonesome valley alone.
Hugs, Nina
I'm a shy person and always will be. I enjoy my aloneness.0 -
Yeah. When I was in my 20's, I saw different people on a weekly basis. But now in my 30's, I have found that people change, move or get busy with their own professional/personal lives. It's hard. So it's not that it's hard making friends; it's just hard maintaining friendships. Some friends we only see each other once or twice a year, and we have no problem starting right where we left off. But along the way, you lose a few. I think some people are in our life for a certain reason for a certain amount of time. And others are for life. We don't get to keep everyone forever.
My partner is my best friend. And my dog.0 -
I shouldn't be posting... I've come to the conclusion that I just don't like people in person very much. I always feel as if they are acting pleasant or inventing things to say, or trying to impress me.
That my phone doesn't ring doesn't bother me. I wonder why sometimes, but I just feel like it is because they don't need anything from me right now and when they do, they will call. I will go. I will help. Then the phone doesn't ring.
I guess I'm used to it...
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I am that way too! I am so content to just be at home. I love people and have had many great friends over the years but lately, I never seem to stay in contact with anyone! I think of my friends and family often but never pick up the phone to call or go visit! Why is that?0
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I am a lonely person. On-line it's easy but in person it's a different story." We're born alone, we live alone, we die alone. Only through our love and friendship can we create the illusion for the moment that we're not alone."
Orson Welles
"The most terrible poverty is loneliness, and the feeling of being unloved."
Ok, I do have friends but still feel alone. Even my husband who is my closest friend, I have some major desagreements in thinking with.
I have a book: Friendship by Joel D. Block,Ph.D. and it's marked up in my favorite parts. " Don't expect more from others than your able to give your self. We all have our limitations and needs. We all need our boundaries. We are our own best friend. No one knows us like we know our selves. Friends can be a sourse of great support in times of stress and need, but in the end we all have to walk that lonesome valley alone.
Hugs, Nina
I'm a shy person and always will be. I enjoy my aloneness.
Ahhh adorable quotes!!!! 0 -
When I was married our friends drifted away due to raising kids, new jobs, moving, etc...it's a normal thing. But, when I was divorced, suddenly I felt so alone. My best friend lived over an hour away and I would call her now and then, but she had a family and life of her own.
It was 4 years ago that I was divorced and making friends has been very hard. I joined a "Baby Boomer Group" but many of those folks are older than me and are married as well. About a year ago I ran into an old work buddy and knowing that I love music he invited me to start going to an Open Mic at the local American Legion. I have made lots of acquaintances and I even get up and sing at them, but no good friends to go and just hang out with.
Last year my friend (who I talked about previously) died of a massive heart attack. She was 50 years old. I miss her very much.
It's hard cause sometimes the loneliness gets very difficult. It also plays havoc on my weight loss.0 -
More Annie Lennox Lyrics HERE
Artist: Annie Lennox
Album: Bare
Song: Loneliness
Lyrics:
Loneliness
Is a place that I know well
It's the distance between us
And the space inside ourselves
And emptiness....
Is the chattering in your head
It's the call of the living
And the race from life to death
Woa and I know
Yes and I know
What you feel...
And I've got a longin'
That's hard to find
Won't give me no peace of mind
Something that I've lived with all along
Days and weeks and months and years
Filling in the time my dear
Tryin' to find the place where I belong
Hopelessness
is the darkness in your heart
It's the sound of one hand clapping
While it's pulling you apart
Woa and I know
Yes and I know
What you feel
And
I've got a longin'
That's hard to find
Won't give me no peace of mind
Something that I've lived with all along
Days and weeks and months and years
Filling in the time my dear
Tryin' to find the place where I belong
And
I got a hunger that's
Hard to fill
Driving me on overkill
Tellin' me that everything's gone wrong
Got me a need
That I can't break
More than I can hardly take
Somehow I still keep on going strong
When I call your name
I'm gonna scream out loud
I'll say...
"here I am standing in the crowd"
You'll say "come to me"
With your open mind
you never know
What you still might find"
But you keep me here
Like a cancelled flight
An empty train
Running through the night
An orphan child
A broken shoe
and I'm still down here
Looki' out for you
Are you there for me?
'Cause I'm here for you0
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