So sad with what I saw today I wanted to cry
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tmauck4472
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I was picking my son up from summer school today and I saw this woman walking (yea for her, right?). She had to be 400 lbs or better and you could see she was struggling with walking. She had that gait that you know is her struggling to walk, I know cause I've been there. I wanted to cry for her, for me, for everyone who's been there or is there now. I am so excited for where I am right now. There are so many out there saying your eating to low , your going to fail, you can't live on that, your heading toward an eating disorder...I say to you, I am fine, I have goal and I will reach it, in spite of you, but maybe just maybe because of you. I never want to go back to that person struggling to lose weight, struggling to walk down the street.
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Obesity is a thief of life and its fullness.
Anyone making consistent efforts to change and to achieve better health and happiness is doing a great thing for themselves.
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I can relate to that as you are already know. You are the one I talk to sometimes when those people are making me second guest my hard work which is working and I am fine. As for that woman, I have been there back and forth. This time I am leaving this behind for good. Just so you know If I have not yet told you that, you are my biggest inspiration on this journey. Thanks for being my friend.0
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I can relate to that as you are already know. You are the one I talk to sometimes when those people are making me second guest my hard work which is working and I am fine. As for that woman, I have been there back and forth. This time I am leaving this behind for good. Just so you know If I have not yet told you that, you are my biggest inspiration on this journey. Thanks for being my friend.
Awe..Made me cry again, but happy tears. With the exception of a few people and I thank God everyday they are NOT friends of mine, this site is beyond belief with such strong support. We have to be here for each other. This is how we keep it off, we support each other, we are there when they need us without question. Encourage not discourage!!!!
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at one time I was that woman. I too never want to go back.0
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I always thinks a "Yay! Go you! You can do it!" when I see someone like that giving it a shot, doing his/her best to do what's right for his/her body. It IS sad, but hopefully, this person you saw will stick with it, keep pushing, and slowly but surely find her way.
There's a woman I work with, and I cringe every time she comes in. She can't walk from her car to her desk without losing her breath. She says she does what she can.
*shrug*
I hope she does, for her own sake.0 -
That rips my heart out as well....how can people do that to themselves?
So be it....:ohwell:
And anybody here not eating at least 1200 calories per day in addition to exercise calories will end up just like that.
We can lose weight on the front end just to gain it all back.
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You eat 700 calories a day... I am sad for you too. You say this site is for support, that is true, but support doesn't mean "I will encourage you to keep doing what you're doing even if it's unhealthy".
I need to state for the record that you are posting publicly about eating 700 calories a day, I didn't dig for this information. You're not exactly keeping it private, for someone who is upset at all the negative feedback she's receiving.0 -
I was picking my son up from summer school today and I saw this woman walking (yea for her, right?). She had to be 400 lbs or better and you could see she was struggling with walking. She had that gait that you know is her struggling to walk, I know cause I've been there. I wanted to cry for her, for me, for everyone who's been there or is there now. I am so excited for where I am right now. There are so many out there saying your eating to low , your going to fail, you can't live on that, your heading toward an eating disorder...I say to you, I am fine, I have goal and I will reach it, in spite of you, but maybe just maybe because of you. I never want to go back to that person struggling to lose weight, struggling to walk down the street.
Instead of being sad, you should be rejoicing that's she's chosen to make a change in her life!! She's walking which is more than many others!!0 -
It looks like we have a new member at our gym, she's really really large.. but bless her heart, I've seen her two days last week, and she was on the treadmill for a good 30 minutes. Was she walking fast? no. But she was walking. She got off of that, and moved on to the Arc.. which is not an easy piece of equipment to use.. it took me a few months to get accustomed it. She got on it, and she didnt move fast, but she MOVED. I wanted to hug her and tell her way to go, but I never know if that's something that might offend or hurt someone's feelings.0
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The ironic thing is that I feel the same way about what you are doing. You make think you are doing something good, but your food diary makes me want to cry.0
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It looks like we have a new member at our gym, she's really really large.. but bless her heart, I've seen her two days last week, and she was on the treadmill for a good 30 minutes. Was she walking fast? no. But she was walking. She got off of that, and moved on to the Arc.. which is not an easy piece of equipment to use.. it took me a few months to get accustomed it. She got on it, and she didnt move fast, but she MOVED. I wanted to hug her and tell her way to go, but I never know if that's something that might offend or hurt someone's feelings.
It wouldnt. If I saw someone trying to do something and they were struggling but still going I would go and give them a hug. I am fairly sure very few people would take offence.
They need to know someone has noticed they are trying and is glad for them.
Imagine the lift it would give you if someone came up and was genuinely pleased for you, the encouragement you'd get if a stranger just said hey, I know what you are going through and I am proud of you.0 -
I was just talking to my husband about this last night! We went to pick my daughter up at work (she works in a grocery store), and as we sat waiting for her in the parking lot, I saw a woman who was clearly well over 400 lbs sitting on a bench outside. When her husband drove up to the curb to pick her up, she had obvious trouble getting up off the bench, and couldn't get into the car without help. My heart just broke for her, and for me, knowing I wasn't far from that when I started this long, strange trip. I wasn't quite as heavy, but my mobility was definitely starting to be affected. I just wanted to go up to her and give her a big hug and say "I was once where you are...there IS a way out."
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^^^^^^^^^You eat 700 calories a day... I am sad for you too. You say this site is for support, that is true, but support doesn't mean "I will encourage you to keep doing what you're doing even if it's unhealthy".
I need to state for the record that you are posting publicly about eating 700 calories a day, I didn't dig for this information. You're not exactly keeping it private, for someone who is upset at all the negative feedback she's receiving.
THIS -- If we do not feed our bodies, poor health will result.
I would suggest we focus less on who waddles by and more on getting our own house in order.
I feel for others who suffer in obesity, and I also save some tears for myself where I miss the boat.0 -
Obese people can maintain a bigger calorie deficit for the rest of us. I would hope that it is being medically supervised, however. Also, eating more would help ease the transition to a smaller calorie deficit (and eventually maintenance) as you reach a healthier weight. Plus more food generally means more nutrients, vitamins, etc.0
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I was that 380 pound woman on an eliptical for 1 minute. The people in the gym ignored me for the most part but after i saw some serious progress and I lost some serious weight everyone got a lot friendlier. Its intimidating and I sure would have liked it a lot more if someone had given me a "attaboy" and "you are doing fantastic!" when I was just starting out. Most people have to hire a trainer to hear that. So next time...i'd say something encouraging...she'll probably get even that more motivated!
As for that 400 pounder shufflin down the street...at least she's shufflin.0 -
eating 700 cals a day will cause you to lose weight but so will eating zero cals a day. both are horribly unhealthy.0
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That rips my heart out as well....how can people do that to themselves?
So be it....:ohwell:
And anybody here not eating at least 1200 calories per day in addition to exercise calories will end up just like that.
We can lose weight on the front end just to gain it all back.
COUNT ME OUT!
*Get's on my knees and thanks God for his miracle*
With friends like this who needs enemies0 -
The ironic thing is that I feel the same way about what you are doing. You make think you are doing something good, but your food diary makes me want to cry.
so true. No one should be consistently getting only 700-900 calories a day0
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